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Almost all school year I have liked this one guy. We were close as friends and he helped me out alot. Bottom line I liked him alot. Things have come up where me, and other people have completely convinced me there was no way he could like me. I got over him but now he's doing it all over again.
He could tell I was upset and kept asking about it but this time I refused to tell him. He talks to me quite a bit. He'll joke around saying he loves me or people say we make a cute couple. But sometimes he'll follow those phrases by insulting me. He tries to help me out and he flirts with me. One time I was just standing there (we were both in the same play thing) and he comes over, stands beside me, starts a con and after a while when I tell him I want to watch the play because I need to know when to come in, he just steps on my foot on purpose and then gives me a little poke. I step on his foot and basically we started playing footsies. I am over him but sometimes he makes me start to like him again but I always make myself remember he never would. It's getting me very angry that now that i've decided to finnally move on he's making it impossible to do so. What should I do? (link)
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first of all...why wouldn't he like you? It sounds like he might like you to me... but i think you should just ask him... it's just a question, but i know how difficult that can be to do with your best friend... It's hard because you don't want to ruin the friendship, but at the same time, you want it to be more.... If you really want to get over him, say "do you like me?" and then if he says no, then say "than please stop flirting with me" and then he'll realize your seeing it differently then he is, but if he says yes... then...well there you go! let me know how it goes, seriosly, i could use some aww inspiring story on this subject...
~*~s2mb~*~
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There's this guy I've liked for a while now and he took me out on a date Saturday night. I had fun and so did he. Yesterday I thought I might as well tell him that I liked him because everyone was under the impression that he liked me--not only did he take me out, but I went over his house and met his family and he picked me up, drove me home, payed for the date (it was a dance and he bought the ticket and went through a lot of hassle so that I could come), and walked me to my house and everything. When I told him I liked him, he told me that he liked this other girl and he was having issues and was unsure. I'm just really frustrated--how come he was sending me mixed messages? I'm really angry at him for leading me on like that and taking me out, just so I'd be there if things with girl #1 didn't fall through. I'd like to give him a piece of my mind but I don't even know where to begin. I wrote him an angry letter that I might give to him...and it's all about how he pretty much led me on and played little boy games with me and how he's an a-hole, but he's also a great guy, generally, and just because he didn't treat me right doesn't mean I'm over him yet. I even say that if he were to ask me out, I'd say yes. (Although I didn't write that I'd probably have to see a little more effort on his part, although it's true.) Should I give him the letter? (We don't go to the same school and we rarely see one another so I'd have to give it to a friend to give to him.) Or should I give him a piece of my mind someway else? Or should I just give up and leave him alone? What should I do? Thanks. (link)
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~wow. That sounds just like a situation im in right now with a guy named sean. Anyways, in my situation, i just kept being his friend. give him time to figure things out. He's considering you. but at the same time, don't just sit around and wait. flirt with other guys too! let HIM know you are considering other people too and have just as much game as he does! throw it innocently back in his face~
-s2mb
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hey umm i really love this girl but she lives in Michigan and i live in Ohio its about 3 hours to her house and i do know her i have met her in person a few times and i talk to her on the phone for hours everyday but the problem is that there is this winterfest comming up and i have no idea what to do and because its around Valentines Day. Valentines Day is Febuary 14 and winterfest is Febuary 10th. so yea what should i get her!! thanks!! (link)
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first off, let me just say i highly disagree with the last answer. True love can be found anywhere. I really loved a person i met over the phone! So please don't let that answer discourage you.
As for the gift, get her something personal, something that you two would only get. Like something to do with an inside joke. And also, something like her favorite CD, or an outfit from her favorite store. You should also write her a sincere note about how much she means to you. hope i helped!
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My friends really make me mad! They say that if I bring my boyfriend to the dance that there not going to go. Thing is, I really like him a lot and we have been dating for like 4 months now. Should I let what they say affect my decision or not. Im so confused and I feel like crying!! Nothing even happened between them. They just do not like him. I asked them why and they said they dont know why but they just dont like him. (link)
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I was in this same situation with my last bf. It's really tough but you just have to decide who you would want to hang out with more. In my situation it's either you're friends don't like him:
A. because there jealous that you HAVE a boyfriend
B. because he's wierd
C. because you've changed since you started going out with him
D. because you're spending more time with him then them.
E. Everytime you two are together around your friends, they feel left out.
go through all those in youre head and be honest with yourself. I'd say don't let them influence your decision if it is A or B. Try harder to hang out with your friends if its D or E. If it's C, then consider how you've changed, and consider your relationship.
hope i helped!
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THeres this guy who's really hot. I dont like him and want to go out, but he's hot, and i want to hook up with him. I only see him sometimes b/c we dont go to school together, but we keep in touch over facebook. He's kind of a player, and he could pretty much get any girl he wanted. I'm confident, and i think that i have a chance. But what are some things that i could comment his facebook saying? just some conversation starters, but cool ones, not lame, "DID YOU SEE THAT MOVIE?" or "WHATS YOUR FAVORITE BAND?"
something good. that will make him like me. (link)
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haha say something like:
", where'd you get that hot pink shirt you were wearing in your pic?? i really liked it =)."
or you can give him a compliment/insult... don't ask, ive just heard guys like it:
for ex.) "it must take a really secure guy to wear such a girly color"
just be flirty, hope i helped!!
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hey im 15 and im not allowed to date till im 16 and my girlfriend's birthday is a month before mine and in order to get her present, i need to be able to go out.this means that i would have to... "postpone" this present. i really would love to give it to her on her birthday but i dont know if i will be able to.should i still give her the birthday present and just postpone it?or should i give her a different birthday present? (link)
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well, that sounds just like my boyfriend and I! hmm...wierd, anyways, i think if she really loves you, she won't care if you get her a present or not. =) Just do what you can, and let time take it's course.
good luck sweetie...
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ok. so today was really awkward. i was hanging ou with my boyfriend. and it was all fun. but then his mom randomly showed up and said she wanted to talk to me. so im like ok. so i go over to the car window and shes like oh whats going on? im like what do you mean? and shes like are you guys going out? and im like yes. and shes like ok he told me. im like ok. shes liek does your mom know. im like yes( but she really doesnt, well she does but i just didnt say anything to my mom) ok well anyways. she was like oh hes grounded. you shouldnt be with him. and hes grounded becuase he is failing 3 classes. and shes like did you know that? and im like no. and shes like yeah well he is. and i betcha dont wanna go out with a junior next year when you move on to be a senior. and shes like how old are you. and im like 17. and shes like oh hes 18. when he told me that he was 17. and born a month after me. but somehow he skipped a age. but i dont know if the mom knew how old he was. and she was like i dont want you guys alone. and im like ?? and shes like its just because i had him at a young age and i dont want anything bad to happen. and then my boyfriend gave his mom a look and shes like what i dont want her getting pregnant to. and im like ok then. and then her mom is like i can take you to the movies and drive you there and back. and you can come to my house when ever you want. and shes like i just dont want you alone. and shes like i bet your mom doesnt want you alone with boys. and im like actually she doesnt mind. and shes like oh. well your mom can call me whenever she wants to. im like ok. and shes like hes not supposed to hang out with people hes not mature enough but im giving him a chance to have a girlfriend. and im like ok. but im just really confused because he says hes had other girlfriends so im just thinking did something happen? becuase i was there for a half hour talking to his mom. and im like this is really awkward. and i mean he didnt give me a hug goodbye or naything in front of her. so im guessing he cant have PDA. im like ok then. but what im saying is is he a liar? i mean his mom embarassed him bad. and im just like um ok? i dont think his mom likes me much. but she kept saying how she doesnt want me to get stuck pregnant. so im like is he a virgin? well one of his exes was a slut. but i have no idea. and shes expecting me to be liek the mother of him. doing this and that. and this is the first time i ever met his mom. and im like uhh ok?
so should i break up with him? or? i sort of want to because i dont feel the same way about him as i used to. and thats the honest truth. but then i will feel bad because he might think its because of his mom. that she scared me away. and i dont want his mom like coming to me. and also i liked being single alot better. and i have no idea why but i sorta kinda still have feelings for my ex. but my ex hates me. im so confused.
help! (link)
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okay, well in my opinion, if you and his mom feel awkward, that will make your realtionship awkward. In my experiance, relationships never work out well if the parents don't like you. or vice versa. But, theres more than just the mom problem, you still like your ex. If you really don't feel the same about him then break up with him because the longer you wait, the more it will hurt him. If you decide to break up with him (which i think you should) then just explain that you still have feelings for your ex. that's all you need to say, good luck with this situation, ive gone through this before. i know it's tough, but the sooner you end it the better.
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My ex boyfriend and I dated 3 years on and off and 6 months steady. I broke up with him about 4 months ago. I can't seem to get over him. In this case its harder because our parents are best friends and we see each other all the time. At school, he comes over, I go there. For me its harder than usual. How can I get over him. Please don't say stay away from him because thats not an option. Any and everything will help.
Mac
PS. I had very good reasons for breaking up with him. (link)
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everytime you see him, remind yourself of the reasons you broke up with him, and convince yourself that you deserve better. You're heartbreak will eventually heal, and you'll find a guy that's perfect. As for now, when you are around eachother, act like nothing is wrong and just act friendly. Start talking to other guys and just dating around for now until you find someone that you think you can have a serious relationship with. good luck, hope i helped
-S2MB
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14/f
my bf lives about 4 hours away. i've met him 3 times. and i usally talk to him everyday for about 30-60 mins. but we both got grounded for our grades. we both dont know when we get ungrounded. he was gonna come to my winterfest but now that were grounded he cant. everytime i hear a love song i want to cry. i miss him so much! were really close and i usally tell him everything. but i havent had a phone conversation w/ him in 3 weeks. we've had like 2 secret emails from sneking on the comp. but now i can read my email but i cant respond to any of it (my mom said). i dont know what to do. i just miss him so much. plez help! i've asked my mom to call him but exams are comming she said no. then she said i could call him once and his mom anwserd and said no cause he's grounded.what should i do? i'm love sick! (link)
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well this might take a little bit more time then you want, but do things the old fashion way - write a letter. and make sure u adress everything properly so you don't have to put a return adress on the outside, but make sure you include your adress on the inside, that way he can write you back! good luck!
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i made out with my boyfriend last weekend for the first time and then i heard this girl using the term "french kissing"...is there any difference?
thanks in advance =] (link)
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well it all depends on your deffinition of "making out". French kissing is when you use tounge, some people think makeing out is just kissing for along time with or without tounge. others think u have to use tounge to be making out. Either way
french kissing=tounge
so if thats what you consider making out..... then ya its the same thing! lol hope that wasn't confusing
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when a guy is kinda always asking you who you like and then you ask him back and he says " i like three people" and only names two of them, and won't tell me the third. does that mean he likes you or does he just want to know who you like. (link)
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he totally likes you! if he told you two of them why wouldn't he tell u all three??...unless it was you! haha good luck with that!!
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I been going out with this girl for a month now and one of my best friends told me that in his 6th pd class some people said that who would go out with me and then my other best friend said that my girlfriend said that people are telling her to break up with me but she isnt HELP ME!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Chances are that if people are telling her to break up with you and shes not, she probably really loves you. She obviously doesn't care what other people think or say, all that matters is the way she feels about you. ask her about it, but if you love her, trust that everything will be okay. Don't let stupid gossip ruin the best thing in you're life. Good luck! hope i helped!!
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So I asked this guy out and we had our first date on sunday. It was seeing a movie- and I thought it went really well for a first date. I couldn't reach his lips at the end because he's so much taller so i kissed his neck. He was smiling the whole time I was leaning in though- and he had his arm around my waist.
I admit I'm pretty new to the world of dating (first bf at 13 1/2 and now im 14)... And I love this guy a lot (i actually LOVE him- not just LIKE him.) and I'm going to die if he doesn't call me.
I'm seeing him tonight at my acting class- is there anything I should say to him that would make him more likely to call and ask me out for this weekend?
ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP
thank you. (link)
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Ask him how he liked the date, then go from there...if he says he liked it then just be like "yaa..." ....it might be a little awkward at first but the awkward silence will make him want to ask you out or say something like "well we should hang out again sometime" and if he doesn't say anything or just says "ya you're a great friend, ill talk to you later" chances are he just wants to be friends. but friends is good, a friendship could eventually lead into something more if you give it time. hope i helped!! good luck!
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A few weeks ago I was whining in class about how i was cold, and this kid said "want to wear mine?" I was like "really" and he was like "sure just give it back before the end of the period" ; I couldn't stop smiling; and by the end of the class, I developed a crush on him. I thought it was the sweetest thing ever.
I guess he was just trying to be nice, because he likes one of my friends. But my friends doesn't like him. He flirts with my SOMETIMES, but flirts with my friend most of the time.
again, but friend does not like him at all. I haven't liked him for that long, so I'm not so deeply in love with him that I can't live without him, yet. Should I try and catch myself before I fall inlove and get hurt? What should I do? (link)
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If I were you, I'd just play it cool for a while. Flirt with him, and flirt back when he flirts with you. if you're friend doesn't like him, he'll eventually get the hint and move on. Be there for him when he needs someone, and become good friends and just be really sweet and nice back to him. When you two are really good friends then tell him you like him. good luck!
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13/F
I went to camp in a different state and met a guy I really liked. He really liked me too but we didn't want to start dating because we live far away from each other(opposite ends of our state.)He gave me his number but wegot ina fight so I threw it out. Is there anyway I can find him online so I cant talk to him again. I have his first and last name.Thanks in advance. (link)
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you can try searching for him on myspace....or if you don't have myspace google his name.... i did that for some cousins i hadn't seen in a while...other then that i don't know..you could try 411. dial 411 on your phone and ask the operator for the city and state he lives in and give the operator his last name and see what comes up. hope you find him!!
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COMPLICATED!
ok so i like this guy -we'll call him j- and well my friend --a-- likes him a lot! and i sorta like him too but he doesnt kno and its kinda gettin' sad. i say j is like my "sister" -even though he's a guy- my friend doesnt kno. i want him to go to the valintime dance with me but A LOT of girls like him, like the popular girls and even sum guys...-dont ask- i wanna show tat i like him but not in a obvious way. he is just so-so sweet and he is so nice to me on AIM. here's our normal convo:
me: hey
j: hi
j: so wut up
me: ehh nm & you
j: nuttin'
me: so how's johnny --he named his bed spread bcuz mine is named pinky--
j: he's good but he had to go into the wash
me: you're sooo evil!
me & j: hahahaha;lol;lmao
j: g2g do man-ly things
me: yaaaa ok
me: BURN
j: hey, you do more man-ly things then me
me: ya
j: tat means you're a boy
me: nooooooo
j: oOo....BURN
me goes away
i'm too scared to talk to him bcuz i'm scared he may ask *we're jus friends, rite* and i really dont lie...seriously!
any help is appreciated
♥ Flaggal --once again-- (link)
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id say in a normal friend to friend conversation just say so who do you like?? and then go from there....o0o that is really complicated....but try asking that and then get back to me! good luck
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Hey. I know you just gave me advice but what do I do when im like really shy. and I can't just be like hey babe can i have your number I just cant say tht..lol im like not like that what should I do and im like really afriad to hear his voice im afriad im gonna like frezze up..lol help me plz..lol (link)
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haha my best friend is just like you! umm... you might try writing it down on paper and practicing it and stuff so you don't freeze up and like practice it in a mirror or something haha as for getting his number you don't have to be like hey babe can i have ur number but you can say do you have a cell phone....and then just go from there if he goes ya why? then say i do too i was just wondering...and if hes not smart enough to ask you, just say do u think we could talk on the phone sometime??...just have to get up the courage to ask...just convince yourself that this is something that needs to be done....i mean whats the worst he can do??
-hope i helped-
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Okay well this going to sound werid but I have this internet boyfriend he use to live by me but he moved and like now im datting him and i really want his number but im afraid to ask him and like I don't know how to like ask him like being all nice and not tring to be like I want it so bad ya kno? and what should I say. And I'm also kinda like afriad to hear his voice so what do i do to like make this fear go away. can someone plz help me. (link)
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haha... well if your dating him!! just ask him, just casually be like heyy...we should talk on the phone sometime, whats ur number? and then just go from there! just tell urself that hes worth talking to (if he is)...and get up the courage and do it!! as for hearing his voice, that will probably make you like him more, you'll be of a more intimate level then you were before. haha good luck!
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Ok, there's a guy I like and the story's kinda complicated. Ok *deep breath* he was my VERY best friend in 2nd and 3rd grade and after that we were still friends but we drifted apart but in 4th grade my friend told me that he liked me and I realized that I liked him and then in 6th grade another friend told him that I liked him and after that he wouldn't even say hi to me in the hallway (if we saw each other) anymore. I'm in 8th grade and I gotta do something before we get to highschool and probably never see each other again! The only problem is that we never see each other and are on completely different sides of the school! HELP!!! :( :'( Please write back. I NEED to know what to Do!
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well you could try writing him a note and find out where he sits first period and ask a friend to give it to him and in the note tell him to meet you somewhere...during a passing period or lunch or whatnot and just let him know how you feel!! if you don't say anything then you'll regret it later. or if that doesnt work try calling him or showing up at one of his sports games, band concerts ect....if you really WANT to do this you'll find a way, you just have to be willing to work for it!...good luck
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14/f okay well last year i wasn't what you called attractive....i was fat and had kinda bad achne. Well this year i've lost a lot of wait alomst 22 pounds and my achne has cleared up and my boobs are a lot bigger.....well this year i've heard that a couple people like me and stuff and a couple guys kinda talk about me in 4th pd....well atleast i thinks it's me and there are other 2 guys have asked me out....but i said no because i didn't know if it was a joke or not and not this guy named...well i won'tsay his name was talkin about my butt and my boobs but i don't know if they are just joking or not how do i tell if all the guy that flirt/ask me out are really tellin me the truth becasue hinestly i still don't think i'm pretty/ (link)
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okay well 13/14 was a really awkward stage for me.... i thought i was ugly too....but looking back on those old pics i actually realized that i was alot more attractive than i thought....
the guys that are talking about you and asking you out...chances are that they are serious....but also, guys are really immature at that age and can do some really mean things. But if you can't tell if they're serious or not, ask them.... and then if they are serious ask them why they like you now instead of last year, but don't come off snobby when you ask...if they say "cause you're hott now" then you're answer is up to you. But remember a relationship shouldn't be ALL about looks, granted that there are some really good benifits if there is a physical attraction. And don't go out with someone just to have a boyfriend...Aim high. Get the guy of your dreams! you sound like a sweet girl and any guy would be lucky to have you.... i prolly gave u more advice then u were looking for but sry i can just relate to you really well! :-) so yea.... good luck with everything!
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