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Q: i wrote earlier in the week about "army boy" (look back to refresh your memory) i was thinking of writing him a letter, tell me what you think...

Dear "James",
I am writing you this letter because I know if I try to say this out loud, it will just come out a jumbled mess. I don’t know what is going on between us right now, I am so confused and it’s not fair for either of us. You know that I love you and that I would do anything to be with you. I have been practically begging you to come back to me. I am not trying to make this into some poetic tragedy; I just want to know how you feel. Can you honestly tell me that you feel nothing when you kiss me; you feel nothing when we make love? I don’t understand how you can be so casual about this whole thing. I’m not mad at you and I am not upset, I am just simply asking you to tell me how you feel. Is there a chance for us at all, because my heart is on the verge of breaking. I know you are probably going away for a while but I am willing to be there when you come home. I want to be with you James, and if you don’t feel the same, then I would expect you have the decency to tell me so; after all we have been through together I deserve at least that.

THat is so... OMG.. perfect it almost made me cry.

Q: hey well im really depressed all teh time. and i want to quit school. and im just so sick of everything! im just stressed. can somebdy give me advice on what to do?

I think you should just calm down.. I amways feel like that too. What i did was find a bf and it made be feel better like someone cared.. Just relax.. and try to make yourself happy.. try and laugh everyday just for the heck for it.. it will make you feel better. Hope i helped... please rate

Q: 13/f
Well i met my boyfriend on AIM. My best friend goes to a diff. school than me and she knew him... so we were both single, she tried to hook us up, at first when we talked i wasnt shy. then he said he loved me after i showed him a picture of me...his mom said we couldnt go out until she meets me which could be awhile. But its really weird now becuase i feel shy talking to him through e-mail or AIM, is that normal?

Yes i think its normal for you to be shy because now you know he likes you for sure.. So its ok.. Hoped I Helped--Please Rate.

Q: theres tis girl who is totally obbsessed with me, shes attractive looking but i dont really think that it would work, and besides i already have a girlfriend. i wanna tell her that i dont like her but she cried cuz i wouldnt tell her if i liked her so i dont want to totally crush her heart so is there a way that i can tell her i dont like her without her getting crushed into amillion tiny peices

Just say lets be friends only. I have a girlfriend and i'm already taken.. Hope I Helped. Is your name Joey by any chance?? just wondering..

Q: well I have a girlfriend and I love her to death but idk if she knows that i love her as much as i do. how can i tell her how much i love her?

Tell her in a teddy bear. Send her a note in a teddy bell that says" I lvoe you more then the world" or something like that. Hope I Helped- Please Rate

Q: OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me.

I think this guy is just a player and hope thats everyone likes him. I really don't think he likes you (sorry) i think he just plays around and will cheat and cheat and cheat on every girl. Well i hope you understand... Hope I Helped..Please Rate

Q: well i have this friend who i really really like..well we've dated before..and everytime i try to open up to him it seems like he pushes me away..i always tell him i want to tell the guy i like that i like him..yet he know that i'm really talking about him..and everytime he always says go for it and tell him how you feel what do you have to lose..i always say well he hates me and he'll always say "who could hate you?"..yet i still think he does..and i want to know if he feels the same way about me as i feel about him..what can i do? i really need help on this one..it's very hard. please help!

i rate high!

I say... just ask him stright up...not on the phone face-to-face...ask if he likes you or not.

-Manders *Hope I Helped*
-if you need more help tell me

Q: Ok so ive known this guy for 2 years and he is my best friend and i love him to death . we joke around and say stuff like he is my lil bro because thats how close we are. but recently i noticed that he gets me i mean he understands me completely and cares about me he gets mad if other guys stare at me or say somethin like flirting with me. i really really like him. so i told him that i liked him and it was like awkwardness for 2 weeks,and he didnt tell me that he liked me which i thought he would. so now its back to a brother sister relationship and he is stil my best friend,but i really like him alot and i dont kno what to do ....somebody help me

Wow...I think he only like you as a friend not a like like type..or maybe he is just scared of what he feels...
-Manders *Hope I Helped*

Q: ok well i told this kid knows i like him but he wont tlak to me about it and hes leaving tomorrow until friday until the 30th..and i honestly am in love with him hes going to florida and i know what he does when hes on vacation...and that makes me wanna cry he gets with all these girls and im hurting so bad

what do u guys think i shouold do??

I think he is just a player that like to get girls.. I don't think he would want a real relationship anyways..I know you like him but i think you should get over him..
-Manders *Hope I Helped*

Q: ok so me and my best friend both like a guy and it so happens these guys are best friends but were going into highschool and we dont know if we will end up likeing somebody new..and they want to ask us out but we keep saying we dont know if we want a boyfriend rite now..so should we tell them we want a boyfriend and go out with them or just leave it be and wait for highschool or what?

I think you should wait to highschool and get to know them a litte better. Then if you feel its the right time then ask them out.
-Manders (Hope I Helped)

Q: Okay. Here's a little background info. Okay. Me and this kid named, lets just say "Mark" went out for about 5 months. We talked on the phone everyday, and hung out almost everyday. I was soo in love with him. But then we broke up a couple weeks ago. But I really regret it. We talk sometimes now, but I really want to go back out with him again. I miss him soo much. We went to some party last night, and he told my two best friends that he still liked me. I really want to tell him how I feel, but I don't know. I'm just really shy about telling people how I feel.

Here's my question.

1. Should I tell him how I feel? If yes, what should I say?

I rate high!! But please, I just need advice. Thanksss bunches.

Heart-broken and in love

I think that you should ask he out again. If he told your friends he liked you then he must. Just ask " do u still like me?" and if he does say " i still like you too" and then go from there.
-Manders (hope i helped)

Q: I like someone but I am not sure if he likes me or if i should ask him out?

If yoour friends with him then just talk to him about that.. If you not friends with him then talk to him and become friends first too see if you guys really have a connection.. If you not really a "friend" kind of person then just ask him if he likes you or get a friend too. if he doesn't then be friends with him or still talk to him. Hope I help

-Manders

Q: i know its stupid .. but i need help!! i have never been french kissed before and i think im ready, but i dont know how to do it! do both you and your boyfriend put your tounges in each others mouth or does one just put theirs in the others mouth? and how do you know whos tounge goes on top or bottom? I REALLY NEED HELP!!

Here's How:
1.Set the scene. Make sure that the mood and time are right.

2.Relax! Take a deep breath and let go of any tension in your neck and shoulders.

3.Put your arms around the person you want to kiss.

4.Start off with a normal kiss, not too firm, not too aggressive. Closing your eyes is optional.

5.In mid kiss, gently open your mouth and softly nudge the other persons mouth open using your tongue.

6.Again, not too aggressively, move your tongue inside the other persons mouth and playfully touch their tounge.

7.Read the other persons body language, if they seem tense or start to pull away, stop what you are doing.

8.If they open their mouth more or otherwise indicate they like the kiss, keep on doing what you have been only with a little more passion.

9.As the kissing gets going saliva build up can be a problem, don't forget to swallow.

10.Make sure you keep your tongues relaxed but your lips tight (saliva again), you don't want the kiss to turn messy.

Hope I helped tell me again if you need help on only thing else.

Q: I'm very shy and quiet, and I not a geek or anything but I'm not exactly popular either. There's this guy that I think might like me.. but he is really popular and outgoing, so I'm not sure if he really does like me or if it's just my imagination. Is it possible for a popular, outgoing guy to like a shy, not-so-popular girl? What are the chances? I don't know what to do because of my uncertainty.. should I flirt back or not?? Thanks in advance!! :-)

its totally ok for that to happen. once this girl i know was the same as u are and the guy was the sam. so she flirted a little in math class with him the next day he asked he out. so it is 100% possible. if he likes u then flirt if he get weird about it then he is just a jerk. Hop I helped

Q: Ok..i went sorta on this date last night with this guy i have been chatting on line with. My friend has met him so hes no harm. Well that whole night he would try to talk to me and i just didnt talk much. After the date..i got online and he didnt talk to me at all. My friend called me up a few min later and said i was really boring and didnt show my personality. Do you think this guy should give up? Or do you think he should let me have a second chance?

i think he should give a second chance because you were just nervouse and didn't want to talk much. oh well i do that on my first dates too. if he doesn't give u a second chance then he is wrong for u. hope i help.

Q: ok so i like this boy and he likes me....we like eachother a lot..and i don't want to be his gf but i do! and he wants to be my bf.. .his friends asked me" so do you want to be "" gf" and i say not yet...but inside i totally want to say yes..then his friends tell him and he aslways sais " its ok ..thats fine..i will just wait" and i think that is sweet and all but ...well i don't know what to do...help fast!

You guys should just be friends first too see how you feel about him with you only. Like go to the movies as friends and see if you really like him and his personally if you think he is changed now with you alone and don't like he then you guys can stay friends if you still like him like him then you should say yes and be his gf. Hoped i helped. ~-*Amanda*-~

Q: I didn't know what to put this under. My mom and I want to help out with the tsunami disaster by sending $, but my mom doesn't think it'll help. Like it won't be enough. What do you think? Should we send the money or no?
Thanks

yeah sent it some money is better then none.

Q: I don't have any guts when it comes to dumping a guy. Well.. OK I must admit this is my first time and we never went out on a date. I just don't want to be in a relationship right now. So, do you think it is ok to write a note to the guy I want to dump and say I don't want to be in a relationship? Or, does anyone know another way where I don't have to talk to him face-to-face. Or, do I have to talk to him like that! PLease help!

i have never dumped a guy my friends did it for me ALWAYS. so i suggest a note or face-to-face which is what i'm doing.but face to face is always better so he know whats going on and why your breaking up.hope i helped

Q: Ok, I like someone and they are a senior in high school. I know that we will never be together, but I can't help getting that funny feeling in my stomach whenever I am around them. Whenever they talk to me I feel like I am on top of the world. I don't want that feeling to go away. When I see them with someone else, I get jealous and I don't like being like that. What should I do?

well maybe you sould talk to him or they or you could write a note. but if he is a senior then he will be gone next year so you'll have to forget him anyways.

Q: my friend alyssa was seeing this guy ryan but they broke up bc she cheated on him. shes in love with this new guy tai they went out brok eup but shes still hooked on him. alyssa doesnt liek ryan any more and says she doesnt care if her friends like him but i feel likeid be betraying her if i did.. me and ryan have been talkin for a few weeks now. just online and on the phone and were making plans to hang out & stuff.. hes such a great guy and has the best personality. do you think its wrong that ryan & i are hanging out and talking??? me and alyssa have been friends for 4 years but she says its ok..i think shes too wrapped up with tai right now but.. i dont want to ruin our friendship at all... what do you advise..??

-kristi

i say " GO for it." he doesn't like him b/c she cheated on him and it seems like he likes you. She said it was ok so just do it.

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Hello my name is Amanda. I am really interested in helping you guys. I am really nice I have dark red hair and brown eyes. I am 5,3 and 110 pounds. Just ask me a question and i will give advice. If you want to know more ask me or check me out at Myspace or/and Tagged. The myspace link is somewhere around.