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Hey, I'm Amy. I take all problems seriously from extremely personal questions to simple common sense questions. I'm mainly experienced relationship-wise, friend-wise, moral-wise, family-wise, and culunary-wise. Don't be shy, I'm never negative, I'm on the computer on a regular basis, so your questions/comments/concerns will be answered quickly and efficiantly, and I firmly believe in "there is no such thing as a stupid question!"

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okay well. Theres this guy. and him & I are both reallllly good friends. and we both like each other. but lately he's been acting a little bit strange. like his hearts become half hearted and hes talking to me less and less. just little itty bitty things. most of the time hes his normal self, he just slips up every once and a while. but it never used to be like this. I just really don't know what this means OR what I should do about it. help!!

Well, I think best friend relationships are the best to have.
He's probably thinking that you're either:
1. Getting too close.
2. He just liked to use you to flirt with you, and now it's getting "too serious"
3. He may have become shy.
4. He may be bored with you.

You have to keep holding strong, girl, hold his interest. You can't get by with the same old things. If you both liked each other before, why didn't y'all go out, man? You should've made your move then before this happened. Keep going strong, keep loving on him and letting him know that you care. It'll get better. Ask him to a movie, out to eat, to the park, or other cool places to talk. You just gotta keep being interesting, but don't be pushy, then you'll get annoying.
Anyway, I'm sure it's just a phase, if he's really what you described, he'll come back around the bush. I promise. :]

Hope I helped!
-Amy.

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14/m okay so i really like a girl at my school. We have alot of classes together and we really hit it off this year. She is pretty much the most perfect girlfriend i could ever want. She's smart, beautiful, funny, and nice! But my problem is, that I have a good friend, lets call him "Mike" who is good friends with her as well and it seems like anytime i can get to be with her, he is there. He goes over to her house alot, which sorta makes me kinda jealous. I want to ask her out but I'm not exactly sure who she likes. I'd like to wait it out to see if i can do anything to get her to like me back, but the school year ends soon. She doesn't like "Mike" as anything more than a friend but its just so frustrating that she seems to notice him more than me. Like at the end of the day she'll always give him a hug but not always give me one. Sooooo what do you think i should do?

awww. this is so sweet! =]
well, hun, you gotta forget about "mike". you cant worry about competition because competition=hesitation. talk to her more, and see if she does anything this weekend. and girls like it when you ask them straight up who they like. or, at least, i do anyway. it makes them seem...almost brave, you know? as for the hug thing, to hell with "mike" go give her one yourself! dont wait for her to come give you one, especially if she doesnt give you on everyday. girls love it when guys give them hugs instead of girls giving them hugs. =]
ask her out anyway. spontanious guys are the best type. doesnt matter if you know who she likes. and if your too shy, just ask around, and get to know her best friends.
i feel like i know you, do you go to my school?

anyway, good luck! =]
-amy.

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well I know when you'r inlove you get the bubbly feeling..but does it wear out? I really like this boy and I liked him for about 2-3 years now and before like the 1st year I got all the butterflies and stuff and now I rarely get them. I know I like him inside...but do u get them all the time..or can they wear out?

i think you love this guy. =] i know how you feel.

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ok
14/m
i'm going to a party on saturday after i get back from vacation, and my ex girlfriend is going to be there. we were together for 4 months, and i absolutely loved her. we broke up about a week and a half ago. she's going with this guy that is apparantly the reason we broke up, and its REALLY pissing me off. i thought about bringing this really pretty friend i have to make my ex jealous, but she's already busy on saturday. so what should i do? i definitely want to go to the party, but i don't know what to do about the fact that she's going to be there with that guy...

thanks guys
Sam

im a girl, im 14, and personally, when this happens, this is what drives me crazy:
-you bring that friend.
-dont look at her the WHOLE time.
-if you do, kinda just nod your head like eh. hi?
-small talk. and pretend your not interested if she strikes up a conversation.
-flirt with that friend, if she'll let you.
-dont laugh at her jokes, but laugh at your girl-who-is-your-friend's jokes.
-if she talks bad about anyone, give her a rude glare and walk away.


thats all i can say. hope it works and makes her jealous! :D
-amy.

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Hey im in a relasion ship were i am being presured to kiss my boyfriend andi like really want to but im afraid and he wasnts to kiss me but this is really hard to do when your friends make you do it and my friend anna said i have to kiss him or dump him.

dont listen to your friend anna. thats not true.

but if your guy is just wanting you for that kiss, i think you should dump him.

but i dont think thats the case. hey, you gotta make your own desisions about when, where, how, and everything else when you're going to kiss him. it is not your friends decisions whether you have to kiss him or not. its yours. just remind them of that, and they'll get the point.

its your call. have fun!
goodluck! =]
-amy.

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okay. so I'm going out with this guy, and I honestly don't like him all that much. I never really likd him in the first place, but he never officially asked me to be his girlfriend but he says i am and everyone else thinks so, and he somewhat did, so I consider him my boyfriend, but had no chance to say no to him because he didn't really ask. and this guy has this friend, who is also a really really really good friend of mine. and I really like this friend. and the other day he told me he liked me also, along with 3 other girls. i know 2 of those girls don't like him for sure, but the 3rd girl is in one of my classes and has told me she liked him (after i told her how i felt about him). this friend also knows my feelings about my boyfriend, and is the most trustworthy person i've ever met. I don't want to continue going out with my boyfriend AND i want to be with this other guy, but i don't know if thats right or HOW to break up with my boyfriend, since I've never broken up with anybody before. what do i do? [[ps. I know you in real life. betcha can't guess who i am! hehe]]

the only one of my friends i know who has a boyfriend is **********************.

so HA! i know who you are.

BUT my advice is, if you dont like the kid, BREAK UP WITH HIM. DUH DUH DERRR.
but while you break up with him, include the fact that he never officially asked you out. and to just declare you as his girlfriend is just shitty and downright rude. hes just chicken shit, and he was probably afraid you'd say no. which, right now im believing, you would've said no.
second of all, you need to IM me and tell me who this other guy is. and as for the other girl, you cannot think about her AT ALL. you just have to focus on yourself and how you're going to handle him and how you're gonna get him to like you. you just need to throw hints out there, get his attention, but dont be persistant, dizty, or bitchy at the same time.
third of all, as for breaking up with your boyfriend, i think you're going to have to tell him in person. IMing, E-mailing, Texting and calling just cant fly anymore. tell it to his face, hell, ill be there with you if you want to. all you need to do is go up to him, in private or whatever, and just say, "i dont think this is working out well....i dont feel comfortable going out with you, you didn't bother to even ask you just declared, and i just dont...want to be with you anymore. i dont feel as special with you anymore." and darling, you have to decide whether you're going to tell him that there's a possible other guy. cause if you don't, and you go out with the other guy in less than 2 and a half weeks after, you're in deep shit. ^_^

thats my advice, and i love you. i hope it works out. :D
good luck!

-amy.

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OK well i left a question a while ago about my ex bf leaving me a message saying that he never stopped loving me. Which kinda confused me but we talked over things and we came to: we both still like eachother (but we havn't gotten back togather b/c we just kinda want to start things over again)
But ok heres the situation, his one friend, i've been talking to for a while now. Hes really nice, and i like him a lot (as a friend). I can trust him 100% and i tell him pretty much everything.
Idk if i like him as anything more then friends though. I kinda want to see but since i told my ex i felt the same, i can't just ditch him.
But i kinda do like like his friend. But i can't do that to my ex. And now i just don't know what i should do?

what you need to do is see if you can get to know his friend more, and see if he likes you. while you're doing so, it'll test how far you're ex will go for you once he sees you kinda...backing off for another guy. if the ex chases after you, i'd pick him. but if the other guy shows more feelings for you, and the ex doesnt do anything, id pick the other guy.
good luck! ^_^

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Ok, so there is this guy. We are in the same grade and only have encore classes together (band/Computer class), but no other classes. I don't know why, but I like him. Hes kind, funny, and can make conversation with me making it akward. I gave him a card for Valentines day - it was a home make one and didn't have anything gussy in it. Just this peom that said like Valentines day isn't about the stuff its about the people thing. I also added this comment 'Elmo eats babies' to make it funny (I saw this Sasuake eats babies thing and got the idea =P). He knows I like him and eeryone, but ... he seems like of repelled of me. I have this other guy that sits next to me then the guy I like. He likes to joke around and be a weirdo (like me =P) He asked him if he would go out with me and he was like: O_O ... I don't know ... (this sort of got my hopes up and made me feel weird at the same time.) I tryed giving him my E-mail and stuff, but he said he doesn't have any of it (MSN and most people don't use there e-mail so ...) My friend says I should just keep on trying with this (asking the guy out), but I don't want to be as persistent as she is. I don't know what to do - I guess I want to date this guy, but he doesn't seem to like me back :/ ? or is there just sometihng wrong with me?

oh what a pickle ^_^

you're so lucky you have the guts to ask, im so...shy around guys. at least your tried asking, right? =]

i dont have advice for that second guy, but for the first, i know EXACTLY how you feel. im in the same situation, we dont really know each other that well, hes in one of my classes, hes really really weird, but he's fun! all you have to do is get to know him more, in a non-persistant way. guys hate it when you shove things in their face. you kinda have to just play it low, and start a conversation, and then kinda pretend you just slowly got un-interested in it. dont be a bitch about it though. once you get to know him more, ask if you can write on his hand, ruffle his hair when you walk past him and DONT look back. and if you do, make it like a sort of breif over your shoulder smile, just things like that. it'll work. tell me if anything happens.

and no, there's nothing wrong with you. you're just human. ^____^

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What does a guy really want in a (14 year old) girl??

be more specific. is he your age? what is he in social status? and what is he like? i cant really say anything until i know those aspects.

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