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I like this one guy, well call him Joe. Well joe likes me back. But joe is good friends with my ex-boyfriend, who still really likes me and were still friends. My best friend told me not to go out with Joe because my ex would be sad. And she also said she would be sooo mad at me because my ex is so perfect for me(acording to her and no one else). I really wanna date joe but i fear my ex and my bff will me mad.

Okay, first off even if Joe is friends with your ex thats not fair of your ex to keep him from dating you because it's not right to make him suffer because your ex is. And this whole bestfriend thing, no, it should be up to YOU not her who you date, and it's up to YOU who is perfect for you, and if she's going to get mad at you just because you don't like the guy SHE WANTS you to. Then that's really stupid. She should be by your side with your descions. Because this is your life not hers.

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So I have these two friends that I'm really close with. We hang out all the time and such, but sometimes it feels like I'm so different from them. You see, they are both always the center of attention and ALL the guys like them. No lie! Like, I always feel secondary when I'm with them. For example, I was hanging with both of them the other day and we were with 3 other guys. Two of those guys likes one friend, and the other guy likes my other friend...but I always feel left out because no guys like me. It's like they're always hanging out with people when I'm there and I'm never really part of their "clique." For example, the guys invited both of my friends over and didn't invite me. It's like I'm invisible. I don't get it; people say I'm really pretty and nice and blah blah blah and it's not like these two friends of mine are devestatingly gorgeous but the thing is, I'm never the center of attention, I guess I'm just too laid back. I kinda wish I was more outgoing and confident like these two friends. So what I'm asking is, does anyone know how I can be more confident and noticed like my friends are? Any tips or websites on how to be more outgoing and noticed and to get guys to like you? Because obviously what I'm doing now isn't working. Thanks mucho.

It sounds like you've become like the third wheel. Like a tag along. Maybe you hsould branch out and start meeting new people because then when they go to parties you can have other plans rather then being left out. And in the guy case, you have to put yourself out there, the guys won't always come looking for you, sometimes you have to do the looking.

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yo. i need help! me and halle broke up right? what do i say to get her to not be so mad!! thanx.

Well, you have to tell her that you really want to be friends with her and that you're sorry but you value her friendship too much to mess it up with dating, you know?

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O.k.
I went to camp last week. There was this amazingly cute guy there. And he was in my biblestudy group. At the last bublestudy group, we had to write nice things about each other on a poece of paper. He wrote on mine that he thought I was an AMAZING person and that I was a hottie. I was totally happy. I thought that he really liked me. He usted to star at me all the time in biblestudy but after that, he doesn't.
Does he really like me? Or does he just think i'm a pretty face?
-Confused

Maybe he's shy, a lot of guys sorta panic once the girl they have their eye on knows it. And if he's just being nervous you should approach him, and talk to him make him more comfortable with you, because otherwise he may just stay away, the other side of this is that he may have lost interest, in this case step up your game girl! And show him you're more then just some pretty face.

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Okay. I a 17 year old girl and I have a boyfriend also 17 that I've been dating a couple of months now and we've touched the subject of sex lightly only because he knows im a virgin! He's not however! I feel im ready but since im a virgin and he's not I don't want to disappoint him with my lack of knowledge. I know to use a condom and every thing, I just don't feel I'll live up to it! I want him to be surprised, I don't know what to do!

Well, the only thing you can do is try to make it unique, add things that would make it special for both of you, it may not be absolutely fantastic but it's your first time, he's not expecting above and beyond just yet, just try to wow him in your own comfortable style, I'm sure he'll love it.

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I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me?

I wouldn't jump to such a drastic conclusion just yet, he may be a little rough around the edges, I've dated guys like them, it makes it a bit easier to talk to him, maybe tell him he scares you sometimes and you don't like when he yells at you. Try to get through to him and makes things work if he's still starting to scare you, I suggest moving on, because the chance of him becoming violent with you may increase.

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i have a boyfriend of about 4 months! and i totally love being with him! but i cant be with him all that much! if we are lucky maybe once a week, but thats if we are lucky. I have been going out with him fer what feels like a long time, and i cant tell if its real or not. Ever since i started going out with him nothing feels right, i mean i feel like we are totally different and it can never work. And actually we are pretty different but idk he really likes me and i think i really like him but i can never tell!! i think i said it all but please help me i dont know what to do and i have talked to him about this too but he just says that hes sorry, but idk it just never is right, just please help me

If you only get to see eachother every once in a while I'm sure that must get really hard to deal with. And if you are 100% sure you like him maybe you should rethink dating him, there are so many great guys out there, spending time with a guy you're only so-so about maybe not such a great idea. And we all know that sorry is not always enough, change is what makes things better.

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for two months now. We are really good together and we really love eachother. Last night i was talking with one of my ex boyfriends. He's a huge pervert and is always telling me to take my clothes off. I told my boyfriend and he seemed really mad, so i asked him. I go, Dan are you mad? He says, no i just love when guys say perverted stuff to my girlfriend. So me and dan got into a huge arguement I said sorry several times and at the end he said apology excepted. I left him a message on myspace saying how sorry i was and that i love him. He wanted to see what my ex was saying to me, but i refused to show him. He got mad at that also. I don't want him to say or do anything to my ex. I blocked my ex and i told Dan im not going to talk to him anymore. Which Im not going to. Dan is out today with his family and he wont be getting the message for a while now. I'm scared he's going to think to hard and this is going to end badly. He says that he loves me and no fight is going to change that. I'm scared, what should I do?

If you and your boyfriend are so good together he should understand that you and your ex are over, and that you don't love him anymore. You should also show your ex how rude it is that he talks to you that way, and if he really wants to stay friends he'll understand. And with your boyfriend you can show him the conversation, but try to convince him that you can handle it and that everything will be okay, don't apologize too much because you don't wanna beg, just give him time, if he loves you, he'll come around.

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