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Q: I have been with my b/f for about a yr and a half now. We have definitely had our ups and downs. Last year i was at a friends house and one of my b/f's good friends showed up. He asked if i wanted to hang out. Went to his house and he put the moves on me. I refused to have sexual contact with him. Even though i had the urge to. He told me that he was sorry and that he couldnt help but wonder why i was with this other guy and that he thought i was pretty.

Ever since that time, he always makes comments to my b/f about how my b/f doesnt treat me right. Or he will joke around about how im his type. We live in a tight-knit town where everyone knows everyone. I see this guy everyday and he always smiles or stares and then looks away.

My major problem is that im finding more and more that im not in-love with my bf anymore as he has become physically violent.

My sister-in-law thinks that i should leave my bf and go with this guy. I am quite tempted as he and i have so much in common and he knows how to treat a lady. I also have a medical condition where i cannot have children. And this guy has full custody of his little girl. Every time i see him with her i melt because he is such a good father.

Am i wrong for wanting to try and have a relationship with this other guy?
And do you think he would be interested in trying to have a relationship?

It sounds like you have been wanting to be with him for a while so why are you questioning what your heart wants. I personal think you should leave your current b/f whether or not you start dating this other guy. If your b/f is starting to be abuse you don't need to be with him anyways. I'm sorry to hear you can't have kids and it just seems perfect that he has a kid. You not wrong in any way for wanting him. He has been staring at you and trying to give you hints that you shouldn't be with your current b/f and those are signs that he does want to be with you.

Nikki A.K.A. jTsCeLlMaTe

Q: hey,, well my brother has a friend,, his friend is 17 and im 13, joe, his friend and me a pretty tight, and stuff,, i really like Joe but idk if he likes me, and even when his g/f is there, hell look at me alot..his g/f is also 13..but shes ugly and he doesnt like her that much,, so, like, what should i do??

If he looks alot(especially when his g/f is there) I would defeninetly say he likes you! So just ask him about in a casually way.

hope i helped

~Nikki~

Q: hi. Ive got a boyfriend and i luv him to bits but should i be worried about the age gap? im 15 and he is 12. Do you think its wrong or what?
help
xxXxxX

I think that if both of you guys were 5 or 10 years older that it would be fine but at ya'll age there are a lot of differences that will come up and that it will cause problems with you guys but you can do what you want.

Hope I Helped

~Nikki~

Q: I have this problem..My bestfriend was going out with this boy..Then this boy broke up with her..She was shock (i guess)..But okay, that's not the major problem..Now,I'm going out with that boy..and no one knows that except my sister..I've been going out with that boy for 2 weeks or so..now I have this illfeel..I feel that I'm so wrong by going out with my bestfriend's ex boyfriend..I don't know what to do..Should I break up with that boy and give him back to my bestfriend, or keep going??

-feeling-guilty-girl-

well it depends on how much you like this guy!
But also you should tell your bestfriend that you are seeing and have been seeing her ex, cause if she finds out from somebody else first that won't be too good, If you keep seeing him. Also you should see if this guy still likes your bestfriend before you dump him so he can be with her, If you decide to give him back to your bestfriend. Also if I were you i would call my guy and ask him if he still likes my bestfriend, then 3-way my bestfriend and tell her that we have been dating and go from there.

Hope I Helped

~Nikki~

Q: what does the term mean "to pop a girls cherry when she has sex?

it mean that whenever you lose your viginity that you bleed.

Hope I helped

~Nikki~

Q: I havent heard from you in a while and i still love you i was wondering if you still loved me and wanted me back how could i get you i would change anything to be with you i love you and always will

john

thanks john i'm glad to here you have move on but i do want you back and i do love you but right now it looks like we are both taken.

Q: well theirs this REALLY hot guy who me and him both wanna make*out, im scared im not good enough for him =/ i need some tips on making out and exactly what to do to make my kiss MEMORABLE =) i rate really high!! ((top ratings for everyone))

You could try something like bitting his lip when your about to stop.

Q: Hi. My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. Before we started dating we were best friends for 3 years. I don't feel like he is making enough of a effort to display his feelings for me. He never really says that much stuff to me. I know he likes me, though. What does this mean?

It could mean a lot of things! It could mean that he still isn't familiar with you guys dating, yet. It could also mean that he is nervous around you,(cause he likes you) and can't think of anything to say!

I Hope I Helped

Nikki

If you have more questions drop'em in my inbox I get straight to them.

Q: ok well i kinda like this guy but mi like best friend likes him also so i dont no wat 2 do? should i tell her? or just act normal and say nuthin? not really sure wat 2 do

I would tell your best friend I know that if I like the same guy as my best friend and she ended up dating him that whenever they broke up she would know that I like him and could consult with me on the bad and good things he does and vice versa.

Hope I helped

Nikki

Q: Me & my ex broke up a little over a year ago. I finally got the courage to call & tell him i was still in love w/ him.He just kept on talking though. We talked till 3 A.M. like we used to. We talked for 3 days after and some how i ended up telling him how much he hurt me but i loved him so much it didn't matter. He told me he was real sry he never ment it, it was the biggest mistake ever, & if he could take it back he would. He also told me that his recent ex broke his heart and how hurt he was but that he doesn't love her n/e more. Since that night we've only talked twice, but he seemed fine. What the hell am i suppose to think?!?!

THANKS
-twiSted

he played u like a dog that's what your supposed to think if he hasn't called you back then he just wanted to rub it in your face.

hope i helped

-Nikki-

Q: ok there is this older boy that likes me and he told me. I like him to, a lot. the only problem is he is going into 9th grade and im going into 7th. do you think that is too much of an age difference? I mean if we both like each other why should age matter? My mom doesn't think its a good idea for me to date him. I think its good because he is much more mature then boys in my grade and he knows how to treat a girl right. what should i do? how can i go out with him without my mom knowing?

please help
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i think it is perfectly fine for you to date him but be carefull about whether or not he cheats on you but only you know if he will or not as for getting it past your mom try telling her that he is just a friend or if you have a brother try to get them to be friends so you can hang out more or you could just tell her to let you make you own choices but that usually don't work.

nikki

Q: theres this boy that i've liked for a long time but since i havent kissed a boy before he calls me prude and says he wont go out with me cuz of that. then he says well show me that you're not prude but i dont want to kiss/make out with him just to prove that to him but i really like him alot and i hate everyone calling me prude. what do i do?

if he doesn't want to date you cause your "prude" he is a waste of time but if you really like him maybe you should comprimise with him like if he'll date you for so long you'll kiss/make-out with him.

hope i helped

nikki

Q: ok so the question is the subject pretty much. My best guy friend likes someone but he won't tell me who. he gives me clues and they sound like me. can u help? thanks in advance. the clues are:
-Its someone in austin ( he lives in kerville)
-Its someone in are grade and goes to ur school
then he was like im not sure if i like them though then he said this:
-I no deep down in my heart that i like her b/c a guy use to like her and she liked him and i got jealous. one of his friends liked me and i liked him but it didnt work out.
-Its someone who youse to like me a long time ago (i use to like him and he new it b/c i told him)

well if you like this guy then ask him if it's you and that you hope it is cause you like him.
You can't be after of rejection.

Good luck

Nikki

bio

Hi my name is Nikki. I have one brother and one sister. I live with my mom. My dad lives in Colorado. I'm taken by a guy named josh. So no hitting on me. I've been though alot of stuff so I should be able to relate to alot of you guys. I like hip hop music. But I listen to a lot of different types of music. My best friend in the world is Ashley Young who also happens to be my ex girlfriend. I want to be a hair dresser. That's all I can think of to say right now.