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Hi my name is Alex. Im 17 and going to be a Senior in high school. I am extremely outgoing and spirited. i love to laugh, smile, and have a great time. i am a huge sports fanatic. my friends tell me a lot cuz im a great listener as well as an advice giver, especially on love, family, and friends. hope my advice can affect you in some way :)

advice

first of all i am sorry if this is long. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and i love him with all my heart. But recently i get a call out of nowhere from this guy that i had a huge crush on when we were younger (i moved away so thats why nothing ever happened between us). So he calls and asks if i wanna hang out with him one day... so i did. Ok i havent seen this kid for about 11 years but when we spent the day together i dont know what happened but i really started to like him again (and i know he likes me he always has). Him and my boyfriend are two completely different people i find that when im with both of them i myself am two different people but i kinda like who i am better with the other guy. So i did the smart thing and the next day i told my bf about my feelings for this other guy and of course he was heartbroken and we broke up... for about an hour... then we got back together. Only the thing is the only reason i took him back was cuz i saw how hurt he was and i felt bad for him. I do really still love him but i dont know if i really wanna continue this relationship but i don't want to hurt him anymore...How do i do it?

staying with him is not the best idea. you like this other guy. you need to think of your happiness in this situation be4 you think of the guy. its you that you hafta live with not them. if you rlly like the long lost guy then go out with him. dont settle for something that doesnt give you butterflies all the time .

keep me posted

hope this helped :)

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(13,female) ok so me and this kid were going out for 4 months and we're at 2 different schools but then he dumped me and said it was because we don't see eachother a lot but then i found out it was really for another girl...but then after a few months we went back out and hes asked me to makeout with him before but i'm kinda scared to cuz i don't want to mess up or anything i mean i'm going into 8th grade and a lot of kids makeout but like idk i'm just kinda nervous...i mean should i just makeout and hope i don't mess up or just wait..?

like the person below me said ... dont rush into nething. plus he dumped you for another girl be4 y do you think he came back ?!?! its prolly cuz he just wants to use you. dont fall for that trap ... dont do nething you dont want to do

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My ex-boyfriend and I told eachother that we liked eachother a couple weeks ago, and since then we havent really hung out or anything. Which is weird cuz we were best friends b4 and after we went out. Is there any place i could ask him to go with me that wont really seem like a date, just a friends thing because we're "waiting" to go out again?

go with a group of friends ... that seems like it would work. go to the mall .. thats not a date place ... just a hangout place ..

keep me posted

hope i helped :)

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What makes a girl a good kisser. Like if you were gonna make out with a girl who has never made out with anyone...what would you tell her to do? and please don't say follow the guys lead. thanks

i found a great website for you .... i have refered it to many ppl in the past . .

http://www.datingclass.com/dennis/how-to-begin-kissing.shtml

it will explain everything.

hope it helped :)

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ok i need some major help... there are 2 guys both are friends but i didnt know before this happen. well guy 1 we talked over the computer alot but we never really met but we go to the same school. well we started to like eachother and what not but he left on vacation. and while he was gone i had summer school and ran into a guy i use to talk to during the year guy 2. well turns out that guy 2 likes me and now we are going out. well guy 2 isnt the guy i really want to be with i think at the time i was was just caught up in the moment and said yes. like guy 2 is already saying the L word and i just dont want to get into that right now i dont even really want to be with him i want to be with guy 1 well anyway guy 1 comes back find out im with guy 2 and now everything is just messed up.. i want to break it off with guy 2 but i dont know how to tell him hes crazy about me. like for the last 6 days we have been going out we have hung out and im getting tired of it because we dont need to see eachother every day but he says we do because we are going out. everything about him just kinda annoys me. how should i break it to him.. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

you need to tell him that your not on the same page. that they way he feels for you is not the way you feel for him ...

then you need to tell guy 1 what you told us. if he likes you then he will understand

keep me posted :)

hope i helped

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I have a guy friend and I think I like him... as more than a friend. What should I do? I don't know how to react around him.

Please!

dont change dramatically how you are when your just his friend ... just start throwing flirting signals. touch him more often like on the arm or shoulder. start wanting to spend more time with him. start calling him ever so often. but dont over do ne of it. he might get scared that your obsessed ..

keep me posted with how it goes :)

hope i helped

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My friend is throwing a party and invited my crush. The thing is my friend said that I have to tell my crush by the end of the party that I like him or she will. I know I have to tell him I just don't want to deal with the potential heartbreak right now. Should I talk to my friend and hopefully convince her not to do it or just tell my crush? Oh and if I tell him his ex is probably gonna be close by since she's invited too... I rate high for good advice! Thanks!

you make a deal with your friend. tell you friend thats hosting the party that you will hang out with him most of the time at the party. throw some signals and see if he sends them back. if he does then NEXT time your with him you will consider telling him. see if they will buy it.

hope i helped :)

keep me posted

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alright, so i really like this guy named Gentry, and he is a grade olde rthan me, hes going to be a sohmore in HS. So he and this girl named alanna went out, and they are still reptty tight, but i hang out with gentry and im SOO confused if he likes me or not--its too hard to tell! he sends mixed signals liek alanna told me hes jsut shy though and its like okayy well when will he make a move!? maybe my hopea are too high, but its not likei will be sad if he doesnt like me, i just want to know if he likes me or not so i can just stop liking him! my birthdya is in 2 days, and i just wanna be with him...but i wanna move onto another guy! oh yeah and since hes shy shold i make the first move? what should i do?!!?

the first thing im going to tell you is that you contradicted yourself a lot ... but im going to answer all your questions .. kk

1)if you think hes throwing you signals he prolly is. but since hes a shy one that prolly not so distinct. so you are def. gonna need to be the "male" in this one and throw a major signal first.

2) if you rlly like him then y are you saying you want to move on. if you like him and he likes you hell come to you eventually . but if your just looking for a fling relationship shy guys arent rlly the ones who can provide you that all the time .

hope i helped :)

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Do you think it's wrong that I kissed my friends forehead? And do you think I should tell my boyfriend what happend?

to tell you the truth i would of done the same thing. saw my friend crying i would of hugged him and kissed him and told him it would be ok. i would of prolly kissed him on the cheek or forehead .

about your b/f. does your boyfriend understand things well ?!?!

answer back with that question

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I just started talking to this guy. I thought he was going to be ok to hang out with, but he knows I have a BF, and the other day he started to kiss me. It kinda my fault in a way though, he was crying so I hugged him and kissed his forehead. Then he stoped crying and started to kiss me. I dont know how to make him leave me alone, and im afraid he will bother me at school.

here's the dealio .... you confront your friend and tell him that you are loyal to your b/f and you want to continue that. tell him that the kiss on the forehead was a friends love ... you were not hitting on him. make sure he understands that.... hopefully he will catch the hint and leave it alone ... keep me updated with how he reacts :)

hope this helped

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im 21,but when comes to talking to boys im always blur.how can i attarct their attention?what kind of topics i can talk to them?

number one : be yourself.

if you like to rollerblade then talk about that. if you like to watch a sport then talk about that. if you like to watch tom cruise movies talk about that. be yourself and a guy will like you for you . believe me . eventually some guy will love your quarky ways, your emotions, and your personality.

so be patient be yourself and everything will come naturally believe me.

i used to think no guy would like me. but then i was myself, patient and some guy liked me for me. and now hes my b/f and we have the best relationship. if it could happen to me it could happen to you :)

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hey

my ex and i have gone through a lot and well i love him but he says im wasting my time trying i dont know what to do.should i just give up or should i keep trying

if he says your wasting your time then obviously he doesnt want to be with you nemore. you need to move on . im sure there are plenty of guys out there for you :) just be patient and be yourself

hope i helped

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my boyfriend's birthday isn't until september, but i want to put a lot of thought into his present. i have no idea what to get him. please give me as many ideas as you can. he is a huge sports freak, so it could have to do with sports maybe or anything else. thank you soo much.

well you can buy him something like a t-shirt, a hat, something small and then buy tickets to a sports game and take him as his gift. im sure he would love that. well i would if i was him :)

hope this helped :)

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I really like this guy and we met at work. We became close and we flirted a lot and emailed each other. I told him that I liked him and he was cool with it and said he just wanted to be friends. He has always kept his word. He started to act funny though and I don't know how to percieve it. He called me babe and turned around to see the expression I had on my face and had a great big grin on his face. When he told me he was getting another job I was happy for him as I think he deserves the best. Gave me a pix of himself that he took at 1am, and emailed me. Since then I haven't heard from him.Should I give up or give more time? F-40's

email him .. whats the worst that can happen? he doesnt answer back . if you dont attempt to keep in touch he wont ... and its not cuz hes not interested its cuz hes a guy. if he doesnt answer then oh well you tried. no regrets there :)

hope i helped

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I really think my life is worthless. I'm nothing special and i feel like such a waste. The only person who i can talk to, who keeps me going, who i have spent 3 years of my life being dedicated to, and loving .. could care less about me. I

f i can't have him i don't want any body else. I feel no point in living. I truely love him and he's the only reason i get up in the morning. I feel like just ending my life now, but i could no way do it, and i would never. This sounds immature and child-ish. But it's not. My feelings will never change.

What can i do to make everything better?

dont say that your feeling will never change cuz they will. eventually some amazing person will step into your life .... so dont think your life ends here cuz it doesnt. be optomistic. you only have one life to live . dont waste it on someone who doesnt care about you. they dont deserve you.

hope this helped :)

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My boyfriend just imed another girl and told her she was cute. Now he told me it was because he was trying to get her to break up with her boyfriend who was a jerk. WTF? Now hes saying he loves me sooo much. What should i do?

i dont think it means anything honestly. i kno my guy friends who have girl friends will tell me im cute but are madly in love with their g/f's . i dont think it means nething. if it happens again with the same girl then talk to him .. but if it doesnt i think you should just let it blow over. he could be actually telling the truth .. just give him a chance :)

hope this helped :)

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me and this guy are sorta together... but not bf/gf... weve done some stuff together... and we hang out a lot, but recently hes been making a lot of excuses not to... but how can i tell if im being used... guys points of view too please!! thanks

well if your doing stuff and he doesnt want a relationship he could just want to use you for sexual reasons. he could be one of those guys who just wanna do stuff and leave. which rlly sucks. all i can say is talk to him about it.

and in the future ... if you want to avoid situations like this ...dont do stuff with a guy whose not your b/f yet. some dumb guys will take advantage of that and just use you.

hope this helped :)

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i wasnt sure which category this should go in so i just put it in this one. anyways..does anybody know who to get a rid of nervousness? i have it really bad that i think im going to throw up!

i HAD the same problem ... but then 2 of my friends passed away in a car accident and i realized that i cant keep sitting back and watching life pass be4 my eyes. i need to go out there and do what i want. i cant be shy or nervous nemore. if i do then im gonna look back and regret it and its gonna hurt me in the end. so instead of contimplating calling the person you like call them. instead of sitting at home on a friday night cuz you didnt call your friend to hang out ... call them . if you wanna skydive... then skydive.

dont be nervous ... just try and get your mindset into you only live once .

i hope this helped :)

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so i was at the park last night with a couple boys and my best friend. well, this one guy named josh came and sat really close to me and then put his hat on my head. he pretty much only talked to me, and was the only person who'd let have some of his drink. when he left he gave me a hug for a couple minutes. we flirted a whole lot before he left. my best guy friend who was there and my best friend both think he likes me. i dont know what to think. could you help me?

let it all play out . if he likes you then next time you hang out he will flirt some more. let him make the first move. give him your number but let him call you first . see how that goes .

hope this helped :)

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I've liked this boy for a year now. Actually, loved him. We've gone out three times. The bad part is..hes NOT a good kid. He's done somethings waayyy out of the ordinary. But it seems even if he was mean to me or something, I'll always love him. All three times it didnt work out. He dumped his girlfriend because she didnt wanna go far with him and i told him that was rediculous. The thing is, when i talk to him sometimes he'll make me uncomfortable by saying its not him after i talk to him. If i tell him i still have a lot of feelings for him..he'll tell everyone and then maybe go out with me. Then everyone would hate me for it. I'm just so confused i really need help to get over him and stop thinking about him.

you hafta to keep remembering all the things that make him not worth you being with him. all the times hes made you sad or mad . if someone like that is making your life an emotional rollercoaster than you dont need him .

hope this helped :)

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