Ask me anything, I understand, cus I've been through a lot..guys especially..,moving parents,friends,anything & everything in between,I HAD hotkins lymphoma,if anyone is currently going through something like that, I understand and would love to help, you might not think I understand but I prolly will.. just ask me & I'll give you the best answer I can..
The best advice anyone ever gave me was take this moment & run...
*The fisrt time u fall in love, it changes ur life forever, and no matter how hard u try, the feeling never goes away* - The notebook
*Never kiss by the garden gate*,
(*love is blind but the neighbors ain't*)
When it hurts to look behind you & you're afraid to look ahead, look beside you & your friends will be there
Kass & Holly.. Love you guys
Thanks for bein there, we got each others backs, just in case one of us gets jumped againby some drunken sluts. lol
Me & my girls are like Paris & Nicole.. (without the sex tapes)
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the prettiest people do the ungliest things
from roads to riches to diamond rings...
We buy our way out of jail, but we can't buy freedom
We'll buy a lot of clothes when we don't really need em
Things we buy to cover up what's inside
Cause they make us hate ourself and love they wealth...
were all self-concious im just the first to admit it
[all falls down-kanye west]
E-mail: aleshia_beckett7@yahoo.com
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So this coming month will be 8 months for my boyfriend and I. he's 17 and i am 16. He always tells me what his parents were for halloween ( they were highschool sweethearts ) soo i ended up buying a costume already for myself but decided that i really wanted to do something fun with him. Any funny/cute halloween couple costumes.. you could think of?
thanks soo much! (link)
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I have the best costume advice.. look no more
Mario and The Princess..
How cute is that?
Hope you love it =)
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okay so me n my bf hav been goin out for the past two months n the thing is we like makin out n stuff but its totally taboo in our school...i mean there was this huge scandal when a guy n a girl frm our school ran away together and the school got a lotta bad publicity so now its like we get sent to the principal if we're caught holding hands and the teachers act suspicious if you talk to a guy for too long...so my bf really wants us to make out in the library...n its not lyk i dont want to...i totally do..just as much as him. n i'm ready n everything but isnt it a [HUGE] risk?? and also both our parents dont know so could we lyk hav sum suggestions on how to do this...cuz in a few days practice for our annual concert's gonna start and thats when almost everyone takes part and the school pretty much empties out and its quite deserted (i.e. minimum chance of being caught) so do you think we should do it then or if somewhere else then where? we're both 15...sorry this is so long. help plz!! :s (link)
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If there's anyway possible you should go to the movies and sit in the very back row.. where no one you know can see you..
I think you should beg your parents to let you go to the movies.. you are surely old enough to go to the movies and definetely old enough to make out..
If this is not possible, then you should just wait till it's a good time at school..
hope I helped... oh and Have Fun!
=)
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Aleshia, me and this guy from logan used to talk ALOT!!, but then he went to a party one night, and starts dating another girl. Well, now that they've broken up, he calls me and tells me how much he likes me and stuff, and I think I'm falling for him again, but I really don't want to. Do you think I should give him another chance or totally forget about him?? By the way, I'm 14 and he's 16. (link)
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I think you should give him another chance, but don't just come out and say "okay, I love you"... He doesn't deserve that yet.. He needs to Prove to you that he's worthy.
You should watch for player signs (i.e. if you think hes getting a little too close to your friends or other girls) Even if you think it won't amount to anything you should keep a close eye on him until he has earned your trust...
So basically, I think you should just see how it goes, and try not to get too attached..
Best of Luck.. Aleshia
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Hey! Aleshia.. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months and he's always going somewhere on the weekends and he wont tell me where hes going he acts like i dont need to know.. i think he has another girlfriend where ever he is going.. what should i do please help me! (link)
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I think you should totally tell him you need to know where he's going or it's over, because if he obviously has something to hide.
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Aleshia!Hey.. I Have A Very Serious Problem.. Im Begining to think that none of my friends like me.. i mean ive been friends with some of these people since 6th grade & they just dont talk to me or when they do they act like im annoying!..what should i do?.. signed-Confused! (link)
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Omg! None of my friends like me either! Vee, I know this is you, you loser lol. All I can say is that nobody likes us.. I don't know why, but our parents don't like us, our friends don't like us.. Justin prolly doesn't even like me (yeah right) lol. I like Kassie & she likes me, & you & Kayla like each other.We are our only friends besides that & I don't know why lmao
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Aleshia.. hey* well..here's my problem!.. um back in the summer me & this guy went out & we broke up in august.. well the other day i saw him & almost started cryin.. & i really want him back but he has a gf.. should i just move on or try to get him back!?? HeLp! (link)
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Try to get him, even though he has a g/f.. who cares? Who knows, he might not even like his girlfriend.. Let me know what happens.. *Leish*
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Hi!Ok...me and my ex b/f broke up a couple months ago and we still became really good friends after that and he tells me he loves me and he calls me his "boo".lol.But..anywayz..He wrote me a note not to long ago and he said he was sorry for treating me like shit in the past and last time he apoligized for doing something bad we ended up back together.Do u think he still has feelings for me?I still have feelings for him.We went out for a year by the way.I RATE!!Thanx!! (link)
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Hi!! Aww that's sweet, the whole Boo thing. Adorable. But anyways! Yea, I think he does have feelings for you since he wrote that letter to you and appoligized for everything. Because I mean he still says 'I love you' and calls you his 'Boo'. Just kind of seems like it. But, I'm not 100% sure. The only way you can find out is by talking to him or you could use his technique and write a note back to him. Basically just tellin him how you feel and stuff. And just be like "I know we broke up a couple of months ago, but we have managed to become good friends with each other. You still tell me you love me and still call me boo and stuff, which I'm not complaining about. And then you wrote me a letter for appoligizing about everything. I really appreciated that. But, I still have feelings for you and I just want to know how you feel about me and if you think we could try a me and you again..." Just say something like that and how you feel. I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.
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first off you are drop dead GORGEOUS! lol i know you hear that a lot but gosh lol i like envy you (in a good way)
my name is carly and im 13. i really like my friend "bob". over the summer we were like best friends we hung out a lot.. and we went out twice. the first time we were going out he broke up with me cause he thought i liked another guy. so i told him i never liked any other boys a few days after we broke up and we went out again. but the second time we went out things were getting too serious, like he said he was in love with me? and i wasnt ready for that.. i was really scared. so i broke up with him. but now i think i made a mistake. i've hinted around that i like him again and he doesnt even seem to care.. i think i really hurt his feelings. now he doesnt even say hi to me at school or anything.. we even walked out of the door at the same time and neither of us said a word to each other! i havent told very many people but im like crazy about him! im like missing him all the time and i never talk to him cause hes never online anymore. everything reminds me of him too! what should i do? i really need advice so if you could help me out that'd be great!! (sorry this is so long) xoxo -*crazy in love (link)
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First of all, thanks =) lol.. second of all you It doesn't matter how long you question is, don't worry about it hun =), and last but not least the answer lol... I understand the position you are in, because I've done the same thing quite a few times, I mean "love" is a scary word if you're not ready to hear it.Then you start to relize after he's gone that maybe it wasn't so bad... Sometimes that is what it takes to find out how much you love someone. Here's my advice to you, I think you should write him a letter & tell him how much you regret what you did, & tell him why you broke up with him (if you haven't already), and maybe he'll come around, you never know, sometimes if guys are hurting then thats their way of dealing with it, not talking to the girl or pretending like it never happened. He's really probably feeling the same way.. I say write him a note on some cute paper with a cute pen ( I love to acessorize things, I think it gives it a personal touch lol ) Explain everything to him & I think he will understand... Hope I helped.. If you have any more questions add me to icq or aim or leave one in my inbox.. Aleshia
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ok this is the boy u thought was a lizzy juss so u kno who it is dont tell nebody tho
I told that girl that I liked her and it all went good and now im with a girl that i dont even like and I like this girl from logan and a girl chapmanville sheww im so confused wat should I do? (link)
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You should definatly go for the girl from Chapmanville, trust me.. dump the other girl
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Hey its Da Coop,
Hows it hagin aleshia, long time no see. Hey guess what...did u guess...okay now have u guess...man ur horrible at this guessing stuff.
well here is my problem...i had sex with this one chick here from ahh i think Chicago...yeah and she calls me up and says that she is prenate...i cant spell. Anyway she said after the baby was born she was goin to send it to me by mail...im just wondering should i use UPS or Fed Ex. ur friend Coop (link)
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I'd go with Ups. That way it'll have a better chance of gettin lost.. lol
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Hey aleshia! I have this problem..well it's not really that much of a problem, it's just i don't know what to do. Well back to the point, there's this guy...he's attracted to me, i mean he flirts all the time, and wants to go to a movie with me. Well he's older than me, i mean like 4 or 5 years. Thats a big difference. He's really sweet and i have to say im sort of interested in him too. The only thing is, is that if my mom kenw about "us" i guess you would say, she would absolutely flip. Now i know how guys are, im really good about saying no when i get in uncomfortable situations. So what should i do, keep talkin with him and go to that movie or back off and just stay friends? By the way he's like 17 and i'm 13 if that helps! (link)
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*If you really like him, I think you should go to the movies with him, if you don't like him enough to get in trouble over him, then I wouldn't take a chance.If you really like him then everything will work out.. eventually your mom will come around.. my boyfriend is 17 & Im 14, so its not a big difference lol.. My mom didn't like him at first & she still don't like him, but she is still letting us go to the movies & stuff with him lol.. Good Luck
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Dear advice lady,
Well it's Ash once again.. I have been moping around for days now and I don't feel any better. I just can't get over him! I took your advice and ate chocolate and stuff. & I tried talking to other guys but none of them are like him! OMg what am I gonna do? Help please!!!!! -Ash- (link)
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Yikes! It sounds like you've really got it bad for this guy, here are some websites than can help you deal with breaking up, there's some good advice on there.. I looked them up just for you =) Hope they help..
www.breakups.com
http://brokenheartsville.com/
http://www.ivillage.com/topics/relation/0,,166872,00.html?arrivalSA=1&cobrandRef=0&arrival_freqCap=1&pba=adid=9740388
http://breakups101.com/
http://breakupssuck.com/
www.seventeen.com... it prolly won't help with your brekup problems, but it always makes me feel better =) lol
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i think that the question before mine could be a boy talking about his best friend who is a girl
okay here's my question.. this boy that i really really ~REALLY~ like wants me to meet him in the middle of the night.. like he wants to come pick me up and stuff.. but i would have to ~sneak~ and that is really ~scary~, and i really don't want to... why can't he see me during the day? and should i feel like he only wants me for other ~things~ since he wants to see me alone and at night? i just don't understand this.. i thought it was love.. but now i just don't ~understand~. Help Me!!! i have no one else to ask
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You're right, that was a guy.. I didn't pay enough attention to the question, I thought it was my friends goofin off lol.. Well, in my opinion this is a bad boy case lol..It sounds like he either doesn't want his friends to know you are talking or he wants "something else" from you.. I think you should tell him that you don't want to sneak out cus if you get caught then your parents will never let you two see each other again.. tell him you think you should go to the movies on a Friday night or something like that.. If he understands then maybe he's not such a bad boy and if he doesn't then he's not worth your time anyway, even though it sounds like you have it bad for him, never let a guy talk you into doing something you don't want to, believe me later you will truly regret it.. If you have any more questions just ask..
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Im not a lesbian this is a guy asking you that question about the best friend lol so I really am in love with her what should I do? (link)
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Im so sorry, I don't know why I thought that lol.. Well I think you should tell her how you feel about her, and if you don't know how to tell her, then write her a letter, (we love that kind of stuff) lol.. Tell her you never said anything before because you never wanted to hurt your relationship.. If she's a good friend, she'll understand & she probably could be thinking about you in the same way.. After all, words never said are the most painful.. if you don't tell her now, then you'll always think how things could have been.. I say go for it.. Hope I helped.. (* Aleshia *)
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hey im dating a girl that I think likes somebody else I cant really trust her ive dated her a zillion times and she has cheated on my before but im in love with her and she claims 2 love me too! what should I do?! (link)
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I think you should talk to one of her friends that you can trust & tell her that you really like your g/f.. tell them that you think shes cheating on you & you really love her & don't want to get hurt..She'll prolly understand & tell you the truth about what your g/f has been doing behind your back.. If you have any more questions, just ask me.. =)Aleshia(=
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Dear Advice lady,
This is Ash again. Well I took your advice and dumped my bf . At first I was like ok. this isnt sso bad but omg now im like so heart broken! WHAT SHOULD I DO? I kno that my ex bf wont take me bak now =( Please help me
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Hey Ash, Im sorry that you're feeling bad, I understand completely.... The best thing is to just.. (if this isn't too cliche lol) let it burn.. I know it sucks right now... My advice to you is mope around for a few days, eat some chocolate, and then after a while you'll start to relize how sucky this guy was in the first place for not respecting you..Another good thing to do is get hooked up with somebody, not as a rebound, but for fun.. believe me, if you like somebody else then you'll forget all about this loser guy.. If you tell me how old you are I might be able to hook you up with some of my friends lol.. MSG me on ICQ my number is 266-602-114.. Hope I helped
~!AlEsHiA!~
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Dear Advice Lady,
I think your column is pretty good, and I think you give good advice. Especially to the reader who asked if she was a whore because she has had sex with like 17 people. Yes, she definitely needs to use a condom, but that doesn't make it right or completely safe. Condoms are not 100% effective. Anytime you have sex you are taking a chance, and if you are not ready for the responsibility of having a baby or ready to get a disease, then you better not be messin around! Anyway, someday she will meet a very special guy who really cares about her, and she will wish she had waited to have sex with that special someone. God intented sex for married people, and I don't think he will let us get by with twistin it all up to be a big "fun" thing that has nothing to do with commitment or marriage. It just scares me because I know there are consequences to EVERYTHING we do. And we're not just hurting ourselves, but the people who love us. Even though they may not know now, the truth ALWAYS comes out.
Keep up the good advice. (link)
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*!~*Thanks*for*the*comment~!* =)
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Dear advice lady: My b/f and I go to difernt scools and we both perticapate in sports and stuff. THe scools are rivals so we fight all the time. What should I do? Should I break up with him or just take it when he puts down wut i do and stuff??? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -ash- (link)
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Well Ash, I think I would tell him that you don't wanna fight about it anymore and that you think its stupid that he tries to bring you down..Just leave him a msg on icq, or have a friend tell him for you if you don't feel comfortable doing it...See if this works and if it doesn't then the only then left to do is to break up with him, then maybe he'll understand how stupid he was and he'll change for the better & you guys can try it again.. Hope I helped.. If you have any other questions just ask me.. ~!*Aleshia*!~
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Hey,Well I'm datin this one guy ok..and He says he loves me and everything he never calls me or even says hey or hi to me when i see him..But there is this other guy who seems to really like me..and i kinda like him but NOT really..What should i do stay with my boyfriend and out whats going on or break up with him and go out with the other guy? PLEASE help me (link)
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You should break up with him and go out with other guys,it might not seem like it right now,
but once you start datin other guys, then you will feel more comfortable with other people, and you won't even think about this guy... good luck...
Aleshia
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I need some help...Me and this guy havebeen tlaking and well he wne ton vacation a week before i did and he met another girl and he claims to like me but i dunno....So should i believe him or forget him... (link)
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I think you should believe him because most of the time when you meet somebody on vacation you don't really like them you just get caught up & do things & you dont think anybody will know and then you regret it, so I think he prolly does like you & you should consider giving him a chance.. I hope it works out, Good luck..if you have any other questions just ask me..
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