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Hi, everyone! My name's Rae. I love painting, reading, sleeping, museums, and I work at Aerie. I'll be attending college very soon, and I'm engaged to the most amazing person I have ever met in my entire life. Life is going so well and hopefully my advice will make your life just as good, :).

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I guess i'm lucky. I feel I have the perfect boyfriend, he's loving, caring, supportive and he accepts me the way I am.... only one problem. He wants to get married, in a church too & he wants to have children... Normally most girls dream of this. But I never have, it's just strongly against my own personal beliefs, but I won't get into that.

We talked about this and came to the conclusion that we shouldn't worry about it because there MIGHT be a SLIGHT possiblity that i MIGHT change my mind in the future... only i highly doubt it.

I'm scared he'll leave me, if I never do give in. I really love him, and I think love is more important than any of that stuff, but he doesn't agree. He feels he NEEDS it to be a part of his life.

So what do you think? Am I worrying too much? Or am I just wasting his time if we have no "future" together? Any other advice?

Just because you don't want to get married doesn't mean your relationship will become plateaued. If he truly loves you, he should try to be accepting of your decision. You two should definitely talk more about why you don't want to get married and try to come to a better understanding with eachother. He's probably thinking that it's the American dream: the wife, the kids, the white picket fence, etc. Honestly, I'm pretty sure you have a 50% chance of changing your mind down the road. When I met my fiance, I didn't want to get married or have kids either. Now, my motherly instincts are starting to come up to the surface. I think it's sort of a waiting game and you both should just enjoy eachother for now and see where life takes you, you just never know what might happen.

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hello,
i am 14 years old.

okay, well my boyfriend broke up with me because he liked my best friend, but she does not like him. she likes my ex boyfriends best friend. but now my ex is being really mean to me and my best friend. he is saying things that are not that nice. what should i do?

-Strawberry

that's easy, ignore him! guys like that just want attention from you girls because both of you don't even want him. he feels rejected and is angry about it, so he decides to say bad things about you to make the situation for himself better. by giving him attention, you're only giving him what he wants. ignoring him will show him that you and your friend could care less about him and that you guys are having a great time without him! hope i helped!

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Is it a turn-off to guys if a girl has low self-confidence or in other words is shy?

Not necessarily! Some guys love confidence in a girl while other guys see confidence as being conceited, and usually like the shy girls. So, basically, it all just depends on what a guy likes! Hope I helped!

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Alright, a bit more of an adult focused one, but I need some outside opinions.

So, my girlfriend is chronically ill. Not really sick, theres just always something wrong with her. She has migraines (she says, they dont seem to affect anything but her sex drive) she has body aches, she gets tired, she ________. Insert anything under the sun for the blank that doesnt require a doctor.

She used to have a sex drive that outstripped mine. Now, I'm lucky if we have sex once a week.

I don't know what to do about it. I used to be able to climb into bed with her, and seduce her. Now, she either ignores or rebuffs all the advances I make, and I only actually get to have sex when she is horny enough that she makes an advance. Basically, if she isnt in the mood, there is nothing I can do to get her that way. The only thing she wants constantly is non sexual physical affection, to the point that I feel used by her. I feel like a convenient toy that takes care of her needs whenever she has them, and the rest of the time she rolls over and pretty much ignores me.

Perhaps its selfish of me, but this is a big problem, on top of a bunch of other problems. Big enough that if it continues I am going to leave her over it.

I just need some outside perspectives. I can't handle being in a relationship with a girl who seems to have lost complete interest in sex. Its been going on for months, since last summer basically. She gets short bursts of horny for about 2 hours every few weeks, and the rest of the time I feel like we are married with kids and careers, when we are students with a decent amount of time on our hands.

To be honest, it is a little selfish but I understand completely, I mean, you have needs too! The best thing you can do would be to sit her down and talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel and how it's affecting the relationship, but make sure to tell her that you care about her too or else you'll sound self absorbed. She'll understand and things will definitely get better!

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There's this guy I've been liking 4 2 years now. he likes me 2 but he also likes another girl. So I was sitting down in the back of the church and he was in front of me and was hugging and kissing a girl
(just like he does me) and he was doing all that and I started crying. When I got home he called me saying that the girl he was hugging and kissing says she loves him but really doesn't and stuff like that. Well I told him that's wat he's doing 2 me. Well he doesn't want 2 belive me he thinks that he's the only 1 with feelings. It hurts I want 2 get over him so bad but I love him 2 much I just want 2 die soooo badly someone please help me before I end up hurting myself

Everyone goes through things like that, it just happens because it's life! I've gone through experiences where I've liked guys but they didn't feel the same, it was terrible! But, then I realized that there are so many other guys out there that could really appreciate me for who I am instead of playing games with me. If this guy can't realize your feelings and accept them, he's no good! You have a lot of love to give and he's not worth it. Love is supposed to hurt sometimes, but that's because you haven't met the right person yet. He'll come along as soon as you stop looking! Remember, you're better than whoever that boy is, you're going to find someone a lot better, who'll treat you like a princess, and love only you! Just be patient and you'll realize that there are so many other, BETTER boys out there.

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im 15/f and i like this 17/m.
we both go to the same school. he is a senior and i am a sophmore. yeah i know it seems pointless, and your probably saying to yourself that im dumb because he will graduate with in a few months. I really really like him though and he really really likes me. He has asked me to be his "girlfriend" ..so ill put it, and i said no because i feel i will just be heartbroken in the end because he is graduating. The thing is though I really want to go out with him and be his girlfriend but I have horrible realtionship issues, and I feel i will become attached and it will all just go down hill from there. I really need some advice please help me if you can. Thank you so much.

Hey, if you truly like/love someone and you have strong feelings for them, you can find ways to work it out. Certain things are just meant to be! I know what you're feeling. My boyfriend's in the Navy's basic training right now, I won't see him for about 2 months and then he graduates, goes to California for his 1 year of advanced training. So, I won't get to see him at all. But we love eachother and plan on being married. If you feel like this guy is worth all the trouble, go for it. Just think about how strong your feelings are for him and the answer should be easy. :)

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So my boyfriend and I like to hang out at school in the morning during the zero hour. And seriously, we just talk. Occasionally I'll hug him, but there's honestly minimal kissing. It's just kinda how it is.

Anyway, most of the time around friends we just hug each other, and before class it's like, 'goodbye, *kiss*' and then we're done. It's not like it's anything all that bad that you don't see around schools anyway.

So the issue is, one of my friend's been giving me a hard time about it. Like, this girl was talking about how she hates when couples get all into it in public, and my friend was all, 'kinda like you guys!' And I told her that it wasn't how it is, and she said 'oh please, you guys are always all over each other.'

We're really not. Honestly, I'm not into the whole PDA thing, hugs are mostly all I'm comfortable with at school.

So...how can I talk to my friend about this? Obviously she thinks it's something bad, because she told me, 'people always say, oh, I saw her with her boyfriend'. Well, yeah, we talk. That's mostly it.

And should I talk to him too? Maybe say something about nothing other than hugging at school?
I dunno, this is bothering me. I always said I'd never get into the whole PDA thing and it looks like I have, even though I'm serious, it's not as bad as she makes it sound.

Help?

i believe that some pda is okay but the whole making out in public thing is so gross! you guys seem to be doing a lot less than what most people do nowadays. i swear, i see couples in my school having sex in the hallways, haha. honestly, you guys are good with the pda and your friend's just freaking out for no apparent reason. maybe she thinks that way because the only times she glances up at you guys are whenever you guys are hugging or pecking eachother. just tell her that you have really nothing to explain. tell her you don't slobber all over your boyfriend and that you guys KNOW you don't show that much pda at all. if she doesn't come through, i don't know what her problem is. if it bothers you that much, just ask around and see if everyone thinks that and not just her. but honestly, i'd say don't let anyone stop you from showing affection to someone you care about. if they think you're all over him, oh well, they're just jealous. :)

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Why do girls use the word Love so much?
Im friends with a bunch of girls and they always use it. Im good friends with them but do they like me or sumthin? Its also really akward becuase i dont use it unless its actuall love,

girls say love a lot not necessarily meaning that they want to marry you and be with you forever, haha. it's not that. girl's usually just throw it around to express how they feel about something or someone. actually, everyone does it. "omg, i LOVE this movie" or "haha, i LOVE you so much, girl!" i mean i'm sure they love you, but they're not in love, those are two very different things. i hope i helped!

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ok well me and my boyfriend of 6months are gonna be hanging out at my house this sunday and my mom thinks that if we go up to my room like we used to before that we will do something even tho we havent really done anything she just worries alot so all we can do is really is watch tv but i dont want to do that for 7 hours and well she's always there along w/my 2 brothers and my sister.
im trying to think of something so its not as boring as last time.
its gonna feel like -30 outside and theres tons of snow so i dont think going outside is an option so ya

-i dont have many games sept maybe the boring ones like life, monopoly, and clue
ya not so much fun

PLEASE HELP!!!
im desperate i dont want my baby to be bored :(

although we're not watched by our parents, my boyfriend and i usually see who can make the bigger snowman or sometimes we cook or bake together, haha. it's lame but it's something cute to do in the freezing cold!

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Im 14 years old and a female. theres this boy and he likes me a lot and wants to date me. i kind of have been leading him on and i likED him a lot. so basically i dont like him as any more than a friend any more, how should i tell him? is texting him okay?

texting is bad! the best way to deal with things is in person. texting should only be a last resort if you can't see him or can't call him on the phone or if he's violent (i hope not!). just be honest, but calm. just say that you understand his feelings for you and you appreciate it but you just don't feel the same way. say that you don't want this to ruin your friendship because it's really good right now. that should make him understand, just be honest and gentle.

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16/F

So i have NEVER had a boy ask me out before.
All my friends have gone on dates etc. I am very socical, and not weird or anything. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?
I havent even had a homecoming date.
and im a sophomore!
how can i become more pleasing to guys?

Honestly, you're probably intimidating every guy! They're probably too scared to even approach you. I'm sure a lot of guys want to say something to you but don't have the guts to do it. I think you should just go up to guys instead because then they can realize that you're not this unreachable goddess, haha. Show them that you're not like that, show them you're down to earth. :)

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I live in lansdowne my boyfriend live's like 15min away we barely see eachother its not effecting the relationship i just miss him and I REALLY REALLY like him please help we want to be with eachother badly HELP

i wish i could tell you what to do but honestly, there's nothing you can do. but if it makes you feel better, i wish my fiance lived only 15 mins away! he lives an hour and a half away from me and we only see eachother every friday and saturday, and that's when i take the trolley and bus there! trust me, you have it really good so be thankful you have someone that cares for you so close. c:

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Ok , my bf and I have been going out for a few months. Is it ok if I don't like him as much as he likes me? lately, he's just been more of a friend. I know that if we broke up, i'd start cruching on him again. This happens with almost all of the guys I go out with. It's like, you love him, but once you're going out, it's just different. Please help!

i used to have this same problem until i met my fiance. it sounds cheesy but you should really go with your heart. you have to figure out what you want first before you go for it. do you want a boyfriend? or do you want him as just a friend? are your feelings for him more brotherly or romantic? you're the only person that can decide and i know you'll make a good decision.

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I really really like this guy. I thought he liked me too, but just recently he got a new gf... How do you go after someone who has a gf? do you just wait to see how their relationship goes, move on... what? please help

move on, sweetheart. you deserve a guy who wants YOU!

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