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Holla playaz! haha... well this is my advice site, some ppl say that i give good advice, other's say its crap.. but i'll let you make ur own opinion on that in the future. Ask me anything!!!!! I luv all yall!
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okay so this guy and i have been hanging out a lot. he tells me he likes me, and says he wants to ask me out, but he still hasnt, he told me he was waiting for he right time...well i think he likes his ex gf, bc i was lookin at his phone and he had text messages for her...adn he said she just got a bf, and even tho he doesnt have feelings for her, its ripping him apart. ive already done a lot with him, which is pretty unusual for me, bc i have such a hard time trustung guys...yesterday he expected me to do tuff with him, and when i told him i didnt want to he figured something was wrong...i really like him... more then anyother guy ive ever liked... but i have no idea what to do about him... any ideas?? please help!!
Well from my perspective it seems as though he is playing games with you, and your emotions. He does stuff with you, but won't ask you out? That, in my opinion, isn't right. But do what you want. Anyway..I think that you should just tell him how you feel, that you think he is still feeling something for his ex, but that you really like him. If he really has feelings for you, he'll ask you out and put his past behind him. I'm sorry if this doesn't help...
Love, Arielle
ok so im 13 and i have fallen head over hills for this guy. problem is hes 19 :( i havnt really told many people about it but do u think he is too old for me? we flirt a lot. and he seems to like me. plus his bday is in a few weeks. any ideas on how to hint him that im in love with him?
Honestly I think that he is to old for you, there are plenty of guys your age that would be happy to be with you. But if you're really in love with this guy, which is unlikely, but ok... all you can do to tell him is just say it.
Sorry if this doesn't help.
Love Arielle
well, my boyfriend broke up with me and i still really loved him, and i never really know why he broke up with me. any ways, i cant seem to let him go, and my friends are like get over him already, but i jsut cant!!! i really do like him, hes the one who made me feel like i was the prettiest person in the world when i was talkin to him. what do i do?!?!?!
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broken hearted 13 female
Well, I know what a loss like that can feel like. The only thing that you can do is just live your life. There's really no such thing as "getting over" someone that you LOVE. I don't mean to sound rude, but at our age, it is most likely NOT love, and just someone that you like A LOT. Around 13 and 14 is when we are learning more about ourselves as people, we're gaining more friends, and we tend to get up in a lot of gossip. We get so caught up in everyone "hooking up" and "going out" that we don't take time to appreciate him/her. When people are telling you that you need to get over them, its probably a sign that they aren't worth being miserable over. When someone makes you feel like your the prettiest person in the world, it feels good for a while, but then eventually you need to realize that you shouldn't NEED someone to MAKE you feel that way, that you should be happy with who you are in the first place. After losing someone close to me, I wallowed in misery, as i'm sure that you have done (everyone does it, dont be ashamed) but then I realized that i was better off without him, that i didn't need him so that I could be happy.
I am just trying to say...be happy with yourself. No one needs someone to help them be happy. You may think that you do, and believe that you do. But in the end, if you lose them, what is your support? How will you ever be able to live? You have to be an independent person, you need to learn how to be strong on your own. You can't sit and wallow in misery because he doesn't like you anymore. You have to move on, as hard as it is.
I apologize if any of this came off rude...please believe me when i say that it wasn't supposed to.
If you have any more questions, just ask me, i'd be happy to help. Let me know how this goes.
Love, Arielle
My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. We tell eachother everything. The other day I was talking to one of our friends and he was saying that there was rumor that my bf kissed another girl. Should I ask him or should I leave it because I trust he wouldnt do that?
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I would confront him about it instead of just assuming for the worst. Or giving him the chance to do it again.
hey.. whats up? well lets see i dont try to hang out with my guy so much he just likes being around me and he walks me to my classes and everything and i think its sweet. im not stopping him from hanging with people cause if he sees his friends in the hallways ill encourage him to go and talk to them that ill be fine alone lol. ive tried not making plans with him on weekends but he just wants to be with me.. i love him and all but i want him to stay close to his friends. yeah it may be likely true that he may not hang out with this certain girl cause shes drifted away or not tried to talk to him. it may also be because he doesnt really like it that this girl is making me her enemy when i just want to be friends .. yeah most junior high relationships dont last long but i hope this one will.. well w.b.s .thanks.. stacy
Personally I don't think that you and him have a very good relationship. Because it seems that a lot of people are suffering because of it. Even though YOU are the one asking the question, i need to know a little more about you and him. Are you and him going to the same school next year? Have any of your friends tried to tell you that he's a jerk or he's done something wrong? Let me know about this..but in the meantime i'll try to give you the best advice i can. You said that "it may also be because he doesnt realy like it that this girl is making me her enemy when i just want to be friends", has he actually told you this? or are you just assuming it? She may have also TRIED to talk to him but he's not giving her the time of day because his whole life is revolved around you. Second think yours and his relationship and ask yourself if its really worth not being friends with this girl that you obviously really like. You may see that what you think is right, may not necessarily be the best choice for this time in your life. Let me know how it goes.
hey well ur advice really helps me thanks.. well i dont think they have any history i just think she just wants to keep there friendship. but its not really my fault that he isnt really being friends with her. i dont know what i have to do with this and why she has to hate me cause of it..i tell him to be friends with her and to hang out with other friends so he wont lose touch with them but he wont listen. he apperantly is to inlove with me.. i love him and all but i want him to keep his friends and everything. i dont like losing friends or gaining enemies. well today i followed ur advice and was nice to her and everything hopefully shes getting the message that i want to be friends..
Maybe if you didn't hang out with him as much, and give him no opprotunity to hang out with other friends, it would give him a chance to hang out with his friends and strengthen those relationships. Yeah, that might be hard for you if you two are inseperable, but there IS such thing as seperation. LOL. No offense to your guy but he doesn't seem like a very nice person, most guy's would "love" their girlfriend but still hang out with his friends, i'm sure that this girl isn't the only one feeling unwanted by him. Maybe try to NOT make plans with him one weekend and tell him to do something with someone else for a change. If he loves you, then you won't have to worry about him messing around with anyone else and there is trust there, unlike in some relationships. The con to junior high relationships is that they don't last and you get an overwhelming amount of enemies because of them. There's ALWAYS someone getting hurt even if you don't notice it. I personally don't get into relationships until i'm absolutely sure that I won't be effecting anyone else's emotions, because i don't want to feel guilty about it. But enough about me, this is about you, this girl, and your guy. If he doesn't want to hang out with other friends, there's more to that, it may be because his friends have drifted away from him because of yours and his relationship. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, but it is most likely true. Sorry that this is so long, it may not have made sense to you, but it made sense in my head. lol. hope i helped, let me know how it goes and ask about anything else you need help with