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Q: Hi, I'm 17, female, and a kinda past love of mine is coming to visit soon, I haven't seen him in two years. While he's here I want to get him to fall in love with me? Any tips?

there's not much you can do. Just be a good friend and show him how your there, I think the only thing you have to remember is to not act or be a certain way to be liked by him, it might not end well and he might not like you once he realizes..

Q: Please tel the way to die?

This is ridiculous.. No one deserves to die plus everyone has a reason to live believe me I had suicidal thoughts and I never killed myself because something inside me always stoped me and realized theres a reason. Don't kill yourself :/

Q: Alright so I known this boy since 6th grade. I told him I liked him in 8th grade and also in 9th grade. We're in 10th grade now.. And we would seriously call each other every night. Text, facetime, snapchat, you name it. But these past few weeks have been different. I think it's because we just started school again & he may possibly like another girl. Him and I have study hall together & my friend, Sierra, joins our little group. They've got close. His wallpaper on his phone is Sierra. He wrote her a note and called her 'babe'. But I know they aren't dating. And the word going around is that he might ask her to formal? Well I've confronted Sierra. She said it was true. I was heartbroken. It's the fact that I wasn't even thought of. He knows how I feel about him & all of a sudden he ignores me. I don't know if she will say yes or not. But Sierra knows that I like him. I come to school everyday and tell her what he and I have been through. I could never look at them the same. But my question is..what should I do? I'm pretty sure that Sierra doesn't like him. But I have a feeling that he likes her. Should I not talk to him until he talks to me?

*note*
I have never had a relationship before so I wanna be smart about this

Just don't talk to him until he talks to you but if it starts to bother you just talk to him about it. If Sierra and the guy you like hangs out a lot and Sierra says she doesn't like him but she still hangs with him she might like him back too. Sierra might just not want to hurt you. If they don't hang that much then she's telling the truth. Don't try to act jealous or obsessed just don't cut in between the two if they like each other or not even if you know it might not work out. Let the guy find out for himself that you do like him truly and if he doesn't he might not be the one.

Hope I help a little bit :)

Q: So I have a boyfriend I've been dating for 5 months and my parents have met him but they don't know we're dating and they think where just friends and I'm not sure if I'm even aloud to date but this boy means the world to me and I only get to see him once a week at church and every time I do I have to be sneaky.......and I want to see him more and not have to be sneaky.....and my parents are super overprotective and strict...I'm 14 years old...........so how do I tell my parents that I'm dating him?

This is what I recommend you to do. When I felt like my mom would not understand that I wanted to date someone was hard and I couldn't talk to any of my parent about it without getting shy I made a card with things I had to say and gave it to my mom and liked it so much she understood it perfectly. If you prefer to speak it out just write down ideas that you want to say it really helps. So your remember what to say.it also so helps so you show your mom how much you care for the guy.

Q: I am 15 and if i am myself im considered wierd and i cant get a popular cute boyfriend and now that im homeschooled its even harder help

Love comes unexpected it all has to do with waiting and being yourself you don't want to end up falling In love with someone that thought you were someone you weren't.

Q: . . . So I'm into this guy in my foreign language class, and now that the school year's ending, I want to ask him out---or at least suggest it (without actually SUGGESTING it) so that he asks me. We're both juniors in high school, btw!

Here's a little background information:
. . . In our class participation is highly encouraged to practice speaking Spanish, and the two students who participate the most in class are him and I. We used to sit at opposite ends of the class---our teacher purposely did that because we talk too much---and whenever there'd be something funny or fascinating happening during class, I noticed he would always look at me/we would make eye contact, as if we were laughing with each other. I didn't think too much of it then.
. . . Last week we were given the option to choose our seats for the rest of the school year since there's only a few weeks left. The guy chose the seat right next to mine, and now we can talk to each other more easily. For the last week and a half we've been watching a lot of episodes from a spanish soap opera in class, and every time something funny happens he would laugh and make eye contact with me, holding it for a few seconds.

. . . Now, I don't know if I'm reading too much into it, but I think he may be interested in me. I feel like the way he acts in class sort of gives it away that he likes me, but I also don't want to be wrong, you know? Outside of class he's never really made an effort to speak to me, unless we were both already somewhere (like if we see each other on campus or are at a school event). But even at those times, it's just small talk.

. . . We're both into the same things. We both like a lot of the same bands, and we have the same favorite shows/movies. We have the same kind of personality too. We get each other's sense of humor, which a lot of other people don't. He's in a band and I'm a musician, so we both appreciate good music. We also dress pretty similar (like guy/girl versions of each other). But we're not too much the same that it would start to get boring.... So now all I'm thinking is, like, "match-made-in-heaven", you know? LOL jk. I think we'd just be really good together.

. . . Anyways, he has an outgoing personality (so do I), but when it comes to girls I know he's more on the shy side (as am I when it comes to boys). Also, I have been told by multiple people that he may be intimidated by me and afraid of asking me out because---and I don't mean to be conceited---I am out of his league. They say that I'm much more attractive than him, so he probably assumes I'm just not interested.

. . . I really don't know what to do because I would really like to hangout with him sometime alone so that we could have an actual conversation, but I don't know how to propose the idea. I just don't know how to go about it... What would be the right time, the right place? What would I suggest we do on this "date" or "hang" or whatever..
. . . Does he even like me?

. . . Your advice and personal experience would be much appreciated! Thanks so much.

Even if he doesn't like you. You should tell him how you feel or simply just hangout with him as friends you know the best relationships are great when starting off as friends perhaps maybe he will ask you out later after. Just one step at a time

Hope I helped (:

Q: how do i get a boyfriend who might not like me

first make sure you he likes you or tell him you like him either way.maybe talk to someone who has a lot of confidence and maybe they could help you get a boyfriend also do activities that might help you meet some guys..

hope i help (:

Q: I am 9 years old can I have sex

ok first id like to say why think about sex at 9 years old when you still are a child and could basically have more fun with many other things in life then sex. honestly i feel sorry for you because your brain is all damaged with that thought in your head especially if an adult told you about it. talk to someone that could help you or see a therapist...

hope i helped (:

Q: Hi, I'm a teenage girl. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months. I really like him and I have so much I'd like to share with him but I'm really shy around him. I really want to loosen up and be myself around him and his friends. How can I stop being so shy around my him and his friends?

i used to be really shy too but it was because i felt like everyone was thinking things about me, its all about learning to trick your head and ignore those negative thoughts. maybe just tell your boyfriend you wanna talk to him and tell him what you feel trust me once you do that its a big relief honestly but you should tell him when you feel its the right time not just tell him at a random time. tell him when you and him are alone.at time when he shares secrets about him..

hope i helped (:

Q: Hi there, my friend said you gave them good advice so I wondered if you could help me?

Basically, there is the guy I really like, we get on really well - I consider him to be my best friend - but I'm afraid to tell him how I really feel as I dont want to ruin our friendship. Yet, I feel he might like me back. But then again, he might just see me as a friend. I'm not sure what to do, should I risk it and tell him how I feel, or just leave it so I dont make things awkward?

hey there! well i think you should totally go for it! You never know he might like you,just tell him how you feel or if you really don't want to just show him that you like him by being there for him as friend and make sure you hangout with him a lot but trust me this takes time i mean you could basically either wait for him to come to you or you tell hime how you feel. i went through the same thing and i was the kind of person that waited until the guy came to me and he eventually did. although wished i didn't wait all those months because they felt like years to me..

hope i helped (:

Q: ok so today a boy asked me out but he just got dumped by my best friend last week and I only like him as a friend but I have NO idea how to tell him no but still be friends I would appreciate if you gave me advice ASAP I promised I tell before I go to sleep Thank You I am a girl 13 years old
~RaeleneAndZayn

well sense you said your friend just dumped him he might just wanna go out with you for feeling upset about the break up.if you know your friend might get mad just say no cause she might still have feelings for him. if you really like him you should talk to your friend and tell how you feel.

hope i helped (:

Q: I like 2 girls: Susan and Victoria. i asked Susan out last year but she rejected me but i still like her, so I just like her and we're only friends. But at the same time i like another girl, Victoria, we are also just friends but she hugs me sometimes. I joined the play and both of them are there. i dont know what to do, how to make them notice me and more interested in me. I cant just stat here and look at victoria,shes the one i really want. I know there still might be hope, but i cant find it. PLEASE HELP!

i think you should go ask Victoria out because it sounds like shes nice and you said she gives you hugs so what are you waiting, for ask her! (:

Q: how to stop being over protective when they do not want it..i am a female in the 20's

hey i think its all mental with learning to think about ways to stop.

hope i helped not much i could advice with the info you gave well good luck..

Q: I'm a 19 year old girl. I've been talking to this guy for almost a year now, but it didn't really start to become serious "talking" until about July. I really care a lot about him, and he cares a lot for me. The problem is, though, that he had a horrible girlfriend before we started talking. I don't know all the details of their relationship, but she treated him terribly. Unfortunately, her actions have made him feel inadequate. He feels that he's not good enough for me. I try to show him that he's more than good enough for me, but I don't want to push it too far and push him away. Lately, he's been opening up to me more, but he's still afraid to commit again because he's afraid he'll get hurt again. How can I show him how much he means to me without flat out telling him I love him and that I want to be with him. I would never hurt him. He knows that, but is still gun shy for lack of a better term.

Show him you love him with your actions and the way you act like being there for him and listening to him talk about his problems and help him feel comfortble with you. Also be willing to to do anything to be there for him hope I helped wish you luck (:

Q: hi, you answered my question before about going into a relationship with someone with depression.
i like this guy so much it hurts me that he doesnt want to go into a relationship because of his depression. as some one with depression - how do you think i should approach it? any tips for me? - things i should be weary of? anything will help :)

Hey there! I think you should understand depression more because its probably hard for him to let u know how he feels. He sounds like a good guy to me because hes aware he cant be in a relationship if he feels depressed. I know it could be hard for and like you said hurt you but let him know that you'll be there for him as friend but if doesnt seems to want relationship then might have to move on.. (:

Q: I'm 16 and female. The guy I like is 17 and my brother's friend and he's always staring at me and sometime's I hear him tell my brother that I'm 'really hot' or something like that. He also talks to me a lot when he's over and we flirt occasionally. The only reason I think he might not like me is because a few days ago was our homecoming and he went with someone else. He did come up to me during the dance though while his date was in the bathroom and we hugged :). Does it seem like he likes me? And if it does, should I make a move?

I think he really likes you but doesn't wanna show it, even though he sorta does he might think its weird because hes friends with your brother and thinks your brother might get mad,maybe asking your brother to help you out with him could work if your brother is cool with it. If not wait to get to know him more so maybe he could tell you how he feels!
Hope I helped(:

Q: heya, well im female im 18 and im currently studying ... basically im so tired of being single i wanna be in love , want someone to love me truly..
im sick of waiting :/
maybe i sound too desperate but its how i feel , feel as if i aint happy that someone is mossing in my life.
dunna what to do :/

Hey i get you I felt the same too! that somthing was missing. I stoped thinking of waiting for love and started making more friends and felt confident! Trust me when you focus of friends and being out going someone might notice you! You should join Activites that you like and maybe find someone that you think is intresting just let love come to you and trust me it worth it! If you feel you should ask someone out do it you never know what happens its worth the try! Love comes unexpectedly!

Hope I helped(:

Q: Ok so I was at this party and this really cute Spanish guy was there, I've briefly met him before but I didn't think he would remember me but he did :)
And there was some Spanish salsa music played at the party and and he asked me to dance at the begining and then closer to the end of the party he asked me to dance again to a Spanish song, so both times was to salsa music
I was just wondering does this means he might like me because he asked me twice?
I'm 16/f and he's about 19 (he doesn't know how old I am though so don't take age into account too much)
Thanks

ok well i think that it could mean he likes you or he just likes salsa music and loves to dance, but sense you said, he remembered you then he might.You never know maybe if you should wait until you see him again to get to know him because you said he didn't know your age and maybe then you can find out if he likes you. Hope i helped (:

Q: Well my boyfriend is like really shy and is not at all intimate with me in any way .ive read other articles about this and all of them are telling me I should make the first movebut the problem is I'm also very shy so I was wondering is their a way for me to like entice him to make the first move.pleeeaaaassseee help!

I know making the first move is hard but this is what i think. I feel that you should maybe tell your boyfriend how you feel i know its hard or ask him why is he so shy about kissing you i mean you are his girlfriend he should be able to show u how much he loves you.He might even have something going on you never know until you say something.Hope i helped (:

Q: I've been going out with my bofriend for 1month now and he lives 2.7 miles away from me and when he comes down to see me him and my best friend always flirts and when I ask them something,they completely ignore me:-( then after my boyfriend goes home they text eachother:-( help? Please:-( it gets me down so much:'(

sorry to say but that's not a good best friend you got. I think the best thing to do is talk to both of them and tell them how you feel if they ignore you just let your boyfriend go and maybe your friend too. Don't let your boyfriend get you down especially if hes going to be that way.hope this helped good luck(:

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I'm here to give advice and maybe get some back too.Iv been through a lot of issues with family and even trouble making friends but i always made it through hope this helped understand that i'm just a person always happy to help out.