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Q: hey im 14/m and im stumped. i cant thing of sweet things to say to my gf i love her to death and she thinks im the sweetest thing in the world but i like went stupid and cant think of anything else and its really bugging me can someone tell me some things so say i really need it to help me get going again. ill really appreciate it thx everyone.

so im in an amazing relationship, and something that my boyfriend does, is even if i've been with him at his house all day, right when i go to get into bed and no matter how late it is he'll call my cell phone, just to say i love you. thats it. and when we lay in his bed, he'll just stare at me and just tell me he loves looking at me, and say beautiful, never HOTT...girls hate it..i agree with the last person. not that gifts are all that important, but every now and then to be spontaneous get her a rose or some cute little card or something as simple as a letter. girls love it when your real and straight forward all the time. something really cute would be to take her outside and just lay on a blanket and look at the stars. any girl would like that. i hope i gave u some good advice. good luck!!
**kt.

Q: alright heres the deal.. i like my best friend.. and he still likes me even though he has a girlfriend.. he cheated on her 3 time and he always says "i love you and if we were going out i woudln't cheat on you" and stuff and i don't know if i shoudl still like him or if i shoudl move on.. he's also always rubbing it in that he's going out with this chick to make me jealous.. and i don't get jealous..

additionally, when i like someone other than him.. he gets completly jealous and starts flipping on me and telling me that i'm an idiot because the guy is gay.. when first off he doesn't even know him.. i told him plently of times that if he woudln't be with his girlfriend i woudl be with him.. but he continues to go out with her.. and i feel really bad

should i get over him or whatnot? i will rate a 5 for any thought

alright....so here we go girl.
this is what i think, you like this guy, but he obviously is with this other chick...and if he really likes you then he wouldnt be with her. he would be with you, i had this almost identical problem a few weeks back so i can totally relate to you!! i know its probably not what you would want to hear, but i think you should try to move on, and if you find any other guy who you are attracted to and is sweet to you then go for it!! dont let him...who is already in another relationship stop you! it seems to me that this guy is kinda using you for a little fun. i wish you the best of luck with this and i hope you take my advice, cuz the last thing this world needs is another broken heart girl, because of some useless guy!

Q: me and this guy went out for like 2 weeks, right. so anyways we did a lot of bad stuff but of course hes in 11th grade and im in 7th. i cry ever morning because i think of what we did. he dumped me the next day after we did it. and told me that he was using me to get down my pants. please help me on what i should do! you are like the only girl i can trust, and plus you are so pretty. i love you and thanks! please!

well hunny, don't worry it'll all be ok! some people make decsions in their lives that they are going to regret, and this is one of yours. Now when you date a guy i think you should try to look for someone who is more of your age and try to get to know them and be with them for more then 2 weeks, because then you will really know the person well if you want to become more serious and intimate with them. well goodluck sweetie, and keep your head up high! everything will be alright!

Q: um what was w. the yelling at my question...? i didn't mean to offend u or nething but all i did was ask for help about this friend who i've known sence 7th grade and just changed when she met this boyfriend like 2 weeks ago and totally changed because of him. all i wanted was some advice but uh....you kind of freaked out.....so uh......yeah.....maybe you got the wrong message. so what should i do about it?

im sry, well just talk to her about it, sry for going off on you, i thought you were someone else.....um yeah well good luck! just tell her how you feel and what is going on

Q: Hey KT, ok there's this guy we had a little thing going on we were taking things slow and it was all going great, then everything just fell apart and it was like crap!!! and he's perfect and he's everything I've ever wanted and everything that I ever could want, but you see my main problem is that I can tell you and other peeps that but I can't tell him that so he will know how I really feel and hopfully if he knows that then everything will be ok again, what should I do? how can I get the balls to tell him how I feel lol? he really is a great guy and I know that if I tell him he'll def. understand, alot of peeps have been saying just talk to him just talk to him but you see that's my prob I can't talk to him!!! what do i do!!! please help
thanks!!!

well ok, i know that you "can't" talk to him, but w/e the hell you can't! YES YOU CAN! just be like, ok w/e the situation can't get any worse then it already is, cuz i feel like crap now too! so just stand up and be like ok listen dude, i like you alot, and i don't know what happened all of a sudden one you day you just totally dropped me like a rock! believe me! I KNOW HOW IT FEELS! IT HAPPENED TO ME TOO! i just talked to him, and now we're friends, i still love him to death, and everything, but just talk to him, i guarantee that everthing will work out after you talk to him, oh ill call ya later hun! byebyez!

Q: hi kt, i have a prob. i am friends with this girl and have been for a looooong time, but she has recently become friends with this other group of people who are complete assholes. She is totally changing on me over the summer and is acting like a asswhole too! ive talked to her about it and she said that if i didn't like the new "her" then we should stop being friends. now i am not friends with her nemore thank god, but what do you do if one of your friends change for the worst? how do you prevent this?

well hum.....i don't know how to help you on this one, maybe YOU are the one who changed, and you cant go blaming your "friend" for things that YOU probably did! so next time think before you ask a dumbass question again!! your the one who changed, i know who you are now, thanks for the hints!

Q: hey kt i was just wondering how you are friends with britany? i mean no effence to her or nething but she really needs to act her age, how do u put up with that? i once had a friend like her but she pissed me off too much and now we aren't friends, and i hate people like that they really need to get a life. so how do you put up with immature people?

ok well actually i don't know how you have any friends at all, because if you have the balls to ask me this question then you must not act your age either, here take some of my advice and get a freakin life, and stay out of mine and brittanys cuz we, unlike you, are good people who have fun, and don't waste all of our time making other peoples lives crappy! hope i helped asshole!

Q: yeah im friends with this person, but my parents will NOT EVER let me friends with them because they consider them a bad influence on me and are rude. what should i do about this?

well ok, you should talk to your parents and ask them if they can just have a chance to prove to your parents that they are a good person, and talk to your friend about it too, and try to set something up, good luck!!

Q: hi kt, im having some trouble, my friend is a little bit of a...how to say it...slut, and she has the reputation for it too. No effence to her or anything, but she is kind of blonde, and some people have been bothering her and making fun of her. I feel bad for her, but she keeps doing stupid stuff and acting like a slut which makes her get harassed. Im getting annoyed at her myself, but i dont want to leave her. What should i do about this?

well um....i think you should talk to her about it, just tell her how you feel about the way she is acting,(and i think this year you might be surprised) but she might just change because of what you said about it, and to be honest there is probably something that bothers the hell out of her about you too! so maybe you can both open up a little bit!
~kt~

Q: is it ok to be friends with somebody if none of your other friends agree with it? and what if your friends were right about this person being a bitch, but you haven't figured that out yet, is it still ok to be friends with that person?

of course it is, i mean if you are friends with her, than thats fine! i have some friends who don't like each other too, but i don't let that get in the way of the friendship that i have with them, you shouldn't let other people stand in the way of the relationship that you want to have!! because if it is your friend then your frineds should respect that, and keep what they think about the other person to themselves, around you! hope i helped!!!
~kt~

Q: can i fuck you up the butt?

well actually i don't think thats such a good idea...um....but maybe some other time! good luck!

Q: My friends tell me I am really flirtacious and I guess its not bad thing, is it? I feel like i focus on them a lot, but definetly i have always put chicks before di-- ha ha inapropiate ill just say guys. Well the thing is I realised I need to forget Alex because it can't happen. I just wanna have a really good relationship with a guy. For once I want something that can last, and whenever we see each other we wave or give a hug and I can put notes in his locker. I jsut want something like that but since I am flirty I don't wanna seem desperate.. what do i do? (I hope this makes sense)

well i think that what you should do is be real flirty still, its who you are! and then when you like a guy go out with him, experiment a lil bit, and see who you can and cannot be with in a relationship and get what you want out of it,....good luck hun!

Q: Hi! I'm a 14 year old girl. I'm noticing that I'm interested in girls more than guys. I want a girlfriend. Not a boyfriend. But I can't tell anyone about my sexuality because people don't accept gays. I can never have a girl spend the night thought because I don't want something to slip. But I really want an intimate relationship with another girl. Its that ok?

yes it is perfectly ok, i think anyways, there is nothing wrong with be a lesbian, i mean so people don't like it but its your decision so do what you want and how you feel inside isn't controlable towards you! so good luck and have fun with either sex!

Q: i have a gigantic crush (not love) on this guy. but i know nothing will come out of it. i don't want to like him, but my heart is leading my head right now. how do i stop liking him?

well ok, you just can't make yourself decide that your not going to like someone all of a sudden! you have to give it some time, and just try to not think about it anymore, make youself believe that you have no future with this guy, and it might take a while and it will be painfull but you just have to say no to yourself, and thats the only way to get rid of your crush

Q: Well there is this guy in my dance class ( I swear he's not gay) and I like him a lot and all my dance friends say he likes me and I like him too, and I've told my best friend about him and she said make a move but i don't know if it's right for a girl to make a move on a guy( I don't really think I'll be good at it), plus i think he has a girlfriend and another girl likes him in class(she's my friend too) what should i do...

ok well you should flirt alot! and yeah go ahead make a move! if your waiting for the guy to make the move, well he pobably wont because thats just the way guys are....they are always waiting for us...which is stupid i think, but hey thats the way it goes! lol so yeah just flirt with him, when me and my friend liked the same guy we told each other and we decided that if he liked only one of us the other couldn't get mad about it, cuz it was the guys decision not ours...if ya get that at all, well just take my advice and good luck hun!

Q: Okay well see.. i like this guy names Tyler! He really likes me but see.. my BEST friend that i have known since i was like 3 or 4 likes him A LOT and she doesnt know i like him. He asked me out tonight and i dont know what to say.. i REALLY need you adive as soon as possible! Please!

well this is what you need to do, you need to tell him how you feel but say that you need to talk to your friend first, and then if your best friend really cares about you, then i think she will let you date him, because she should understand how you feel about this boy and if not then thats her fault but you should go for it girl!

Q: if you like a girl and she is goin out with someone what should i do

well i see what your dealing with, cuz i went through the same thing, so what you should do is talk to the girl about it, and tell her how strong your feeling, and then you should hang out with her all the time, to make her try to like you too, cuz when you are really nice and around people for a long time then you will grow on them and begin to like them more so....good luck!

Q: ok i used to go out with this guy but we didnt really do anything so we broke up and plus i dont think he liked me anymore and i didnt think i liked him but now that were back @ school everytime i see him i get really really nervous but i still like him as a friend what can i do not to act so nervous around him?

alright well, you could do one of two things, either just stay away from him for a while, or you could just try really hard to be yourself around him and just act goofy and nice and don't freak out everytime you see him!!! well good luck! youll be fine!

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so im katie, my friends call me kate or kt uhm i dance alot, im loud and outgoing always on the go. im 5'3" and i have black hair underneath and red hair on top....its fun to be different and i hate being with the "in" crowd...they make me mad. im always drivin around in my ford aspire. which is real fun!! ask me whatever u'd like...i'd love to help u all!