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15/f...well i was stupid and went out with this guy ive been best friends with since sixth grade and were now in 9th and so it was a few months and everytyhing was perfect and i just told myself everything was wrong but it wasnt and so i broke up with him for no reason at all i was just like its over.. and so its been about two months and he went out with this other chick and they broke up and now i realize what a big mistake ive made and we were BEST friends we told each other everything and now he wont even look at me and i want him back but i dont expect that i just want it to eb the way it was before.. any suggestions?

Honestly, what I think would work your way up with him would be to tell him exactally what you told us. The honest truth. If he doesn't want you back, then hes not worth your time anymore. Everything happens for a reason right?

I know its probably not the answer you were looking for but in my opinion I think it would be the most affective.

Hope I helped =)

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Ok, my best friend and my other good friend are going out with two guys who are best friends. One of them I'm also close friends with, and the other one I used to like (and then he started going out with my friend, long, messy, story). So anywayz, they are ALWAYS planning double dates and are leaving me out because I don't have a boyfriend. It's not intentional but it amkes me really want a boyfriend. I know that probably sounds really insecure and stupid, but it's true. What should I do, if anything?

Well in my opinion, the best bet is to talk to your friends and tell them how you feel.

I know, I know its a very common answer... but people suggest it because it works. =)

What I am also going to tell you that is very important is don't go out and date any guy who likes you just because you want to be included. That will end up bad and lead into a breakup because technically it's like using him.

Well, I think you should just talk to them and take it from there. They're just going to keep on doing it if they are unaware it is hurting you.

Hope I helped =)

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alright so my boyfriend comes over here like everyday and i love it because i get to see him everyyyy dayy and thats just fine with me but sometimes when hes over here and im in the shower i get out come to my room and hes on myspace writing someone or reading someones message to him but once i really get in the room he closes out of it really quick and this has happen twice. idk what to do because if hes hiding something i need to know but im scared to ask him because i dont want us to start an arguement. what should i do?????

Now I know the good thing to say would be to talk to him now because what I'm about to tell you could lead into an argument later but:

My idea is to maybe get a myspace of your own. NO REAL INFORMATION OR PICTURES. Unless you want to but thats your descision. Ok, then look at his comments and such. If he wont let you look at his myspace then you can ask him whats up.

I'm just scared this can lead into an argument of "You were spying on me!!"

So you might just want to ask him why he keeps closing the window. If you find out he lied about it later then you would have the right to be mad.

He could have just closed it because he was going to leave and nothings going on.

This one's tough but I hope I helped. =)

Good Luck!!

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Age 14/f. There's this kid who lives down the street that I have a huge crush on. He's a year younger, which is fine with me. The only problem is that we are two grades apart. I am a freshman in high school and he is only in seventh grade. When I moved, something got mixed up with the cutoff dates and I am now a very young freshman (or a very old eighth grader.) We are a year apart, but as far as anyone else knows, it's actually two years. Do you think it's worth it to go after him? Or should I give up and look elsewhere? (If it makes a difference, he's still taller than I am by about an inch.)

I think you should try for him. It doesnt matter if everyone else thinks hes two years apart. You don't have to even explain you're only one year apart.

If you really like a person it shouldn't matter what age they are. I say go for him and forget what anyone else thinks. =)

Hope I helped =)

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my best friend likes the same guy as i do. its no fair cause i liked him first and starting talking to him first. but now she's talking to him and flirting constantly with him. she always gets the guy she wants and i dont think it is right. i dont know what to do. she knows i like him and she still does it. this isnt the first time either. she seriously my best friend and has been since 1st grade. i dont know what to do about her though. i really like this guy and im afraid that if she keeps flirting with him that he will start falling for her and i really dont want that to happen. i invited him to the movies and he said that he would get back to me on that either way. i dont know what that means. what should i do about this?

I know how you feel exept she wasnt my best friend. I liked this guy for a year and a half and then she comes in likes him for about a month and now they're going out. I was heartbroken.

Personally I think if she really likes him its not fair for you to be mad at her. People can't contol who they like they just do.

You should maybe talk to her about it and see what she has to say. Maybe she doesnt realize what its doing to you or even what shes doing.

I think you're just jealous, if he likes her back yes its going to hurt but she likes him too, people cant usually control who they like.

Now theres another issue that could be going on. All of this should be fine if she REALLY likes him. If shes trying to make you jealous and doesnt like him that much thats just wrong and you need to confront her but you have to make sure you know that she doesn't.

It's a very heartbreaking situation for you I know I've been there but just try to understand her point of view. What if you liked who she liked after she did but you truly liked him. You would want attention from him too.

I'm not trying to make you the bad guy because I deffinately know how you feel but you just have to think of what they're thinking.

If that made any sense at all.

Hope I helped =)

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ok here was my original question:
i like this guy at work and we talk a little bit here and there, but i find he talks to the other girls more then me. The other day he scared me by grabbing my waist and laughing. He's never done that before to me or anyone else. What can that have ment? Thanx in advance, this guy really confuzes me, because he always looks at me for a long time likes hes lost and when i ask what? he says something random, like i didn't know you were working today. just any advice on this guy would help thanks

Here was your answer:
hunny this guy is CHECKING YOU OUTTT i don't know if that means he likes you or your body but try talking to him more and see what he really wants

good luck =)

and here is my new question:
what makes you think he likes me? i just don't see how you think he likes me, not that i don't want him to, just any advice of where you thought he liked me would be helpful,

thanx.

lol sorry about that, but i didnt say he actually liked you i said i dont knwo if that means he does. I mean it is possible he does by how he stares at you and grabs your waist but it could just mean he likes your body because thats what some guys only like. If hes sweet and sincere then it could mean he likes you. Its hard for me to tell because I'm not there to see all of this, but you should just try flirting with him a little and see what happens.

Hope I helped =)

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what makes you think he likes me? i just don't see how you think he likes me, not that i don't want him to, just any advice of where you thought he liked me would be helpful, thanx.

hey drop another one in my inbox, i dont remember what the first question you asked was. Sorry

thanks =)

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On here I just read that guys have their first kiss before girls. Ive had my first kiss but only for a dare though (that sounds sad but it was with a really hot guy i'm into so its ok really) . I just wondered why guys have their first kisses before girls?

well if guys have their first kiss, its usually with a girl so wouldnt the girl have their first kiss too?

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okay well me and this kid really like eachother like we were talking online last night like all night & it was like really cute cause he kept like telling me how much he likes me crap and i really really like him too. yeah sounds great but last time we liked eachother like nothing happened we just stayed friend. like i really wanna go out with him but like i never ask guys out. i think its sooo weird and like creepy. haha but like i dont know what to do to like get him to ask me out like what to say or what cause ive basically told him that i want to be with him and he said he was like in love with me so please help just like tell me what to do so he like gets the hint and asks me outt haha ill rate highh

ok wow you say like a lot lol anyway I think that when your with him bring up that conversation you two had because hes probably thinking what you are. Guys are afraid of rejection also. Let him know that you like him, but if its hard to talk to him in person talk to him online. Ask him to something casual with your friends maybe. Obviously he's crazy about you just let him know you feel the same way and things will work out for the best.

Hope I helped =)

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My problem is that I'm like head over heals(in love :-P ) in a girl in my classe and I don't know what to do, and I don't know what to do beacuse of a few reasons
*She is a really good friend of my & I'm afreid that if I tell her it could kill our friendship
*She is curentlly dating someone

please help me....
what should I do?????

Well since she is in a relationship I don't think you should tell her for many reasons.

1) You will most likely ruin the relationship shes in because her boyfriend might get jealous, mad ect. If that happens she most likely wont be too fond of you.

2) Your friendship will become extrememly akward


In my opinion I think you should just wait untill things are over with them and be her shoulder to cry on. When the time is right flirt with her, don't scare her away.


Hope I helped =)

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hey thanks for answering, and for the advice, but how could you be so sure he was checking me out? thanks again

Well im not sure but from what you told me it sounded like it because of how he was staring at you and grabbing your waist. I could be wrong because I havent seen you guys together he could really like you. Guys are way too confusing

Hope I helped =)

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i like this guy at work and we talk a little bit here and there, but i find he talks to the other girls more then me. The other day he scared me by grabbing my waist and laughing. He's never done that before to me or anyone else. What can that have ment? Thanx in advance, this guy really confuzes me, because he always looks at me for a long time likes hes lost and when i ask what? he says something random, like i didn't know you were working today. lol, just any advice on this guy would help thanks

hunny this guy is CHECKING YOU OUTTT lol idk if that means he likes you or your body but try talking to him more and see what he really wants

good luck =)

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(15,F) okay so.. i have this group of like BEST friends from camp-- and like, we're all different ages..from 14-17.. and i love these people so much, but there's this one guy. me and him kind of like 'went out' last summer.. and it didnt work (i broke it off) but this summer i like him SO incredibly much much more and i wonder if he likes me too-- i mean we have a really close relationship and he says he's physically attracted to me, but i dont know if he would ever like me again like last summer and i just wanted to ask someone else's opinion who doesnt know us- he's always smacking my ass and touching me and he masturbates to me, and we've made out and stuff obviously... but i just dont know if he would ever be interested in me again.

please answer back

-sincerely,
wish i could rewind

awww =( well this is a really tough one but im going to try and answer it the best i can


Ok i think he has to like you in some way if hes made out with you and all of that stuff, i think your best bet is to tell him how you feel and see if he likes you back, but if your a little shy try flirting with him and see what he does and then tell him because you are never going to find out if he likes you back if you dont tell him, and if he does like you he will probably ask you out again


Sorry if i didnt help that much but thats all i could think of I hope he likes you back =D

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ok im 14(f) i live in New jersey. Alot of people in my school have boyfriends .... but i dont . I have my eye on a few people but i dont know if they like me or think im weird or w.e I am very outgoing but idk how to act around boys to make them like me or anything i dont know ? Also i dont think of myself as "HOT" and i dont know if they feel that way to or if they think im prett i realllllllllly want a boyfriend! what do i do to get 1 and also what do i do to look good around them (like what do i do to my hair what type of clothes and how do i act ect.) I rate a 5 =].
Signed boyless

ok well you should really care about your looks that much because you deffinately want a guy for likes you for who you are but looking pretty is good too =) now you might be pretty but dont think you are a lot of people think that and i cant really help with the hair because idk what kind you havve as for the clothes try some preppy cute ones like abercromie even though they are reallllyyyy expensive so you can try aero too


and when you are around guys just BE YOURSELF dont be shy be you and maybe flirt a little and hang out with them its really all you can do if you dont want to act like slutty so


I hope I helped!!

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is having sex before marriage a sin

yea its a big one

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ok .. i realli like this guy and he likes me to ..we are going out but he is realli shy around me and it bothers me because that makes me shy too! i dont know what to do!

whenever you are around him try and break the ice and start a conversation with him to make him feel more comfortable around you and if that doesnt work talk to him about it and tell him how you feel or do that first whichever one u want


Hope I helped!! =D

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Ok...i really like this guy, and he likes me too. We are really good friends, but don't go to the same school or anything but we still hang out like once or twice a week, either bowling or movies usually...He also says he likes somebody else too and i have liked him since i met him, 2 years ago...and i've done a lot with him, like a b/f and g/f do but we werent going out when we did any of this, and i seriously think i'm in love with him because i cant get him out of my head or anything, and he hurt me a lot of times but i can't figure out how to be mad at him...and i really want to just give our relationship another try, because i think it hurts me more now by not going out with him than it would if we went out and broke up, and i don't know if I should tell him that i think we should give this another try or if i should just let everything take it's course...or if i should pour my heart out to him, i've been thinking i should...and im sorry this is kind of long, i just wanted to explain everything as good as possible...please reply ASAP...and if you need any more details instant message me at x SO INNOC3NT 13.
Thanks so much

Ok wrote this once but i have to write it again because of some stupid thing that says i wasnt talking in english LAUGH OUT LOUD its so annoying!! anyway to answer your question dont tell him unless you are sure he likes you because he never said that he liked you from what you told me unless you left it out, and if you want to tell him relize that you are going to be risking your relationship as friends that happens a lot, and if he doesnt like you and he tells you things are going to get kind of weird between you guys, and you dont want that AND he likes someone else right so you dont want to go out with him when he likes another girl you want a guy thats perfectly in love with you and doesnt want any other girl well anyway if you need more help IM me at Soccerplayer5674 because im a little confused also lol

ok Hope I helped!!

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i have a problem this guy will not go out withme untill i get a b/f 4 my friend and he wants me to get my brother to go out with her but he only likes her as a friend wat should i dooooo???


PLZZZZZZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!!

I don't think this guy is worth it, he obviously doesn't care that much about you (no offense to you) or how much you want to go out with him, I mean did you tell him that your brother only likes her as a friend? If you did and he still wont go out with you, you should definately get over him he is deffinately not worth wasting your time im sure plenty of other guys would want to go out with you!! But if you didnt tell him then tell him and see how it goes, sorry if this seemed a little harsh on him but I hope I helped!! =D

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ok. me and my best freind went to the movies and there was this REALLY cute guy i mean i told him he was hot hot well im not going to see a hot guy and not let him kno.. you kno.. anyways i didnt even get his number!! we both think hes like REALLY cool. but anyways. heres the part i need your advice on.. so we always go meet cuties you kno not likr plan it out or anything but i need to kno what to say and stuff for when i talk to a guy. im so pretty when it comes to guys im totally myself and all so dont say that and dont be bitchy about it. ill rate 5! love ya thanks.


*sara*

Ok well i think you should keep doing what your doing, act like hes a friend and play it cool i mean nothing bad happened when you were with the other "cuties"! lol well just keep it up =)


Hope I helped!! =D

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i met this AWSOME guy at the mall. i hav his sn and he has mine, but i cant get the courage to say hey to him. i thought i would just wait until he talked to me, but he hasnt yet and its been about 5 days. wat should i do? should i talk to him? wat should i say?

Hey just say hey i mean whats the worst that could happen, he gave you his sn so he probably wants to talk to you and once you say hey the worst is over and you can start a conversation with him, i know what you mean but just type it first and maybe have a friends press enter?? maybe, lol well thats all i can give you, Hope I helped! =D

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