Hello! I'm Sammy, I'm 18 and live in the Scottish Highlands. I haven't been on here in 2 years, but I'm now back!
I've finished school and currently working at a co-op convenience store. I'm dyslexic, bisexual and unsure what to do with my life currently.
I love helping out my friends and thought doing something like this would be a great, to just help out more people!
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20 years old, female. I love my bf so much and we've been together for 2 years now.
so Ive always been attractedt to boys and never been attracted girls, never even noticed them sexually at all. I have recently watched the first season of 'pretty little liars' and the lesbian character caught my eye, i stated to get excited to see her kiss other girls on the show and since watching this 2 weeks ago, lately Ive been feeling an attraction to girls and have not been able to stop checking girls out when i go out to place...
how can this been happening? ive never felt this attraction to girl before in my life and arent you meant to grow up feeling this attraction through your teen years, not just magically start feeling it out of the blue?
Help!! im sooo confused right now and I love my bf so much and we've been through so much together, i dont want to hurt him :( but at the same time im so confused and lost and its outta control. What does this all mean? :(
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A lot of people have been in your place.
You're only just out your teens and people don't tend to be able to make every life decision by 20 - you're not completely grown up yet!
Have a chat to your boyfriend first, you don't know your sexuality until you've actually tried it. Most people experiment and many don't end up actually liking it - it may just be lust.
See what he says.
Yous have been together a long time and should be fully comfortable with eachother - he should understand.
You could possibly have a threesome with another girl to try it out.
Be sure he's comfortable with that first though.
Hope this helps.
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I have a boyfriend, but I'm starting to have doubts on him.he might not be the right guy for me. A: he's not popular. B: sadly he smells. C: he's started to call me his girlfriend i don't really care about that part... so anyway, should i break up with him? (link)
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Break up with him. You don't seem to like him and seem embarressed too. You'll be doing both yourselves a favor by doing it soon.
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Okay so. There's this guy, he's a year older than me. I'm only 13 so my feelings are just a crappy pile of stuff. I haven't seen him yet but he texts me, a lot. He calls me darling and those stuff and loves saying the words "Will you go out with me?" over and over again. I'm confused of what he wants from me because he always compliments me as "beautiful" and begs me not to leave him. I tried asking him what point he's explaining but all he said was to go "bonding" and stuff. He's a guy, i'm a girl. He's got an ex and i'm afraid i'll be one of them soon. WHAT DO I DOO?
P.s. I rate according to what you deserve. (link)
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I'm assuming by not seeing him you mean you've never met him.
I agree it's a confusing situation, I was in a similar one when I was your age.
It seems he's toying with you and your emotions - he may just like the power he gets from it, or maybe he really likes you but is afraid to show himself in person from low self-esteem. It's hard to tell.
I advise to ask again what it is he wants from you. Or to meet up at school once you find out who he is and more about him.
I hope this helps to some affect.
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If your a girl Do you still get emotionally attatched to the second person you have had sex with or is it tbat you just get attatched to the first guy you loose your virginity to (link)
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You can get emotionally attached to anyone, even if you've not had intercourse with them.
Admittedly I'm only emotionally attached to the guy I lost my virginity to. The second and third guys I had sex with was a complete dicks to me though..
But yeah, I reckon you can be emotionally attached to the second, as it depends on your feelings for them.
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alright so im 14 and i dont know how to kiss my boyfriend. when we were slow dancing he leaned in to kiss me and i thought i knew but i so messed up. i ruined it. we tried again and i messed up i get so nervous and i havent had my first kiss so i kinda dont know how. (link)
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You aren't the only one! We've all been there.
When you next meet up, let him know you aren't too sure how to go about it.
Do it fairly girly, he'll probably find it cute!
Don't seem too embarrassed by it, laugh about it and it wont seem too bad!
You should feel comfortable with him, you'll surely end up having a lot of make out sessions soon. ;D
Good luck darlin' (:
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i have this guy friend and i am slowly starting to fall for him but i know for that he doesn't feel the same way about. but he always likes to talk to me and he's always staring at me. so maybe he might have some interest? idk but i want to tell him just to be honest with him because i don't want him thinking that i am only having friend feelings for him when i really want something more. what should i do? (link)
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I was like that with my now boyfriend. We were good friends for five years until we started going out two months ago. Always been friend feelings, even through all our friends 'knew' we had 'feelings' for each other.
We ended up getting into more of a relationship when we were dared to pull each other at a party.
It's worth a go? :L
I know it sounds a bit childish, I was so nervous though, as I knew I liked him, but I thought he'd be like 'WTF, no.' haha.
But, yeah, if I'm honest, I think the best way is to get close at a party. Maybe not the dare bit, but it's the easiest and sly-est way to get around it.
Or, it's coming up to Valentines Day? ;D
- I think most answers I gave last night were confusing haha!
But yes basically what I was trying to say is to go for it. I know it'd be hard as it's a good friendship at stake, but don't try - don't get, and that would be a shame as you really like him.
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Hi
13/F
I am in love with a boy that is 17. I know he is 4 years older than me but to me age don't really mater to me. So I like him but I don't really know if he likes me. We are not close but we are sort of friends he is really hot and I don't know wat to do. He have 2 brothers and I don't want them to know but I think my nephew told them can you help me pleas
PS don't say flirt plz. O and he lives on a farm
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This probably wont be what you want to hear at all.
4 years may not seem like a lot, as I know people that are over 20 years tend to go out with people over 4 years older/younger.
But at this age, it's a massive maturity difference.
As he will most likely be sexually active - even if you are as well, it's completely different, as it would be classed as pedophilia.
I'd advise you not to flirt at all and try move of. You can lust all you wish, but I don't advise doing anything about it, to be honest.
Also, living on a farm makes no difference.
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So there is this guy in my school that I like a lot and when we are at school he always teases me. We chat on BBM and when we do we always end up fighting about the stupidest stuff.. I usually start it because I just get so angry at him for not seeing that I like him and I'm scared of telling him because he is popular and I don't know if he likes me back. How can I tell him without him judging me and not talking to me anymore?
I'm a 16 year old female (link)
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he must like you as a friend, at the least, otherwise he wouldn't spend time on you.
Have you tried asking him if he likes you too? If not go for it, do it 'jokingly' on bbm when you're teasing? Keep it light hearted.
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OKay well I am in 7th grade (Middle School) and ALL of my friends have boyfriends and i don't and I feel really left out. I am taller than most of my friends and some of the guys but My friend who is a little bit taller than me, still manages to get all the guys she wants. (link)
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I was always the tall without the bf too, but babe you don't need one. It probably seems that it's all that matters atm, but it's not. Just be confident with yourself, it's the key to everything, it'll happen when it does.
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I'm in a serious relationship with a girl and have been in a relationship with her for almost a year and a half. Everything is going great, and it's really looking like I could spend my life with this woman. We're both 18, and we spend most of our time together and we almost NEVER fight.
But a few days ago I found out something about myself... Ever since I was old enough to even think about this, I've known that I was heterosexual. But it turns out, I just never bothered to think otherwise. I didn't cheat on my girlfriend, but I saw something that turned me on. So it turns out I'm bisexual(my girlfriend is too), but I don't know how to tell her, especially since there had to be something to trigger my realization.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should tell her?
Thanks,
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She most likely wont be annoyed or bothered by it, being bi herself she obviously wont be against it.
Don't be surprised if she's shocked. I, myself am bisexual and I'd be shocked and possibly confused if my bf told me he was bi. She'll obviously question you, but just be honest.
Think whether you want to stay with her or experiment also.
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me and my boyfriend are both teenagers and live together most of the time. my boyfriend says that hes completely in love with me, he even has a tattoo of my name; but he has strayed from me a few times in the past and ive seen him jerking off a lot when he could be doing "stuff" with me i know he thinks im beautiful and stuff and we do have sex a few times a month but when were at parties i can tell hes cheeking other girls out. i know he has sexual needs im not fulfilling and hes just harmlessly enjoying himself, but i feel like i need to give him more, so im thinking about getting breast implants im only an A and all the girls he cheeks out and jerks to are this beautiful Cs and Ds. do think this is a good idea; if not what else would you consider i do? (link)
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No, don't. It's next to harmless to check people out, you most likely subconciously do it. You should be happy with your boobs how they are, and shouldn't change them for someone else. If he says he loves you, he should love your A's too.
Also, if you aren't 'fulfilling' him, why complain about him jerking? Go fulfill him, tell him you love him sista!
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