So many people are against what? You don't think your mom would like what? Is there an actual question here?

Hmm..well since you're not already going out with him it should be something small, friendly, but fairly impersonal. Go to spensers and find an interesting card, or just browse the mall for something that reminds you of him. If it makes you laugh, it will probably make him laugh too and thats always a good thing.

You could also always ask him what he wants for his birthday!

Err...make sure he knows that you know his birthday is coming up XD you don't want to look like a stalker or anything when you had him the present. I think it goes without saying, but I figured I would anyway.

=] goodluck

Most straight people can't say they've never been attracted to the opposite sex...they're just really reluctant to admit it.

Its really rare that anyone is 100% one way or the other. Which means that almost EVERYONE is bisexual, even by a little, and even if they don't want to admit it. Whether its 5% or 50%.

Being attracted to a sex that you aren't used to being attracted to is fine.

If you're attracted to men as well as women equally, you're bi...and its no big deal =] if you're not, and you're only attracted to men sometimes, or almost never, congrats. You're just like everyone else.

Men are less likely to be bisexual, but it happens. The only one who can know for sure if you're gay, bi, bi-curious, or straight(majority wise)is you.

If you're not comfortable labeling yourself thats fine too. You said you love your girlfriend. If you love her romantically thats wonderful. The only person you need to be romantically attracted to is her right now, and she doesn't unnecessarily need to know you're attracted to other men. Like I said, if you're in a happy monogamous relationship right now you don't need another woman OR man. So it doesn't matter.

If later your relationship doesn't work out and you still don't want to label yourself, just fall in love with whoever the hell you fall in love with. Whether it be a girl, or a boy =]

Dude.

You can't decide...who to pick?
Wouldn't this be a better question for a friend? So far you've mostly given us shallow reasons for you to pick them.

But I guess I will anyway, or else I'm not really answering the question.

Not Alex, first of all.
You're thirteen and your last boyfriends beat you, lied, or smoked....lets not have the next one pressuring to have sex.

If Luke is more like a brother to you then no. I had a friend who went out with a guy who she felt that way about and it didn't work out.

So that leaves Corwin.

How to ask him out would be easy to find. Just google 'How to ask someone out' and about a billion articles come up. It would be easier for you to read about it there then for me to type it up for you.

Well since this is your first crush on another girl it may be a little difficult to entertain the idea of yourself with her because its outside of your comfort zone and what you know/are use to.

It sounds like she might like you :P at least from what you've said.

Since this is your first girl crush, I suggest you go with the flow for a while. Your awkwardness probably stems from the newness of it all. Or you just really really like her. Either way, just hanging out with her should make you more comfortable around her. Whether it becomes more is a decision you can make later :)

if after spending more time with her you still really like her and you're willing to have a relationship with her, you should at least try. Having a lesbian crush is the same as having a straight one XD you just have to go for it. Obviously though you would want to find out if she is open to that, if you don't know already.

Lol I don't really know what else to say, except if you need any more help you can ask me directly :) I'm bisexual and I'd be more than willing to give you more advice about this if you have any more questions. :D

If you'd like to rephrase this question in a way that is *readable* I would be more than willing to answer.

I couldn't get through it and therefore am in no position to give you advice. I can't speak for everyone but I don't think most people have the attention span or patience to read through that.

I suggest you delete this question then try posting it again in a way that isn't painful to read.

As you said people will naturally assume you aren't ready because of your anxieties, but to me you just seem like a naturally anxious person(no offense, I'm that way too :P) so I'll help you any way I can.

Having an ultra tight vagina is not totally uncommon, though it can cause problems the first time. Its something I've read about and not experienced(I read a lot of weird articles XD) but I also have some friends who are that way.

I will say straight up that I am a virgin. That doesn't mean I can't help you, I just want you to understand that some of the things I say are not first hand knowledge, but rather things the older and/or more experienced women in my life have told me mixed with things I've read and talked about with my peers. Just a heads up.

From what I've been told losing your virginity normally isn't excruciating. On a scale of 1 - 10(10 being about to pass out and die and 1 being stubbed toe) my friend said it was like a 3 or a 4. She was fairly tight too(Though not as much as you I don't think - she could use ultra light tampons). The pain won't kill you but it WILL hurt. No virgin should expect an orgasm on her first try at intercourse(With no outer stimulation). Most of the time it just doesn't happen, and on top of that a good percentage of women can't orgasm at all with only penetration.

You might also bleed a little. No cause for panic or anything, and not really anything to stop for.

Now for your list :)

1. Most guys DO prefer shaved, but most also don't
mind hair as long as they aren't navigating a forest, you know? If you're afraid you will hurt yourself the second time around when its short just let it grow out to a reasonable length until you can do it again. As long as its not bushy :P

2. There are different kinds of vaginal fluids. The normal kind that keeps women moist is usually the smellier kind. Its what keeps your vagina clean. I recall my health teacher saying the vagina was like a self cleaning oven in the way that it does this :P it may not smell the best but it does the job. The other kind is your natural lubrication. This generally doesn't smell bad, and its a lot cleaner and clearer than other vaginal discharges. I suggest that you use the bathroom before anything really happens and clean up :) heck, use(a very small amount) of soap if it is really bothering you. Then once you start with foreplay you will have only the cleaner less smelly fluid to deal with.

3. There is nothing wrong with keeping your shirt or bra on during sex. He can't force you to take it off and its not entirely unheard of. The only thing you should be concerned with your first time is YOUR comfort. He should understand that :) just tell him it would make you comfortable. And my boobs aren't exactly symmetrical either. Its totally normal and fairly common.

4. I suggest you plan a date for your first time(assuming you haven't already done it at the hotel((This question showed up early sunday)) in which case most of this advice will be wasted). That way having lube around won't be awkward - just prepared. I understand how having a mini bottle of lube randomly in your purse may be a little weird XD.

I hope this reached you in time :) good luck!

Don't give it away.

being 'horny' for a few weeks is no reason to randomly lose your virginity to 'some guy' you know.

Find a boyfriend. Work up. Enjoy foreplay - which *can* be just as satisfying as sex. Then once you've been together a while have sex.

I'm not suggesting you have have a 'special' first time surrounded with rose petals/scented candles and all that sentimental nonsense. I'm simply saying that your first time will be much more worth while with someone you have feelings for...not only that but you'll be less likely to regret the decision later.

Good luck, I hope you make a decision you are proud of(whatever it may be) :)

Depends how much you like him. You don't have to drink alcohol with him, right? And if hes not doing anything dangerous like driving or doing drugs I don't see the problem with that. If its only weekends then he isn't an alcoholic.

Its great that he would stop smoking for you. Quiting smoking cigarettes is generally harder than certain illegal drugs, so if you make him do it be aware that it may take a while and he won't be in the best mood.

Bottom line is that you shouldn't require that he stops doing things he enjoys just to be with you. :) Its compromise. Let him drink, and if he wants to stop smoking for you then he can. But don't ask too much of him, it wouldn't be fair.

If you can see past the smoking and alcohol and you still like him then go for it :) if you can't then don't.

I'm assuming you're in highschool so this should work-

Get your mom to pretend ground you. For any reason you like. And because you're 'grounded' you can't have your cell phone, go anywhere, or accept calls for a week.

That way you just have after class and lunch together, which is an acceptable amount of time as it is. You guys are just suffocating each other :) And this way you can have a break without saying "We need to take a break" or "You're suffocating me!"

Yes, it is :P

They're glands, and the labia minora(the little flappy pieces of skin going down connected to clitoris) are practically made of them. Every woman has them :) some more than others, but no one I've ever heard of doesn't.

The answer here is simple, but maybe you need an outside point of view to see it.

Stay with Jon. You said you love him and you don't want to leave him - so don't. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are at an age where you want a committed relationship you need to be able to form relationships with the opposite sex without getting attached to them in that way...or if you do then don't act on it.

So maybe there is something there with Brandon. A spark, an attraction. So you go out with him(after breaking up with Jon. Again I'm not sure what age I'm dealing with here so I'm going to say it - don't cheat on him. At least break up if you're going to be with Brandon.) and things don't work out like he thinks it might. What then? You can't go back to Jon, you'd have probably broke his heart.

Your question was how to get over Brandon once and for all...well....

There are always going to be people you are attracted to physically and mentally no matter what kind of relationship you are in. Marriage, dating, whatever. If you EVER want a good lasting relationship you need to take step back and just get over it - to put it bluntly. You can't switch relationships every time you're attracted to someone...or you'll never have one for more than a few years or less.

All I can advise is that you don't flirt with Brandon. Don't give him anymore reason than he already has to hit on you. You can talk to him - that isn't something to feel guilty about. Just don't do anything that could weaken the trust of the relationship you already have by flirting with other guys.

I'm sure you wouldn't want Jon to do that to you.

In the end its your choice of course =] Your attraction for Brandon should lessen once you take him out of your mind as a possible lover/boyfriend. But by all means keep him as a friend, if you can.

I wish you and Jon the best of luck :]

Hiiiiiiii.

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