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This guy I use to be with on and off started to IM me again and wants to catch up well I think he might want to be friends and the thing is I want to be his girlfriend I've been waiting for him to be mine being on and off isn't good enough I want him to stay and not go anywhere so I told him I can't just be his friend I want a relationship with you I told him if we do catch up I don't want it to be we catch up as friends we have been doing that already I'm tired of that I want him to be mine. How do I show him I really want to be his girlfriend by the way I emailed him what I wanted only because we don't see each other in person as much now and usually when he says lets catch up or meet up it doesnt happen for a week hes a busy guy I couldn't wait so I hope I didn't mess anything up I just want to be honest with how I feel. I think he does like me too I just wish I could show him and make him mine not force him to be mine but I want him to fall in love with me since I adore him. (link)
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You should NOT be friends with an ex lover if you still love him.
Break away for awhile, enjoy being single, and work on you.
If you still have feelings for him, and you talk to him, it is only going to create more drama for yourself!
As far as wanting to make him fall in love with you, it will only frustrate you because you can't control other people's emotion. (but wouldn't that be awesome if you could!)
I also recommend looking up facts about love addiction.
here is a link to some useful info.
http://www.allaboutlove.org/love-addiction.htm
Good Luck! And Move on sweety!
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Okay me and my boyfriend were making out today on the bed and things got a little hot and heavy and he got an erection. So he was "hard" and i was on top of him and we were kissing and i was wearing shorts like really short and a pad just in case anything came out of my vagina and underwear. He was wearing gym shorts you know the baggy ones and there like flannel and like cloth and he had a wet spot by his penis so im guessing that was semen and i backed off a bit because i was getting a little paranoid. My lower body half didn't touch there but i might have noticed a little late and if i was on top of him and the dot was there is it possible for it to get into my vagina? it didn't get on my shorts or anything. anyway he left and now i feel queasy and tingly and clear jelly like substances are coming out of my vagina and i keep wetting my underwear during the whole situation and when i think about it to.. what does that mean? And my tummy is rumbling and i don't feel like eating really anything and i pooped and im having alot of gas but i don't feel nauseas or anything its just my tummy feels so queasy and unsettled so i feel like i'm pregnant? is it possible i don't have any money to buy a pregnancy test so i want to know if it possible and some symptoms. I am only 13 years old and i have never been sexually active before. this is the closest ive ever gotten to being active. i'm so scared and i really need some help. I just had my period before this whole thing happened so.. does that mean its more likely for me to be pregnant? (link)
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What came out of his penis was most likely pre-cum not sperm. Calm down, you have nothing to worry about! I suggest cooling off and some of the sex stuff because you are young though, and I would educate yourself about it before you go any further.
kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/
check out this site and read up!
Good luck!
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well my fiance was arrested when i was five months pregnant with our child ,,he has been for one and a half year now i have currently been talking to someone for about three months now and i really am feeling for him should i try a relationship out with him? i still love my fiance but i have needs,emotionally and physically what should i do? (link)
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First I would ask yourself, is your fiance going to be a good father for your child? Is he going to be in and out of the child's life because he is going to be in and out of jail? what kind of role model would your fiance be for your child? Does your child deserve someone better? If not, I would worry about your situation with no one else at the moment. Worry about you and getting ready for your baby. Then when you are ready start talking to some people.
If your fiance is right for you, I wouldn't stray.
Good luck!
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Okay, so my boyfriend came over and we were making out on the bed. it got a little hot and heavy and he got an erection. He was wearing gym shorts and underwear and i myself was wearing shorts, underwear and a pad. but i am not on my period it was just in case something would come out. so there was a wet spot on his shorts and i think the semen went through his pants so i backed off a bit and didn't even touch my loweerr body to his. My underwear feels a little wet and when he left i went to the bathroom and my pee was alot darker then usual i feel a little queasy but i think that is just from how nervous i am. my tummy is doing some irregular rumbling and i pooped but i think it's doing that because i might be pregnant. White jelly like substances are coming out of my vagina and everytime i think of the wholee situation and what we did my underwear gets a little wet. I washed my blankets and now i feel like im pregnant. He told me it was not possible but im not so sure. It is possible for me to be pregnant? Im not feeling nausaus or throwing up or anything like that im not really in the mood to eat so are those signs of pregnancy? by the way im 13. && i have never been sexually active the closest i have ever got to being sexually active was doing this with my boyfriend. Please help mee!!! im so scared! (link)
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I would say you are not pregnant, what was on his pants is called pre-cum. Pre-cum comes out of a penis when a male is aroused to lubricate the canal for sperm to come out of when he ejaculates.
Now that does not mean you cannot get preganant from pre-cum. If there is penetration of the vagina and pre-cum comes out it can sometimes get you pregnant if sperm is left over and carried out in the pre-cum. (So always use protection!!!)
Anyways the discharge from your vagina is also natural. When a woman gets aroused her vagina becomes wet as a natural lubricant for intercourse. It is also normal to have a small amount of clear to white discharge throughout the day.
Your urine could be darker do to not drinking enough water and stomach ache do to nerves.
I would read up on sexual health though.
kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/
i would check out this website.
good luck!
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Do guys get turned on by different things? I was talking to my boyfriend about sex and what turns him on and he sounded really weird. He said that most "normal" things don't turn him on like seeing boobs or something. He said he really didn't find porn interesting either and likes to get off on other stuff. I don't know what he might be talking about. What other stuff? Is he weird? (link)
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All people have different turns on. This is common and normal. I would just ask him about the "other stuff" he likes. He also might just be shy to talk about the things he likes.
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I am 17 year old boy. I have been through my naive days and honestly have a completely different, more real mind set. I actually believe I'm in love with this girl. I don't ever use that word either, 'love' that is. I never thought a person can have this sort of perplexing feeling. She's not the average/typical girl, if ya know what I mean. I won't bore you any further because I can go on and on. I don't know how she feels about me. I don't know how to confront her about it either. (link)
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I recommend looking up "love addiction" Many high schoolers go through this. However if you look this up and it is not you, then just try talking to her. Good luck!
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So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what? (link)
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Have you asked him why he doesn't text you? Maybe he doesn't like to text, or maybe he can't afford to text that much? I would just try talking to him. Good luck!
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18f.
i met this new guy, i thought he was amazingly different then any other guy i've ever liked because he has treated me so different. we're not dating yet, but he treats me like a princess everytime we're together. he knows i have a trust problem, especially with guys, and he knows i've been hurt and afraid to fall again and he's promised he would never hurt me or give me a reason to never trust him.
everything was fine, until tonight. i texted him about something, and then he asked what i was doing tonight and i said i was somewhere an hr and a half away and then i didn't know, and he said we should hang out tonight and i said yeah we should :) and he was like ok, text me when you get home. so i text him when i get home, about an hr and a half later, and i say ok i'm home ..and he never texted back..
i'm so confused, i know it sent to him. i don't know if he didn't want to see me (even though he asked ME to hang out first) or what's going on .. i'm just really hurt ..because i never thought this would happen with him.
i'm frustrated, sad, confused all at the same time. if he texts me tomorrow saying something, do i say something about him not texting back? what if he acts like nothing happened? i don't know what to say, if i should say anything at all.. (link)
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Well, it is possible he fell asleep, his phone died, something extremely important came up, or he didn't have service. I would ask him about what happened and see what he says. To me it doesn't sound like he was trying to hurt you, but if it is a re-occurring problem I would confront him about how it hurts you when he doesn't respond. Good Luck!
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ok, so im 14 and i really want a boyfriend but im not sure if im ready. i feel totally ready but then when i see guys in person and talk to them, i can't imagine kissing them because i feel nervous and sort of not ready. it's like an easier said than done thing, you know? so, am i ready or what's up with me? (link)
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Well maybe you aren't ready to kiss someone yet? You could hang out with guys get to know them and have fun! When you find someone you like and get comfortable with them, then you might feel ready to kiss someone. Don't push yourself to do anything you aren't sure about yet. I know there is a lot of pressure as a 14 yr old to start dating and getting physical but it really is o.k. not to.
Basically take your time, have fun, and find someone you trust and like before you worry about kissing. The time will come soon enough.
Good luck!
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My boyfriend and me have been dating for over 10 months now and everything has been great. Granted, there has been our ups and downs, as all good relationships do, but recently it seems as though he's been ignoring me. He won't answer my texts or calls. When we do talk its because I call him for the third time. I ask if I did something to upset him or if something is wrong and he says no and that everything is ok. He's been acting strange; when we talk he doesn't say much and it seems he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I'm very lost in what's going on with him. Please I need some serious advice (a guys opinion would be very helpful as well). Please answer soon. Thank you. We love each other and I want to make it work. I am 16 and he is 17. I know we are young and some people think people our age can't be in love but in this case we very much do, so please if you answer this let it be about our problem not based on just our age. Thank you (link)
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Normally when a guy shows a lack of interest it is just that, they are not interested anymore. This is not aged based because people of all ages do this but you might want to read up on something called "love addiction" here is a section from an article.
Love addiction is a human behavior in which people become addicted to the feeling of love. Love addicts can take on many different behaviors.
i could be completely wrong but I would google love addict and they have quizzes you can take to see if you are and go from there. Good luck, hope everything turns out ok!
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I'm white, he's black. Is it wrong? My mom does NOT approve at all. She actually doesn't know I am dating him because of her beliefs. I don't tell many people because I'm scared of what they will say or do. I'm scared that they will disown me. There are so many racists out there, including most of the teachers in my school. When I'm with him in school, there is always fuss. Black teachers yell at us, as well as white teachers. That's just when we are holding hands. It gets really discouraging for me, and it makes me sad. I don't see him for his color, I see him for his personality. And yes, I do love him. There are some bad things about him that not many people would approve of, but he treats me good. He doesn't beat me (like a lot of white people think black people do to their girlfriends) he doesn't force sex on me or any kind of sexual act, he is just as good as any regular guy. What I am scared of, though, is that he is in a gang. He gets arrested a lot and tells me he's always fighting. He knows how I feel about his fighting and jail time. He said he wishes he didn't join the gang because he can't get out now. If I tell my mom that, she will send me off to some kind of all white boarding school. He says he loves me, too. Sometimes I want to break up with him because he is bad, but he is a really sweet, caring guy and that's what keeps me hanging on. I really don't want to break up with him. Its like, the people around me are PRESSURING me to end the relationship. Advice? (link)
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Maybe people are not starring because he is black, but they are scared that you might get hurt. Even if he is not a bad person, if he is around bad people he can drag you along. I dated a guy who was an awesome guy but he hung out with not the best people. Sadly he ended up getting murdered and I had to go to my boyfriends funeral. Its a very tragic thing, and sometimes I wonder what would of happened if I had gone with him that day. I could be dead too. You should probably ask yourself as well what kind of person and life you deserve. Is this guy really good enough for you? Now if your only issue as to why you might be thinking about breaking up with him was that others were looking down on you two, I would stay with him. I have a multi cultural family and I love it. Race is not a reason to break up with someone, but someone making not so great choices and ending up in prison might be. Hope everything works out!
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 5 months the problem is he never wants to be around my family i always have to be with him and his family but his family only speaks spanish and i dont? What do i do? (link)
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Maybe try talking to your boyfriend and explain to him how it is important for you to see your family as well? Try making a compromise of switching what house you guys hang out at? And maybe he could also teach you Spanish? Hope things work out!
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Ok so like iv been hangin out with this guy a lot latly he told me he loves me but he don’t treat me like he does he talks to all these girls we are not dating so he tells everyone we are just f** buddys I already told him I want to be more he said the reason why he hasn’t asked me out is because of all the guys I use to be with but I stoped talking to all of them I don’t know what to do I really want him but sometimes I don’t think he wants me just cuz all the girls he talks to and he is very controlling to me. (link)
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This guy does not deserve you, I don't know if you listen to love line at all or know who Dr. Drew is but I recommend checking him out. He has excellent relationship advice. Hope all goes well!
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