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ok. my boyfriend (of almost 2 yrs) is moving 3 hours away. im only 14 but i am in love with this boy. and he just might be the one. but he is moving this yr. and his parents said that they would drive him down EVERY HOLIDAY and on BIRTHDAYS. what should I do?

Keep calling him everyday or as often as you can.
I know how you feel.
I recently moved across the country from where i lived my whole entire life.
Talk to him online, maybe use a web cam.
Have him stay over for a couple weeks during the summer.
Hope i helped!

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SO. My boyfriend's name is Doug. When we started dating his ex girlfriend was SO rude to me. She called me fatass, she started rumors, and she was just all around rude. They broke up two months ago, and now she wants back in his life. She added him on myspace & her message read; "I just want to try and get along."

Is it wrong for me to not want them to associate at all? I don't want her to be back in his life, I don't want them to be friends. Am I just being selfish?

I keep trying to put myself in Doug's shoes, but it's impossible.

Well I think you are worried you caught him on rebound and if he gets along she will win him back
but that is not completly it.
u are a little jealous it seems.
But if she is only wanting to get along and you let her, she will stop rumors.
(jus dont leave them alone together) ;)

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im 15 and in have fancied this girl for a while and im thinking abou asking her out. The only problem is i don't know waht she thinks of me and if i ask her out and she says know what will this do to our friendship. what should i do?

Okay I have to say this cuz im a girl:
Guys usually dont know if a girl is into them.
If she looks at you often, drops her stuff when you walk by she is totally into you.
or for shyer girls when you walk by she might run her hand through her hair pulling it back.
If she doesnt "like like" you yet try to be her friend first.

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so there's this guy, and we like each other. we also liked each other a long time ago. well we both recently got out of relationships. and we are going to a movie tomorrow and we decided that we're going to make out. first of all, will it be awkward to make out in a movie theatre because of the seat angles? advice on that please! and also, how do i tell him i don't want to commit to anything just now..i'm worried he'll ask me to be his girlfriend. thanks!

Before he trys making out with you tell him you are nervous people are watching.
Tell him lets just look like friends right now.
And to me it sounds like you are worried he is on rebound, and dont want to get with him and break up in a week.
Tell him the truth before you go out.

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I'm warning you now, this is going to be long because I'm explaining this from the beginning[this is the shortened version], so if you don't have time nor want to waste your time, don't bother reading the rest of this.

Alright, so I used to go out with this boy Jake, well he has this friend Jayson, who I have always thought was really cute an stuff before I knew him well but I'm sort of a shy person so I never talked to him. Well Jayson and I became close friends, he would help me with Jake and I would help him with Nikki[Jayson's girlfriend for eight months, she dumped him to be friends and was then going out with his friend and he still liked her a lot]. I soon dumped Jake, because I just felt as though it wasn't working out.

So I went to this festival and this was a few weeks after Jake and I broke up, well Jake had told me the night before he was going to hang out with me for an hour at the least and then he might ask me out, well the whole time he completely ignored me, and Jayson made me feel a little bit better at the festival, but that night I was texting him and I was helping him with Nikki because he didn't know what to do but I told him to tell her how he felt and to say I'm not about to ruin anything between you and Shawn though and he said No bobcat[he calls me that dont ask why because I don't know either] I can't do that. Then we started talking about my problems or something and I said I just wanted one boy to prove to me that they are not all the same and Jayson says I really want to prove that to a girl...

Well a few nights later we were talking again and he admited to me he liked me a lot but he probably shouldn't because of Jake and all, but I told him I liked him too, but he also told me he liked some other girls but me the most. Well we went to glow bowl and I thought he was going to ask me out, well turns out he asked out one of those other girls he told me about and she said yes and she knew I liked him but she didn't even like him or whatever. But later that night he told me he pretty much led me on and didn't like me, and if he was ever single during the rest of the summer then he would most likely come to me. I cried for four days at just random times, everything reminded me of him.

About a week later or so I went to his baseball game, after it, he was texting me and begging me to come back to him and I told him I know I shouldn't but I'm giving you a second chance, he told me he never meant anything he said and he shouldn't have done that and I have every right to be mad. Well it was going on for about a week and he hadn't changed his mind so I thought it might actually work this time.. His friend was acting like him and was texting me and asked me out but I knew it wasn't Jayson because he asks people out in person so I never gave an answer, but then I asked his friend if Jayson liked me and he said no only as a friend. Well I talked to Jayson about it the next day and we got into a fight and I was mad at first but got over it and figured we would talk about it later, but that night he made out with this girl Allie, so I figured it was over.

Then I was texting him on my last day on vacation and he told me he liked me again and he told me he doesn't understand anything he does, and I should be mad at him for everything, actually that I should hate him, but I told him I would only give him another chance if he proved to me he liked me. So he told Nikki he liked me but wasn't sure, then he told Dexter he was going to hook up with me, and he told Jake he liked me. So we hung out the next day and this girl Amanda[the one girl he asked out and she said yes, they went out in the seventh grade for pretty much the whole year] was all over him, and he told her he liked her again. So then I talked to him about it and he told me he can't seem to find the right girl now and he doesn't think he could go out with me, so I was upset and started crying, and then his friends found out and were making fun of me. Then I texted him and said Jayson if you really think I care about you right now think again because if your going to act gay go right ahead, and then he called me and was like why are you so pissy over text and I went off on him. But then that night he came to our school dance and we got into another fight. I called him and then he hung up from me to watch full house? Ha, but I guess we were cool, but I was still mad.

So his friend Dexter kept saying he liked me and then I asked Jayson what to do and he told me to pretty much lead Dexter on but I wasn't going to do that.

Well then I went to glow bowl and he was sitting by me and I went up to my friend Eric and started to hug him an just hold on to him, I guess you can say I'm a bit of a flirt? But I was attempting to make Jayson jealous. Then later my friends Colleen and Mose were standing real close and I was talking to Nikki, so Jayson comes over and says MAKE ROOM FOR JESUS! and so Colleen and Mose spread apart a little and he's like no not you two I'm talking about the lesbians, and then he was talking about how lesbians are hot but me and Nikki need to be straight or something, I dunno.. but then I said:
Jayson can I ask you something..
Jayson: go right ahead
Me: why aren't you hot like your brother
Jayson: which one [ahahh you should have seen his face, he got mad you could tell, but I had to say it just because of everything he's done to me]
Me: Jake[no I didn't go out with his brother]
Jayson: When did you see him
Me: in a yearbook, but seriously I hope you look like him he's hot.

Then he started talking about his brother having sex or something, I dunno, but for the rest of the night he was giving me an attitude, like we were taking pictures and he goes take a picture of me and so I went in it and he goes no I don't want to take a picture with you[we always take pictures together so yeahh] and then I gave him a dirty look and I think I hit him and hes like don't touch me. And then I saw him slow dance with this girl Hannah, but then he was calling her a really big hoe and stuff. And then I was leaving an I was like bye Jayson and waved and he gave me a look and waved but was like bye?

So then Nikki texted me and said she was mad at him and I asked why and she said because people were asking him if he went out with her and he said yeah shes a hoe now. And she yelled at him

Then I texted him and said Hey are you mad at me because I think your brother's hotter than you and he never answered, and I haven't talked to him since.. even though it was only yesterday. But I like him SO much and none of my friends think he's worth it, but I just want to prove them wrong because I know a side to him that a lot of people don't.

But what I was planning on doing was texting him in about a week and saying I miss being friends and that I wish we didn't go through all of this fighting and such, and then I have a feeling he'll come back to me, and I will just tell him I like him but we have to be friends until he TRULEY finds a way to prove that he likes me.

Hmm, Do you think that'll work? And do you think he's worth this? Just anything will help honestly :]

Ps; I was thinking about asking him to the Bold And Gold[only dance we can go to next year, since were going to be freshmen, and it's a formal, but I have awhile to wait to see if I still like him, its not til September 29]

I don't think he's worth it at all!
I think he is playing games and using you!
Next time he says he likes you tell him:
"Yeah yeah, where have i heared that before..."
"I don't like you because I gave a lot of second chances and you ruined it!"

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Well ilike this boy and he likes me.
Well 2 weeks ago he said he was gonna ask me out just not at the moment and its been 2 weeks and he still hasn't i mean im patient but we always and that i just want to know what do you think is he over me,dosnt he want a gf or want just curious.

Thanks muchh !

I think he sounds shy or nervous.
Maybe he isn't ready for a girlfriend.
(it is a big step from crush)
Ask him out if you are confident.

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There is this guy from my work place that I really like. I heard he has a drinking problem but so far it had just been a rumour. Well today I ran into him at the bottle depot. I was there first and then he showed up. He said hi but then got really quiet. All I had were water and diet cola bottles, but then I glanced at his and saw tons of boxes of beer cans. I could sense he was embarrassed because normally he's very talkative, so I just collected my money and left. Now I don't know how to act around him. Should I just pretend like I never saw anything?

Wow. Tough...
Try to help him.
If he insists you don't he could be adicited but to "proud" to admit he has a problem.
This is tough.
Tell him you like him,and if he says he likes you tell him you will only date him if he quits.
Obviously he is ashamed or embarassed about drinking.

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ok.so there's this guy that i really like && that i've known for awhile.my friend actually works with him and she use to tell me how cute he was and i would agree.i finally admitted that i liked him && she didn't say anything.awhile later she told me that she liked him too.they have problems && he tells me all the time that he can't stand her. i feel in an awkward position bkuz i like him && alotta people can tell.but i don't know if he can.we're kinda flirty but i'm touchy feely && he's kinda not.i really can't tell if i should make a move or not??HELP!please =)

Tell him how you feel about him.
If he doesn't "like like you"
then try being friends first.

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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.

Sweet heart, I have to say it was inapropiate behavior and you shouldnt have done it.
There are over 200 disease you may have now.
I am hoping you will take my advice:
1) Tell your parent(s) (maybe just mom!)

REMEMBER:

1) Everyone makes mistakes
2) This insident WAS A MISTAKE!
3) I can learn from every mistake.
4) Think before you do!

These may be hard but are the best things to do and remember!

"xxsima answered Sunday July 9 2006, 7:46 pm:
Hun, get off this site. Go see a therapist. You are way too young to be doing this.

Your question has been rated a '1' 21 times.

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Harsh! See your parents not a therapist!

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