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re-lo.I am a blunt, cynical, nerdy nymphomaniac, incapable of shutting my mouth (partially due to chromosomal content). On several past occasions, I've managed to convince someone that my IQ was larger than my breast size, but my general intelligence and comprehension capabilities waver somewhere between a waffle cone and a gerbil.
I know nothing about everything, in stark contrast to poncy intellectuals everywhere, but I can maintain a pleasant facade of knowledge in these categories: alternative lifestyles, (alternative) sexuality and culture, embarrassing nuances of human behavior, grammar, dorkiness, makeup (I wear a shit ton), ancient cultures, art, mental illnesses, body modification.
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I met this guy at a series of math conferences. He's really cute, fun to talk to, and really smart. During the conference breaks, we basically spent the whole time talking and hanging out. I know this sounds ridiculous, but...I have a crush on him now. The only problem is---I'll probably never see him again. He goes to school in a different county. How should I get over him?
I know this makes me sound like a moronic, blathering idiot, but at least I can find some advice here without anyone actually knowing who I am.
If you think a different county's far away, try falling in love with someone from a different COUNTRY. ;)
p.s. It sucks.
p.p.s. I drive through 3 counties to get to work every day. I swear it isn't that far.
okay so i am in 6th grade and tomorrow me and my boyfriend are planning on hooking up. It will be my first time, but the only problem is that i don't know how! i know what it is and all, i just don't know how to do it so that it's feels nice for him also. If you could please give me some pointers on how to do it, that would be greatly appreciated! i rate 5's! Thanks!
Dude, I still think 12 is way young to have sex, if that's what you're talking about, but I'm sure you'll go ahead with it regardless of what I say, so I'm going to save you a lecture.
First times of anything (sex, oral sex, making out, etc., etc.) are all awkward. They're not going to be perfect; please don't expect them to be. It'll probably be more embarrassing than anything. And don't worry about making him happy or you'll just ruin your experience. Guys bodies are built to be able to make themselves happy.
My conscience won't let me tell you the physical ways to do what you're planning to do, but for god's sake, use protection. A baby would SUCK at your age.
All I'm going to say is that anything with sex isn't as hard as it looks. Bodies are pretty self-explanatory.
My boyfriend of two years is really having some issues. We're both 15. And he has an obsession with a band about killing and it is plain nasty. I accept the fact that he loves his music, don't get me wrong, but it's seriously hurting our relationship. He has a MySpace, and I can't stand to see what is written on it. Tonight I looked at it and he was talking about how hott some chick was that his friend was dating and talking about how awesome weed is, and yet he seems to agree with me that weed is a really low and stupid thing to do. He is a completly diffrent person when he's with his friends. I know that he's not suppose to act the same as he does atround me, but it's really diffrent, I feel like I don't know him and we've been together for two years! I've talked to him about what he says on the MySpace, and he tells me that his friend got on his name and wrote it. Everytime I try to approach a serous talk with him about how his music and the way he acts damages us, he takes it like I hate his music and I want him to stop listening to it. I want him to stop acting out the music, and acting like an idiot when I know he's so much better. Can anyone give me advice? I understand that the length of this question is long, but I do promise that I will let you know how great your advice was. Thank you so much in Advance.
Sounds like your boyfriend's trying too hard to fit in. When you play games with popularity, usually someone gets screwed over, and it's usually someone you care about. Guys will always act differently when they're around their friends. It might be a macho thing, they might be trying to impress them, I'm not sure. I know that it's really common in junior high and high school. It sounds like your boyfriend's very unsure of himself and feels like he needs to act like an asshole to fit in. This includes crap like making fun of girls or talking about them like sex objects, and trying everything his friends try (to keep up with them) like smoking pot, etc. I'm not sure his music taste has the intention of hurting you. I had an ex-boyfriend who listened to music about chopping people up, constantly, and he was the nicest guy ever. Just ask him not to listen to it around you.
Ok, honestly, it looks like your boyfriend's starting to fall in with the wrong crowd. I don't want to sound like your mom here, but I'd really examine everything he says closely. I'm sure he loves you, but he's also constantly lying to either his friends or you. Think about it. He's telling two completely different stories. And if he's convincing enough to fool either you or your friends, that's pretty shady. You should think pretty hard about continuing a relationship with this guy. If he's not listening to you now, and you've already calmly discussed with him the issues in a non-accusatory way (example: "I wish you'd treat women like you treat me" rather than "you're such an asshole to her") then you should begin to emotionally guard yourself. He's nearing a point where he's going to choose between you and his friends, and you might not like the choice.
I know your instinct is to throw everything you've got into making him stay. But he's a teenage boy, and they're so damn independent that he'll have to mke this decision on his own. If you try to use guilt, or get angry, or get quiet, he'll think you're trying to emotionally manipulate him. So don't give him an ultimatum, but make it clear that if he's determined to be this fake person, he's not going to drag you down with him. Hope this helps.