Q: Today, my boyfriend and I decided to not have sex anymore for many reasons! I'm happy for us and think it will better our relationship! =)

I asked him to dinner for tomorrow. I am going to give him a card, write in it AND something that will show our new promise. It feels like a new beginning and I want to give him something.
No rings because he does not wear them, it seems femininine, (I can't spell it! hahaha!) and it would seem like I was proposing in a way (even though I kind of want to! wink wink! haha). No necklace either.
I just want it to be something that lasts, maybe he can wear it, see it everyday, something! I really don't know! Thanks for the help in advance!

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and he dumped me today april 20th and im really sad :(..OK so it was lunch time i was staring at him so he and my friends were together but i was with some other girls. nd then i look at him and there was like this heart cookie or sumthing and he broke it in half. my friends brought me to the bathroom and they told me he had broken up with me. i litterly bursted into tears. an my friend dared me to kiss some boy in the cheek i did it and he was there (the boy i was datting) nd he saw. but someone made him dump me cause they told him i was using him.. i dont knoe what to do he told me he still loved me but idk :(..but i wasnt using him and i knoe it was wrong for actually kissin david but it was on the cheek now i dont knoe what to do.. :[
advice plase
melly| female

Q: Hey there:

Sometimes there are girls that I want to date no matter of what religion they are in and there are other times that I only want to date someone who is catholic which is what I am. In this question, I'm kinda asking for advice on this matter and would like your personal opinions as well. What do you think of the idea of dating someone who isn't the same religion as you? What are the advantages and disadvantages of it?

Q: Alright so this was 2 months ago, me (15/f) and my basically almost boyfriend (16/m) were at a hockey game for our highschool, and after it he said he was staying at a friends house, well i got a weird feeling but i trusted him. The next day after my basketball game, i get a text from his friend saying its coming directly from my boyfriend that he made out with a nother girl, but he was super drunk. I hear different things all the time, it was his fault, it was the girls, it was his friends fault, but it still makes me feel terrible and ugly and useless and makes me want to vomit just thinking about it. And when i do think about it, i just wanna cry and get mad at my boyfriend cause it bugs me. I could never do something like that to him, drunk or sober. I know he's really sorry but sometimes i wonder if i was stupid enough to forgive him. I know he cares about me like crazy and said he would never do anything like that again. But i just can't get the thought out of my head like i go crazy thinking about it. Blah i just wish it would have never happened, life would be easier, any ideas would help, i apologize that it's long:/

Q: How do lesbians (or bisexual women) find other fellow lesbians? I have no "gay-dar" when it comes to women (men are pretty simple), how can I tell without asking so I don't come off as rude or disrespectful. I think I may be bisexual, but I don't know for certain because I've never had any experience with women before. I would like to find someone to talk to (not necessarily to pursue a relationship, but to consult and share experiences and advice). I am NOT willing to go to a gay club, I'm just looking for a way to approach someone about this.

Oh, and no one knows I may be bisexual, and I don't plan to come out anytime soon if I am. At this point in my life, I want to explore this part of me further, but I don't have anyone to talk to (I don't know any out of the closet gays, at least not well enough to come up to them and talk to them).

I am 18 and female.

Q: This moring i woke up from my cell phone cause it rang. i pick it up and it was a text message from a friend of mind. she send me a message that read:
"hahahaha your a dork"
I reply "geeek"
we kept sending insulting comments back to each other. till i ask her why was she sending me these texts.
"boredom" she reply
"YOU WOKE ME UP CAUSE YOU WERE BORED! your going 2 get it!" I reply
"thank you thankyou" she reply
"thank you for what?"
"4 saying im going to get it" she reply
then she send a message that she had something for me i reply with a joke "what my soul?"
she said Im not getting that back.

I know it sounds like kiddish game playing but we always do this to each other. I tell her that she is evil and she gets happy about that even when i say to her i hate you.

So is that a form of flirting or playing around?
she send me anthoer text that she was bored in class i reply "I wish i was there, but you might kill me hehehe" "sooo sweet" she reply

it might be nothing but what do you all think?

Q: my boyfriend said he had to go and that he loved me and i didn't want him to leave and i told him if he left i would dump him. he still signed off, and i dumped him on the phone. and then i called him again and he hung up on me.

who did the wrong thing? me or him? did i over react because he had to go? or was it him?

=/ i feel like crap. i think i overeacted

how can i tell him how much he means to me?

Q: 19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?

Q: Okay well like i have dated before and i alwais end up dumping him evn if i really like him. I have to admit i'm a BIG FLIRT and they guys flirt back but then when were together i feel fine then when he's gone i think about dumping him should i be with him does he love me and all the concerns and then i end up dumping him. What is wrong with me? How can i stop this? IT'S RUINING MY RELATIONSHIPS!!!!!!!!!

-Thanks
-Ashliiee

Q: ok heres the thing i went to the movies 2 with this kid john ill call him and well he asked me to go to the movies but he never paid or anything and he is mad shy but the thing is he is annoying and stupid but i like him in a way and he is forever talking about his ex how he hates her and shit i guess what im trying to say is hes not so shy when he texts me but in person hes is and i dont know if i like him im thinking of only being friends with him because i dont know if theres anything else there but i was wondering should i get ride of him or should i try to work out my committment problems with him but i really dont think were compatible and maybe im to much for him to handle but i dont know how to break it to him if i do hes the kind of person who will talk a lot of shit and who is not so forgiving please help if you can im sorry if its confusing its confusing me

Q: 16-female

i like this guy ..he is in 8th grade and im in 11th so in age there is like only a two year difference but i still think its awkward. but nobody really knows but i think he gets the idea because on the phone i was like why are you going out with this girl you could do so much better!! and hes like well who else am i gonna go out with? and im like ME!!! and hes like alright when i break up with her i'll see! so he might ask me out sometimes and i would really want to go out with him but i always hear people talking like oh my god i think it makes girls look bad if they go out with younger guys and all this and my cousin is the same age as me and was talking about another 8th grader she thought was hot and her mom was like OOHHH GODD! thats pathetic, he is so much younger than you!! and all this and i was just thinking oh jeeze this is great. im scared of what people will say but i really wanna go out with him but i would be embarassed if people found out, not embarassed of him but just our age difference. i just dont know what to do!!

Q: okay my boyfriend cheated on me multiple times.
i really need to get back at him. how can i
make him really jealous or heartbroken?

and trust me when i say this.. HE DESERVES THIS
i know that revenge isn't good but sometimes
there is exceptions. dont start lecturning me
because i wont listen. k thanks

Q: 17/f
Last year I was head over heels for a friend of mine, let's call him John. We don't know each other too well but we had classes together and would talk through IM and stuff. I fell in complete love with him and it took me the better part of a year to get over him.

Since I've gotten over him, we've stayed friends, dated some people, etc... Now I'm single, and have been for a while.

I think I may be falling for him again. He told me last year he doesn't think of me that way, but we talk almost every night on IM about personal things and we can really open up to each other.

What do I do? I don't want to have to go through the heart break over John again.. after finally shedding these emotions.

He drives me crazy. I need help...

P.S. we've been talking about hanging out together outside of school, too. Any advice so I don't come on too strong for him? thanks.

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