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Well I'm planning on asking my boyfriend to the Sadies dance but I don't know how. I have a couple of ideas but not sure on what to do! Pleasee help me! I'm a female & 16.
if he has a car, draw on it with car window paint. you can get it at any party store. or you can leave a note on his windshield
I'm a 15 year old female.
Okay, here's the deal. I've liked this guy since 7th grade...we're going to be sophomores this year and this summer we've gotten close. We've even gone on a sort of date. So, a couple says ago he asked if i considered us "talking" and I said that I did. He agreed and we texted a little that day. A day or so after that I texted him while i was shopping and he replied to one message but not the one that I sent him back. I was like "oh, well whatever" to that. The next day I texted him again, just to see how he was doing and because he's usually always the one to say something first and he didn't reply. He's not replying to anthing on myspace and he's just not talking to me in general. I mean, what's up with thaT?
-We usually text for hours and talk on myspace and stuff....I don't know why we don't call yet.
he could be playing hard to get. or maybe hes not sure of his feelings for you yet. his friends could also be making fun of him. its not you, its just a guy thing.
boys are dumb and they do stupid things. i'd give it a bit before you texted him again. or you could wait until he texts youu.
hope i helped !
I'm a girl and i'm 13.. So there is a lot of drama in my grade... Anyway... I have a friend that is a boy and we always just hang out and talk... Like, i tell him all of my secrets cause i know he won't judge me or go tell everybody and talk about me behind my back.. Well, today, one of his other friends came up and told me that he liked me and wanted to go out with me... I like him too, but i also don't want to ruin our friendship when it don't work out.. (I'm an 8th grader.. Unless it is some meant to be together sort of thing... we will probably break up some day!!) Anyway.. I also like another boy. but i don't think he likes me.. Any tips? First, what should i do about my friend and what do i do about my "crush?" Please help me!!!!!!
this happened to me too.
i'd talk about it with him. give him subtle hints if he already doesn't know that you know he likes you.
if you dont wanna risk it just yet, see if you guys still like each other in a couple of weeks or months.
andd, if your friendship is super strong now, taking it to the next level will feel right.
hope i helped !
well yea i just got home frm his work and my friend was talking to him and she asked him if he liked me and he saiid yea in a way and so yea..well i havent calld phone but once in the last 2 days.. but i kinda really do like him and he only likes me a little bit and i dont know what to do andit kinda makes me jelous cuz he asks my friends 4 there numbers...wat should i do to stop it.....thnx
do you mean stop liking him?
ok so thank you for answering my question and now after i called him lik 2 dayz ago and he has not called me bak....wat should i do i call him right as soon as he gets outta skool...his house...his work..and i cant get ahold of him..i even tried to get ahold of him by his friendz.i dont even go wit him and i love him soo much but i jus dont want to show it.. but i love him and i dont really know what to do...
calling him 325887973 times will push him away. dont call right after school. maybe his phone isn't on or hes not at home or work. if you have his IM or something, talk to him there. if not then pick a different time to call.
alsooo, you mentioned something about me answering your other questionn. ive answered so manyy im not sure which one it iss.
what should I do my girlfriend is so mad at me that doesn't want to talk to me or see me I haven't seen her over a month?
over a month is a little extreme. maybe its time to end things. if she doesn't want to see you, then you shouldn't make the effort and shes really not worth your time.
hope i helped !
why and why did kristin and brody jenner break up?
was brody jenner on "Punke'd" when kristin got punkd ?
and did lauren and stephen date? when? and why do lauren and kristin hate each other
lauren and kristen hate each other because of stephen. it was a love triangle. but that was during high school.
Hey, Ik this is long, but please, help...
Ok, I'm a 16-year-old sophmore. I really like this guy that's a freshmen. We'll call him J. I just started liking him not too long ago. Because @ our church group, we sometimes sit by each other and flirt... and at the end we stand up, and hold hands, and pray 2gether. Everytime we hold hands, he holds mine really tight. He squeezes it and pulls me closer to him... That's how I started likign him. Ok, now the real problem...The only 4 people I ended up telling where my bffs. However, someone else found out, and texts his buddies, and now the whole school knows. Everyone basically found out Thursday and Friday night! (including J) Everyone found out while I was cheering Thursday night @ the girl's game and Friday while I was cheering @ the boys game. (for basketball). At halftime of the boys game, I realized that everyone finally new. As, I looked up in the stands looking for 1 of my friends, I found J, and he just smiled and nodded towards me and I couldnt help but smile and say "hi". But, now, I don't know what to do. I dont know if he likes me or what... I don't know what to do... Especially since on Monday everyone will be bothering me about it...all day! Please, some1 help me ASAP!! Before Monday would be great! Thanks so much in advance!
i think he does like youu. if he was freaked out by you liking him, then he wouldn't have even looked at you at the game. let alone a nod.
if people bother you about liking him, and you aren't ready for people to know, then just say i dont know. hes cute though. or something like that. that usually gets people off your back.
hope i helped!
13/f 8th grade
Ok I like this guy at my school....I think. I only have one class with him. He talks to me sometimes and always asks me for a piece of paper(don't ask why I added that..)
But I have no idea what to do. None of my friends know. My friends are really trustworthy though. The thing is I don't know everything about him and if I tell my friends that I like him they might think he's weird or something, you know. But I know I shouldn't care about what they think or anything but that I don't know much about him. I have hardly anytime to talk to him though except during extra time in my class.
I know he knows I exsist because he knows my name and talks to me so....I have no idea what to do. Its not so much about my friends here, its more about him. What should I do? Talk to him more? And if I do, how do I go up and talk to him during class? I'm more confused than ever. Any advice?
i think you should keep talking to him more.
the more you talk to him in class, the less weird it will be if you talk out of class.
do you sit near each other in class? that way its easy to talkk.
but if not, if you get grades back or something you can ask him what he got?
hope i helpedd !
WEll, i think i am gay. I dont know what to do. I love my girlfirned, but i sometimes, i feel an atraction to other men. What do i do?
i agree. you might be bisexual.
Hi,
I read your answer, and I understand what your saying, but, what if, what if I'm never ready to let him go?
I always find it hard to let things go, whether it be people or posessions or thoughts or anything.
It's almost like I can't let go of the past.
And I'm worried that I'll never feel ready to let him go, and that maybe I need to break up with him to get over this.
I don't know.
What do you think?
when you care about someone its hard to let them go no matter what. sometimes you need to let them go because its better for both of you. maybe not at the time, but in the future.
to get over things, for me at least, they can't be in my sight. they can but its harder to get over. i had a boyfriend i couldn't get over even though i broke up with him. i had to keep his screen name hidden on my buddy list and change his name in my phone.
idk if that makes sense. let me know if you need more help.
oh and also, when im trying to get over someone i trick myself. [this is gonna sound so dumb buttt ...] i start to make myself think i like someone else. and its someone that i wouldn't really ever go out with. but i trick myself into liking them and when im over the other person i know it worked. and then i never really liked that other person so it works. [and im not saying use the other person. admiring from afar is good. hahah. thats what i do]
I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18, we've been together a year and a half.
The other day when we were at the mall I saw this really pretty ring and told my boyfriend I really liked it. Later on he asked me what I wanted for christmas and I told him I wanted that ring.
Last night he called me and said, "Is there anything else I can get you other than that ring, because I don't really feel comfortable giving a ring to you" I was really surprised, he said he didn't think it was a good idea because "rings usually mean something else."
I honestly wasn't thinking it to be a "Promise ring" or anything like that, I just really thought it was pretty. Now I'm sort of hurt, not because he won't buy it for me,(and I know its not a money issue either) but because of what he said about not being comfortable giving it to me. I don't know why but it makes me doubt our relationship, and I'm upset about it. What should I do? Should I try to talk to him about it, or would that just make things worse?
i think you should let him know your intentions for the ring. make sure he knows you just liked it and you didn't mean it as a promise ring or anything.
hope i helped!
14/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost three months now, I liked him for ages. I'm pretty sure I loved him.
But..I don't anymore. I do still like him, but I don't LOVE him.
And it doesn't seem to be working between us. We hardly ever talk and I feel like we don't really understand each other anymore.
And it feels like breaking up with him is the right thing to do, I want to be free, to be single.
But he claims he's still in love with me, and I don't want to hurt him.
See, before we started dating, we were very close friends. And I told myself that whatever happened, I would always stay friends with him. And he means a lot to me. But I feel like I've lost him; and it scares me. It's almost as if we've already split up, I feel awkward when I see him and we sort of give each other awkward looks. And I know now that I've blown it; whether we stay together or break up, we're never going to be close friends like we used to.
But I'm confused, because when we're alone together it's okay, I don't feel as awkward, although I still don't feel like it's working. But the awkwardness isn't there.
But although I feel as if I want to break up with him, at night or in the mornings, when I'm in bed, I often wish he was there with me, so I could lie in his arms. But I wonder if that's just because I want to lie in SOMEONE'S arms, not because I want to lie in HIS arms, if you know what I mean?
I just don't know.
And then there's this girl, who told him she's in love with him, and when I think of them together, it annoys me, and I think, No, he's mine!
But maybe that's because I find it hard to let go of things.
And when I read old (some recent) texts or comments from him, telling me how much he loves or misses me, or how I mean to him, I wish it was like that.
But I think the problem is, I want to be with him like how it USED to be, not now.
But something in me is telling me that it could go back to how it used to.
I'm not even sure if this is how I feel, but it might be.
And although I'd like to be single, I'm scared of being alone. Scared of not having anyone to lie with at night when we have sleepovers with our friends. Scared of not getting the odd, 'i love you' message.
I'm sorry if that didn't make sense much, I'm not surprised if it didn't, I'm so confused at the moment. I really don't know what's going on in my head at the moment.
But, what do you think?
Why do you think I'm feeling like this?
What do you think I should do?
I'd be so grateful for any help on this, because at the moment, my head is such a mess.
Thanks, xxx
most of the time when you develop feelings for your best friend, and you act on them in some way, it never goes back to being the same.
i think you should try and work on your relationship with him. if you were really ready to let him go, then you wouldn't be thinking about him before you go to bed. and you'd be okay with him being with another girl.
dont give up on him yet, work on it.
hope i helped !
Ok, well i am sorry in advance if this is long, or confusing, but my mind is really jumbled now, so stay with me. My girl friend and guy friend were over my house. I like the guy friend. Well at a party, as a joke, my friends were trying to give a different guy an erection (dont ask). Well i was trying to explain to my girl friend what we did. Well we had him sit and we straddled him and like grinded on him and like just did stupid stuff like that. Well, i was doing the stuff to my guy friend to explain. Well while i was doing it he got an erection. haha. well later, while my girl friend was playing the wii, he kept on holding my hips and putting his arm around me and whispering, "hey baby" in my ear. Well when i asked him about it the next day he was like idk and he pretended it never happened in school on monday. Was he giving me signs? should i tell him i like him? i want to but i feel like if i do, then it will be weird, because of the thing when i asked him about it. What should i do??? thanks
i think its strong signs from both of you.
i'd never demonstrate on my best guy friend ! hahah
i agree, i wouldn't tell him you like him. just show him.
well to start im 17/f and this is a problem with guys.
guy a: well to start i like someone and he likes me but the relationship isn't going anywhere. we barely talk and he's going through this depression which is hard to explain. i really like him for his personality though, when he's not depressed, but he's good looking too.
guy b: we dated on and off in middle school but nothing serious. (nothing is ever serious in middle school) he wasn't my first kiss so its not like we have that connection. i liked him over the summer again and was at his house a lot and i was about to tell him i did but then he told me he liked someone, so i never told him and got over him. now about 2 weeks ago i was at his house with a lot of people and at the end of the night everybody left and it was just me and him. we were wrestling and he ended up on top of me and he made some sexual joke and was pretending to make out with me or something. so then after that we were talking and i started to realize i liked him again. BUT once again him and this other girl like each other. she's clingy and he doesn't know if he wants to start a relationship with her.
i dont know what to do. i don't know who to focus on or who is worth liking. i've been single for so long (appx. 3years) and i absolutely hate it. its not that i feel i need a man to complete me, its just that being loved (by people other than friends and family) makes me so happy. just the thought of having a relationship where someone smiles every time they see you and give you a hug like theres no tomarrow and having someone to cuddle with you during romantic movies. i love it! help me please.
this has happened to me before and i couldn't decide either. so i chose to work on both of them. hang out with both of them, you can talk to both of them at the same time if you're texting or talking online. but if you really want to chose, i'd go with b. a seems to not know what he wants. and his depression could eventually affect you too.
hope i helped!
My ex boyfriend and I have known each other for over 6 years. Recently we've crossed paths again and became really good friends. He calls me like 6 times a day and we talk about absolutely nothing, but yet the conversation is anything but boring. Well, as you probably guessed I am starting to have feelings for him again. He always makes me laugh, and he compliments me alot. I just don't want to take a chance and ruin our friendship if there are no romantic feelings intended. He called me his "bestfriend" and even though its a great title, it wasn't really the one I was looking for. Does he like me? What should I do? I don't wanna mess things up.
i think he does like you. i dont talk to my best guy friend [let alone any of my ex's] six times a day !
i would try to bring it to the next level. but if you're apprehensive about it, wait a little while. and if you really dont want to, you could always get another best friend to ask him something but discretely.
hope i helped!
Okay, so first off...I'm a REALLY bad phone person.
I'm 16/f and a junior in highschool. (hes 18 and we dont go to school together...he doesnt go to school)
After about 5 months of little random hook-ups sometimes and "i like you's" then "i don't like you anymore's" (haha), i think things are starting to go SOMEWHERE with this guy.
but anyways....i get so nervous with phone and communication and stuff....and ill be thinking of a guy all day the next day after we hang out and i ujst get so nervous to make phone calls and stuff and i always just dont do it cause im nervous and then they feel like im not interested or i dont care and stuff...i really mess it up for myself
well i just hung out with this guy last night and things were actually going REALLY good for the first time in 5 months...like things were different...its a long story...but things were just really different and look9ing REALLY optomistic adn good...
and for the first time he was talking about actually taking me out to the movies caus ei said i hadnt seen a good one in forever and he siad...let me know when u find a good one and ill take you to the movie (because oyu see...i hang out with him a lot because his best friend alex is my really good friend and is dating my best friend kelsey so we always just chill at my house or sumthin and he coems up to bring alex up and stuff so we all just chill)
we never really went "out" anywhere...mostly just chilled at someones house...
so anyways...to make a long story short....i dont know what to do becuase i want to show him i care and i think about him a lot but i get so nervous with phone conversations and i suck at texting cause i never know what to say through a text conversation...
and we do have aim and im always on but im always away cause i just talk to whoever whenever i want adn ig et nervous to talk to him so i dont really ever
....i want to communicate and talk and have conversations with him somehow and show him i care and think about him and wanna talk to him....like last night after he left my house...i layed in bed and thought...it would be so cute if i just called him now and said...hi im going to sleep now but i just wanted to call to say goodnight adn sweet dreamsssss....
like i think of cute stuff like that and want to do it so bad but i just cant...i get so nervous...
but i def. need to show him i care and i think about him and im interested in him...i feel that my nervousness with talking to him makes him feel like im not itnerested because he just thinks i dont wanna talk to him and stuff...
hes the type of guy where he wants the girl he likes to show interest so he knows that she likes him back and stuff and he does his share of calling sometimes and hell say like, "k bye...feel free to call me whenever"...hell add that in and i want to so bad but i never do cause im too nervous
i dont expect him to do the calls or texts first anymore because i need to first now, too to show him that i care about him and im itnerested...
yet i dont want to bombard him either
how can i communicate with him enough to show him i care about him and im itnerested in him and stuff and really make him realize that i do like him and how normal "crushes" talk to eachother when they really like eachother and stuff
i need like a little "schedule" so to say...like...text him when im in school and say _______ or text him and school and talk about______ then call him at night and then oine day text while im in school and just talk on aim at night...then the next couple days dont text as much but just come home and have a good aim convo and one night a good phone call...
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO
if guys could answer this and tell me what they would like a girl to do to show interest and care but not too much but jsut enough that would be great
girls, too....you know that beginning stage with a guy where its like...you both like eachother and hang out and hook up a little and stuff and youre seeing eachother but not officially dating yet....what do you girls do with a guy then to communicate and stuff...how does it all work?
just for your information: we hung out last night along with kelsey and alex but we sorta spread apart and we just chill alone in my room or whatever...so things were going great and i texted him a little today but i never know what to say when im texting so i was just like hey whats up! and he just said nuthin and said hwat he was doing...and then i just said i was doin stuff all morning for my mom and then asked what he was doing today and then just asked if he was having band practice and then he said...i dont know i want to...and i asked about his two shows coming up and stuff and then i was just like im really craving taco bell but i need to have lasagna tonight cause people are coming over =[ (were all really random and silly all the time haha) and he was like...aww im sorry haha...and i said...its ok ill get thru it...and he wa slike ull get through what...and i was like...my craving for tacos hha...over your head...and he never said ne thing after that but anyways...that was all weve talked since last night so i dont know...he always mentioned for me to call him all the time or will jsut say...you never call me! and stuff...and its true...i never do...not cause i dont want to...cause im so nervous...i dont know what to do!
i need help cause i know for a fact things would work out so great and be so much better if this communication was better!
im ruining happiness with him for myself...
and i need help with gfetting over my whole phone conversation fear...i always just fear silences and i fear that what i say is boring or theres gonna be nothing else to talk about...i just dont wannabe boring...ugh HELP!
i have the same problems too sometimes. i'm not good at talking on the phone so i like to text. plus, when you text, it gives you time to think about stuff to talk about or break the conversation off quicker. there aren't awkward silences on texts eitherr.
hope i helped !
okay.. so this guy that i used to hang out with a lot... (like a month and a half ago) used to like me... but then he told me he didnt like me.. but now i just want to try to be friends with him.. and i gave it time.. and so tonight i was with my friend and i called him.. and i talked to him like normally and he said he was free sometime this week and so we are supposed to hang out sometime soon.. but im just scared that he wont remember or he wont want to or something like that.. but i just want to see how it goes.. so yeahh. i dont know what to do about it. but my friend also talked to him and he was being really goofy(hes like that a lot) and he was like "u and katie should come over and we can jump on my trampline and play ping pong!" and my friend was like "haha okay...." kind of weird i know.. but it wouldn't be horrible.. i just don't know if he'll remember it.. cause then i texted him and i was like u me and gabby next week ur house.. kayy? and he texted back alright! so i dont know. what do you think??
i think he does remember. and he will. maybe the day before you could say something like, "can't wait for tomorroww !". hahah i dont know how you usually talk so you can switch that up. that way you're confirming your plans and letting him know you're excited.
hope i helped !
when i was 14 i went out with a guy who was 17. we lasted 4 months and i didn't really like him anymore so i broke up with him. that was two years ago but just lately i've been thinking of him and there's a lot of things that are reminding me of him. i don't want to get back together with him but i don't want to think about him. he has a girlfriend anyway. how can i get my mind off of him?
maybe you miss what you had. i agree with the person above me, off and on relationships rarely work. this has actually happened to me before. find something else to take your mind off of him. maybe another guy [thats how i did it. and i knew the new guy i chose nothing would happen so it worked out good !]
hope i helped !
So, recently, my friend, let's call her Kayla, talked me into starting to go to a youth group with her. It was the first time for the both of us. Then, I decided to invite my best friend, Melody. Well, we started going, and go figure, there was a mighty cute boy. Well, Melody knew this boy, and they talked often. And, Kayla and I were just to shy to talk to him. Then after going a couple times, Kayla had gotten to know him pretty well. They had talked on the phone a couple times, and talked in person. But, I, being the shy one, hadn't gotten around to talking to him in person or even on the phone. Sure, we talked on myspace, and he seemed almost interested in me. Before he and I even started talking, he asked Melody what my name was, and asked if I would come next week. He said I was kinda cute, and he kinda liked me. Eventually we became friends on myspace. And so began the messages. Well, finally, a couple days ago when Kayla and I went to the movies/mall, she called and invited...let's call him Collin. Well, he came, and imagine how awkward that was. Did i mention Kayla and I both liked him? And it had been a couple weeks since he told me he kinda liked me, so I didn't know if that still stood. Not to mention, only a month ago, he got out of a eight month relationship. And he tells me he's trying to be friends with his ex, and whatnot. She even came with him to youth one night. And, she wants him back. But, he told me he wants to move on. And he never says cute things to Kayley like he does to me. Like the other night, he said I was awkward, and I said I hated it, and he said it was kinda cute. And at the movies the other day, he would flirt a lot. But, still, on his top eight on myspace, his ex is number one, and then Kayla is fifth, and I'm sixth. I'm so beyond confused with this kid. I make it so obvious, but he never says a word or seems to show that he knows...
top eights suck. you think one thing and they tell you something else ! i think you should invite him somewhere with your friend melody. only if she wont go after him, too. maybe once you start talking to him you'll move up. you never know. maybe kayla was like, why am i so low on your top !? you should ask him who he likes in an IM conversation or something. some guys are forward. and if you dont want to, have melody ask. hope i helped !