Hello. I am a 16 year old male from Georgia (United States). I have recently given my life to Christ, and am a southern baptist. I am currently a high school student, and a lot of my friends will come to me for advice about there friendships and relationships and whatnot, so I figured that I would give this a try. I will answer any question you give me, to the best of my ability that is. If I do not know how to handle it, I will tell you what I think, but I will also tell you that I am unsure, and try to suggest another person to ask. I hope that all the answers I give will be satisfactory.
Gender: Male
Location: Georgia (United States)
Age: 16
Member Since: May 2, 2008
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ok so what do you do when you've been talking to this guy for about 6 months, have liked each other for 9, and have been 'official' for almost 3, and sometimes it's great being with him and i dont wanna lose him =] other times i feel tied down & that im just not wanting to be in a relationship and i need my own space to do whatever the heck i want? but i know if i break up with him ill be kicking myself in the butt and it would break my heart to see him with someone else or ruin things between us... help !? (link)
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Actually, I just got through dealing with that. I am in a long distance relationship, and for a little while last month, I just felt like taking a break, so I told my boyfriend that. He said he understood. Well, about a week went by, and I realized that he was really the only person I wanted to be with. I know that sometimes it feels like it would be better to see other people, but if you really like him, then you would feel terrible after going to somebody else. I think you should stay with him. I am currently back together with my boyfriend. We are doing great. There are times that I don't want to be with him, but then I realize that i still like him, and I would feel terrible if i went out with wnybody else. Just try to stay with him. Hope this helps
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as you all know, school is coming to an end in one month and i really want to get some guy's number before school ends. There are 3 guys that i currently have a crush on and i was wondering if you could gimme advice on how to get a guy in less than a month. it doesn't even have to be a dating relationship, a friendship would be great too. help please (link)
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I agree, yearbooks are a good tool for that. Also, just try going up and talking to them. It sounds remidial, but it works. I am not trying to patronize you by saying that. Just try talking to them, and give them your number and they will probably give you theirs. Hope this helps
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im going out with this guy he doesnt want to have sex right now.. i respect that.. but i have needs haha and i want it really bad and one of my best friends said he wants to hookup with me i like my boyfriend a lot but should i tell my boyfriend that i need a brake? i dont want to cheat on him... what should i do??
dont say just masturbate because its nowhere near as good as sex is (link)
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Being in a long distance relationship, I can relate to wanting to have sex and not being able to. I have thought about doing it with somebody else a few times, but then I will start to think about my boyfriend again and I realize that I would feel like crap if I had sex with anyone else (if i was currently dating him or not). I suggest that you just wait until your boyfriend is ready. I have a few friends that lost their virginity, and now they really regret it, because it was with the wrong guy/girl. I do not know if you are a virgin or not, and I don't think it really matters in this situation. But I suggest you just wait until he is ready. Because, if you really like him, you will feel like crap if you do it with somebody else. Hope this helps
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15/female
hey
okay so my boyfrend got his phone taken away and his texting blocked [cuz he has a harsh dad]
so hes been calling me on his house phone and stuff
which is fine
then his dad turned off his internet
and told himm that he wasnt allowed to use the house phone anymore
what do i do?
i have like no contact with him anymore!
he called me this morning to tell me he couldnt call me on his house phone anymore.
i dont know what to do
i love him sooo much and i dont think i can go a day without talking to him
help
please
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I am currently in a long distance relationship. Sometimes me and my boyfriend don't get to talk for weeks at a time. Yeah, it is a little bothersome, but it makes it so much better when you get to talk again for the first time in a couple of weeks. I mean, sometimes I will get down about not being able to talk to him, but then when I do eventually get to talk to him it is awesome. It is not as hard as you think it will be. And he will probably get his phone back and be able to talk to you before you know it. Hope this helps.
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my boyfrend and i have been together for like 3 months now and have not kissed yet
weve talked about it but i never know when the
'moment is right'
and how do u start a kiss?
dont give me any websites because that doesnt help me.
i really just dont know
help? (link)
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There is no set time for a kiss to happen. It will come naturally. Some people will start making out the day they start dating, some people will wait for a long time before they even kiss. And don't worry about the kiss. It will happen when it happens. And if you are always thinking about when it will happen and how it will happen and everything, it will kind of lose something. Some things are just better when they are not planned or expected. The best kisses that I have ever had just happened when they happened. I mean, you just can't plan them. Well, you can, but they aren't the same then. Just go with the flow, and let it happen naturally. Hope this helps
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Okay so I recently started dating this guy. Phil.
But For the longest time I have liked this. guy Don. Don, is a jerk. He leades me on a lot and then just drops me.
What do I do? I feel like I'm cheating, or that I'm not being honest to Phil. (link)
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Well, first you need to be sure that you really like Phil. Second, you should tell him about Don. I know that sounds stupid, but it is really the best thing to do. And I don't think that you are cheating on Phil unless you actually start dating Don, and technically you are being honest with him. But, that is just technically. If you feel guilty about this, you should tell Phil about Don, and if he really likes you, he will understand. I am not saying that he will not be upset for a little while, but it is probably the best thing to do. I hope this helps
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m/16
ok so i think i fell in love with a guy. he's one of those emo guys and wears black eyeliner but he's straight tho. hes really nice and cool but he has no friends accept me because im the only one being nice to him. so yesterday i was sick and he came over to check if im alright and told me what the hw was. and he sat on my bed and we talked alot. andi just cant help but falling for him. hes just amazing. and i dont even understand because im sure ive naver liked a guy before and i cant imagine liking another guy but him. so he forgot his key and his parents are gone so i offered him to stay over. nothing happened of course but i stared at him the whole night and everytime i see him i get nervous and feel like throwing up. i know hes not gay. i just dont know what to do becaause i dont wanna be gay either. my parents would kill me but on the other hand i jzst wann abe with him. i dont know what to do.
please help (link)
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I can totally relate. My parents HATE that I am a bisexual, but I am anyway. It is who I am, and they can get over it. Also, there a few guys I wouldn't mind dating, but they are straight. You just have to be open with your sexuality, and maybe they will actually like you too. Some guys are jsut really nervous about that kind of thing, and get all hot and bothered when someone says they are gay or a gay guy is hitting on them. Actually, a few guys who are bi/gay will do this to cover up that they really are. He might be gay, but just not be comfortable telling you. Just find out how he feels about the topic, tell him how you feel (be EXTREMELY careful about this), and maybe he will like you too. Let me know how it goes. Hope this helps.
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14/M
Is it wrong to make out 1 week after the first date? (link)
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There isn't really a set time to start making out. A lot of my friends will start makin out probably within minutes after starting a relationship, while I like to wait at least a week. It really just depends on when you and the person you are dating are ready for it.
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This is mostly for the ladies, or the gays pertaining to his or her boyfriend. If you and your boyfriend were messing around and he got hard but couldn't hold an erection for very long or had an orgasm, does it turn you off or make you think less of him to a point where you no longer want to have a relationship with him? (he says that it's not you but just because he's nervous). This is simply just messing around like playing naked no intercourse or anything.
The point is, is that I get really nervous around the guy i'm dating, we're not official but we've been going out for more than a month now. We have been messing around and I can't seem to hold an erection for very long. I believe it is because I am nervous and have performance anxiety... during the time that we've been dating, I have messed around with other guys that were not looking for relationships and have found that I can hold my erection for quite sometime... I'm really confused because I don't know whether or not it's just there's no physical attraction between us or just because i'm nervous... neither of us have really had a steady relationship or just a steady dating partner... I really don't know what to do and I think it's bothering him more than me... Any advice?? (link)
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As a bisexual with a boyfriend, I whink I can help a little. Well, first off, I wouldn't care if my boyfriend could get a boner or not while we were just messing around. It isn't really important. I mean, there really isn't a point in being hard if you're not gonna have sex (sorry for being so blunt). I don't care if my boyfriend can or not, and I don't fele offended when he can't. Sometimes we can, sometimes we can't. I don't think it is a very good thing that you are messing around with other guys thoughs. To me, that makes it seems like you may not like him as much as you think you do. I'm sorry, that last part was just my opinion and had nothing to do with your question. Please tell me how things turn out between you and him. Hope this helps.
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My best friend told her brother that i thought he was cute and that i liked him! (i did think he was really cute) But she was just playing. Then i find out that he likes me.(as my friend says) Well I start to like him. Ok, I usually see him in school only about 2 time, but today i saw him 4 times! He was everywhere I was. I didnt look at him because i was shy, but my friend said that he was looking at me and smiling. My friend also said that her bro dont like shy girls! Well im super shy around guys cause im not that exprienced, and i want him to still like me! How do i not be shy! ( i hate it) (link)
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Well, the first thing I would like to say is that if he really liked you, it wouldn't matter if you are shy or not. Moving right along, there are a few poeple that I like, and I am usually very shy around these people. I find it extremely helpful to get to know them better. Also, hang out with him around friends. I am usually a lot more comfortable around the people I like when I have some of my friends with me. You sound like you really like him, so the first thing I suggest you do is to actually ask him out. I know it isn't traditional for the girl to ask the guy, but that's how I got my first girlfriend. Knowing he likes you says that he will probably say yes, which would be a huge self-esteem booster and cause you to be less afraid around him. Let me know how things turn out. Hope this helps
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so i was with this guy since sixth grade to the 8th grade... he was my first love and i really loved him...when my parents told me to no longer talk to him i did and when he caused me to fight girls cause of drama around him I still talked to him...now we are 9th graders and go to different high schools and started talking again...now I thought that i was his first love and that we had something special but i had asked him...how much have you loved me on a scale 1-10 and he said well like a seven...i asked him how high his been and he told me like a 10 and i said with who and he said with this girl name vannesa well im so hurt i thought we had something but IDk what to do...shoould i stop talking to him cause right now old feelings are just comeing up and i think im just hurting myself..please give me any advice you have for this...should i stop talking to him or what???? (link)
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I have been through this a couple of times before. The best thing to do is just to go to him and say something along the lines of, "I still really like you, but I think I need to stop talking to you for a while because all of these old feelings are coming up and I just need to get rid of them." I am not saying you should never talk to him again, but you should take a break from talking to him if it is hurting you. The one thing to remember is, that there is NOTHING/NOBODY worth being hurt over. I hope this helps.
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