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Boyfriend and ring
I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18, we've been together a year and a half.
The other day when we were at the mall I saw this really pretty ring and told my boyfriend I really liked it. Later on he asked me what I wanted for christmas and I told him I wanted that ring.
Last night he called me and said, "Is there anything else I can get you other than that ring, because I don't really feel comfortable giving a ring to you" I was really surprised, he said he didn't think it was a good idea because "rings usually mean something else."
I honestly wasn't thinking it to be a "Promise ring" or anything like that, I just really thought it was pretty. Now I'm sort of hurt, not because he won't buy it for me,(and I know its not a money issue either) but because of what he said about not being comfortable giving it to me. I don't know why but it makes me doubt our relationship, and I'm upset about it. What should I do? Should I try to talk to him about it, or would that just make things worse?
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Hi. well for starters i think you shoud tell your boyfriend that you just like the ring, and you have no other intention not like a Promise ring or anything just something you would like. Then you should ask him why he feels uncomfortable giving you a ring. Tell him that you are starting to doubt the relationship and ask him if he plans on moving on to the next level with you. You dont want to be in a relationship that goes no where.
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i think you should let him know your intentions for the ring. make sure he knows you just liked it and you didn't mean it as a promise ring or anything.
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Take a deep breath, relax and respect your boyfriends opinion.
I'm afraid I'm with your boyfriend on this one: A ring can be highly symbolic of a life-long commitment.
The fact that he doesn't feel ready to give you something that is that symbolic of marriage is not a 'doubt of the relationship', it means he knows he isn't ready to make a life-long commitment. That is a good thing! He is eighteen. If he thought he was ready to make a life-long commitment to someone he would be a moron.
I know that isn't what the ring meant to you, but it is what it means to HIM, and you need to respect that. Symbols are very important to people and he doesn't want to give you, your family, or your friends, the wrong message by getting you a ring.
If he didn’t feel that way, there would be nothing wrong with a ring as a gift, but he does, and there is no really rational reason to argue with him on that point.
Pick something else.
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Him saying " it usually means Somthing else" isnt exactly good communication on his part. Talk to him and explain you didnt want to get married or anything, but that you just really loved that ring. Then ask him what the problem would be with him giving you a ring. Im sure he has a great answer.
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maybe when you said you like the ring he was thinking you wanted him to propose to you. dont doubt your relationship over it. talk to him about this and explain you werent wanting him to propose to you, you just really liked it and it wouldnt mean anything morre than a beautiful gift or maybe a promise ring.
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