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ok, i guess i've decided to let you know a few things about me. lucky you.




Music: Music is life. I live by music. Punk is the best, but pop punk is alright sometimes...when it's more punk than pop (no avril, gc, etc.). A little art rock and classic is okay sometimes. Alternative and ska occasionally show up as well. just lately i've been watching less tv and listening to more music, and i'm so much happier than i was a few months ago. all i need is music. everything else can go die.




Favorite bands: 101ers, 3 Against 1, 4-Skins, 5 Days Dirty, 60 Second Crush, 7 Seconds, 88 Fingers Louie, 999, Action Toolbelt, The Accused, AC/DC, The Adicts, Adolescents, old AFI, Against All Authority, Against Me!, Agent 51, Agent Orange, A Global Threat, Agnostic Front, The A.K.A's, Alice Cooper, Alkaline Trio, All, Amen, American Head Charge, American Steel, America's Hardcore, Angelic Upstarts, Angry Samoans, Anthrax, Anti-Flag, Anti-Nowhere League, The Anti Socials, Apartment 26, A Perfect Circle, A Perfect Murder, Apocalypse Theatre, The Aquabats, Arch Enemy, Arlo Guthrie (not because i think he is especially talented, but Alice's Restaurant was a brilliant album), ASG, Assorted Jellybeans, Atom and his Package, Audioslave, Authority Zero, Avenged Sevenfold, Bad Brains, Bad Religion, Basic Radio, Bauhaus, The Beatles, Between the Buried and Me, Best of Seven, Billy Idol, Billy Talent, Biohazard, Black Flag, Black Ice, Black Label Society, Black Sabbath, Blanks 77, The Blessed, The Blood, Bloodsimple, Blood Soaked Hands, Big Rig, Bob Dylan, Booker T and the MGs, Bouncing Souls (old. they suck now...i mean, have you heard "anchors aweigh'? it's digusting.), The Burial, The Business, Buzzcocks, The Cars {kinda}, The Casualties, Celtic Frost (pre-glam metal days, of course!), Chase Long Beach, Cheap Sex, Children of Bodom, Christian Club, Circle Jerks, CKY, The Clash, Clutch, Code 451, Common Rider, Complete Disorder, Continental Light Brigade, Corrosion of Conformity, Country Joe and the Fish, The Crack, Cradle of Filth, Crass, Cream, Crimpshrine, Crimson Spectre, The Damned, Danger Zone, Danzig, Dark Tranquility, David Bowie, Dead Kennedys, Dead Milkmen, Dead on a Friday, Death From Above 1979, Deemed Useless, Demented Are Go, Demons and Wizards, The Demoted, Descendents, Destruction Made Simple, Deviates, The Die Hards, Dimmu Borgir, The Distillers, DOA, Don McLean, The Doors, Dope, Downfall, Downpore, DragonLord, DRI, Dropkick Murphys, Dry Kill Logic, Easton Legacy, The Eddie Haskells, Eels, Elefant, Elvis Costello, Enemy You, Error, Every Time I Die [some], The Exies, Exodus, The Exploited, Faith Collapsing, Far-Less, Fear, Fear Factory, Fifteen, Fire Parade, Fischerspooner, Flogging Molly, Foo Fighters, Free, Garry Johnson [well he doesn't exactly do music, but he's on a couple comps (like 100% pure british oi! and strength thru oi) with the oppressed and stuff, so he gets counted], GBH, Germs, GG Allin, GOFER, The Gonads, Good Riddance, Gorillaz, Government Issue, Grave Disorder, Grave for the Fireflies, {old} Green Day, Guttermouth, The Guttersnipes, H2O, Half Man Half Biscuit, The Hangovers, Hate Eternal, He is Legend, Helloween, The Hidden, High on Fire, Horny Mormons, Horrible Idea, The Horrorpops, Hybrid Mutants, Husker Du, Iced Earth, Iggy Pop, Ima Robot, Infa Riot, Inside Joke, Interpol, In the Eyes of God, Intro5pect, Iron Cross, Iron Maiden, Isocracy, Ivy League, Jefferson Airplane, Jello Biafra, Jerk and Destroy, Jimi Hendrix, Joe Cocker, John Lennon, Judas Priest, The Kickass, Kid Dynamite, Kill Cheerleader, Killradio, Killswitch Engage, Kill Your Idols, Kineto, Laguardia, Lamb of God, Lars Fredericksen and the Bastards, Led Zeppelin, Leftover Crack, Less Than Jake, Light this City, Like Braille to the Blind, The Living End, Los Kung Fu Monkeys, Lower Class Brats, Machine Head, Madd Hatters, Mando Diao, Maninblack, Marilyn Manson, Meatmen, Meat Puppets, Me First and the Gimme Gimmes, Mental as Anything, Mervyn Albin, Meshuggah, Metal Church, [old] Metallica, Mighty Mighty Bosstones, Mindless Self-Indulgence, Ministry, Minor Threat, Misfits (with DANZIG! fuck anyone else.), Mobtown Hooligans, Mortal Treason, Motion City Soundtrack, Motorhead, Mr. Bungle, Much the Same, Mudvayne, Mushroomhead, My Own Religion, Napalm Death, Nasty On, Nattefrost, The Neccessary, The Needles, Nekromantix, The Nerve Agents, Nevermore, New York Dolls, Nine Inch Nails, No-Cash, None More Black, No Use for a Name, Nuke and the Living Dead, The Offspring, Oi Polloi, Old Man's Child, OPERATION IVY, Opeth, O Pioneers!!!, The Oppressed, Original Sinners, Ozzy Osbourne, PANTERA, Paul Weller, The Pennyroyals, Pink Floyd, Pocket Lent, The Postal Service, Propagandhi, The Q, Queen, The Queers, The Radioactive Chicken Heads, Rage Against the Machine, Ramones, Rancid, Reason to Ignite, The Replacements, Richard Hell, Riddlin Kids, Rikets, Rise Against, River City High, River City Rebels, Robert Plant and the Strange Sensation, Rob Zombie, Rocket From the Crypt, Rolling Stones*, Romantics, Rudimentary Peni, The Ruts, Samhain, Screeching Weasel, Scum of the Earth, Secret Machines, Serial P.O.P, The Sex Pistols, Sham 69, The Shins, Shock Nagasaki, Sick of it All, Siouxsie and the Banshees, The Slackers, Slayer, Slide of Hand, Smashing Pumpkins, The Smiths {a few songs. not many}, Social Distortion, Son of Sam, The Soviettes, The Specials, The Spooks, Steppenwolf, Strawberry Alarm Clock, Stiff Little Fingers, The Stills, Stratovarius, Subhumans, Suburban Legend, The Sugar Daddies, Suicidal Tendencies, Suicide Machines, Sullivan, Superjoint Ritual, Super Sport SPR, Sweet Baby, System of a Down, Teenage Bottlerocket, Teen Idles, Ten Foot Pole, The Actual, The Agony Scene, The Dream Within, Thee Obscene, The Falcon, The Frisk, The Mr. T Experience, The Shocker, The Who, Third Theory*, Throwdown, Tiger Army, Toothpick, Total Chaos, Trans-Siberian Orchestra, Trapdoor Fucking Exit, TSAR, TSOL, The Tubes, The Twilight Transmission, Twist of Fate, Two Man Advantage, UK Subs, Under a Nightmare, The Unseen (wow, they suck now!), US Bombs, US Roughnecks, The Valentines, The Vandals, Varukers, Velvet Acid Christ, The Vibrators, The Virus, The Voidoids, The Weakerthans, White Zombie, X, X-Ray Spex (true, I hate their singer, but they're cool anyway), Year of the Rabbit, and more but i'm getting lazy here...




I'm poetic, dreamy, sappy, and pathetic. I like to write, and I like the concept of love...but so far, I've yet to feel it.
Alright, so I have, but...yeah, let's not go into that.
E-mail: rockchik41@yahoo.com
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I have a problem wit mi boyfriend.we have been goin out for like a month or 2 now. we dont talk or kall each other n wen we hang out we always talk o one of or other friends that r there.we go to the same skool n always see each other in the hall n everything.n i think dat he doesnt like at all.wut should i do. plz help me.......
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this is exactly like my ex...you have no idea. the best thing to do is just break up with him, even if it'll make you sad...it'll eventually make everything better, because i think going out with someone like this is making you sad already. i know it made me sad when i had it happening to me...only i wasn't smart enough to dump him at the time. so..be smarter than me please.


dont think i'm weird but all my life i've looked at girls and never thought it was weird but now i might think that i acually like girls as well as guys but i'm not sure what to do?(i'm a girl)
i dont wanna be sean as weird for liking the same sex but i think i acually do its weird....so should i react on these feelings or just supress them and not do anything for fear of rejection? (link)
i don't think that's weird at all. that's just the way you are...you can't change the way you are.
\m/rock on


What do you get guys for gifts???? (link)
cds. if he plays guitar, get him some new strings, a cord, or something like that. just go with his interests and hobbies.


OK here it goes!...Me n my boyfriend have just started havin sex...n well once he has had it once he has to have it all the time...well sometime i really dont want to...but he will force me into it or beg me to have it until i give in...n i love my boyfriend so much we have been dating now for 4 months...i keep saying no over and over but he keep it going when i finally give in he says baby im sorry for doin that to you...but he still does it anyways he promised me that would be the last time but that wasnt the first time he did it either! What should i do and say to him w/ having to break up with him? Please help me! (link)
that's ALMOST rape. you know that? you can't keep giving in like that. you have to just say "no. i don't want to, that's final." if he can't deal with that, i don't think you need to be going out with him, whether you want to accept that or not.


well i broke up with my ex boyfriend twice. reason being we didn't really go anywhere with eachother or have the chance to. well after the second time we broke up, we were talking online and he was saying some pretty rude, mean things to me. i told my friends about it and none of them really like him for what he said. then a few days later, he asked if we could get back together saying how he would be a better boyfriend and stuff like that..

i have been thinking and i really do like him still, but do u think i should give him a THIRD chance?? and if so should i care what my friends say..

thanks.. (link)
i think if you've already broken up twice, you shouldn't try again. that's just my opinion. i can't make you...if you want to, go ahead, but i advise against it.


ok my best friend and i are friends with benefits and for a while it's been working out but now i'm hugely late on my period and i don't know if it's stress or not. if i am pregnant i can't get am abortion because my best friend will never talk to me again, but i'm not sure that i'm ready to be a mother. what should i do?? (link)
don't freak out just yet. you could take a pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant. no matter what the outcome, maybe you should re-think the whole "friends with benefits" thing...or at least use a condom.


ok well 3 weeks ago this realllly hot guy *tai* came came over and hes a senior & im a sophomore. well hes the guy that every girl wants bc hes funny and freakin soo hot its unbelieveable. but so he came over & we had un protected sex and idk i was 2 weeks late for my period then i had it. but i heard that u can be pregnant & still have ur period. the only reason im sooo worried is bc i had been pregnant before (but had a misscarriage) and i had the same feeling that i was like before. im so scared cuz i mean im only 15 and i cant be pregnant again. wut do u think i do???

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you could take a pregnancy test just to be sure...but it's probably nothing. also, you consider slowing down on the sex since you've been pregnant before...or at least use protection.


This question is gonna be long so moderators, please don't delete this question. I need to explain myself a little bit before I can explain my question. I'm a 14 year old girl, I'm 5'6, and I weigh 113 pounds. For all my life, I thought I was ugly or below average looking. I have never had a boyfriend but now I think guys are gonna start liking me and then I might get a boyfriend. Well lately, I've been getting great comments like I'm hot or really pretty. Today, I went to the beach with my mom and my sister because we had "to bond more" lol yeah right. When I was walking to the car to go home, a few African Americans and white guys hit on me lol. They said "Damn girl you're fine and you gots a nice ass and legs". After what happened today, I'm feeling more confident about what I look like. I'm going into the 8th grade soon and I think I might get a few boyfriends during the school year. I am done growing in height wise and I think my beauty phase is coming in lol because now people think I'm hot and stuff. Ok for my question, do you think I might get my first boyfriend this year because of what has and is happening to me? If this question isn't too difficult for you, I would really appreciate it if you can answer it. Thanks (link)
it sounds like you might...that happened to me. but you gotta talk to the guys too...all you can really do is see what happens.


OK heres the thing me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year, and hes a grade younger than me, so next year ill be in a different school an im wondering if othr people are goin to make fun of me and stuff, i rlly like him but im afraid that it might ruin my reputaion, also im afraid wht will appen if he was to brake up wit me? will my reputaion be ruined forevr? PLEASE HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!! (link)
if you love him, it shouldn't matter what grade he's in.


Ok well i was thinkin bout u kno havin sex widd my bf of ova 9 months but im only 13 almost 14 so i think have decided to wait for that big step u kno!! but ne wayz i wanna be able to do otha stuff wid him like give him a bj and like have him do stuff to me so should i??? and like wat kinda stuff???? thanx


* a curious george * (link)
don't do it! you know you'll regret it later. maybe not right after, but you will. i hate to break it to you, but you're not gonna be with this kid forever. your company alone should be enough. if it's not, then he doesn't deserve your company at all.


well im 13 and my boyfriends 16 going on 17 and his aunt that lives upstairs from came down and tolled me that he had a girlfriend and his juss playing with me.. and then earlier i let him go up my shirt because i trusted him ALOT and everything so when i found out i was a surprise because he tolled he dint have a girlfriend but his not the kind of person that would seem to bee doing sumtting like that because his really nice and den just about everywun sayed he had another girl friend and everything and i really wanna hear it from him and crap because i really really like him and shyt so i dunno what to really do.. to belive everywun else or wait till he comes next week to see me and ask him and i juss dont no anymore if im going to dumo him or not because everywun wants him and shyt and i have him AND I guess some other bitch does too..



what should i doo

p.s he comes every week to see me bacuse his in job tec. and its very very far so he stays thier overnite.. till friday and his like in highschool he sould be a senior but he satyed back 2 times (link)
dump him. he's too old for you anyway. and use punctuation...please.


hey...well i went 2 Manteca Water SLides today with my older sis...my brother-in-law has a nephew..hes 2 years older than me..i like him..well i think hes cute!!..nd he braught a friend with him 2 the waterslides today...his name is David..hes 2 years older than me too..(15)..well aktualie i juss turned 14!!..but anyways we had a great time today! we just kept on laffin..flirting! and i really like him!..nd i hope he lieks me too!..but were going 2 the movies 2marroe..and i just hope he goes!!...my sis...nephew and brother-i-l...got tha point i like him..but i mean...i really want him 2 go 2marroe..i want his number! i wanna make out with him!!..lol..sumone give me advice!! (link)
i guess just tell someone to invite him... that's all i can think of....and try spelling everything normal...like aktualie, juss, 2marroe...etc.




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