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ask me anything thats what i`m here for! don`t hold back..i`m very straightfoward and honest giving my advice. it might not be the best or maybe you dont like it but sometimes people need to hear the truth once in their life. so rate me whatever you like. my name is alexxa my friends call my lex or lav and i`m 13 years old. i`m going into my 8th grade year at school and with that comes a lot of drama. i have the most best; best friend in the world! her name is julia and we are inseperable. i`m not exactely sure what "clique" i`m in, but most of my friends are pretty cool. im sort of a prep but i don`t like to get dressed up too often..jeans and a tank is good enough for me. my favorite stores are aeropostle and american eagle. i play basketball, softball, soccer, and run track and corss country. i`m don`t play an instrument because i`m not cordinated enought to. i`m really irish so dont diss the green. i live in south buffalo, new york where almost everyone is irish and if your not your well..not cool. i`m also polish, and scotish. i`m sort of a music whore but whatever..i love greenday, the click five, fall out boy, all-american rejects, and lifehouse, gwen stefeni, will smith, DMT,. some of my favorite songs are: just the girl, be my escape, cool, wake me up when september ends, american idoit, sugar we're going down, drop it like its hot, and golddigger. i love to travel also, i`ve been to sao paulo, brazil -laguna beach, california -hong kong, china and a bunch of other places. i`d love to go to ireland, paris, wales, england, and york someday. i love getting questions in my inbox so go ahead and ask. i`m better with the lovelife, friendships advisory but ask me anything you`d like. i perfer longer questions to short ones but will answer any if you just ask. i love decriptive questions..takes a load off my back. they are easier to answer too..so please if you need advice..ask me. [Attention Columnists..if you are rad and add me as one of your favs..i`ll return the compliment =D] if you need to im me, my screename is ixi l0ve y0u x0o. EVERYONE PLEASE PRAY FOR THE PEOPLE IN NEW ORLEANS AND ALL THE OTHER PLACES HURRICANE KATRINA HIT! THEY NEED YOUR PRAYERS!--->xOxO
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ok, so the thing is I really really like this guy, but I found out yesterday that he is going out with another girl.0o0o and the girl that he is going out with, I really hate!!! So I decided to like someone else. He is really cute and everything too, but I jus found out today that he is going out with this girl that I hate even more than the other girl.Well, I still really like this guy!! And I think he likes me because he sits behind me in class sometimes and he talks to me alot(sometimes) and I really like him! What do I do?? I think I am going to try to make him jealous by going out with some one else or flirting with other guys. But I just really like him and I think he likes me but if he did ask me out, I would have to deal with all the crap the girl he went out with.......yanno?? like say the girl he goes out with now dumps him or he dumps her and she finds out that i go out with him( if i ever do).She would probably try to rewin my life right?? So what do I do??!?!? I mean I REALLY like this kid. So please please help me !!
signed-
I REALLY like him!
dear - i REALLY like him &Hearts; first i want you to know i know how you feel, but the guy i like isnt going out with someone..just [i think] crushing on this girl whos my friend, which is weird. anyone..dont try to flirt with other guys because that could tell him you dont like him. save the flirting for him. keep on talking, let him get to know you. maybe exchange numbers? just let him know you LIKE him and that you would WANT to go out with him in the future. dont worry about the girls, if you go out with this boy. you could always just say "look, he dumped you for me" or "you dumped him. get over it." depending on the situation. hope i helped.
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---xOxO Alexxa ♥
ok so there's this guy who i've liked for over a month now [i know not long]. i just came out of getting over this other guy i liked for almost 2 years because i'm going to a different school next year, & he also hated me for liking him. we're friends...sorta. he went to this camp with me & we talked a lot & stuff & i even got his s/n & had a convo with him 3 hours straight. i talk to him still, but it just seems like the convo's die down more & more. i really want to know if he likes me, although i doubt it. i don't want to tell him // wait to tell him. i don't want to write a note or flirt with him. i don't want a friend to ask him. he'll be at my new school next year & i'll get to talk to him & stuff, but we're not in the same grade, so i won't see him THAT much. talking to him online lately has been kind of...awkward because we both have nothing to talk about so i keep saying random things that are sorta long. then there are long pauses & stuff. i know a lot about him, so you can't call me shallow & say i barely know him. i`ve also liked other people a really long time, enough to be in love, that i think anyways, so i don't know what this'll turn out to be. every guy i ever fell for has hated me in return, even if all i did was be nice to them. i don't want this to happen again. i want a boyfriend. no, rephrase that, i want HIM. this guy i have feelings for NOW. he's never had a girlfriend before [he's single now dur] but i just want to know if i have a chance with him so bad. i've never had a boyfriend before. maybe it's because i fall for the wrong guys. but i've never been liked by someone before either. ugh please help, what do i do? also besides being even closer to him & getting to know him EVEN MORE than i already do & making plans with him, cause that's a given. i`ll rate you if you want. thanks so much if you can help!
dear asker ♥ just talk to him a little more..tell him stuff about you..good stuff of course. let him get to know you a little more, get him to like you a little more. compliements are good too. just get up the strength and courage to be a little more you. obvisouly he likes something in you if you are friends so show him more of that side. i really hope i helped a bit.
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---> xOxO Alexxa ♥
Hey im 14 years old and about a month ago i made out with my best guyfriend. ever since then hes been avoiding me n when ever i ask him if he wants to go somewhere with me hes "busy". im not planning on doing anything like that with him again. what can i do to stop him from being so weird about everything?
im really frustrated
dear asker ♥ well this guy might just be a little nervous about whats happened, i mean he was one of your best friends and all. maybe he just wants to keep it at that...friends. just try talking to him, call him up and just start a normal conversation like as if nothing has happened, then just ask if something is wrong tell him he can confide in you. converation helps solves loads of different types of conflicts. hope i helped.
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--->xOxO Alexxa ♥
I'm going to try and sum it up. Me and this guy (Brandon) have been dating for about a year and 3 months and we have been having ALOT of problems lately. We have been fighting about everything. We always take breaks and never stick to them. It seems we never work out anything. We just have sex and the probelm goes away for about a day thin comes right back. I just don't know what to do. We just broke up the other day and had a big fight in the hallway, I was trying to hold him back from walking away and he grabed my arm and left a bruse. I know it should be over but I lost my viriginty to him and I am going Crazy without him. I know this relationship should be over, I just dont was to go through all the breaking up and being alone. What should I do? Ohh and by the way I met a 19 year old today (Im 16)at a concert and I was just drawn to him. I cant explain it we talked and I gave him my number. Oh I confused :-(
dear asker ♥ after dating brandon for a year and 3 months..of course you`ll be going crazy for a while but this feeling will go away. it`s just had to let go of something or, realize you don`t have it anymore, after having it for so long. think of all the advantages of being single carries..party like crazy, have flings, and be able to flirt with people. don`t worry you`ll be feeling better soon. hope i helped.
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---> xOxO Alexxa ♥
I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14, and he was 17. I'm 17 now, and he's 20. We always talk about getting married when I'm like 19-20, and I know it's what we both want, but I feel like my family would say I'm too young and that they'd be disappointed in me. But it's really what both of us want, we really love eachother. We know his family is cool with it, but why do I feel like mine wont be?
dear asker ♥ if its what both of you really want, try to explain that to your family..tell them that its really important to you. im sure after a while they`ll realize that you are really in love. his family is probably cool with it because he is the older one in the realationship. just don`t give up. hope i helped a bit.
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---> xOxO Alexxa ♥
Hey I dont have a question but you told me to tell you how it went with the senior dude and Im new at this so I dont know how to leave you a message on your inbox so yeah if you want to help me with that that would be greeat.I called him and it was busy so I will try again later.Thanks for all your help and I will def.call you if I need anymore advice.You can do the same also!!
~Ariel~
dear ariel♥ thats great! i hope everything works out ..and you can`t leave messages the only thing you can do is tell the person to erase the question..well just remember to make sure he knows you two just want to be friends. =]
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---> xOxO Alexxa ♥
Ok there is this senior in my art class and I know him from our mothers because they work together.By the way I am a senior.I told my mom I think he likes me because of the way he acts around me and she said dont even try it.I wouldnt anyway because I only like him as a friend.Then on Friday he gave me his number and said call me if you want to hang out.I dont want to be mean but I want to hang out with him but I am afraid he will ask me out and I dont want to so does anyone know what I should if he does??Ill rate high for any answer
dear asker♥ go and hang out with him, try to go somewhere that isn`t exactely "romantic" and maybe bring some friends along with you. you shouldn`t not hang out with him because you`re afraid he might make a move. hope i helped a bit.
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okay well i just got out of a relationship. and i like this other guy a lot. but he is taken .. and his girlfriend is one of my best friends. he also a very good friend. I am afraid if we did go out it would be weird. He alwayz tells me how he feels like he is getting distant from his girlfriend though. But everytime him and I get closer he mentions her. It seems like he has feelings for me too but is trying to convince himself he doesn't. what should i do ?
dear asker♥ well if she is your best friend, don`t get too close yet. and yes, it does sound like he has feelings for you. maybe he just needs some time to sort all those feelings out. why don`t you try to help him through this, let him know you care. i`m sure he would be very grateful and maybe he`d realize he likes you. hope i helped a bit.
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I have a crush on a boy. My friends tell me I should leave a rose in his locker. Do boys like stuff like that?
dear asker♥ some boys love to get complimeants and they adore finding out someone likes them..it boasts their confidence. others might think its coming off too strong. try talking to him first..let him know you like him after you`ve talked and he knows you like him..putting a rose in his locker would be a very sweet compliement to him, just make sure he knows its from you.
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--->xOxO Alexxa♥
ok well..i was wondering if u can help on something ...well im going out with this guy who i relle like but is the total opisite of me because he's like gangster and stuff and im not and everyone thinks that im gross for going out with him and they will always be like eww him hes ugly that kid and it gets really annoying and it makes me not want to be with him and dump him because everyone keeps bothering me over it and i dont no what to do ..do you know?
dear asker♥ dont listen to everybody else, they`ll always say stuff whether negivtive or postive, you can`t stop them. the one bit of advise that i can give you is to listen to your heart, not them. if you like him..why dump him because others don`t? are they going out with him? no, you are so it`s your voice that matters. if you don`t like him, i mean you really don`t like him[not because of what everyone says] then dump him, by all means. but really, you shouldn`t listen to everybody because its not about them. its about YOU & HIM. hope i helped. feel free to ask me questions whenever you please.
lyls xOxO; Alexxa♥
my friends gf broke up with him and hes really depressed and shes such a bitch to him was and still is im like forget about her u can do some much better hes like no i cant! im like watever yea u can i dont knw wat to tell him
dear asker♥ i suggest you try to get him out a little more, show him he can do better..seeing is believing. he sounds like he won`t get better till he`s got someone new in his life [his much better]. well i hope i helped somewhat. feel free to ask me a question anytime.
xOxO; Alexxa♥
i really like this guy and i cant tell him.. how should i be able to tell him how i feel without scaring him away?
dear asker♥ as long as this person isn`t dating anyone i doubt he`d be scared away to know someone likes him..but just in case..try to become "friends" with him, you know hang out with him and talk about stuff you can talk about with your "best friends" if he wants to be friends with you..just tell him how you feel, i`m sure he wouldn`t be scraed away if you are friends. hope i helped.
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Whats a good way to impress a guy? I need details people i rate high.
Dear Asker, to impress a guy..find out what he likes try to show interests in his favorite things such as his fav sport fav show fav football player..those types of things..then get prepared [go and make sure you know enough about what he like to have a conversation with him] then just talk to him, bring up some of his fav topics. other than that.. just be yourself! hope i helped a bit! xOxO-->Alexxa [♥]
What exactly is flirting? How do you flirt? How can you tell if someone's flirting with you? I'm 14/f, and I'm a real nerd so I don't know what goes on around.
Dear Asker, Flirting is when you get guys attentions by doing something that turns them on. Such as batting your eyelashes, giggling a lot, complementing the guy, and "hanging" on to the guy [always around him]. Most of the time it`s sort of obvisous if someone is flirting with you because you see that they are trying to get your attention. If someone is flirtinf with you you will most likely know from what I described flirting was above. Hope I helped somewhat. xOxO-->Alexxa [♥]
I really hate being single...but i am kinda nervous and scared to ask someone out..
Does you have any tips on how i can get over this.
PLEASE HELP!
Dear Asker, the only tips I would have are think oof the advantages of being single..[*] you can always say yes if someone asks you out [*] you dont have that "responsibility" of being with someone..you can party your ass off if you feel like it and go crazy and have some fun with the boys without getting in "trouble" think of those things..eventually you`ll get over this feeling. Hope i helped a bit. xOxO-->Alexxa [♥]
ok sry this is so long but i need help
i went out with this one guy for like 2 years and he was my first kiss, first make out and everything and i broke it off with him about 2 months ago
well i have a new boyfriend now and im crazy about him but i still kinda have feelings for my ex-boyfriend i told my friends about it and they said it was normal to not forget ur first love they said what iwas feeling was just memories and
i dont have real feelings for him anymore??
r they right what do u guyz think???
i'll rate high!
Dear Asker, I think their advise is excellent. It is normal to have feelings toward someone who you liked for so long, I'm not sure if you have real feelings for him or not, just wait a while [say about 2 more months]if you still have feelings towrd your ex..it might be real but also realize that those feelings may just be friendly feelings, like you care about him. I hope I helped somewhat. xOxO-->Alexxa [♥]
I do like him i just don't know if i really wanna go out with him. i will give it time,but i am still afraid to hurt him
HD
Dear HD, in your case...the best thing you can do is tell you him straight up that you really dont want to go out with him..it wont be as bad as if you play it up for a long time then break his heart..Best wishes and keep me updated. lyls; xOxO-->Alexxa[♥]
my boyfriend and i have been dating for a month r two now, and when i first started going out with him, i didnt like him that much. but now i like him a lot of course, thats why im still with him. well we never do anything, only a little kiss here or there, i know with school and all its hard to hang out a lot but we usually chill every weekend but nothing. im not upset because i like him a lot, but what is wrong? what can i do to get a little more??
Dear Asker, Have you ever thought he might be shy? Well, thats usually it with guys, I cant tell you how many times this question pops up. But its a great questions because so many people want to know.
One thing I can recommend you do is whenever you are together, try to show him a little more love. Just like, kiss him now and then out of the clear blue. And you never know, maybe he'll loosen up a bit. Best wishes. xOxO --> Alexxa [♥]
is it wrong for a 13M to have been never been kissed.
Dear Asker,
No, it's perfectly normal.
xOxO--> Alexxa [♥]
I've only had one boyfriend, and i dont know why. Everyone says i have this great personality, and that i'm really pretty, and that of course guys like me but their just to shy to ask me out and stuff. But i dont know what to belive. So, i guess what my question is, is how do you tell if a guy likes you. Because i'm friends with alot of guys, and some act diffrent then others. So, what should i do????
I rate high for non-jackass answers!
~Melissa~
Dear Melissa,
Most guys are shy around girls; hard to believe but behind most of those funny + tough personality's of theirs, they are really shy and dont ask the girl the like out unless they are sure she likes them back..of course, not all guys are like this for those who are shy here is my advice:
- Give them the idea you like them, so they aren't afraid to ask you out.
- Ask a close friend to talk to them and see if they like you then have her give you the scoop.
- Also, shy guys seem to watch you when your not looking, say in class..he stares at you with a daydream face on.
For those guys who aren't shy:
- They will give you the idea they like you, a wink, hugs, they wont be afraid to show it.
- He'll probably just flat out ask you out.
I hope I helped you a bit. Best luck to you.
xOxO--> Alexxa [♥]