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Im 15. This summer I got my heartbroken . My first love of a year and 3 months broke up with me on June 1st , It's been the longest 4 months of my life! I miss him dearly and I have no clue how to get over him , it is probley the most confusing time in my life iv ever had . Im so weak when it comes to him and he KN0WS it! I would do anything to have him back in my life , I may be young but im very mature for my age. He was my everything and for it to go away all in one day is crazy for me . We know we still love each other and always will have somthing special there for each other. Im trying to move on , but I just can't . Everytime he wants to hang out I KNOW what's gonna happen , were gonna end up kissing and everything but it's like I can't say no to him ... I love him so much and it's like " so what If I can't be with you , im with you at this moment " ... Idk what to do , iv tried EVERYTHiNG!! (link)
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You have to remember that even though you feel like you'd give everything for him, he broke up with you. You have to accept that he is a bit more careless with it. The fact that he KNOWS that you are weak when it comes to him gives him the advantage, so to him you are weaker. Love yourself, and remember that you don't NEED him- treat him as a luxury; he'd be nice to have around but you do not need him around. Don't try desperately to get over him- that makes it harder. Accept what happened and let it take its time.
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im 18 and my boyfriend lives in a different state. he always come to visit me. my last class is on wednesday (im in college)
i want to visit him this weekend and im taking the bus bc my car cant make it up there (its old)
i need a very good reason to leave my house for 4 days to tell my parents any ideas? they dont allow me or my sister (22) to have bfs. they are just strict so any GOOD ideas. (link)
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Damn! They're still restricting you from boyfriends? You'll need to talk to them about that soon as well..
But anyways, first off, are you going to be paying for this trip on your own or do you need money from them? If you're paying, you could tell them it's a trip dealing with your school, where they suggested some course at another school dealing with whatever it is you're studying.
Or you could tell them that a girlfriend of yours invited you on her family trip. Be careful though; parents can be very sneaky.
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I'm in band, and so is the guy I like; we're in the same section and we're both section leaders so we are around each other a lot. He jokes around a lot with me, and he talks to me a lot. But I don't know if he is interested. He has my number but we don't talk much, we text on occasion, only really if it's about something important. It's hard to tell because he's really outgoing around his friends but I think he might be shy around girls. He's never had a girlfriend, but he's still pretty cute. How would I be able to tell if he likes me back? (link)
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Flirt with him in a very sly way. Act casual about things; treat him like a growing friend. Think of it as getting closer to him friendwise. Don't focus tooo much on it because you'll end up driving yourself nuts with mixed signals and confusion, even from the simplest situation. If he likes you, you will pick up on it naturally.
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There's a guy that I've liked for awhile... ever since like 7th grade actually, and I'm a junior now. Well, since we've been in high school, he and I have gotten closer, mostly because we're in the same group of friends now because his friend asked me out last year but we broke up after three months (it was a happy ending though :)) So I'm curious, would it be a bad thing for me to try and start something with the guy I like because he's so close with my ex? (link)
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If you're good friends with your ex and there are honestly no feelings left, I don't think it should be a problem. Perhaps you'll need to talk to him about it either before dating his friend, or maybe just to clarify things once the two of you are already together if he seems to be acting strange. He really doesn't have much of a right to be upset about it though, unless there are still feelings.
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WARNING:long sorry just wanted to give full story or most of it
ok so im pretty much 14(my bday nov 9)
im not attracted to guys around my age i dont knw i just think older guys are cute and are more mature.well there are these three guys one well call d he is 18 or 19 and the other well call is x but i dont knw how old he is and lastly well call him j and he is 16 or 17.at first me and d werent like friends like we hugged and said hi but ya knw.he just kinda messed with me like put his arm around me and sang to me cause he knew i liked him haha just who he is.well now he flirts with me and kissed me on the cheek twice and he knws my name and one day my friend was like why do you kiss b and he was like have i ever kissed you and i was like only on the cheek and he said see i only kissed on the cheek i havent kissed her yet and kinda smiled at me and all my friends think he likes me.now x he is kinda new haha the first time i saw him me and a friend were waiting at the place cause it opened at 8 and he was alreasy there and he kept looking at me and finally he was like ya im lookin at you and i gave him a look like me? and he was like ya you(i knw kinda weird)but when his bro(i only knw it was his bro cuz he told us) got there they started whispering and lookin at me well then they left and he was like watch my stuff please so i did.that whole night he kept smiling at me and yesterday we had our second hug.we talk and flirt and he always looks at me.all my friends think he is mad sexy and are kinda jealous and they all think he likes me but im not sure cause he dont really knw me and he flirts with other girls.then finally the last on j.he used to always flirt with me and stuff then he ended up breaking up with his girl and i saw him lookin kinda bored so i went to talk to him and he was like how old are you and i asked him the same but he was like i asked you first so i told him and he was like damn i cant mess with you and told me how old he was and then the next week he was dating his ex now he doesnt really talk to me or whatever and its seems he flirts with his girl around me but looks at me to ya knw like see if im watching or w/e.and i saw him in the hall last thursday(i go to his school for math) and he walked next to me but didnt say anything but smiled and kept walking and called his friend and kinda looked back at me so i guess you can say im totally confused so i need major help!thank you (link)
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Ah, that is quite the difficult situation :).
I'm sure you're mature for your age and do need somebody that's a bit older because guys your age will be too immature for you. I do suggest that you be really careful because honestly most guys these days absolutely suck and act all nice at first then treat girls horribly and just want to use them for sex and such.
However, there are still the nice ones, so I'm hoping your judgment is good (I'm sure it is).
Anyways, D sounds pretty nice. I would avoid J completely because he doesn't want to go for somebody that's younger than him, and he obviously is already no good since he went back to his girl and still thinks about other girls. X sounds alright as well.
You have to just go with the flow; let them come to you and when they do, decide if they're good enough for you. Remember to keep your self respect because a lot of the time, they're only going to want you for your looks / sex and such. You're just turning fourteen so it's alright to just have fun with it and not get into anything too serious. So, I'd say go for the cuties :) But make sure you don't seem desperate; make them want you!
I think D is my favorite of those for sure.
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i put this under Love Life bcos it was the closest to what i'm asking about!! Basically i'm just really confused with my life right now...i'm only 18 but i'm thinking ahead and worrying about how my life is going to go!! I'm out with my friends most days yet I still feel it's not enough- like i'm not getting enough out of life,!i have never felt like this before and it's really confusing me!! but i have been like this for a couple of months now. i've even started to think about my ex (who I split up with in April, and i don't even like him anymore!) idk i was just wondering if anyone else felt like this? and what can i do to take my mind off it? (link)
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I'm actually surprised this is your first time going through this at eighteen. Usually, it gets much worse than this confusion, and often starts at a much younger age.
Mostly everyone else feels like this; you're not alone. It's a phase and it'll pass you, no matter how long it takes. Don't try to avoid it; rather embrace it. Trying to avoid it will make it stronger and things will get out of hand. You have to accept that you are going through a tough time. It's the middle of your life and there's a lot of nothing to do, a lot of upcoming decisions to make. You're going to go back and forth between happy and sad, the ups and downs.
Remember that your happiness is a choice. You thought about your ex because your past is going to continuously effect you and continuously be remembered. Everything will be just fine in time. Keep your head up :)
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To make a long story short: I've been going back and forth with this guy who REALLY likes me because I can't seem to decide if I like him. I told him I didn't - but then the second he started getting over me I felt heartbroken, cried, was crazy jealous over any girl he talked to, and then kissed him to make him like me again.
It sounds manipulative, like I don't like him but don't want him to get over me.. but I think I do like him. Quite a lot actually.
Now he asked me to decide wether I want to be with him, because he needs to know..
Is there a good excuse that would allow us to be in a secret relationship, so we could sneak around (which is something I really enjoy haha) and keep it on the down low?
It can't involve parents because I'm in college far away from them. He thinks the reason I can't decide if I want to be with him is because he'd be my first boyfriend (which is true, I've never had one before).
Help?
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You do have feelings for him if you cried and such.
You shouldn't keep it secretive. That's always a bad sign. That means that you really aren't sure. & You are sure, you're just nervous. There's no need to be though; go for it! It's really just starting out, so there's no need to get your parents involved whatsoever until it's time for a family visit or something if he happens to come along, if things get that far. But being your first relationship and this indecisiveness, who knows if it will even last over a week once it really begins? You should just plunge into it; experience! :)
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k...... so, 1 of my friends asked this guy out 4 me, and he said, "i dont know" so then, a week later, my other friend asked him, and he said, "i dont know, maybe"
so, i looked maybe up in the dictionary, and it said possibly. i looked up possibly, and it said presicely, yes or no.
i asked his sister the next day, and she said that she thought it meant yes...... and i dont know what 2 do about this........
i wrote him a note that said, ""will you go out with me? circle, yes or no."" im giving it 2 him in 2 days.. is that a bad idea??? --HELP ME PLZ!!!!!-- (link)
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First of all, you should have asked him yourself in the first place.
Asking him through two other people then yourself will sound a bit desperate. The words 'maybe' and 'possibly' show that he is unsure of whether or not he is into you, and if he is he'll go for you himself.
Handing him the note is just like having the friends ask him. He wants to see your confidence. He's not going to want to be with somebody who can't even talk to him.
You should wait a little while then confront him in person. :)
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