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okay. so me and my boyfriend went out for a lil over a year and a half. i am madly in love with him, but he just kept lieing to me, so i broke up w/ him. not even 3 weeks after he already has another girl. he tells me that hes over me, but that he still loves me. last night he told me that he was falling for me again. and i was gonna take him back. but then he decided that he was too worried about wat his current gf's friends would do. i love him so much. and im trying to just let go and move on. but its sooo hard. and its killing me seeing him w/ her. =/.
any advice? i know i deserve better. but maybe i dont want better. i just want him. gah. i hate my life. =/. (link)
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You don't hate your life. You hate a single thing that isn't going right in your life at the moment. Your ex boyfriend doesn't know what he wants. You can't have two different cakes and eat them both. Sorry, it just doesn't work. You need to let him go and sure it'll suck and hurt like hell but in the long run you'll be stronger and better for it. You'll be wiser.
He's not being fair to you or his current squeeze of the moment and he'll hurt her the way he hurt you. It's a cycle that only he can break. Sometimes in life we don't always get what we want and we can't fix everyone or mold them into what we want them to be. So naturally, we hold on even tighter when we should be letting go.
Give it time. Let him go. Tell him to let you go. Your heart will feel heavy at first, believe me it's not easy. But I guess life's got alot of tests for us - and hoops for us to jump through. Heartbreak is one of them. You'll survive. We always do. :)
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Ohkay,
My friend sophie,
she is INLOVE with my brother,
and my brother doesn't like her what so ever,
and shes always on to me how she likes him so much and all of that!!
Its so annoying.
and she wants to know what to do.
ive told her to move on but she just doesn't listen.
Shes fully obsessed, and says hes my life blah blah blah.
What can i tell her.
i mean,
my brother and her are always arguing and stuff.
its like OMG slap me.
Please helP!
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Sticky situation.
Friend vs. Sibling . . .
Well obviously to start out with you need to sit sophie down and give her the tough love chat.
Explain to her that your brother isn't into her and when they argue, he's not flirting. Explain also that you love them both but the constant back and forth is getting a bit ridiculous. She'll move on, it's just a crush.
If this chat doesn't work, sohpie's an extremely dense character to crack and will eventually see the light, until then just ride it out.
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i'm 15 years old and i'm 5'11"ish. i'm also about 230 pounds. i know because i'm taller i'm going to weigh more. my friends, who dont know exactly how much i weigh, say that i'm not fat. but all they can go on is my appearance. they tell me that i'm not at all fat. that i'm average for my height. but all i can see when i look at myself is complete fat. also, my friends tell me that i'm beautiful. i dont think i'm hideous but i wouldnt at all go with beautiful. my question is that if i'm not fat and i'm so beautiful why do no guys ever approach me or chose to try and talk to me, but they do approach my friends? (link)
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to have a guy love you and be happy with you, you have to love and be happy with yourself. men sense insecurity, it's like a sixth sense. so while you may think that you're hiding it well ; trust me, you're not.
for days when you're feeling bloated or whatnot try an empire waist shirt, they're beautiful and flattering while also covering up any problem spots. i myself have a collection of these.
smile from the inside out, it's the best way to get a man's attention.
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i have known this kid for about 2 years and we dated for 8 months. we were really serious. he was the first and only kid i've ever had sex with or done anything sexual with. i was also his first time. i broke up with him because he wanted to be a lot more serious than i did. he would always tell me he wanted to marry me and i wasnt sure about that. he is two years older than me but he dropped out of school a few times so hes stayed back twice. hes coming back to school this year and hes going to be in all or most of my classes. i was the one to break up with him so obviously i feel bad that i broke a really good friend's heart. but my heart was also broken at the end of the relationship. i havent really talked to him since we broke up and our class will only have about 20 kids in it. how am i supposed to deal with seeing this kid, who was my first ever love and first serious heartbreak, daily when i'm not ready to? (link)
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the answer to your question is that there is no answer. relationships are painful. you "fall" in love, you "break" a heart, you "lose" a piece of yourself.
You'll never forget your first love, it's common to carry a piece of them in your memory forever. However it does get easier to see them, I know that saying "give it time" isn't exactly what you want to hear but it's the best advice out there. If you two are meant for a round 2,3,4 --- things will unfold that way.
Just try and focus on school and the workload so you don't end up staying behind yourself. And spend alot of time with your friends, try a sport or a club.
Busying yourself doesn't give you any time to sit around and mope about the past. You two dated, you broke up, it's over. Pick up the pieces of your life and carry on. It sounds harsh but it's truly the best thing you can do.
This was just your first love. You'll have so many more to come that eventually he'll just be a blur in the back of your head.
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okay well, i have a boyfriend and he told me he loves me, we have only have been dateing for like 3 weeks and he loves me?? it werid, but anyway then there is this boy elvis who i like, we went out and then we had to break up, cuz he was going to brooklyn for the summer,i was hurt and he said that we would get back together wen he gets back, now he is back n when i saw him all my feelings went back to him, dont get me wrong i really like ly bf, but i dont like how fast he is going, and just so u no, i have never had this happen to me, never in my life have i had a boy tell me this, im 14 and it like werid, so what do i choose the one i love or the one that loves me?? (link)
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Seriously? You're asking to choose between someone who's already got your heart and someone who just wants your heart? Really?
Obviously, if you cannot see how insanely easy this answer is, you're not ready to be in a relationship. And I'm sorry if that offends you but c'mon, it's not rocket science.
When you have a chance and opportunity to be with someone that YOU love, you take it. If you don't then it's not really love.
You're 14, so for your current boyfriend to tell you he loves you .. I'm not surprised. Every 14 year old boy loves his girlfriend. You've got a developing body and they're overly horny. Boys his age would tell a tree he loves them. So don't get all freaked out about it.
Take my advice, just be with Elvis if he's the one always on your mind when your mind should be elsewhere.
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i've been with my boyfriend for over three years. i love him and he loves me, but we're past the "infatuation phase". sometimes he takes me for granted and doesn't always show how much he loves me, but he's never been the romantic type, so i can understand. plus i'm his first "real" girlfriend, so he isn't as experienced with romance as other guys i dated in the past have been, and what i was used to back then (now i've grown comfortable with the way my current boyfriend is and all that, though).
my question is, is it terrible that i flirt and am most likely going to hangout with one of his friends that has gone away for college? the friend has admitted to having feelings for me, and i can't help but wonder what it'd be like if i dated him. and when some of his other guy friends tell me they wouldn't mind hooking up with me, i wonder about things like that too.
i am totally happy with my relationship, and i love my boyfriend with all my heart. is it bad that i think about the possibility of being with someone else, (even though i know they could never bring me the happiness my boyfriend does)? (link)
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the truth is: no one was ever with a person and didn't ever wonder what it'd be like to be with someone else, even if just for a second. and for anyone who denies they've ever though this, you're a liar.
it's completely natural to fall out of sync when in a committed relationship for so long. yet you have to wonder, three years is a long time and you've no doubt changed yourself which is totally normal, but are you ready to try a different relationship? if you can't imagine being happy like you are now with anyone else then your boyfriend then i suggest first talking to him. now he's a guy so he may not want to hear it or may shrug it off but subtly suggest something different to do. a change of pace to put a little spice back into the relationship.
you've both grown used to each other and no longer have the desire to impress on every occasion.
i'm sure all will be fine when discussed with your bo. goodluck ;)
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