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Q: How do i know if my boyfriend is really interested in me? Also how do i know if he is cheating on me? Please help

if he cares he tells calls you everyday more then once and talks to you as much as possible and if hes cheating on you, you would konw you could tell by the way he acts and if hes not home when he is supposed to be and stuff like that

Q: I have a boyfriend that I love with all my heart but I'm bi.He doesn't know it. There was one time that he accidently called me bi and I fussed at him.I said he would probably like it if I was. He said he would never like that because she would be licking and then trying to kiss him.He said bi girls were nasty as hell. Because of that I haven't told him I was bi because I'm scared he is going to break up with me. What should I do?

tell him he has to find out sooner or later or just turn straight or not its just gonna hurt more the longer you wait

Q: ok so i have this guy friend who i know has feelings for me as more than a friend. he hasn't actually said anything but i can just tell from the way he acts. so what's his deal? why hasn't he said anything to me about how he truly feels is he scared, and if he is scared why would he be, we're good friends. thanks

signed
confused friend

Sorry it took me so long to respond but maybe he is shy, maybe he thinks you will reject him and he thinks if something happens it may hurt your alls friendship. If you know that he has feeling for him try and make a couple of moves toward him yourself

Q: Okay, I figure since you seem like a nice guy, that I should ask you... kay, there's this guy that lives down the street from me, and we've been really good friends for about a year. About two weeks ago, there was this dance that I went to, and I asked him to go with me. Ever since then, I've kinda been crushing on him... but since then, he hasn't come over as much. My friends say he likes me, but if he's avoiding me, how can I tell? I figured I should ask you, since you're a guy...

try and talk to him and ask him if he wants to go do something with you, if he dont wanna do anything with you maybe he just wants to jsut be friends or he is shy. If he wants to go out with you dont rush it just start hanging out then make your move and ask him out or let him do it

Q: I just don't understand how I can easily give advice to others and yet I am horrible at taking my own advice. For instance I always tell my friends and anyone else for that matter people at my age (17 and under) can not understand love. Yet I sit here thinking I love someone. I care about this guy a lot and we used to date. I know he is a jerk but that doesn't mean I want to not date him. I know I will be fine without him but I know how much fun I had with him (in a perfectly christian way). All he does now is avoid me and surrounds himself with girls. Then when we actually talk he is tells me he loves me just doesn't want to date right now. I don't understand his thought concept or his reasoning. How can you tell a girl you 'love' them and then ignore them for a long time? I just don't understand it. I am tired of waiting for answers he is not willing to tell me. Can any one help me understand why he is doing this?

he is embarrassed to show it in front of his friends he wants them to think he is a monch monch kinda guy thats isnt fallen for a certian girl

Q: ok well on friday there is this dance at columbus(an all guys school) and my friend told me about it and told me to go w/ her and her b/f who goes to the school. i can't take my b/f because guys that don't go to the school aren't allowed to go. i want to go to the party though because i've been dying to go to one lately but i know that if i tell my b/f i'm going w/o him he'll get PISSED since its an all guys school and i'm going by myself bcuz he's really overprotective. what should i do??

dont tell him, its not really a lie its a white lie to save his feeling

Q: Hey I was just wandering what you thought about this one. Sorry it might be kinda long but I really need your advice.

-Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks exactly today. He is like really stupid and kinda weird so I dont know what I want to do. Half of me wants to dump him and the other half doesn't. I know that he really really likes me and that if I break up with him he might even cry. Today on our field trip some of his friends were like joking around and told me that he dumped me (and I knew he didnt). He was like what?!? I would never dump her. And yesterday he bought me this really cute stuffed animal (dolphin) because he knows that I love dolphins.

-Please someone help me I really need it!!

if you dont like him then dump him tell him the truth and if that hurts your friendship thats the risk you ahve to take

Q: Guys only please-just a quick question wondering if i could get some feedback

i used to have a friends with benefits deal with this kid-and after going on for about a year it ended just recently about 3 months ago-my question-do you think it would be akward for me to IM and just start talking to him him seeing as i've never done so before or as a guy would u find that akward and uncalled for? just wondering thanks a lot

nah i would hope they would talk to me you never know you might be able to get back with him

Q: Im not sure if i should break up with my boyfriend or not. Lately things havent been going good for us. We been going out 3 months by the way. I just got back from a trip and he only texted me twice while I was gone & i just called him to see if he wanted to go somewhere and he didnt barely talk at all, he didnt ask how my trip went, or that he missed me or anything. Right after I asked him, he said no & said bye. I dunno how I should break up with him though, I cant do it in person cuz we have spring break and I cant see him all week for different reasons and I sure dont want to call him again... I dunno please help me.

cal him and dump his ass you deserve better then that he is just a prick and dont have any feelings

Q: i dated this guy but the timming wasn't right .. anyways we have been talking and we are going out on friday.. actually i'm going over to his house .. my question is even though we have been through that and we have done stuff physically ..its like our 1st date since like 6 months ..are we supposed to catch up were we left of or start again? i mean physically

no start all over maybe it will be better this time

Q: Alright, I came to the realization that I love this guy that I have been friends with for nearly 5 years. He lives a couple of hours away from me so we talk on the phone. My question is, should I tell him that I love him? Would it freak him out? Would it make things wierd? Should I tell him why I love him? Im in a biit of a spot right now. All comments are well appreciated. Thank you so much.

~Nokomis~

Well you might think your in love but the hole couple hours away think hurts your chances of gettin to be with him

Q: A year or two ago i went out w/ this girl. i liked her, she liked me. i dumped her ,because i relized that she wasn't that actractive, and she hated me. she wouldn't talk to me look at me etc. now i see her in the halls and at dismissle. now she really actractive. i don't want to go out w/ her or anything, i just want to be her friend again.what should i do?

p.s. she has a boy-friend now

Go up and talk to her and see how she reaacts maybe you all can become good friends

Q: There's this guy (We'll call him Zach) that one of my friends dated and one of my other friends like him. I promised my friend that I wouldn't ever do anything with him. That was before I discovered I have feelings for him. However, there is another guy (We'll call him Bob). Bob likes me, I like Bob. But Bob is really shy, and isn't doing anything. I've asked Bob out before, but that was before he liked me and that was before I got feelings for Zach. I really like Zach and Bob. But Bob is a bit more immature than Zach, but there isn't friend entanglements if I went out with him. But Zach is that person I can talk to and I know he'll listen and have answers for me. What do I do? I rate high for good answers.

I dont think you need to do anything to hurt your friendship, talk to the bob guy and see if you can get him out of his shell maybe you all can get along with him after you meat the real him

Q: well lately my friend has totally been flirting with my boyfriend.She knows she does it but she just shrugs it off.I hate it!!like we will be walking in the halls together and she will come right between us and rather close to him i might add.i dont wanna ruin our friendship, but me and this guy really love each other.we've been together through thick and thin.Please help me and i hope this wasn't to long.

Tell her about it nothing is gonna happen until you tell her. If your friendship is that strong talkin to her about it wont break it up

Q: 14/m
ok so i was talking to the girl that i used to like and still kindof do, we havent seen each other in a while cuz we go to dif schools but weve stayed familiar over the internet. i asked her yesterday if she wanted to make out or sumthing next weekend when we are gonna be at a bonfire at my house and she said YEAH! and talked about how she liked me and stuff.. so heres my question.. - how far do u think i can get with this girl?