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open relationship?
so there's this guy, and we like each other. we also liked each other a long time ago. well we both recently got out of relationships. and we are going to a movie tomorrow and we decided that we're going to make out. first of all, will it be awkward to make out in a movie theatre because of the seat angles? advice on that please! and also, how do i tell him i don't want to commit to anything just now..i'm worried he'll ask me to be his girlfriend. thanks!
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if your gonna make out at a movie, sit in the back for privacy reasons.
just tell him that you wanna go steady and that you don't wanna commit yourself to anything yet.
tell it to him straight up. you gotta be honest and real.
if you are gonna go on a date and you are gonna make out, then you are gonna be classified as his girlfriend already.
hope this helps!!!!
good luck!!!!
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Here's how you tell him that you're not prepared to commit to anything right now: IN ADVANCE. Make sure he realizes up front that you don't want to go exclusive just yet. He won't be able to accuse you of leading him on if you're clear from moment one that this date is about seeing a movie and making out, not about long-term commitment.
Now, if he DOES ask you to be his girlfriend, you simply need to be honest with him. Don't shoot him down or blow his hopes out of the water; I assume that you aren't opposed to the idea of SOMEDAY becoming his girlfriend (and if it really never will happen, that's something else you need to tell him in advance). So, just tell him the truth - that you're both coming out of relationships and you want to be careful not to rush into anything else too soon.
Incidentally, when making out in a movie theater, keep the following in mind: you're in a public place. It may be a dark public place, but it's public all the same. Be aware that some people will decide that your show is better than the one on-screen, and some people may be bothered by it and have you kicked out. Either one is pretty embarrassing and won't do anything to help your new relationship. As far as how "easy" it is, it's really not hard at all; just sit in the back row, flip the armrest up, try not to spill the popcorn, and keep it QUIET - remember that there are some people there who actually want to watch the movie! If there's anyone sitting within twenty feet of you, find a less crowded theater.
And be careful about how far you go. I would suggest that if you're not going to commit, you shouldn't go much past heavy kissing and petting through clothes (for that matter, anything more than that is just not appropriate in public). Put it this way: as long as you have an open relationship, he's going to assume that whatever you're willing to do with him is something you're willing to do with other guys too. Lose control, and you could find yourself with a reputation you don't want.
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Before he trys making out with you tell him you are nervous people are watching.
Tell him lets just look like friends right now.
And to me it sounds like you are worried he is on rebound, and dont want to get with him and break up in a week.
Tell him the truth before you go out.
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