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My name is alix. I'm fourteen &i live just moved to massachusets. i love all of my closer friends; theyre my life. i like cats, and my favorite food is soanish rice. i like going to the movies with all my friends; we do it every friday. it's a routine. i love giving advice about guys, but what i really love are questions from guys about girls. im really opinionated, but im usually not very harsh when i answer things. advice
hi! so this boy im talking to lately...
i like him a lot. i dont love him but i do like him.
and hes really great at giving compliments. and he always tells me he loves me.
but i cant say that back because i dont love him i just like him. and he knows that.
but what do i say back to compliments?
ive just been saying the same thing back just kinda different.
any advice is great.
thanks so much!
Don't necessarily try to compliment back every time. If he says, "I like your shirt," you can just say, "Thanks." If you really do like his shirt enough that you would compliment it anyway, you can say, "Thanks, I like yours too." You could also say, "Thanks. I like your shoes a lot, too." But unless there's something about him and on similar subject (clothes, physical features, etc.), just accept the compliment. You can give him a compliment on something else later. Try to compliment him about just as much, just not necessarily at the same time. Don't wait for him to compliment you. And really be honest. If he played really well in his baseball game yesterday, compliment his talent when you see him the next day.
15/f
been with my boyfriend for 2 years,
he was my best friend before boyfriend.
i'm starting to argue with him alot more, but about stupid things. when we broke up once, i felt horrible and incomplete. how do you know the difference between loving a boyfriend and a boy bestfriend?
Pretty much, it just comes down to sexual feelings. Either way, you should feel like you want to spend time with him, be there for him, and all that. But think how much you want, sexually. If you want anything significant, then he should be a boyfriend. And if it's really love, this might help and it might not: think about your future. Who do you want him to be: husband or friend? Would you want to raise your kids with him and all that?
16/f and I'm really like one of my best guy friends. The only problem is that he's in love with another girl. I can't just let my feelings go. I'm happy for him that he found somebody that he loves but I get all confused around him. What do I do?
It's probably not a good idea to go tell him how you feel just right now. You'll probably get a bad reaction. Instead, go somewhere alone with him, where you'll have privacy, so you can talk. Just chill for a while and then be like, "So, you like Hannah?" And just try to get him to talk about her. The things he likes, what he doesn't like, why he likes her. Because the thing is, he might not really like her. I don't know his relationship with her. But,
-If they're dating: He could have liked her before but the feelings are fading. He could act like he loves her because that's just what he thinks he should be doing. Maybe he just doesn't want to break up with her because she's a good girl, maybe he really wants to feel like he used to but the chemistry is just gone, maybe he's still going out with her because he likes having a girlfriend, or maybe he just thinks that he's lucky to have her, even if he doesn't like her. But just get him to open up.
-If they're friends: Maybe he really wants a girlfriend, and he thinks she'd be a perfect one. Maybe a lot of other guys like her, so he wants her because he wants to impress them, or he figures they must be right.
-If he barely knows her: She could just be really pretty, or have a reputation as perfect. He sees other guys swooning over her, or he just sees the part of her she shows everyone. He likes to look at her, and he thinks some things she does are cute, so he thinks that he loves her. He obsesses over her, almost. But he doesn't know her, and really pretty much can't love her.
So get him to open up. Gently ask some questions. But don't pry. Don't try to convince him that he doesn't like her, and don't try to tell him that he's wrong. When he starts talking, really opening up and talking, you'll probably get a sense of how he really feels. If you think he doesn't really like her, try to lead him to come to that conclusion on his own. But don't say anything outright. He needs to come to that conclusion by himself. If you try to convince him, he'll just get defensive and angry.
If you think he really does love her, then accept it. You don't necessarily have to move on, depending on your feelings. Do you love him? Because if you do, then you have to do what you think is best. Maybe tell him, and say, "Just putting that out there. You don't have to say anything," so that he doesn't feel pressure to respond. Accept if he doesn't love you. Or, you could just not tell him, and let him be. Be happy for him. It might hurt a little, but if it's love, then you just want whats best for him. Oh, and don't tell him you love him and then try to break up his relationships or get him to not like other girls. He'll get mad, and probably act like he likes the other girls more than he likes you (even if he doesn't).
ok i masturbate like once every 2 days and i was wondering..can i pick up sperm from like anywhere and have it be on my hand and get pregnant. does sperm just like float around on surfaces? i know i'm probably stupid but help!!
Even if you dipped your hand in sperm and masturbated an hour later, you probably wouldn't get pregnant. See, most sperm can't survive in a dry area. That's part of the reason why it's so much less unlikely to get pregnant if a guy ejaculates, say, on your leg. Semen dries up pretty quickly. For you to get pregnant that way, you'd have to dip your fingers in a just-ejaculated pool of semen and masturbate immediately.
And sperm doesn't float around on surfaces anyway. Guys don't go around masturbating on tables, do they?
15f
I have not had my first kiss yet and I'm already a sophomore
it sunlcks alottt
but what are some tecniques you use for kissing I have no idea how to kiss someone
how can I practice?
what do I do???
This is a good way to practice:
Make a loose fist, like if you were going to draw a face on it. The thumb is the lower lip and the part where your index finger comes out is the top lip.
Also, not to sound wierd but next time you watch a show or movie(alone) where two characters make out(in a romantic way, like in the notebook) pay attention to what they do.
And what's very important that often gets overlooked is body language. You'll obviously touch your guy in places other than the mouth. If your holding hands, you can play with his hands as you kiss. f youre kind of embracing eachoter, feel his back or his hair(like at the nape of his neck, not on top of his head hahaha). Just pay attention to what your bodys doing too.
im 15 and well my penis is not that big im really worried will it grow? do girls care?
1. Girls really don't care too much. Women in their mid-twenties might notice more, but high school girls, for the most part, don't care. We barely even notice. It's not important to us right now.
2. It probably will grow. You're only fifteen. You still have time.
and 3. A lot of guys think they're smaller than they are. The average penis, when erect, is about 5.4 inches. But average (obviously) means that, while some guys were longer, lots were shorter. So really, don't worry.
Theres this boy... he lives like 10,000 miles away from me. So i only see him during winter break. Actually, i just met him last year. But im going to see him again this year.
Hes the cutest boy ive ever met! And hes really nice. Im kinda good friends with his sister. We hang out during break and text somtimes but thats pretty much it.
One night during break we spent the whole time cuddling kinda. And ive never done that with any1 before and it was so sweet!
Hes in high school, and i start next year. We would never see eachother exept on break and maybe during the summertime.
Anyway, my question is... is the difference too much to flirt with him again this year? I was in 7th last year, and he was in 10th but i didnt notice what a hugee difference that was until now. And since im so much younger, any chance he likes me?
Im not talking about dating or anything. But just flirting.
Am i gonna look like a little kid flirting with him?
idk what goes on in an 11th grade boys mind! Please help
He probably doesn't like you, but there's always a chance. Just think about the age difference. You might have liked older guys, but how many significantly younger guys have you liked?
Unless he doesn't flirt at all, you won't look like a kid. Last year, the age difference was pretty big too, but he still flirted. If he doesn't flirt back, then you might look immature. But chances are, he will. So don't stop.
If he liked cuddling with you, then he's probably not the kind of guy who would pressure you into anything, or even want it as much as a lot of other guys. Plus, an 11th grade guy might be having sex, but he's probably not going to expect it, or even want it, from a middle schooler. Most guys would feel really wierd doing anything really sexual with someone so much younger.
He might have changed, but you'd probably have noticed since he texts you. You can flirt again, but if it feels wierd or like he wants something you're not ready for, stop. Trust your gut.
ok so since the beggining of school i liked this boy and i asked him out and he said there was to much goin on right then and he didnt want a gf.afta that i decided to become closer with him and become friends.well we have and i still like him alot!!!were always jokn with each otha and makn fun of each otha.every time i see him i bump into him on purpose and start sayn o im sorry i didnt see you there knowing that i did.hed start lauging and like try to push me back.he takes drivers ed on sat and i come evry sat with my dad cuz hes the prinicipal.well durn there lunch break i started talkn to him and we were jokn on each otha then we startn havn a sort of deep convo.well i ask people before to ask him if he likes me and they say he says no but i keep havn this feeln that he does by the way he kinda flirts with me and looks at me.but then maybe hes just a nice gut who does that to everybod and im no special person.its just so hard to read him beacuse i feel like hes flirting and he might like me but the few peeps i asked says he doesnt.im jus so confused and i really dont want to ask him myself cuz i already asked him at the beggining of the year and that was hard.and now that were freinds it would be evn more hard and i dont wanna jepurdise our freindship.i just like him so much and i wanna know if there is somthn there or if hes just a naturally flirtatious guy!
1. Don't ask him out again. You already asked him, and he knows how you feel. If he wants to go out with you, then its his turn to make a move.
2. He seems like he might like you. Take note of how he acts around other girls. If he acts the same, then hes probably just naturally flirtatious. But if he doesn't, then there's a good chance he likes you. Plus, you mentioned the way he looks at you. Flirty guys don't usually look at other girls he's just flirting with in a romantic way, even the really smooth talkers.
3. Keep flirting with him. Don't overdo it or anything, that would be bad. But if you stop, and he decides that he wants to go for you, he'll feel like you don't like him anymore. Plus, your relationship as friends is kind of flirtatious. Do you think it might get a little boring if you stopped flirting?
Don't listen to what other people say unless you have a very good reason to. People always think that they know exactly how everyone else feels, but they rarely do. So what other people are saying very well might be wrong.
im 15 and been with my gf for 3 months i like her a lot but im worried if we take things further down the track my penis is really small im really embarrassed im worried what she'll think does it matter much?
She probably won't. I mean, if you've been together for so long, she obviously likes you a lot.
But if you're so self-concious, I have a kind of idea. This is kind of hard to write, because there are rules on the site and I could get banned for saying some things, blah blah blah.
But here's what I say:
Before she finds out exactly what your size is, make her feel good. Meaning, before she gives you an hand job, maybe finger her or whatever. Just make her know that you want her to feel good. That's really all a girl cares about.
I'm sure it will all be good.
Im trying to get over this guy I liked, and my friends are trying to convince me it wouldn't have worked out anyways. hes a jock, he probalby only talkes about football and boobs. I talk about the wonderfull music were playing in band, (were in the same band class, same instrument) and how beautiful nature is, and how i love to express myself though dance yadda yadda...
are my friends right? would it have worked?
It might have worked, it might not have. You never really know this kind of thing. But honestly, they really could be saying that to help you get over him. If you felt really emotionally connected to him, then it could have. Why are you trying to get over him? If you really like him, then keep talking to him. You don't have to flirt if it's because he has a girlfrind now or is unavailable for some reason, but don't stop talking to him. You'll miss his company.
Okay so ill give u sum background.. me and this guy we'll say his name is tyler dated for 5 months. I fell so in love with him at the beginning of the relationship then he was different later on in the relationship and all we ever did was fight and argue and he was insecure so he was really protective and would freak out if another guy talked or texted me. So then we finally broke up. We broke up almost a week ago. Well, we still talk and he wants to be with me but thinks he messed up too bad. most of the time when we talk he acts like im still his girlfriend or like im his property and goes around threating people. He irritates me soo much but I cant seem to get over him and when he mentions his chick friends it drives me crazy and makes me sort of jealous. When other guys ask me out and things i feel like im cheating. How do I get over him? So i can move on with my life??
If you really want to get over him, ask him to just stop talking to you so much. Tell him that you really want to get over him(and be nice about it), but that you can't with him constantly saying he wants to get back together. Tell him that the breakup is final-- you both need a little more closure. And he's probably mentioning his girl friends to make you jealous, so don't let it get to you. Tell him that you don't just need to get away from your relationship, but you need to get away from him. Once that's final, give yourself a good week to wallow. Be upset, eat ice cream out of the container, and watch tragic romance movies. But after that week, get right back on your feet and go looking for some more guys!
Ok so i have this friend but i dont konow if he likes me as a friend or wants to be more then that, anyway we have homeroom and last period together in last period we talk all the time and when i'm not looking at him he stares at me and when i catch him staring at me he smiles at me then if i tell him my dads picking us up he'll say your dads picking us up when he knows i mean my dads picking me my sis and my bro up but he says that stuf on purpose to make me laugh and when were going to the buses i was with my friend and he was in front of us and i guess he heard my voice so he turned around and smiled at me for like 5 seconds and almost fell down the stairs......he plays football too but he can't play rite now because he fractured his wrist i dont no if he likes me or not and thank you so much to everyone who answers this you've been a big help just saying this ahead of time
P.S. he's a little bit shorter then me and i don't no if i should worry about that i mean his hottness makes up for it by alot!!!!!!!
thank you so much
Okay, first off: don't worry about his height. He's still hot, and anyway it shouldn't really matter.
He sounds like he might like you. I think he probably does, but you should see if he acts like that to other girls too. Just kind of check next time you're in a group.
So flirt with him. He seems like the kind of guy who would want to ask you out, so don't ask him. Just flirt a lot, and send him a definite signal that you want to go out with him. He'll get the hint.
If not, how old are you? You didn't say.
If you're in middle school, then you could try this if flirting doesn't work:
You could ask a friend to ask him if he likes you. Tell them to just be like, "Do you like Amy?" If he asks why, they can be like, "You kinda seem like you do." If he says yes, they can let it slip that you like him too. He should ask you out.
ok i dont know what to do me and my best friend started liing the same guy...we both added him on myspace he added both of us and sent me a message and started talking to me not her well i not a very outgoing person but my friend is...we both got his number and were texting him well my friend in text told him she was interested in him me not being as outgoing didnt...now she keeps telling me how she is hanging out and going places with him...but i dont want to here it...and she even admitted that if i were to have told the guy how i felt things would be different...but its like i cant tell him now because that would be screwed for her...but would it...i dont know what to do...but i have already got my heart broken once in the past couple months and this is not helping...what do i do????
please help...i am ready to give up on everything
She knows that you like him, right? Well keep texting him and talking to him on myspace. And remind her that, even though they're hanging out, it doesn't mean that he likes her. He's not hers yet. Say that since you both like him and he might like either of you, he's fair game for both of you. Agree to not make the other person look bad, but you can both go after him.
So text him and myspace him, and mention that you two should hang out some time, really casually. Just be like, yeah, we should def chill some time. and see what he says.
So I am 14 and i took your advice that was in order to get more guy friends i should ask them for there numbers etc. and invite them to go places with my friends. All my friends are 15 and we are sophmores my birthday is in december, so i was just wondering what are some good places to go to hang out. I want to interact with them, so I dont want to go to the movies or someplace you can't interact. A lot of people say restaurants but i would rather do something more fun. So if possible can you give me a few places that you feel is a good place to hang out with a group of about 12 people coed! Thanks so much
Alright, here are some ideas:
Me and my friends go to a diner. I know you said no restuarants, but I like it because it's way less formal, you don't really have to get food so much as like fries or something, and you can be louder and have more fun.
Also, take advantage of where you live. Like, if you live in a town by the water, go to the beach or a dock or something. If you live near mountains or a woodsy area, go to a nature preserve and fool around there. Places that you probably wouldn't go to.
Bowling. It's so dorky, but it's also so much fun, especially with a big group.
A local pool. Since it's getting colder, you probably can't go to an outdoor pool, unless you live somewhere where it's not so cool yet. But try an indoor pool. They're usually heated, which is great, and it's a lot of fun to juts hang out in the water.
Ice skating rink. You might know how to skate or you might not, but it's still a lot of fun. After, you can all go back to one of your houses for hot chocolate.
Another thing that's really great is just walking around together. Agree to all meet up to get ice cream, and then after, just walk around town, doing nothing really. You can all head back to someone's house, fool around in the stores and everything, or whatever. Walking around is especially fun at night. If you're all at someone's house or out doing something and it gets dark, just say, "Let's go walk around." It's really fun, I promise.
Hope you and your friends have fun.
I was hanging out with my friend, and I saw this really hot guy who worked at the place we were at. She helped me get his number. After we left she kept making me go back with her, and like talk to him, and I felt like I was giving him the impression I was obsessed with him. But how long should I wait to call him? And when I do call him, how do I start a conversation? And lastly, how can I call him more times after the first time, without things being awkward?
Call him the day after tommorrow.
And just be like, hey, whats up, anything new...
Just let him talk about things, and you can do the same. And if the conversation slows, be like, "So me and a few friends are going to a movie on Friday, you wanna come?" That way, he'll know you're interested, but you won't really be asking him out or anything.
my boyfriend's (of a year and 2 months) birthday is coming up and i have ONLY 50ish dollars to spend on it, and it makes me feel really cheap. So, could someone please give me suggestions? I know there are these types of questions all the time but i really need this because im on a budget.
Make him a scrapbook. You can make it chronological. In the beginning, put pictures of before you were going out(if you have any), then from your first date. Then, put pictures from other dates and things you've done together. Include ticket stubs or anything else. Decorate it with stickers, ribbon, and other things you can find. Also, if you have any activities in common, put mementoes from those in. Like, if you were both in a play, put a page of the program in. Also, write inside jokes on the pages. If you can remember any old ones, put them towards the beginning. He'd be happy to read ones from a long time ago.
If you want, you can write summaries of pages or detailed picture captions or something.
Be creative.
i don't know for like school dances when to start dancin, like look at the guy and be like wanna grind or what just do it...? uggg and i don't know how to grind either, please help me..!
Get some friends(it could be just two or three, or it could be ten) to come dance on the dancefloor with you. Grind together(girl on girl grinding is okay) and then just kinda make your way towards guys and be like, wanna dance?
And grinding is pretty simple. If they have grind-trains at your school dances, you could probably get into one of those yur first few times grinding. It would make it easier because the person behind and infront of you would kinda direct you. But basically you just bend your knees and move your butt into someone else's crotch. It's pretty simple.
Hi 14/m i am a freshman in high school and my first day was today.I met this girl in my math class she just moved here from Australia and she is kinda shy so hasn't made many friends. And i like her and was wondering what i should do to impress her. I sit right next to her soo yeah we talk a lot. Girls, what do u like to talk about with guys and what gets u goin, (if you know what i mean ;)lol) Please help me, even f it's a simple answer. Thanks!!!
Ask her to sit with you and your friends at lunch, or to come out with you and all your friends one day. Not as a date or anything. But if she doesn't know a lot of people, her social life is probably not so full right now. I've been new at schools four times, and until you meet a group of friends, all you ever want is for someone to invite you somewhere. She'll think it was incredibly considerate and sweet of you to ask her. You can just be like, "Who do you sit with at lunch?" "-Her answer-" "Okay. And, um, if you ever want to sit with me and my friends, you should feel free." Orrrr you could walk her to lunch, and when you get there, just be like, "Wanna sit with me and my friends?"
You could do the same thing to invite her out with you. Just be like, "Hey, me and some of my friends are going to the movies on Thursday after school. Want to come?"
okay well I need very good advice on this quesitons so please try to understand my situation. Okay, well my pretty good friend is going out with this guy. I use to like him when I was around 9 but now I'm 14 & he's 15.. Well, they have been going out for about 2-3 weeks now. Well, me & him started talking through aim and stuff & I ened up telling him how I crushed on him before. A day later he tells me he "thinks" he likes me. So we talked,talked,talked blah & blah. Then he called me once & we stared talking for a long time & we finally got to know each other & figured out we have A LOT in common. & we were talking like a "couple" even though they are going out. But don't think I'm a man stealer or anything. He told me wayyyy before he even liked me that he was thinking of breaking up with her but doesnt know how. He tells me how she's like freaky taking about how she did "stuff" before & we all know thats a lie.I mean she's my friend & all but she's also been known to be a fakie. Anyways he's at some thing or whatever in Kentucy or whatever. & since his "girlfriend" is my friend she's been telling me how she really really misses him & how he's not calling while all this time me & him have been talking to like 3 in the morning & texting the whole day. This has been going on for about a week now. So I Guess what I need advice on is your opinion about the situation. Also, I dont know what I'm going through becasue i never felt like this before. He's been very nice to me telling me he loves me & stuff[ I know you cant love someone that soon but its out thing if you know what I mean]. So I'm wondering what is this I'm feeling becasue I'm like checking my phone every damn second to see if he called or if i acidentally missed the call or something. Uhh i'm so confused. He's like you know we could make such a cute couple & I really want to go out with you after I slowly settle things down with "her". Bit I told him is it right to do this to her becasue It's a chick thing & she's my friend would she hate me?I really need advice & help on what you think this phase is. He calls me his babe & how he just wants me by his side & such adorible stuff. Please don't tell me how would you feel if you were her becasue first I'm not her & he feels different about me then he does with her. So please please people give me advice on what to do and what I'm feeling. & should I go out with him?
You have to talk to him about your friend. Lets call her Sarah.
She likes him, right? And you still want her to be your friend, correct? Then you have to get him to break up with her asap. She'd hate you if she found out that he was saying to you. Make him stop acting like you're a couple for now. Wait until they break up, and then tell him he can treat you how he has been. Wait like a week and a half minimum until you make anything official. She'd hate you if you didn't respect her like you aren't right now.
here are these to really great girls im trying to find out which one i should date, i cant choose!
i need help sooo bad
okayy #1 is Jessica she is very nice, very outgoing, pretty, loves to cook, loves to paint and express herself. I reallly reallly like her a lot.
here is a pic of #1
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5zm2kgl
#2 this is Haley, she is nice, kind of outgoing, patient, loves to flirt, and loves to kiss, and hug, and very demanding girl. i like her a lot too.
heres a pic of #2
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5xhrxuw
which one? i dont know, im having a SUPER hard time
thanks!!
You didn't put down any bad qualities about Jessica, but you did put one down about Haley. I really dont know this, but I think you might have done that because you like Jessica more. When you like people a lot, you're kind of blind to their bad characteristics.
Also, you said Haley loves to flirt. If you were in a relationship with her, would it bother you if she flirted with other people? If not, then it doesn't matter, but if it would, then you might want to take that into consideration.
Also, I noticed that when you put Jessica, you said that you "really really like her a lot," but with Haley, you just "like her a lot." Be reading this, it sounds like you like Jessica more. I'd go for her.