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Ok so I just recently broke up with my boyfriend but I am soo hurt and i want him back i did itonly to please my father and now he says i can date him..but he has this "i only date people once" rule which is really dumb cause i love him...WHAT DO I DO?!!!!!
make sure he knows why you broke-up with him before. if he said that to you that means he is hurting, too, so don't give-up just yet. try to talk to him and see if you can get to be great freinds. then work for something more. if he doesn't budge, though, you have to let him go.
Me and this guy i really liked just broke up awhile ago and he said that he thought we should just be friends and stuff well it hurt but i was being a good player and put a smile on my face we talked on the fone a couple times but then when we hung out it got all weird i wanted to put my arms around him and stuff like i use to but i couldnt cuz we werent going out he just kinda chilled with everyone else..i still like him i cant get my mind off him i want to still be together i dont know if i should talk to him about it and tell him how im feeling and see if we can try again or just move on. can someone please help me!
you must tell him! if you are still good freinds, he will understand. if he doesn't understand or he makes the scene awkward, then he doesn't deserve your freindship. go out with someone else to get your mind off him and see if later on you can be together again, but if he won't budge, then he's not worth your time.
I have got a friend, David, and I like him more than a friend. I reeeeally like him. ALOT. I was windering, how can I get him to like me too? Oh yeah and he said that he likes one of my friends but he doesnt act like it, it doesnt look like he likes her. Is there any signals on how I can find out if he likes me more than a friend? How can I get him to like me more than a friend?
when you turn around, sneekily see if he is staring at you, see if he tries to get closer to you when he talks with his freinds, see if he picks you out of your group of freinds to talk to, see if he jumps over, says hi excitedly, or seems incredibly happy to see you when you walk up. check for these and you will know if he likes you. or you could ask him out and skip all the waiting.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. We tell eachother everything. The other day I was talking to one of our friends and he was saying that there was rumor that my bf kissed another girl. Should I ask him or should I leave it because I trust he wouldnt do that?
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you need to talk to him. if he says he did, you need to decide to get past it or not. but if he says he didn't you can move on as if nothing happened. this way, it won't be hanging over you for the rest of the year.
OK yeah well im 15 and a female, yesterday my b/f n i got caught by his mom...we weren't really having sex yet but our pants were off..and we were jsut kinda messing around..and then his mom walks in and then she jsut walked in to his room and called him then like 10 seconds later his little sister(13) comes in to the room n tells me i have to leave the whole way home i cried i was so nervos/scared now i really think they hate me (his mom n sister) and his sister n i were freinds b4 yesterday and yeah i know i should applogize but i really don't know what to say...any advice at all would be helpfull...please
i would just be truthful and add a couple things like "it was stupid" and "i made a misstake" but don't start telling or getting mad. if you feel like screaming or getting angry, find an excuse to leave. any yelling will make it worse. also, listen carefully to what they say to you. show them you are ready to listen and that you can keep cool during a tough situation.
I have this gigantic crush on this guy named bob, and i think he likes me too. But, theres also this other gut named billy who i also like.Now, i know for sure that billy likes me, he's even said so!I mean both guys are smart, funny, cute and nice, so who should i pick?
have you ever seen the show "boy meets world"? if not, then let me explain. in one episode, cori needs to choose between two girls. to do so, he took two bowls and jelly beans. he thought of each good quality and added a bean into the bowl for each quality, and took one away for negative qualities. at the end, he had an even # in both bowls, but he relized who had his true feelings. try this on your own with out anyone around. allow yourself to open up to how you truly feel.
I have officially met the love of my life.He treats me better than anyone ive ever known. he says he wants to take care of me for the rest of my life, and hes proven that in many ways. there are only two problems: 1. he has a girl living with him- they used to go out, but now theyre just sharing living quarters.hes moving soon, and shes not coming with.2.(the main issue, at hand)there is about 15 or 16 years between us, and i should probably mention that i am defintely not 18. its so hard to keep this a secret and lie to everyone around me, i hate it, but i love him so much. PLEASE give me an honest opinion on how you, personally would handle my situation. thanx for any advice you can give.
i would say don't go out with him. here are my reasons (most are probablies, not positives!):
1. he is older and could take advantage of you
2. he could hurt you deeply
3. he can lie to you more believablywith more expierience
4. he has more experience, wether god or bad
5. date other people untill you are old enough to be with him
ok, i have this friend, actually she is my girl friend, her name is kelly, and kelly is really good friends with amy. but amy is one of those people that her mom babies the HELL out of. and my mom keeps tellin me to try to stay away from those types of people cause in highschool and colage they are the ones who end up doing drugs-sex-alchohal (sp) ect... and i really want to keep kelly away from all that. But like i said, they are really good friends. i feel really bad for trying to break up their freindship, but i am affraid if kelly is exposed to all that, then she will too...im just really worried about her. should i go through with my plan to break them up (both friend wise and im posotive amy is atleast bi-if not completly a lesbien) or should i just try to ignore it and nothing will prolly happen. please help!
i don't think getting involved is the best idea. let them stay freinds. if kelly is brought to a decision like that, then hopefully she too will see how she should stay away from amy. if you get too involved, she may get uncomfortable and break-up w/ u. if u truly are worried about her and you are unsure if she will make the right decision, kindly confront her. if she does not accept it after you tell her, back-off of the subject. let her think about it.
~givinadvice
this is a really long story. to start out, were all 14, in 8th grade and catholic. well there its this couple (Anne&Bob). theres a girl(cat) whose a friend of ours...ive never really been able to stand her but i do to be nice. well Bob and i think thats Cat is hitting on Anne in a lesbian kind of way. shes always hugging on Anne (well on a lot of girls but now mostly her) and sitting on her lap and playing with her hair.shes kissed her on the cheek before but she never kissed her bf.. she dumped him last b/f for no appereant reason, shes constantly telling Anne that she loves her (anne thinks its just "sisterly" love) but basically, Bob and i have decided that she is bi but isnt going to come out anytime soon b/c her family is full of strict catholics...how should we/i approach Anne about this? Anne and Bobs relatioship is changing b/c anne feels like she needs space after being crowded by Cat all day long. they are good friends and Anne is one of those very emotional type people that is very concerned about being fair and looking at peoples feelings....i just dont want her to get into a situation like that and i doubt her bf would want her to either. btw, anne would never be gay...ive known her about twice as long as Cat. if you have any experience with this please help!
I think you need to confront Cat. if you can't get through to her, or she won't talk to you, or if she is just too anoying while you try to talk to her, talk to anne. tell her this is a=waht you have noticed. if anne thinks it is just sisterly-love and she won't listen to u, just sit back for a few days and let anne adjust to the thought. it may be shocking at first. also, don't bring it up again if she does not aprove of the idea. that could cause a fight. one last thing is that maybe anne likes the attention. or she could be very uncomfortable and be rying to cover it up.
My ex-boyfriend and I have remained friends for the past 2 1/2 years after we broke up. We haven't seen each other in 2 years. He lives many states away from me. A year ago, he started living with this girl and had a relationship with her. He broke up with her a couple of months ago. We made plans for me to visit him at the end of May. They got back together a week ago.
I mean, he still wants me to come too. He's still excited to see me. He said she's cool with it too. It's so painful to know he's back with her. But I want to see him, I need to see him.
I don't understand, when all he talked about was breaking up with her for months before he actually did it. He always told me he didn't want to be with her. And so now...? I mean, he told me he stayed with her for as long as he did because of her kid (from a previous relationship). He adores the kid. I think that's a big part of the reason he got back with her.
Is it hopeless for me to even want to be with him? I love him and I want this friendship more than anything. He really cares about his friendships and friends...and I'm a good friend to him...like a best friend...and I know he wants that. But how and why? Why not more? Does more ever come out of it?
Tell him how YOU feel. if he really loves you and not this other girl, he will understand where you ar coming from. you need to be open and make sure he knows that you want to be with him. if he already knows that and he is still with this other girl, he may be very confused right now and may be unsure of what to do. as a freind, you need to support him with whichever decision he makes. Set more trips to visit and be sure he sees how awsome you are. he needs to know you like him, and if he doesn't understand, no matter how hard, you have to move on.