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Hey I'm Laurell. I've been through a lot so whatever the sitch is i can probably relate and try to help though I know in many situations it seems as though no one but yourself understands completely of what's going on; in some cases there's too much to express or type in words. As the days pass by, time is going by faster, and faster so I wish you the best of luck and wisdom through the rough spots.

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i'm 15/f in 9th grade in a Middle school and i get depressed a lot that i've never had a boyfriend. and i've also never kissed a guy before. sometimes i just get to thinking like wow there are like 13 yr olds with boyfriends and who have gotten their first kiss before.

also most of the people in my grade have boyfriends and have definitely kissed a guy before. it just gets me sad knowing that i haven't kissed a guy or even had a boyfriend before.

i don't want advice on how to get a boyfriend, that isn't my problem. i just want advice on how to be more confident and not to be constantly worrying about the fact that i've never had a boyfriends and i'm still prude.

thanks =]

its fine that you havent done any of that those things 13y/o are too young to be doing that anyways and you have to tell yourself that and boys dont matter they're are just perves. sorta like the other grl said: go have fun, treat yourself well, go shopping, have a day out with your girls or a couple days. and boyfriends are heartbreakers you dont need them i know some teenagers who wished their parents wouldnt let them date because of that...good luck

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Okay so i have this guy and he likes me and i somewhut like him but not really but im not aloud to date so its kinda pointless, so the other day he said that his parents hated me for texting him all the time because im charging the bill! But its not my fault!! its his because he is the one that textes back its so rediculous!! what do i do?

ok well his parents needs to get off your case but since that prolly wont happen since they seem so nosy, y dont yall make an agreement like mayb the plan of your fone for texting? i dont know i just got my plan changed for 50$ worth of texts this month w/guys...anyways or you could tell eachother for every one sent to cost you payeachother that way his paarents mite be a little more hush hush about it all them weirdos..or just fricking call eachother quit texting and if that doesnt help since your still on your cell,, if ur oarents r not useing the fone use it....yea i know but life goes on and you have to sometimes accomidate for others make adjustments for others ... its a sacrifice but in the long run its life -not fair - too bad.....
OhSnAp

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i know what flirting is but its one of those things where it is hard to describe.what things do guys do to flirt with you and what things can you do to flirt with a guy?

ok well most of the time guys will flirt whether they know it or not. to get a guy or just flirt normal: they hate it when you critisize your body too much ...if they're not players they'll like you to be something they might Have to work for, a little mysterious maybe, or hard to get... laugh at your mistakes instead of being embarressed [or showing you are]LOL ...sexual comments are def. flirting but may tend to be not you ... you can be a quiet flirt where if they come to you to talk you can give then a kool slick answer back....or you may be a playful flirt where you may gently grad their stomack or something... Oh SnAp! it is difficult to desribe it but i hope i sort of helped? message me back for more if you need it

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okay,i love my boyfriend to death and would do anything for him.but he drinks,dips,and smokes and i hate it.what i hate the most is that he tries to lie about it to me and it pisses me off. he wont do anything when im around him so im not worried about him pressuring me into doing it.but im worried about him getting caught,hurt,or in any kind of trouble.so my question is what can i say to make him stop?

you dont want a situation like that...thats terrible... tell him either that addictive crap leaves or your leavin, thats his choice and tell him your feelings, you'll help him quit but he's got to stop bc u dont like it...if he chooses that crap ovr u he is not worth it.

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Hey guys I'm 15 and my name is Jackie. There is this guy that I simply can NOT get over. I've alould myself to get hurt. Everytime I begin to sorta get over him, he says something sweet or flirty that gets me to fall for him all over. My head knows he doesn't like me, but my heart keeps getting tricked into thinking that he likes me. so anyway. I need some tips for getting over him.

thanks
xoxo

omg! i have the same situation!i know what i did and now i am his 1st banana i know he's not interested in me, i dont think,but he still tells me we can makeout~ its almost as if every time sometimes he USES you for when he doesnt have his other or his better girl(s) to flirt with him lately...you're his 2nd banana [to put it in those terms] theres a couple things you can do:

1. flirt back [tho it prolly wont help you get ovr him}

2. tell him to bug off [it pisses you off when he flirts with you bc it hurts inside and he needs to know you like him and its not cool for him to play with your brain likke that]

3. dont react but stop trying to tell yourself to get over him [you can find someone batter]

4. make him want you[when he flirts be mysterious, make him want to know more]

5. win him over

HoPeIhElPeD

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hi i need help im not spposted 2 date untill im like 20 !! so shud i date behind my parents bac????

NO, dont date behind your parents back, if you choose to it will only create more problems for you down the road...instead what you can do is just tell them how you feel and compromise dating is not everything though it may be for you now!even if you dont get your way and dont get to date right this year or next its not thee end of the world...though you can tell your parents how responsible you are or how much that their love has inspired you!! ***GL***

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i really like this guy and i cant get him off my mind. EVER i really do love him more than anything in this world but he just doesn't understand that. we were in one of those perfect relationships where he would call me at 3 in the morning just to see what i was doing or just because he wanted to hear my voice. !! one night he called me and asked me about my ex who was killed a few months ago, he didn't know that he was killed but he thought that i was still with him. but an hour later he broke up with me and i still dont know why. its been weeks and i still cry over him all the him. i dont think i could stand to cry over him one more time. he likes all these other girls now. i just dont know what to do or how to get over him.im sorry this is long but please answer me fast !!!! thank you !!

if he doesnt understand that you really are passionate for him then forget the man butt if you truely cant then talk to him tell him how you really feel....hope i helped***

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sometimes i get real frustrated with my b/f. and i start to hit and throw things i feel that if i dont get my anger under control that i will hurt him one day and it will jeopardize our relationship. how can i get my anger under control?

close your eyes count to five and then say in your mind that it doent bother you over and over again .....i know its lame but it works for 54% of people!!!

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I recently just got braces, and I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for a few months now and we haven't kissed yet.
Well I'm afraid now that since I have braces he won't want to kiss me.
I don't know, this is just something that worries me. But should I be worried about this?

NO, not at all dont be worried...if you want to kiss tell him what worries you and if he's bothered by it!!!

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Hey i have a b/f and i really like him but there is this guy that likes me too and every1 says we make a great couple and hes is my best friend and im starting to like him and then theres this other guy that every1 says liks me b/c he is always 2 flirty and just told me that he`d burn me a cd of this band b/c i told him it was really good and i was goin to buy it and hes lik no i`ll burn it for you i have all the cd`s i`ll burn all the good songs and so he is gonna do that and im really startin 2 lik him 2 but i like mi best friend as a guy and mi boyfriend more and im lik wut if he asks me out ?? Wut do i do??

well there is a multitude of things that you can do...some will probably take you down the wrong road though...#1:you have mixed feelings so stick with the guy you have and deal #2:if the guy that you are dating is not real fun dating then tell him and go with the other guy he seems fun too but it could create some problems down the road with thee other guy that you dumped**my advice hopihelped***

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ok so there are theses guys at school and there are popular girls at school and im one of popular girls i guess but there is this other girl who is like perfect and she really pretty and she hangs out wuth the guys a lot and yet some of the guys like me though im not a slut? i just dont get it

Well just b ur self cause even tho in like every skool ther is Perfect guys and gals that u think r perfect 4 each other..Believe me hun theyll be the 1s becomming sluts..so just like who ever you like..not because there Perfect!!

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I've known my best guy friend for 3 years, since 5th grade,and him and i are really "close" and at times can get really touchy, but we've never kiss, or anything like that, he acts like he likes me,and wants to ask me me out but can't,so trys to give me hints and ask's me interesting questions like" are you afraid of a boy kissing you?"or" how many guys have you made out with?" and all of our mutual friends say that one of us should ask the other out and w/e, but then about 2-3 weeks ago he asked me if him and this other girl would make a good couple and if he should ask her out, all i could say was ".. do you like her?"(dumb question i know all i could think of in the moment) and he said yes. and that was that.. and i guess i have to just deal, but as the years go on i like him more and more, and i love him to death*as a brother,nd mabe a lil more* , in the end of it all i really just want him to be happy(i know it sounds cheesy)but when ever he's around me his hands are always somwhere on me, and his tickle me constantly, and i loved that! but now he has a girl friend,somone who i used to be friends with, and i know its not real nice/proper or me or him to continue to act like that, im just really confused about his feelings for me and ever since he went out with her, he's stoped talking to me. and it really hurts..
-Hurt and confused-

im thinking...ASK THE DUDE OUT, if he is willing to ask you those corney questions then he probably wants to you knows whats....before he becomes really close to the other girl you should tell him how you feel maybe even ask him out if you want to . . .***glad2B@yoursevice***

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OKay! Don't get me wrong, I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND, but sometimes it feels like we aren't as good as we used to be. I dont' know, I mean I dont' want anything to happen to us. It's just, he's been away a lot and stuff and I mean, it feels weird, because it's not like I miss him even that much anymore. I dont' know! It is just different and I really don't like it. Please help me out. How do I relit our flame? And is this normal? I'll rate HIGH and leave FEEDBACK

well to relite your flame do some things that you both used to love doing . . .before the confusion thats what i used to tell my parents when they needed to spark their love life to the fullest again . . ..***hope i helped***

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((13 female)) there's this boy that i met 2 years ago and we never really talked to each other because we don't live in the same town than i went out w/one of his friends and we started talking again..but me and his friend broke up and i fell for him..we went out but we didn't last very long but we still continued to care about each other..finally after we hung out at his house, basketball camp and stuff we started dating agin about 2 months later..once again we broke up..i know that we should just stay friends but it so hard cause we still both like each other (well he says he still likes me)..he says he broke up w/me cause we don't see each other enough but it doesn't matter to me cause i'd talk to him everyday on the computer and phone and every chance we could see each other we'd do that. i called him everyday but he called me like once. we fought all the time over the dumbest things. when the 4th of july came i went to his town for fireworks because my town doesn't have them. he was there and we kinda hung out but not really..he was w/his friends and i was w/mine. but there was one thing that bugged me so bad and it hurt me..his x girlfriend was there and he hung out w/her. i was so devestated..all i wanted to do was sit and watch the fireworks w/my boyfriend. about 2 days later he broke up w/me. i still love him. i know i should forget him..but i've tried to move on. there was someone out there that liked me and treated me soo good but i can't love him. my x boyfriend (ethan) was my first true love..and here i am still caring about him. my friends tell me to give up but they don't understand how i feel about him. i still love him more than anything in this world and no matter how long and hard i search there will never be anyone that i can care for at this age like i care for him. he's my best friend and my first true love. he was the first person i actually liked cuddling with and watching movies with. he was the first person i ever got butterflies when i was in the car on the way to his house. he was the first person i could look into his eyes forever. he was the first person that i could talk to on the phone who i never got tired of. he was the first and only person who can make me laugh without me even wanting to smile. i could have the worst day but when i'd talk to him somehow everything was perfect. please help me. what do i do if i still love him?

i think that you should talk about it with him and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels *****busy***** advicegal26

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Hi, I am 14 years old, and I am dating a 16year old male. He is everything that I look for in a man. Everything is goin great. How can I keep it that way and improve it to make it more interesting?

well,if everything is going great you shouldnt change much but have fun and keep him happy and that you should plan a special day, just 4 them. a romantic date at a resturaunt might show how much she cares about him.
***goodluck***

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Ok so I met a girl at a picnic. Shes very shy and so am I. Im 21 shes 19. I saw her again at another picnic the week after and I asked her for her number and got it and we hung out that whole night. I called her Tuesday and like she didn’t ask one question and I opened up somehow and asked a lot. Thing is shes very shy and actually never had a boyfriend before because she focused on family and school. So what do I do to open her up and find if she even likes me. Any advice is helpful.

P.S. What would a good first date be for some one who never had a bf?

A GOOD FIRST DATE would be to bring her to the movies or out to dinner just dont scare her with something like the skateboard park with you friends or something or you could go on a double date find 1 of her friends who has a bf or something . . .***good luck***

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well my guy friend and i have been friends 4 years now and i think im in love with him. see its all complicated. its like we used 2 like each other and like then it passed 4 him but i still liked him. then he told me he had a gf and i was mad and crushed, but i feel like i love him. and nows he's broken up eith his gf and my freidns keep telling me to go with him but i need ur advice 2!!!

if you think that he has neglected you the heck with it but if you truely like him and still think that he may like you go for it he may have been going out with that other girl to make you jealous and hook up with him . . .RATE ME*

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Ok, i am really overweight and i want guys to like me, but most guys go for skinney minneys!!should i go on a diet? Give me advice i give good ratings!!

You should do whats best 4 you! If you feel like you can get a guy who loves you the way you look then dont go on a diet..the desiccion is up to you!But if u do decide to diet dont go on the crsh 1s they r awful!

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there is this guy is name is cameron and he is so hot and i haved liked him sence kindergarden and i am in the 6th grade well he knows but he never said any thing to me bout like us been more than friends i love him alot i have know him all me life but i started liken him in kindergarden . in the 4th grade he asked me out and then when we got at the valintine dace he dumped me right there in fount of my friends and this outher guy that i like and then he laguhed about it but i am in love with him and i can not help it i have know him for ever he is like the guy that al the normal gurls will never get lol HELP ME PLEASE

i do happen to have some of this experiance so let me see here . . .
if you're too afraid to talk to him youself then just have one of your friends call him,talk to him face to face,or go on aim and talk and have them ask if he likes you. or you can just ask him straight up (alone) tell him what you feel i know that its hard...plan C: talk to your parents

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I have this bf, well who is sweet but he wont let up! i meen he follows me everyehere!!! its pathetic! what should i do?Please Help!

well to begin with i would just tell him how you felt butt if you dont want to hurt his feelings find a nice way to tell rather than tellin him in front of his friends or in front of the whole world . . .so give me an update on what happened and what you didd to solve your problem!! hope i helped*******

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