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communication problems
Okay, so first off...I'm a REALLY bad phone person.
I'm 16/f and a junior in highschool. (hes 18 and we dont go to school together...he doesnt go to school)
After about 5 months of little random hook-ups sometimes and "i like you's" then "i don't like you anymore's" (haha), i think things are starting to go SOMEWHERE with this guy.
but anyways....i get so nervous with phone and communication and stuff....and ill be thinking of a guy all day the next day after we hang out and i ujst get so nervous to make phone calls and stuff and i always just dont do it cause im nervous and then they feel like im not interested or i dont care and stuff...i really mess it up for myself
well i just hung out with this guy last night and things were actually going REALLY good for the first time in 5 months...like things were different...its a long story...but things were just really different and look9ing REALLY optomistic adn good...
and for the first time he was talking about actually taking me out to the movies caus ei said i hadnt seen a good one in forever and he siad...let me know when u find a good one and ill take you to the movie (because oyu see...i hang out with him a lot because his best friend alex is my really good friend and is dating my best friend kelsey so we always just chill at my house or sumthin and he coems up to bring alex up and stuff so we all just chill)
we never really went "out" anywhere...mostly just chilled at someones house...
so anyways...to make a long story short....i dont know what to do becuase i want to show him i care and i think about him a lot but i get so nervous with phone conversations and i suck at texting cause i never know what to say through a text conversation...
and we do have aim and im always on but im always away cause i just talk to whoever whenever i want adn ig et nervous to talk to him so i dont really ever
....i want to communicate and talk and have conversations with him somehow and show him i care and think about him and wanna talk to him....like last night after he left my house...i layed in bed and thought...it would be so cute if i just called him now and said...hi im going to sleep now but i just wanted to call to say goodnight adn sweet dreamsssss....
like i think of cute stuff like that and want to do it so bad but i just cant...i get so nervous...
but i def. need to show him i care and i think about him and im interested in him...i feel that my nervousness with talking to him makes him feel like im not itnerested because he just thinks i dont wanna talk to him and stuff...
hes the type of guy where he wants the girl he likes to show interest so he knows that she likes him back and stuff and he does his share of calling sometimes and hell say like, "k bye...feel free to call me whenever"...hell add that in and i want to so bad but i never do cause im too nervous
i dont expect him to do the calls or texts first anymore because i need to first now, too to show him that i care about him and im itnerested...
yet i dont want to bombard him either
how can i communicate with him enough to show him i care about him and im itnerested in him and stuff and really make him realize that i do like him and how normal "crushes" talk to eachother when they really like eachother and stuff
i need like a little "schedule" so to say...like...text him when im in school and say _______ or text him and school and talk about______ then call him at night and then oine day text while im in school and just talk on aim at night...then the next couple days dont text as much but just come home and have a good aim convo and one night a good phone call...
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO
if guys could answer this and tell me what they would like a girl to do to show interest and care but not too much but jsut enough that would be great
girls, too....you know that beginning stage with a guy where its like...you both like eachother and hang out and hook up a little and stuff and youre seeing eachother but not officially dating yet....what do you girls do with a guy then to communicate and stuff...how does it all work?
just for your information: we hung out last night along with kelsey and alex but we sorta spread apart and we just chill alone in my room or whatever...so things were going great and i texted him a little today but i never know what to say when im texting so i was just like hey whats up! and he just said nuthin and said hwat he was doing...and then i just said i was doin stuff all morning for my mom and then asked what he was doing today and then just asked if he was having band practice and then he said...i dont know i want to...and i asked about his two shows coming up and stuff and then i was just like im really craving taco bell but i need to have lasagna tonight cause people are coming over =[ (were all really random and silly all the time haha) and he was like...aww im sorry haha...and i said...its ok ill get thru it...and he wa slike ull get through what...and i was like...my craving for tacos hha...over your head...and he never said ne thing after that but anyways...that was all weve talked since last night so i dont know...he always mentioned for me to call him all the time or will jsut say...you never call me! and stuff...and its true...i never do...not cause i dont want to...cause im so nervous...i dont know what to do!
i need help cause i know for a fact things would work out so great and be so much better if this communication was better!
im ruining happiness with him for myself...
and i need help with gfetting over my whole phone conversation fear...i always just fear silences and i fear that what i say is boring or theres gonna be nothing else to talk about...i just dont wannabe boring...ugh HELP!
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i have the same problems too sometimes. i'm not good at talking on the phone so i like to text. plus, when you text, it gives you time to think about stuff to talk about or break the conversation off quicker. there aren't awkward silences on texts eitherr.
hope i helped !
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ok, first off, i would try to force myself. if you do call, tell him sorry for not being able to call. that you are nervous. if you want to show him that youre thinking of him, write him a list of reasons why you do like him and then give it to him. he sounds like a really nice guy, please dont lose him. ok? good luck and i hope that i helped.
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