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Hey brittany bloggers here! I'm a part-time writer but a full-time listener! I'm 14 years old and that might sound too young to give advice but ive been through alot and I really hope you will give me a chance to help you. Im new to this site so if u ever want to talk i am here. Thanks for listening to me, now its your turn.

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Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and we had a baby boy 2months ago... he really wants me to marry him and move in with him i really think im ready and i know i could handle it i jus dont know how to convince my mom that im mature enough

If you think your ready then hopefully your mother will see that you are to. Your mom most likely wants the best for you so yes it will be normal if she freaks at first, your relationship sounds VERY serious so if your ready to take it to the next level your mom will understand.
Hope everything works out for the best!
Sincerly,
Brittanybloggers

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So I just turned 16 yesterday.
and I've been dating my first boyfriend for a month now. I thought he was extremely cute when I first saw him, and now when we hangout I keep second guessing. And I shouldn't be, should I? We haven't kissed yet, and all of my friends insist he was trying to kiss me last night, and I think he was too. But I couldn't, and I don't think I wanted to. I don't know if I like the IDEA of having a boyfriend or if I actually LIKE him, and I'm so so confused! What do I do? And if I'm supposed to break up with him, how? (We work together. AND my sister works there too.)

Thankyou in advance!

First of all, Happy birthday! And second if you really want a boyfriend but your not sure about the one you have then most likely you like the idea of him...don't think you have to give in and kiss the guy if you want to. If your already a month into the relationship then it's not unusal if your unsure about the relationship. And third your right in many ways, you shouldnt second guess your relationship and only you know wether or not you really want to break up with this guy. Just because you work together dosen't mean things are going to be akward or anything just act normal around him and if you decide to breakup then hopefully you two can remain friends.
Hope everything works out for the best!
Sincerly,
Brittanybloggers

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I have a weird relationship with this guy,
See we were together for almost a year, and he broke up with me right before we hit our year anniversary.
The main fights between us was that he never had time to spend with me, although everything regardless of that was great. I love him a lot. And even after we broke up he still claims to love me.
After we broke up we had a weird week... it was weird because of the break up, but then after that it's like we never broke up, we still kiss and hold hands and have sex.. but everytime it comes up, or if someone asks, he says we're just friends.
He says that he's not ready to jump into the relationship again and he needs time.
He says he wants it to happen "naturally"
But the way I see it, we're pretty much already together since we still act the same way and do the same things we did when we were.
And it kills me when he says we're just friends, because he doesn't act as if we were.
He calls me and kisses me and tells me he loves me, and I love him a lot, so i don't see our relationship as just simply a friendship.
It makes me mad sometimes because i feel like he's ashamed to say i'm his girlfriend, and i want to tell him to screw off, but i can't. i love him too much.
any advice would be helpful

If he's not giving to the relationship but your willing to then maybe you should just talk to him and say how you feel. I know your probly like yea ive never heard that before but if he knows that when your pretty much in a relationship but not calling it that then maybe he will see your point. And if your wanting this to be a relationship it might not be best to have a connection like holding hands and kissing and most definitly having sex. Friends dont really do that, he might think of you as friends with benefits and you should tell him that thats not ok with you. If he acts weird about it then dont worry and just play it by ear and see if he's still expecting more. Maybe then he will see that what hes doing is hurting you and maybe he never saw it in your perspective.
Hope everything works out for the best!
Sincerly,
Brittanybloggers

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Okay, over the summer me and this guy named jared "talked" for a week but then he had to get a job so he couldn't talk anymore but we still texted as friends but nothing flirty. We still text, but again, nothing flirty. Well today in class one of my friends caysy sat in the same seat as him and was helping him with a worksheet and every couple of seconds i would see them wispering to eachother. I always see them flirting together. So i was standing right behind them and she still wouldn't stop. Then, they both volenteered to run an errand for the teacher and they were gone forever and i bet the whole time, they were flirting. Then, in the next class she was like "Omg, jared tried on my ring (i guess just to be funny) and he streched it out." I gave her kind of a weird look and she said "Me and jared are just friends so you don't have to worry." Then i was like "Does he know that i like him?" and she said that he had known for two days and he said he dosen't know if he likes me. I don't know if she was telling the truth but i think she was. She said that i should wait until he decides if he likes me. Ever since he knew that i liked him he hasn't hugged me or said hi to me every morning like he used to or talk to me any. I don't think he likes me anymore but i'm not sure. I don't really want to ask him. I don't know how to act around caysy now. If i call her out on it, she might go back to him and say that i keep bugging her about him or she might say to him, "she thinks that we are flirting." I don't want him to think i'm jealous. But if i don't do anything, she might keep flirting and just keep doing it and she might think it dosen't bother me. I have never liked a guy this much and now she does this. I don't know how to act around her anymore. What should i do and how should i act around her. Now, every time i talk to him, he is probably thinking that i am flirting. I don't like guys knowing that i am flirting unless that guy likes me to. But like i said, he talks to her a lot more than me but he just has that flirty personality so i'm not sure if he actually likes her or if he is just flirting just for the heck of it. Please help! Thanks!!

It sounds like this caysy is not the friend you think she is, and it sucks when that happens but thats when you back down and find friends that are goin to treat you better. And jared, he's probly taken by suprise and he's probly wondering how to act around you too! If you two were friends then you still can be no matter what. It might be a little hard to start back into the friendship but when you do he'll have the idea of you and him in his head. Let him see how great you are. Dont stay away and hidden or he might think your relationship would be akward. The next time you see this jared you give him a hug despite of what he does and tell him that you missed your friend. Then he will know you will always be friends and that you also want more. It will give him more to think about you and to think about why your bestfriend would do this to you, and who knows? He might just realize that you aren't like caysy at all and things might get better for you and jared. Just dont be afraid to put yourself out there.
Hope everything works out for the best!
Sincerly,
Brittanybloggers

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How do i Win back my ex-girlfriend?
we broke up last week and i really miss her..she told me she wants to be single and do what ever she wants with nothing holding her back or hurting anyone..but i've been hurting everyday since we broke up..i really want her back..yesterday i read of her blog that she has a crush on someone that's like 1 or 2 years younger than her..i just felt lied to because she said she wants to be single..why is she liking some other guys...and also i'm like the only guy that she ever gone out with that actually lasted more than a month..we lasted almost a year and 7 months..i loved her through thick and thin..she hurt me alot in the past..like flirting with other guys.. and stuff but i still love her..when ever i try to get her back now she just tells me that we're over ..i just cant accept the fact that i will never be with her again...because shes the only girl that i fell hardest for and we been through so much..and im so surprised that after all that shes still not taking me back..i have done nothing wrong i never flirted or barely talk to any other girl besides her i've stayed true and kept all my promises i made to her such as no cheating and staying with her no matter what and such....the main question is i really want her back and i want her to love me again what can i do? ...sorry that my detail is all over the place... oh and also im 17 year of age and shes almost 17 too in december..if its neccessary ...please dont say we too young to really love because its not true ..im very much in love with her

Well for starters you sound very sweet and if this girl has heard you out through everything that youve explained then maybe she just needs some space. But if you havent told her EXACTLY how you feel then maybe thats best. Speaking for most of the girls i know all we really want is for someone to want us just as much as we want them. And trust me many adults will say that we are too young to love but we cant help how we feel now can we? If she wants space then remain friends with her and hopefully you wont hurt as much and she will relize what she is missing. Hope everything works out for the best.
Sincerly,
Brittanybloggers

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16/m
hi there.my problem is that i need to break up with this girl . i have been going out with her for about 6 months but i do not feel the same feelings for her that i had before. this is the first time i have had a girlfriend so i am not sure how i should go about doing it. i realy have to do it soon as she realy likes me but i do not like her and i cannot let this continue, i want to do it in the easiest way. i do not want her to get hurt though i know that would be quite impossible. any help here please. thanks for any advice

The best way to breakup with her would be to let her own gently, and that you can or would like to remain friends. That way she knows that you still care about her and that you dont want to hurt her. Of course she will be hurt but she will be grateful that you care enough to worry about how she will take it.

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Im 17 and Ive been with my boyfriend now for about a year. He's a really nice guy and he lost his virginity to me, but he cheated on me 2months ago...he slept with his ex!! he said it was because he was curious and it was a stupid mistake and that he loves me so much and im the only one for him. He swears he would never do it again, Should i believe him?? or leave him???

In a relationship things always get messy. And exspecially for long term relationships because you have built so much trust into the relationship that when a guy breaks your heart like that it can be very hard to recover. If he's serious and knows he was wrong then slowly work your way back into his heart but dont go too fast!! You dont want him to think he's possesive of you! If he's not serious however, then you know you can get someone better, someone how will treat you kinder. Just take your time and dont rush into anything that dosent seem right!

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i feel like i dont do enough for my boyfriend of 8 months, so what are some ideas of cute things i can do for him? the other day he invited me over and had a big vase of roses and a letter telling me how much he loves me with candles lit. it was adorable and i really want to pay him back within a week! any ideas?

It sounds like this relationship is very strong and that's always a great thing. But maybe if you suprise him often with nothing TOO big then both of you will stand on an even bar. Remember it's always the little things that matter so dont give up! Some ideas are to cook a dinner or suprise him with tickets to his favorite concert. It all depends on the guy and what he has a passion for. I'm sure in the end everything will work out.

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i love my boyfriend alot, but everytime we argue, he gets mad and turns his phone off so i cant get ahold of him. he likes to make me feel like its always my fault...what do i do?

A lot of the time guys hate to sit down and talk about their relationships but you have to tell him how you feel! Dont let him bring you down! Stand on firm ground and let him know that your just trying to help make this relationship work and that it would be easier for you if you had open communication. And he shouldnt make you feel like your to blame, so talk to him and tell him that if your going to make this work then so is he!

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