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Sk8terbabe019
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Hey, i really like this boy and he's always hitting on me and my feiend gets kinda jeluos nd he starts like...teasing us then he'll end up sain he wants us in bed and i et soo confussed i have like no clue what to and AND i have a really big cush on this other boy to and he has a girl friend and he i always like...flirting with me and like..touching my butt and AHH its soo confusing i have like no one to help me with that cause they alwys say " tell them you like them" like that gunna help...soo please help mee! :(
Emali-* (link)
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When someone says they want you in bed they are probably kidding, but if they weren't then thats kind of weird. I mean if you like them.... and your ready to have sex you can. It depends if your ready or whatever. Your crush flirts with you, and stuff then just think if you were going out with him would you like him to do that to another girl, because chances are he will. I mean just think about it. Drop another questin if you need to!
Hope I helped!
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okay... i really like this one guy... but whenever i talk to him .. i dont know what to talk about!! i need good things to talk about!!! anything!!...helppp! (link)
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heh.. been there
-WHat your fav. band?
-What the saddest movie you've ever seen?
-Whats you fav.. food?
etc... just keep up the convo.
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ok my bestest friend the world ((lets call her D)) is going out w/ one of my Really close guy friends ((lets call him C)) and yesterday, D was talking to one of C's friends, let's call him J..and D said "if you tell me what C's getting me for christmas, i'll do Anything" and after awhile of persauding, J asked to makeout. and then eventually D and J both admited they had feelings for eachother. and they were all like planning where and when they were gonna do it. and J never even told her what C got her! and then D said to J "i think i'm just gonna dump C after all this, bc i like you more" so my question is, should i tell C..me and him are Really Really close..but on the other hand D is my BESTfriend and she'd get mad if i told him..ahhh helpppp I RATE HIGH!!! (link)
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depnds.. I think you like C. it depends who youd rather be friends with
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hey i'm goin out with this boy named Orlando and we've been goin out for about 2 months and 2 weeks and i liked him alot for those 2 months but now im not sure if i do anymore...whenever we hang out its like we're friends, not more than that. I've had my friend Chris try to like tell him that i want to hold his hand and stuff and it still doesnt help. i'd get embarassed if i tried to talk to him so i'm not gonna try and talk to him. I kinda want to dump him because if we dont act like we're goin out and we just act like we're friends then i dont see a point in goin out...but i dont know how to tell him. i dont want every one to run up to me after i do it and say "omg you dumped him? why?" and "i cant believe you dumped him!!" and all that stuff...i'd feel totally bad. What should i do? dump him? and if i do dump him how should i say it? (link)
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Dump him..... and say I dont like you like that anymore, I hope that a cow jumps over a moon... thats when I would go out with you again.
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well i like this guy...and i guess he sorta likes me... like a little bit... i want him to like me enough to go out with me...how do i do that? how do i tell him i like him? how do i get him to like me moore!! i need hellpp!! (link)
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you say I like you.. Duh, or maybe he's gay?
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okay so i always fall for the "bad boys" but this time i like one of my old best friends, but the problem is he is a jerk, unreliable, and a stoner..... and like i dont know what to do, because we dont talk all that much anymore b/c he has a different group of friends than i do.. he liked me all of last year but i always said no when he asked me out because i didnt agree with him about the whole drug thing, and now i've realised that i liked him the whole time and still do and hes found another girlfriend and im just like.... sad. iono. should i tell him how i feel or not? i dont want to ruin his relationship.. sorry if thats kind of long (link)
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stone with him. you'll feel better
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ok i have a boyfriend that i am in love with but when he is around his friends he acts like we are not even going out. i love him and i know he feels the same way and i dont want to break up so what can i do? (link)
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break up, he's really in love with his friends. sorry try again.
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I found this site and i need a little advice. My friend is gay and i am not sure if i am or not. We feel each other a lot and kiss every now and then. The only problem is that i don't want to be gay. What can i do. (link)
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touch each other some more, and shhh i wont tell anyone... Send me pics every now and then.. I promise I won't tell about you and niall I will keep it seceret.. I love gay men.. Tell me this.. do you have more comfort with guys or girls. It should tell you what to do...
Lol MIchael... hehe
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my boyfriend of 9months has recently started smoking weed and hes always telling me how his parents dont trust him now because they are so suspicious that he smokes. and whenever he asks them if he can come to my house they say no because they dont even trust him. i love my boyfriend to death i just hate that he smokes. he doesnt try to make me smoke or nothing, but its soo dangerous and he knows i dont like it and he doesnt do it around me or nothing..but he talks about it and it just like kills me to know he is hurting himself...i tryed talking to him about it...what can i do? (link)
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Drugs rule~! I love drugs, and its okay sometimes, allow him to use them, it gets you happy and you guys could have.. well you know.
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How long would you be willing to date someone before you either left or proposed marriage to them? You being a 30 something female he being a late 30 something male. (link)
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Depends on how attracted you are to him, or how long you need to stay with him for the positive knowing thats hes the best for the rest of your life. I mean you know, when you know!
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How do you know when your in love? (link)
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Well, I knew when you feel the magic, like you could deal with this guy for the rest of your life. When you know this is the one, you know it!
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ok, there is this guy. hes in 9th grade. hes so cute and doesnt have a bf. one of my best friends that knows him bout as well as i do says that he likes me. i still dont think so. ive been crushin on him for almost a year. i started noticing that he looks at me a lot. what do i do?
signed
*deeply troubled* (link)
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Deeply Troubled,
Go up and start a convo with him. If he knows who you are it shouldn't be a problem. You can take a risk, because thats what lifes about. So go up to him. lol.
Love,
Helping_you
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alright well theres this boy named ted..I've been going out with him sence august 6th and like in october he broke up with me and I brok eup with him altogether around 3 or 4 times and all those times we'ver gotten back together..but wednesday he broke up with me because he liked two other people..alina and tara..well alina has a boyfriend and her boyfriend is teds best friend..so he wouldn't get her.. tara is one of my best friends so she wont go out with him because she thinks hes a horrible boyfriend from what he did to me..and becasue she doesn't like him like that and also because hes the kind of boy that likes to be really close with there girlfriends and like make-out and stuff like that and she doesn't like that..so neither alina or tara like him..my friend britney was talking to him today and last night we had a schol dance and he was like staring at me and stuff..and she asked him if he still liked me and he said i dunno and stuff like that and then he asked me to call this girl taylor for him and I think it was so he could ask her out but I'm not sure..it might be that or it might be because she brok eup with her boyfriend yesterday and ted adn her ex are good friends so it might be for him..but I'm just not ready to let go..I'm scared that would be our last time going out..I like him soo much..like I would do anything for him..I know I sound pathitic but its true..I'm scared that if I dont get him back I might do something to myself because he was like my life..so my question is how to get him back..I dont wanna hurt myself because I've done it before but not for that reason...and I really need him back but I dunno how to .. please help..I'll rate high
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Dear not ready let go.
He seems like someone who is influenced by his pants not his heart. Whatever you do don't go back to him. He is obiviously to immature to handle a girlfriend on a physicial and mental level. Look for someone else who is more understanding and likes you for you, and not because you'll make out with him. Don't do anything to yourself, because he's totally not worth it. Just hang in there. Look for god in yourself, and wait for the right guy.
Good LUck!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, and are head over heals for eachother presently. The only problem is that I see him for a week every 3 months or so... its enough to drive a person crazy... he lives so far away, and now that I'm at college things are really hard... dumping him isn't an option, because we are that close, and its the closest thing to I've every felt if not love itself... I just don't know how to deal sometimes, its so frustrating not being able to see him, and to touch him... basically what I'm asking, is does anyone know of anyway to make this any easier till we can be together again... thanks (I will rate) (link)
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Well, I was once on the end of a long-distance relationship and it was hard for me too; What I did was wrote him a letter ever time I thought about him and sometimes I sent it sometimes I didn't. I also called him alot, and emailed. It really worked, because I would spill to him in the letters even if I didn't send it. So yeah.
hope I helped...
helping_you
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i am 13 and i have a boyfriend. i was at a football game tonight but my boyfriend wasnt there. These other guys were there, and i found out that they liked me. it was like 4 guys. it was really cold out and i was doing anything to get warm, even if it meant that i had to hold one of the guys hands. we went into the parking lot, well kinda parking lot, and all the guys except one were touching me and hugging me and stuff. i feel guilty about hurting my boyfriend's feelings, even though he doesnt know about it yet. Did i cheat on him, and should i or shouldnt i tell him about it? Im afraid that if i tell him that he would break up with me, plus all the guys and i promised we wouldnt tell him about it....WHAT SHOULD I DO?
signed,
~*~dazed and confused~*~ (link)
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Dear Dazed and Confused,
It was wrong of you to do that. YEah, you were chearting. You should tell him the cold hard truth, don't exaggerate. Tell them that you don't have any feelings for them (you don't do you?) If he doesn't accept, maybe you should go for one of the parking lot guys. lol.
Sincerely,
Helping_you
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my ex bfs brother really likes me and wants me to go out with him (lets call him mike) and so does my friends ex bf and hes rlly nice. but i really miss mikes brother and i couldnt stand 2 c him knowing that i miss his brother (lets call his brother bob) and so i miss bob and like mike but hes three and a half yrs older than i am too... and this other guy whos in my english class really likes me 2 (josh) and i dont want to upset any guys or get myself hurt again bc bob really hurt me, its been about 3 months since i went out with anyone bc i miss bob but im way too good 4 him but still cant resist liking him... what should i do?? (link)
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I think you should go out with Mike. Josh should realize you guys can just be friends. Plus Bob is gone, and it's time to move on. Forget him! If you want to go out with mike, do so! Plus, Josh is your friends x, and woould you like it if your friend went out with bob? okay I hope I helped ya!
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hey yall, me and my X just broke up about a month ago.. i already have a new boyfriend, but i dont know if i really like him or just trying to get over my X. me and my X only went out for about 4 months, but the love we had for each other was amazing. but now me and my X arent on good terms and he blocked all my screen names and is talkin shit about me to all my friends. i just wanna let him know that i care but he takes it as being obsessive...but i know im not obsessed..i just miss him..how can he go to lovign me so much to hating me so much?? i mean, he knew my AIM password and deleted my whole list and it was the same as my email password..i guess he just guessed it was...and he changed it! why is he doing this?? (link)
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He's doing this because he's a loser or he's just as sad as you are. I guess you broke up for some reason. Well, your current boyfriend may not be right for you. Hey just go out with people who you care for and they care for just as much as you do.
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relationships never seem to work out...
the guys that like me are the ones i would rather avoid...
but the guys i like see me only as a good female friends.
what should i do? (link)
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I think that you should be even better friends with the ones that you like, because guys like you better when you know them. I think that once you get better friends they will notice whats been under there noses all along. Also, you shoud give the ones that like you a chance. You never know! One of them could be a great person, just right for you! Just give them a chance! If you are thinking that other people might think of you badly if you go out with some of these people, who cares? If you like him, and your happy thats all that matters!
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ok i like this kid who is on the same sports team as me and its an all yr sports team n i wnat 2 tell him that i like so taht we could hopefully take our firnedship 2 the next level but im afraid taht if i tell him i liek him n taht he doesnt liek me back than things would b awkward n since its a whole yr team idk wut 2 do i need ur guys'z help wut should i do?!? (link)
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Ok... Well, I think you should tell him no matter what. If he doesn't like you then really talk to him about it so it doesn't get awkward. Tell him how you feel is not going to get in the way of your friendship and you hope that it won't change anything if he doesn't like you back. If he does then you've done good, and it all works out. If he doesn't like you, and you telll him all of the stuff, and he still acts awkward, then he's being stupid, and isn't worth liking anyways. Sometimes in life you just have to take risks, and hope for the best. You learn from the results, and it helps you become a better person in life.
Sincerely
helping_you
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