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Q: Well as I said there's this boy and my sister, my best friend, and another girl all say he likes me and i like him. We annoy each other constantly and he doesn't say he hates me but i say i hate him and he well i don't know... what do you think.

Ok, so if you like him and he likes you, start dropping hints. Slowly stop say you "hate" him just so you don't give him any wrong ideas. Sorry its not much, but it's somethin.
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Q: Ok so here's the deal I was with my boyfriend for the first time yesterday. I really like him and we spent time together we talked and cuddled but nothing else. I really didn't feel confterable when he was hugging me. I know I love him but I don't know what's wrong. I didn't want him too hug me at all yesterday. What's wrong??. Any advice would be useful thanks!

I honestly don't think they're is anything wrong with that. First of all, it's the first time you guys have actually cuddled or even been together. If you love him, the physical things shouldn't be important. I think you should just give it some time, let yourself get comfortable with this new person in your life. If he loves you back, he'll let you take all the time you need. Now, to get all mom-ish: If you don't feel comfortable with him touching you, don't let him.
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Q: My best friend and me like the same guy but i dont want to tell her that i like him to. She talks about him all the time and it makes me sad becuase i have to keep my feeling inside. He asked her to homecoming so i dont know what to do. If i should tell her how i feel or just go on like nothing happen

I think that even though this guy may like your friend, if you and her are really that close then you should feel comfortable being able to tell her that you are crushing on the same guy. Before you tell her you should say that you are only telling her because your comfortable with your relationship enough to be able to tell her how you really feel. Because the guy already asked her to homecoming, you should let them go and let them enjoy themselves(enjoy yourself too don't get all jealous) because you'd want her to do the same thing for you. Me and my friend always like the same guys but since we are able to talk, it never messes up our friendship if one of us gets the guy.
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Q: So I have liked this girl pretty much all of my life. I have been talking to her every once in a while trying to build courage and so I finally attempt to call her and tell her how I feel about her. I had to text her first to make sure it was alright to call. She said she was about to eat dinner with the family so she'd tell me when it was alright. She can't talk past a certain time and she texted me after that time and said that she couldn't talk now because it was past the time and wanted me to text what I wanted to say instead.

I'm pretty sure she knows what I'm trying to tell her since someone pretty much told her I liked her. So I said I rather call her instead and asked if i could call tommorrow. She said she didn't know what she'd be doing tommorrow but I could try and then said "sorry". I asked if she could tell me when she was free then and she said "i'll try". Recently she has gotten involved in sort of a long distance relationship.

Should I take this as a polite "I don't want to talk to you?", a "I'm kind of nervous about this" or what?

From a girls perspective it looks like she's not interested but since she's in a relationship she must have been crushing on this guy before while you were trying to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Girls love it when guys flirt so try to be as friendly as you can and don't hold back so she knows more about you and hey, ya never know, she may ditch this long distance boy because as you maybe have heard, long distance relationships don't last too long.
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Q: i like 2 girls both exs both pretty girl only one will date me the other will kinda be friend with benefits and one will date me but if i go out with carie then other other girl dani will be mad at me cause she gets jealus even though she broke up with me and crap but im in a pickle which i should stick withwuts better a girlfriend who likes me and i like or a friend with benefits who i like and likes me but will never date?

Hmm...well I think that Carie (the girlfriend) might be better because obviously she likes you again and more then Dani because if Dani really did like you she wouldn't want to be just a friend(with benefits.) And if Dani gets jealous then that's her problem because remember: she did dump you and her problems aren't yours. Personally I think that a friend with benefits is just someone who can't take a relationship seriously and just wants too fool around. But a girlfriend is committing AND of course they are yours too fool around with as you please. ;)
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Q: whats better friend with benefits or girlfrined? cause i can have a girlfriend or friend with benefits and i really liek both and both like me but i donno which i want cause if i choose to stick with friend with benefits then the girl will get mad at me but if i date the girl then the other will get mad at me

hmm...Well friends with benefits are good and so are girlfriends. I mean, friends with benefits don't tie you down but they can also have other freinds with benefits so if you don't have a problem with them doing that then friends with benefits are good. Girlfriends on the other hand, you can commit to and they have no right to cheat on you. So it truly depends which thing you feel most comfortable with. Also, think which one you could see yourself being more happy with.
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Q: Kinda has to do about my love life and my job.

Right now im really depressed and stuck with a decision i dont want to make. I just really want to cry and let everything out but then again i dont want my parents asking me whats a matter. Is their anything i can do that will make me feel better?

thank you.

Well, first of all, parents are practically trained for these problems, whether you want them to know your situation or not, lots of times they can help. Although I don't know your specific problem, it's obviously a really bad one. If you really are depressed and feeling upset you could contact a school counsler or ask your parents if you could see a physciatrist daily so you can release stress off yourself during the year (that way you don't have to share your specific problem.) Also, sharing with your friends always helps, maybe they can relate to your problem or have their own advice hiding up their sleeve. Anyway to get your problem off your chest is a big step towards your normal self. Hope I helped!

Q: hey mcoolio,
well there's this boy who I really like and have liked for a while. He's a total flirt and reallyyy hott, but I never know if he's just teasing me or if he has or does have real feelings for me. Also, he dated my best friend but went to a party that I was at but she wasn't and he was grinding with girls he didn't even know... So if I do date this boy, will he be a good boyfriend to me? Should I go for him?

- confused much?

Hmm...so this boy is a little tease, eh? And apparently he can be a little jerky... Well if he is a jerk to you then maybe you should flip this situation. Make him fall for you, be a flirt to him, practically dangle yourself infront of him and when he tries to take you...well then it's your choice, you can let him take you, or you can play his game and pull away. Either way, it puts you in control and that's much better then being played, dont ya think? Well I hope I helped.

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Hey I'm Emma and I'm 13 years old. I live in Massachusetts. I love acting and modeling and hope to do one or both of those things for a living. I have a best friend, Hannii, who is seriously like a sister to me. I love giving advice because it just makes me feel better that i'm helping other people out.