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How to win back an ex girlfriend?
How do i Win back my ex-girlfriend?
we broke up last week and i really miss her..she told me she wants to be single and do what ever she wants with nothing holding her back or hurting anyone..but i've been hurting everyday since we broke up..i really want her back..yesterday i read of her blog that she has a crush on someone that's like 1 or 2 years younger than her..i just felt lied to because she said she wants to be single..why is she liking some other guys...and also i'm like the only guy that she ever gone out with that actually lasted more than a month..we lasted almost a year and 7 months..i loved her through thick and thin..she hurt me alot in the past..like flirting with other guys.. and stuff but i still love her..when ever i try to get her back now she just tells me that we're over ..i just cant accept the fact that i will never be with her again...because shes the only girl that i fell hardest for and we been through so much..and im so surprised that after all that shes still not taking me back..i have done nothing wrong i never flirted or barely talk to any other girl besides her i've stayed true and kept all my promises i made to her such as no cheating and staying with her no matter what and such....the main question is i really want her back and i want her to love me again what can i do? ...sorry that my detail is all over the place... oh and also im 17 year of age and shes almost 17 too in december..if its neccessary ...please dont say we too young to really love because its not true ..im very much in love with her
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Well for starters you sound very sweet and if this girl has heard you out through everything that youve explained then maybe she just needs some space. But if you havent told her EXACTLY how you feel then maybe thats best. Speaking for most of the girls i know all we really want is for someone to want us just as much as we want them. And trust me many adults will say that we are too young to love but we cant help how we feel now can we? If she wants space then remain friends with her and hopefully you wont hurt as much and she will relize what she is missing. Hope everything works out for the best.
Sincerly,
Brittanybloggers
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dude i can really realte to you at this time,,, my bf and i also just broke up and he gave me no reason i never did anything wrong evethough he used to flirt a lot :S i barely had any guy friends and mine where actually FRIENDS not like he said oh yea its a friend and then hes flirting with the girl..anyway the first 2 weeks where HORRIBLE for me i felt like dying seriously maybe this sounds so extreme but i was really depressed just checkin his facebook waiting for him to go online on im and everytime the phone was ringing i thought it might be him calling,, i know that eventhough people tell you oh just stop talking to her..its not that easy ,,its been a month since we broke up and i still talk to him , not that much as before and i think its better not to talk that much but thats ok by now i guess..he also gave me no reason just said he doesnt want tohave a compromise with someone and he wants to do whatever he wants, he doesnt want to be like calling me everyday and those kindof stuff ..i think its really unfair since we where together for almost 3 years! and i didn't do anything wrong ..i know at the beggining the first weeks i was really depressed and just thinking over everything trying to find what did i do wrong., what was wrong with me? but then i realize that thres nothing wrong with me , its just that he doesnt want the same that i want anymore, he loves me but not in that way like to have a relationship, so this is something you'll have to understand. of course she cares and i bet she loves you . but just the memory of everythign that happen cause she doesnt want to be with you anymore, and it doesnt mean you've done something wrong, the first weeks will be horrible, maybe months , but this is how things go ,adn eventhoguh i HATE the "everything happens for a reason" i geuss that now is something i choose to believe, alsmo what helped me to be A LITLE BIT BETTER AND AT LEAST NOT DEPRESSED ALL THE TIME...is thinkin about the things that he did wrong that REALLY hurt me :S like how could he have done things like that when i never did anythng and he said he loved me so much :S ...and maybe its better for me , and for you, cause if the other peorson do things to hurt you she really doesnt love you like she said, so this is something im learning to acceppt and you should do it too, of course its going to hurt like hell when i find out hes dating someone or something, but try this i deleted his phone from my cellphone so i wouldnt have to see it and want to call him (of course i know it by memory but its better just not to see) try not to be online too much if you used to talk alot through im..and more important go out with friends a lot :S distract yourself also..dont jump into a new relationship if your not over this ..cause then its going to be worse and you'll be thinking about her if things dont go right with this new person...im not strong enough to delete him or stop talking to him or answering , but im learning to accept that eventhough we get back..its not going ot be the same,,cause im going to have my doubts like does he really wants to be with me? then i started to think about not being sad and depressed to the point it was taking over my life i cried all day no eating almost no sleeping and no going out ,,all this for someone who doesnt want to be with you?? its not worthy..of course it was good while it lasted and now i just have those good memories but things are not going to be the same eventhough you get back together , will you want her to come back eventhough maybe she doesnt feel the same??? you deserve someone who loves you in return just as much as you do or more, hope this help if you need any more advicer or anything just feel free to ask cause i know what your going through and i know its really difficult to keep up with this thoughs about wanting someonee back when they just dont show anyh interest in getting back :( (yea part of my "distracting" thing to stop thinking about him and hwat hhapne is being here giving advice xD)
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The first thing you need to do is ACCEPT. Accept the fact that the relationship is over. It sounds to me like you may have been over-bearing in the relationship (over-reacting to harmless flirting). In any case, you cannot force her to stay with you. If you really love her you should support her decision to move on with her life. And I advise you to do the same. You can't win her back if she's already made up her mind and gone. Just because she has a crush on someone doesn't mean she's going to jump into a relationship and it really should be no concern of yours. Quit reading her blogs, quit talking to her. Do whatever it takes to move on. 'Cause that's what's best for YOU. I know it's very hard at first after a serious relationship. But, in time, everything will be okay. Don't wait around for someone who isn't coming back (and who left you in the first place). Move on and enjoy life while you can. I wish you lots of luck, stay strong!
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