Hey everyone!! Well where should i start? Well my name is Chelsey, i live in Connecticut. Ever since i was a little kid i was sort of the person that everone runs to and tell them their problem, and they knew that i would never tell anyone. Also I have a lot of experiance in helping people i am a Peer Mediator in my school and i have been one for 4 years now. I have heard probably every problem that you can imagine from little things to very very dangerous issues. I can't really say some of the things that i have herd because that would braking my code of confidentiallity but i'll tell you some of the things that i have been through. Well I have delt with a lot of love issues from boyfriends to even your family neglecting you from love. For example my Father was a great dad when i was younger but what happened is my parents got divorced because my Father used to abuse my Mother and my Mother knew that she had to get out of the relationship for me because she didn't want me to grow up to that and think that it was a healthy relationship. So at first he was a perfect dad like he was when he was married to my mom but soon he became a deadbeat father never paying child support and never caring about me. He became a criminal which is in prison right now. Well yeah thats all i'm really going to say about that. I have also had a whole lot of experiance with self injury because i used to inflict injuries on myself (a.k.a i used to be a cutter). Also i have had a lot of friends in the past that used to cut and i have helped them all quit because i have helped them through it but i didn't make them top i gave them the comfidence to make themselfs stop. Because i have always said you can never make anyone do anything you can only suggest things and try to make it happen. Only them can have the power to make themself do something. I also know a lot about abuse because my Mother used to be abused by my Father, her Mother and her Brother. And she has told me all about it. Also one of my close friends has been abused by her Father. I know a lot about friendships too and how to make them better. Well thats all i have to say but i am excited to be giving everyone advice soon!!! Lots of Luck to everyone but making their lives better!!
Lots of love xox,
Chel
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Location: Branford
Age: 16
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ok well ever since I first met him in high school I kinda started to like him and well not so long ago maybe 2 weeks ago I told him I liked him in an email and well he didn't talk to me well maybe small things like hello and something but not like before after that but he just looked at me all the time then when I told him to just forget it cause I knew he'd act different well he stopped talking to me and looking at me he like avoids me I'm still deeply in love with him but all I know is he likes hot girls and I'm not hot and iunno he isn't that hot but looks don't count and he just won't even bother saying hi to me or anything. can u plz help I don't know what to do (link)
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You should really try tot alk to him and ask him why he's tring to gnore you and avoid you and see what happenes!...i wish you the best of luck and if things don't work out try to find a new boy and try to get over this one!
goodluck!
~!Chelly!~
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ok im in 7th grade and i have a 9th grade boyfriend and i never see him!!! he went to a party tonight at the movies and i couldnt go bc my mom wouldnt let me.. but he could and this one gurl that i think likes him went too and i dunno if he'll do something with her..shes in 8th grade.. i dont know what to do!? I rele rele like him but everybody says i should dump him but i dont know.. i dont wanna hurt him because i feel if i was too brake up with him, id like him after a day and i would wanna be back with him but he'd say no, thats how i feel and hes so hot and nice but my friend wyatt who helps with anything says im gonna get hurt or hes gonna play me and that he think he likes other gurls..ugh i dont know what to do.. im so confused!! i Mean i love him to death but it just dont feel right i mean im soo attempted to flirt with other guys at my school ugh he prolly flirts with other gurls too...omg i dont wanna hurt him but i gotta do whats best:( what should i do? plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz help me...*Ashlee* (link)
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I think you should dump him because you never get to see him and you seem ike you can't trust him and a relationship is a lot about trust! You have a greater chance of him cheating on you with that other girl! Also you shouldn't feel bad breaking up with him because he probally will get over you really fast he'll probally go out with that other girl in the same day you break up with him...and i know it might be hard for you to get over him but there will be other guys out there that you can go out with in te future!
~goodluck~
From,
Chelly
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hi there is this one guy in school and we both like eachother. He asked me out and I wanna say yes but I dont know what people will say because I am white and he is black,i'm not racist or anything I am just afraid of what ppl will say.My friend says it shouldnt matter and i dont think it should either but the other side of me is saying don't date him because of what ppl say
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If you realy like him you should go out with him and you shouldn't care what other people think and if they do say stuff there probally just jealous becuase they don't have a b/f. Also i don't think anybody will say anything becuase it's not grose or anything and it's definatly not wrong!
~Goodluck~
From,
~!Chelly!~
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Today I found out that my boyfriend may be moving away. There is still a chance that he will be staying but if he does move, I don't know how I am going to cope. It would be very hard to visit him as I am too drive so I would only get to see him once every month or so, probably not even that. If he does move, how do I cope? Is it worth carrying on the relationship or should I just end things? Thank you. (link)
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Well it depends how far he's moving away becuase if it's not that far like in the same state you can still make plans but you won't be able to see eachother as much I KNOW IT SUX! ...I feel bad for you but i think even though it's hard you should break up with him and be still close friends. And try to get over it and try to look for another boy. ~Goodluck~
From,
~!Chelly!~
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i like this guy named connor and i just got asked out by his best friend so now he's not talking to his best friend,zach.wut should i do?i like connor but his friend likes me and i don't like his friend.i dont want them to not be friends and i dont wanna ruin the relationship that we already have. wut can i do?
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You should relle talk to conner's friend becuase you have to tell him how you feel!!!!!! also you should talk to conner and tell him whats going on becuase he has the right to know!
~Goodluck~
from,
~!Chelly!~
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Hello, I'm 16 years old and I'm female. Let me start off by saying I hate the phrase "Let's just be friends." My best friend is one of those types of people who's actions very easily deceive you. I love him so much, and it hurts so bad. We hold hands, hug all the time, even say "I love you". But he says that to everyone. It's so hard because I'm confusing platonic love with "real" love. I take his gestures seriously though, and I really do love him. I want to tell him how I feel, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. He likes someone else, but he is currently single. Should I even bother trying? Am I too young to even be thinking about love? What should I say to him? Thank you so much! (link)
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You should tell him how you feel noones too young for love an dyou never know he might love you the same way secretly. Also if worst comes to worst and you guys breakup you can still be friends it shouldn't come between your friendship.
From,
~!Chelly!~
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okay theres this guy that likes me.. and i used to like him. I sit with him evryday at lunch. Hes so controlling. I cant stand it anymore. All my friends say i should ask him out or he should ask me but i cant stand him anymore.!! Seriously. He really bugs me!! i turn my cell phone off just so i dont have to talk to him at night. He asks whats wrong with my phone, i tell him i couldnt talk anyways or that my older sister was using my phone and it went dead. That was true Wednesday Night tho. Yesterday in the note he rote me.. he told me.. "Dotn make any plans for Saturday night. We're doing something. What we're doing i dont know.. but"
See i cant put up with that anymore.
What can i do?
Please help me...
Christine (link)
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You should really talk to him because if he finds out that you've been lying to him he's probally going to get a little upset or dissapointed that you can't tell him the truth i know it might be hard but you should do it.
~!GOOD LUCK~!
~!Chelly!~
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i just started liking this guy. lets just call him bob. and about a year ago we were good friends and randomly i started liking him the other day. it was really weird. but i just found out that he has a gf n i know nothing about her or how long theyve bin goin out. im really upset but what should i do? i cant just win him over because i NEVER see him except for in the halls but i dont have time to talk to him then! ill rate u a 5 if u answer! (link)
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Well if you son't know him like at all you should try to at least become friends with him. But if that doesn't work you should try to just get over him as hard as it is and try to find a new love and what i mean by new love is a "SINGLE" guy. ~!GOOD LUCK~!
~!Chelly~!
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ok, well i have a b/f we been goin out for 2 months... well'z it was going really great for the first month... but he has basketball alot.. and so i harldy get to see him alot... and well its sort of a long story but he always says i love you so much to me and stuff like that!! but anyways i need help wellz my friend lets call him bob(and my b/f's bestfriend) keeps telling me that my b/f is talking bout me.. saying stuff like i dont care about her!! and stuff welllz then bob said that my b/f told him about me and my b/f's secret.. then that he told him that he (my b/f) didnt want to go out wit me anymore... but wen i ask my b/f about it he always says no... today i asked him about if he said that he was gunna break up wit me then he said no relly low and his eyes were all watery and stuff!! then he looked really sad/mad.. i dont know!! wat should i do? im confused!!
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Well you should really have a serious talk with your friend, bob, and your b/f all together because it semes that since your friend said something it's started all of this and you need to find that story and then you should have a talk alone with your boyfriend and tell him your serious and that you really need to know because the more time you don't know the more your getting hurt!
from,
~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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Hey guys!I don't really know how to explain this but I'll try!Ok..there's this guy that I like and I want to get to know him more and just have a real conversation instead of a few words once in a while..well it happens like everyday.I'm kinda shy so I don't know what to do to start a conversation!I know that kinda sounds stupid but I'm asking it anyway..thanks! (link)
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i;m like so like you i like guys and i'm scared to talk to them but now i like talking to guys and i always talk just pretent it's your friend and try not to worry be yourself and relax if he really like ou he'll like the real you. and if he's checking out your friend and he asks you out and ask if you friend can go i would watch out somethings going on!!!
from,
`!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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I got a new neighbor a few months ago, tight before school started, he's nice and sweet and loads of fun to be around. I told him i liked him a few weeks after he moved in but he said he had a gf who he loved and would never leave. so i kinda gave up, but lately we have become wicked good friends. we hang out all the time at my house or we just walk around the neighborhood. a few weeks ago he tried to kiss me while we were on my trampoline(he admited to it later) but i had a bf at that point and he was still with his girl so i just turned away and got back up. the next day he tells me that he dumped his girl. the next day i get dumped by my bf cuase he wanted to date some slut in a grade below us. so i tell him that. my neighbor and i were on my trampoline again and we are kindalike wrestling a little...and he started feeling me up then we started making out.he pushed away from me and started saying why...why...why...i was soo confused. it was my first kiss too. aparrently he had gotten back together with his gf the day before,he didn't want to cheat on her so we stopped. like 2 minutes later he is fingering me and we are making out again.when we finally stop my brother was pulling in the driveway so we separated quickly and he went home(my bro saw nothing thank goodness).i told my friend who knows everything about me and guys that he kissed me and only that he kissed me i didn't tell anyone else and she said something about it to him and he flipped at me. he didn't want anyone to know cuase then his sis would find out and she would tell his rents then his rents will tell his gf who will start cutting or something again. he stopped talking to me and then one day last week i was sick from school and the next day he asked me if everthing was okay and we started talking again. we started hanging out again. but now we include my friend a lot cuase she lives down the street and we were down at her house and we were watching a cartoon thing on her comp and she was sitting at her computer desk and i was sitting like right next to her on the piano bench and he was sitting behind me. during this cartoon thing he started tickling my side so i grapped his hand. i let it go after i moved it away and then he tickled me again so i grabbed his hand again and he laced his fingers in mine. he just plays with my head like that all the time. should i tell him to stop or no? i really like him and everything but nothing can really form with his gf still there.What do you think i should do? (link)
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I know that you really like him but it's up to you. But i think that you and just him should have a talk about this and how you feel. Also you have to question is it really worth giving up your boyfriend for him? Will you be happier with him. Also he might ( which i highly dought) that he just wants to be really close friends with you be cause i have a boy thats a friend that i hug and kiss and he tickles me and stuf but we just to that cause were really close friends and we love eachother as friends and my b/f under stand and his g/f understand we just don't make out and u kno that kind of stuff like we only kiss o the cheek and a kis son the lps if like were not going to see eachother for a really long time and sometimes i think about would i be happier with him instead but isay i love him but i love my b/f to i i think i am happy now and things are oing great so why ruin it? that what you have to ask yourself.
from,
~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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Every body at my school has a boyfriend ir girlfriend.. I act myself and every thing.. What I am getting to is What do Guys look for in a girl!! and plz nothing Gross (link)
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well i know how it feels like not to have a boyfriend and all your friends have one it's happening to me right now! and what i've learned is that your supposed to be yourself and your doing that even though you might be desperate don't act like someone your not. But really there are all different types of guys some are nice and are romantic and not perverted. others boys can be the grosest and digusting guys on earth that are just looking for sluts to have sex with them. But i know your frustrated and i know your sick of waiting but thats the only thing you can do is wait for that speacial someone that will love you for yourself.
From,
~!YOUR LITTLE HELPER!~
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