Q: I live in KY, but my dad lives in IN and i visit him every 6 weeks, and there is a boy there that is friends with my brother. Well this boy got into a fight because some kid was going to stab him, so now he is grounded and his brother, who helped him, is in a detention center. I know it sounds bad, but i dont really think so.

And he has a gf...but from what i hear he really likes me, like a lot, and wants to hang out with me this summer. And people are telling me that because he thinks im cute and stuff and he has a gf he is a player, but i dont neccersarily think so.
what should i do about this?? whats your opinion??
PS::::
And please dont tell me that i need to leave him alone if he has a gf because i know that and im not gonna do it..i dont play that game...or say that its long distance or anything like that...i know its hard but chances are if anything were to happen it would be for three weeks only..while im there.. :D

Q: Okay i have a boyfriend and his name is Kyle and i love him so much but after 3 months of dating me and my friend was doing a test on him and she made up a name and started flirting with him becasue i told her to and so she asked him if he had a gf and he said maybe but he dont know if he should dump me because of her and he dont even know her but before that he cussed my sister out and asked her if she was horny and everybody keeps telling me not to date him but i really like him and i dont care about the looks i care about the personality but like i really like him but then i dumped him after he dsiad that to my friend about the dumping me part and he said it was just a joke and he keeps telling me that he loves me and that he is sorry but now he wont even answer my calls or talk to me on myspace and i really want him back but help me please of what to do

Q: before i get into this, yes i know, i'm probably a slut. so sorry.
ANYWAY.
so this guy has been my best best friend for about two years, he's so nice and he's always been there for me.
last summer he asked me out and i said yes.
we've been going out for 9 months.
he was my first time having sex, and i was his.
...but during that 9 months, i hooked up with 4 other guys.
not in a row, not even in the same week.
yeah, again, really wicked sorry.
he doesn't know about them.
no one does except the guys.
i feel awful.
but the truth is, the guy i'm going out with now, while he's super nice to me, is a dick to everyone else, allergic to cats (so he can't ever come over to my house), allergic to lettuce (i'm a vegitarian), not very attractive, listens to mostly different music than me, gets terrible grades, can only talk about things he's interested in, and is militantly straight-edge and i'm totally not.
i really do want to go out with someone else.
i have for a really long time.
i've tried breaking up with him 5 times but i always feel bad and like an hour later get back together with him.
it's so so hard for me to make him upset.
and even though i don't want to go out with him and i know that if i drag this out any further i'm just going to resent him more and he's going to get more attatched.
he says things to me like "i love you forever, please don't leave me" and "you complete me" and "i need you, i love you more than anything"
and i just feel awful, i hate being mean to him.
but i really really want to get out of this relationship without completely hurting his feelings.......
WHAT THE !@#? do i do?!

Q: ugh,
okay. so i have an ex let's call him D. and another ex, let's call him J.

okay, so i hung out with D todayy, and made outwith him, like i do alot, when i went out with him.
=D

okay, but when i got home, J called me, and asked me out, i said noo.

he had broke up with me, bc he thought i still liked D. i told him i didn't but w/e.

truth is, i still like D. and when i make out with him, and hang out with him. [[which is all the time]] memories come flowing back.
today, i got quiet while we were hanging out, and he asked what was wrong, and i told him nothing. he gave me a big hug, told me that i could tell him if anything was wrong, and i told him nothing was wrong, after about 10 more minutes of silence, and him carrying me, he asked me again, and i said i was thinking about things. and he asked what things, i told him stuff. so he gives me a hug, and i tell i have to go, he hugs me and i leave,

i think he still likes me,
but idk,

=/

help.
what should i do about D.

we still act like we go out

he says i love you
and i ask how, he says "as a friend..." after i don't say it back.
with some sadness in his voice.

he's my best friend, i tell him everything.
ilove him.

what do i do about him.
and J.
bc J keeps asking me out,

what do i do.
about D and J ???

Q: 16/f

I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now and lately I've been having crazy jealousy issues. I really have no reason to be jealous or suspicious of him because he's never really done anything to make me not trust him (that I know of). See, he's a year older than me, I'm a sophomore and he's a junior, and for half of the day he's at a different school than I am. There's a girl that goes there that also attends our school that I think he talks to. I'm weirdly jealous of this and thinking about her makes me angry. I don't even really know her other than she was in one of my classes. I always have these dreams that he leaves me for her. He denies that he even talks to her, which I know isn't true. Today we were at the store and she was there and she waved to him. It seems pretty harmless, but I got really upset.

I can't stand feeling like this :\ I get really jealous and I know it has to do with my own insecurities. But if he doesn't talk to her, and what he says is true, then this isn't fair for him.

So I suppose my question is, how would I go about getting over this stupid jealousy problem?

please help :[

Q: 17/M
She says I'm not good enough for her, but I know she's the one who doesn't deserve me. I've liked her for 15 months now. She's done nothing but jerk my emotions back and forth. She the only person I keep in my life who has never opened up to me... or anyone else. I want to be with her so badly. Why can't I get her out of my head?

Q: Everything was great on Monday. My boyfriend was really sweet, as usual. He hugged me, kissed me, told me nice stuff..and i felt really nice around him. It's not love, but it could be.
Anyway, i knew stuff at home wasn't great for him...his mom and him fight a LOT soo..i never bothered asking him cause he'd get REALLY ticked off when i gave him advice or inquired about it. So Tuesday comes and he begins to ignore me. Like as if i'm not there. Just completely changed. I thought about it...and decided that maybe he needed some space or something...perhaps his mother made him really upset...so i ignored him too.
It was then that he suddenly spoke up, claiming that he was really confused and everything was a blur in his head. I noticed how depressed and upset he got in just two days. His face was all..bitter...and he didn't smile or anything.
It was as if he lost interest in me. He then asked me if i would be completely devastated if we broke up. Of course, i said yes..we've been together for four months and it's a pretty big deal...and it just makes me SO SAD that there could be a chance that he's suddenly losing interest in me.
However, i don't know whether he's confused about EVERYTHING right now. It's all unclear and he still claims to be confused and feeling depressed and crappy and horrible.
I don't know what my next step should be. I haven't dealt with this before. Has this happened to anyone? Why would he be confused all of a sudden just out of the blue like that?
=(

Q:

So, i had a boyfriend for a year and a month, and we broke up for a stupid reason.
So barely a month after breaking up, he gets a new girlfriend.
It's so weird because our relationship was as perfect as possible, and we were best friends. We told eachother everything, we cried together, talked all night on the phone, and he was just one of the most important people in my life. I'm still not sure what went wrong, exactly, except for when i was having a HORRIBLE, horrible day, and i told him i was "confused about me and him," by which i explained thoroughly that i didn't mean it, because i really didnt. I think thats what started it, but i think that was something we could have worked through, it didnt have to break us. Also, he said alot of things were going on in his life and that he was depressed. Its family issues, mostly. He also said that he just couldnt handle a relationship at the moment.

But i loved him, so i let him have his space.
I loved him, so i was there for him. I wrote him a letter telling him that no matter what i would be there for him. And he appreciated it because after he read it it looked like he was about to cry. He has a lot to handle, but i dont know that, during this, why he wouldn't pull me closer instead of pushing me away.
His sister died in October, and i was there through it all.I saw him cry, i listened to him miss her.
Anyways,
He said he still wanted me in his life, and I, by all means, wanted him in mine too, because he meant so much to me, and i thought i did to him, too.
I then realized that i couldn't have him as a friend, because it hurt too much and i was expecting too much out of this new "friendship" because i wasnt used to that.
So i stopped talking to him.
He called me, not too long after me deciding to stop communicating with him, telling me that "my voice calms him down" and that "he just needed to hear it"
he apologized for calling through text, and i told him its okay but that i just didnt understand why he did it, and he told me that he didnt know if i cared, and i said i always will, just not in the way i used to because thats not what he wanted anymore.
then, he said that he understood and that if i didnt want him calling, that would be totally fine
and i didnt answer.
15 mins later, he texted it again, and i didnt answer, again
15 more mins later, he texted me saying that the last thing he is going to tell me is to not tell anyone what he told me
and i didnt answer.
But now, less then a month after breaking up, he has a new girlfriend already. He has done this before, but he came back to me.
When i see him occasionally, he stares at me, and it obvious. He even has this smile on his face as he does it. I want to know what that means?
He's not a bad person at all, he has never been a jerk to me, even though i wish he was sometimes so that i would have a reason to hate him and get over him.

But i dont know, somehwere in my gut keeps telling me that it shouldnt have been over. It was mostly miscommunication, i think.

I just wish he missed me.

My questions are mainly:

1. What do you think is going on with him?
2. Is she a rebound?
3. If so, do rebounds ever last?
4. What should i do?


thank you so much, sorry this is so long, but its something i cannot get off my mind.

Q: So, my boyfriend and I have been through some really rough times and he screwed up a lot. I really do love him and for awhile lately he doesnt believe that I truly do love him. Maybe I hold a deep down grudge and he gets that vibe but bottom line is I really do care about him. Question is--how can I show him I love him (we are not teenagers) without writing it in a card or letter or getting him a gift. It doesn't seem like enough when I just say it. thank you very much.

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