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theres this guy im crushing on sooooooooo bad its not even funny. but wen ever i talk to him, i get wicked nervous and always end up saying the wrong thing and wierding him out! HELP ME I NEED TIPS

don't worry this is perfectly normal it happens to me a lot :/ but i will give you a few tips to try to help you out...

*try to relax when you try to talk to him and tell ur self he is just like everyone else

*maybe get his email or screen name and you can talk to him on there and then advance to phone later on and then you will be more comfortable talking in person

*find out what stuff he does and what you have in common with him so you have something to talk about and you don't start just saying stuff

*this might sound stupid but try to wing it completly so it doesn't feel like you have to say something perfectly like so

I really really really hope this helps you but i really have to go for now just email me some time my email is xSummerSparklex@aim.com sorry i had to go just don't worry about it and pertend you are talking to your best friend, bye

>>> SparkleAngel

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i have a boyfriend, and well we've been going out for a while. i used to really really like him. and i still do, just not like like. but see the thing is theres another boy. who is amazing. i feel so comfortable around him. we talk about anything, we always tell eachother the truth. and well my boyfriend is really really nice, and he really likes me still. im afarid to dump him, cause if i do he will be hear broken. im not dumping him for the other boy, i just dont think its right to go out with some one you dont like. PLEEEEZ HELP ME im so confused anythign will be amazingly aprecciated!! THANK YOU SO MUCH

well....ooo this one is hard, um well, you should probably think about what one you like more for a while then after you can decide who you would go with and you should really give in some thought of dumpping him for the other boy because I think you should go out with someone who you like more if I were you I probably would dump your boyfriend and ask out the other one because like you said the other boy makes you feel amazing but when you dump your boy friend really sound sorry because he will feel more hurt if you don't and tell him that you just want to be friends try to explain in the nicest way as possible that you can't go out with him anymore he may be a little hurt but that is the only way pretty much besides going out with both which will make a bigger mess because they will find out I really hope i hellped AIM me sometime if you need anymore help my sn is xSummerSparklex I really hope it works out for you :D (you can also email me at xSummerSparklex@aim.com)

>>> SparkleAngel

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i have been friends with this guy for about a year. he's really cool and all, and i consider him my guy best friend, and i guess he considers me his girl best friend. we have a lot of things in common, and we talk about all anything. from sports to music to girls and all that stuff. one time we talked in AIM for 8 hours straight! the last time i talked to him, before he left for vacation, we talked about how we talked for 8 hours straight. [[it's always been random things that we talk about]] and somewhere along the line of conversation, i said something like, "well, i wouldn't wanna waste your time talking to me."
here's a quick scene from that conversation::
HIM: oh come on. you're one of the only people i could talk to for 8 hours and love it
ME: uh-huh
HIM: yeaah. why do you think that it would be a waste of time for me?
ME: i don't know... maybe you have better things 2 do?
HIM: now why would i talk to you for so long if i had better things to do? i talked to you for 8 hours because i love talking to you
ME: i guess... lol... this is turning into one of those "aw" moments
HIM: hahahahahaha. sure i guess. just being
honest

i thought it was REALLLY sweet of him to say that. since then i've been feeling like i like him more than a friend. i heard that he kinda likes someone, but i'm not sure who it is. i don't really wanna tell him that i like him, because i don't wanna put our friendship in jeopardy. i'm thinking of just waiting to see if he'll ask me out. maybe not anytime soon, but hopefully when i still like him. should i? we don't go to the same school anymore. we used to, but his parents wants him to go to this other school so that he has a better chance of him getting into this high school that i'm hoping to get into, too. i really miss him, and even though i talk to him more than anybody else, i still feel like it's not enough. what should i do?

well a little thing to do is when your around him drop little hints but not big ones if you want to drop big ones start out really small, he probably likes you too but just is to shy to ask you out after you drop a few hints after a while if he doesn't get the picture and ask you out just try to ask him out cause there is nothing to lose, your friend ship might get a little jumbled but hopefully after it will go back in place i hope it helps

>>> SparkleAngel

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Okay, theres this guy, that i talk to on myspace, and we go to school togeather, and i talk to him there to.


ANYWAY, whenever we talk, we always end up "fighting" but its SOOOO fun to fight with him, and i just love annoying him, and he's the same way with me.

My friends say that this is flirting, but i dont see how it is. Cause were just pretty much arguing...


Anyway, I really like him, and i'm not so sure if he likes me, but he can be a real jerk.

So, the quistion is, should i go after him, even though he seems to only like to use me to argue with?

~Melissa~

well it is sorta true fighting is sort of like flirting if you keep on doing it with this boy and i would go after him but first i would try not to argue for once and see what happens see if you can see the true "persons name here" if he still is a jerk you might realize that you don't like him as much anymore so just do that and if you still like him go for it girl

>>> SparkleAngel

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okay well i really like this guy and i know that he likes me and we are both really shy none of my friends know that i like him.Its summer and what do i do when i go back to school and see him again

go for it if he probably would ask you out but he is to shy too it doesn't matter what your friends think just go for it if you want to then go girl go I hope it works out between you two it is sure too

>>> SparkleAngel

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I used to go out with this guy named Josh. I loved him so much, & when he broke up with me -- I thought EVERYTHING would change. & I never thought I'd find myself in this position.

But now I met this new guy named Ralph, and whenever we go out on dates, or if we just talk on the phone, I always unfortunetly find myself comparing Josh to him. & How great Josh was, and the little things he did that Ralph doesn't do.

I don't want to do that anymore & it's really getting on my nerves. I won't be going back out with Josh again, but I can't help but think about how perfect he treated me, and then I just compare which really sucks.

Is it wrong to compare?
Does anyone else do it? I don't want to feel like soo horrible about it, but I just think I'm trying to get over Josh.

Thanksss.

its pretty natrual to compare it is just because maybe you just can't stop remebering all teh good times but if you guys broke up that means there is someone way better out there just waiting to be found eventually you will slow down on the comparing just don't worry about it I know many people who do that too

>>> SparkleAngel

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I was at my friend lillys house for her 15th birthday with a few other people. Everything was great we were doing manicures and making prank calls. But then it got really late and everyone got a sugar rush and were bouncing off the walls it was crazy! Well I was sitting on top of Lillys dresser next to her cousin Jenna and all of the sudden Jenna started rubbing my feet and telling me how soft my skin was....it really weirded me out. Everyone laughed like it was a joke...but it didnt seem like a joke to her. She looked kinda like my boyfriend does right after we make out. Should I be weirded out by this? I'm going to her house again on tuesday and her cousin will be there, and I'm kinda scared...should I be? Hellllp!

some people can fake expresions like that that is probably waht happened she was most likely joking around and added the fake expresion for a touch she was just trying to freak you out, if she acts like that when you go over her house you tell her to stop and she keeps on doing it leave hope it helps

>>> SparkleAngel

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hi, okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year now, on and off. and i mean i would do anything for this kid. i`m not saying i`m in love with him, but i might be. and we talk like we have a really serious relationship. but, there is one problem, we barely ever see eachother. school ended for me june 9th, we saw eachother on the last day of school of course, and then about a month ago at this public swimming pool. that`s all we have seen eachother this whole summer. i mean i talk to him everyday, and we try to hang out, but he says that he can`t and tells me why, but i always think that he`s just making up an excuse to just not hang out. i mean he says that either his parents don`t want to take him or something that has to do with his parents. we`re 15 so we can`t drive by ourselves yet. but, he never hangs out with girls he goes out with i guess, and it really is because of his parents. but i still have that thought in my mind thinking he just doesn`t want to see me. how can we hang out more ? and do you think he just doesn`t even wanna hang out with me..?

first of all before you get all upset try asking him if he really wants to see you anymore then ask him where he likes to hang out and plan a few days to go see him there like every wendsday or whatever try to understand why he isn't hagning out with you its probably just because most boys like to hang with there boy friends durring the summer hope it helps

>>> SparkleAngel

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I have a crush on this guy and he was walking towards me.

As he walked towards me, I swept my bangs sideways by purposely flinging my head to my side a little (but obvious enough for him to see).I didnt like exaggerate my actions to the point where my head turns 360 degrees but the action is kind of obvious for him to see. I did that cos I heard that it's a form of flirting when girls fling their hair back. When he saw me doing that, he just smiled.

I don't know what kind of smile is that. I mean its just a normal smile but I kinda wanna cringe whenever I remembered flinging my head back purposely in front of him. what does he mean by that smile? I feel kind of embarrasssed that I flung my stupid head back and gosh do I regret it sooo!

Can someone pleeeease tell me wat could he have felt? Is he smiling cos he's embarrassed for me?

he probably smiled because he either likes you or he thought it was sweet or he was happy someone liked him if he thought doing that was stupid he would have probably not smiled or even laugh this person might like you and there is only one way to find out maybe he will ask you out maybe you will too

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i get jealous of all the girls my boyfriend talks to... how do i keep myself from feeling bad.

sit down with him one day and ask him if you are really his (if you know what I mean) if he askes why tell him because you are uncomfortable with him talking with tons of girls and it seems like he likes them but in your own words

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16/f
how can i get over or not get so sad/jealous over this guy that im really starting to like and i cant help it but has a girlfriend?!...we flirt nonstop and all this stuff but we are "best friends" as we say haha. i know ive fallen for him but i get so sad when he talks about his girlfriend and when he says he is gonna go hangout with her. i know its his girlfriend and obviously he is gonna do that stuff but i always forget that he has one because whenever we hangout we flirt so much like touchy/sexual but never kissed or really came close and everything and it feels like he is MY boyfriend. its hard not to talk to him or try not to be around him so much because its my cousins neighbor and my boy cousin is his good friend so he is over at their house like everyday and so am i! my other cousin is my best friend thats why i am over there so much and i dont have many other friends i hangout with and all i can think about is this kid..and hes not even mine..
ahh what do i do?

thank you

try to talk to him on how you feel just don't blurt it right at him or he will take it the wrong way i really don't know what else you can do just to hope he breaks up with her and ask him out after that

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I went out with this one guy for like, a year and a half, and never even kissed him. I just always thought of him as a.."oh were dating, but i dont want to "date him", kinda thing. So anyway, just a couple days ago, he called me up, and asked me to go out with him. (just to let you know, i dated him like, 4 years ago) Anyway, so i guess he still liked me, but i still dont think of him like that. I kinda said yes to the date, only cause i felt bad for him, but then i had to cancel.

How can i avoid things like this in the future? I really dont like him at all like that, and would rather remain friends.

What you really shouldn't do is say yes I know it is the nice thing to do but it is leading him on if you know what I mean well just tell him that you just want to be friends and you dont want to go out right now (even if right now means never) try to sound truly sorry even if you aren't I hope it helps

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Summer is what i've always loved about my life, but now it's the worse, see i need school. yeah i know this sounds crazy but i do. see i have this friend, he's my best friend and i've known him since i can remember. His name is J.C., and he's now all i can think about. People used to always ask if we were bfs and gfs but we always said no. we tell everyone that we're like brother's and sister's to eachother, but people think that we're secretly dating, but we're not. well it was the truth. even though we acted like it. we would always sit by eachother and tell eachother everything. We would make up nick names for eachother, not gushy ones though. We even told eachother that we are the best friends anyone couls ever have. I've known him ever since i could remember. Well everytime i hear stuff or see couples or hear sappy sounds, BOOM he pops up in my mind and down comes a frown. I'm hoping he's in my homeroom this year, and i don't what to do if he's not. What should i do if he's not? Am i in love? Does he love me? Do i like him? Does he like me?

Please help.

Its kinda hard to say but you seem like your in love with him i duno if he is in love with you but you seem to be inlove with him you probably wont realize this until he starts dating someone else your heart will be crushed so don't wait ask him what he thinks maybe you will find out that you both are in love with eachother and amybe you will start dating i duno its up to you but it sure seems like you are ment for him

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this guy really likes me and hes asked me out about 7 times. i dont really know what to do cause he reallt likes me but i dont think i like him. :/ wat should i do to tell him? plz anwser QUICK cause he just asked me out AGAIN!!!

Just explain to him that you really aren't interested in him right now and keep on asking you isn't helping tell him you are really sorry and you just want to be friends and make sure you sound truly sorry even if you aren't

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