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Q: alright i'm 17 years old i've bin with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and i was wondering if anyone could give me suggestions on how to do something really sexy for him this valentine's day like i'm going to have my house to myself and i want to make his jaw drop. hurry with your answers please and thank you.

ok u can do what my gf did for me. house to urself... perfect. have him comeover and have a note on the door with balloons. send him on a scavenger hunt. make the first one like "the place u asked me out, go there!" and there have balloons with another note that leads him to another place, like your first kiss or something like that. make sure its stuff he remembers. and have the last place be something about your room, and when he walks in, be on the leg in like lingere and have it candle lit, rose pedals everywhere, all that good stuff. want details and some help, my myspace is www.myspace.com/anotherdaygone. feel free

Q: What are you supposed to do after a guy kisses you? Do you just sit there and don't say anything?

really depends where you are.
1)smile and kiss him back
2)make sure his arm is around you, and lean into him and cuddle up with him.
3)put ur hand on his upper thigh

Q: What should I get for my 19 year old boyfriend?? I got him a $25 dollar gift card to Best Buy cause I know he likes electronics... i'm 17 by the way. Anyway, yeah what should I get him?? Or haha not to sound like a whore, but I would go to even farther lengths if you know what I mean *wink wink* haha. We haven't had sex with each other yet and we're both not virgins so idk you help me to decide ^_^

um yeah
sex is good
get him like a shirt
or collonge to go with it or something though

Q: A new friend of mine (been my friend for about 3 months) who I've had a crush on for a bit IMed me the other day. He told me wanted me to fill something out. He sent me one of those "would you do this with me? how do you feel about me? etc" surveys that I'm sure we've all seen. I laughed and tried to dodge filling it out. Then he finally said "Listen, I'll fill it out at the same time and we can send it on the count of three." So we did. Both of results were pretty much the same... we like each other as way more than a friend.

Things got ackward. He told me he was seriously blushing to break the silence... we both tried to change the subject and talk for a while, but I guess we both felt weird. Out of nowhere, he shifts the conversation to "I wanted to stay single for a while, so I'm mad because I have a new girlfriend." and I'm like "WHAT?!" and he told me about his new girlfriend, but didn't explain why after he asked someone out THAT DAY he would tell me he likes me THAT NIGHT. I can't figure this out. I'd understand if we were friends for a while, but we haven't been friends that long and we're not that close. I'm sad and don't know what to do. Why would he do this? Can anyone make any sense of him?

Yes. Evidently he has had feelings for you for a couple weeks now. Guys are shy when it comes to admiting to a friend that they like them, noramally because in most cases the girl says "we are too good of friends blah blah blah ect." Therefore he thought he didnt have a chance in the world with you. He almost must like the be in a relationship. So he asked out that girl, then for the hell of it he wanted to know if you felt the same way about him. So now hes the one stuck in a pickle looking for advice. Threfore i say he break up with that girl and date you :-)

Q: Ok I need help. I have a boyfriend that i really like alot but my ex boyfriend that i loved like alot. and i got over that yet i still love him so i still think back sometimes. well he called me and it just brought back memories cuz i hadn't talked to him in a long time and i just need to know how to get over him bc im so happy..but i still get sad when i look at a picture of us or think about it..help..advice please

your worring me. beCuz i have a girlfriend who ive been dating for about 6 weeks now, and she had a boyfriend before me for 9 months. So reading this makes me think your my girlfriend talkina bout her X. Your names not heather by any chance? haha. Well coming from my position.. GET OVER HIM haha. Think about the break up, and all the fights, and realize how much happier you are now.

Q: I am MADLY in love with this guy that could, well, basically care less about me. I told him i liked him and we have talked since then but he hasnt taken any moves forward. He is EVERYTHING i am NOT...he cusses ALL the TIME, is loud, rude and is a BIT too physical...(he plays football so i give him a bit of a break)...but when we are together in front of my friends or his friends he puts his arm around me and talks like nothin is wrong...I REALLY like this guy....I would DO almost ANYTHING for him....what im wonderin is..Is he worth it......or should I move on? Ive cried myslef to sleep over this guy...so he means a lot to me....I RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ADVICE!!
~*~maddie~*~

Wow, i've read one book in my life. Strange thing is, its just like this situation. Lol its called Frozen Rodeo is you are a reader lol. but if not, then ask him out on a date, spend some alone time with him, go to a movie or something. See how that works, and if yall have fun and everything goes perfect, just continue on that road and see where thing progress from there.

Q: I asked this girl out and she tells her friends to tell me that she likes me but she doesnt know if she wants to go out with me. Whats the difference? Also, she said her parents won't let her too. I'm not sure what the real thing is or not. What should I do?

Well my guess is.. your somewhere between 13-15. Well some girls just dont like relationships and like being single, therefore just "date her" go out to movies and stuff. Just no commitment. So look at the bright side, when you two arent togeather and theres another girl around, you dont have to worry about "Cheating" but if your like me.. and would perfer to be in a relationship with 1 girl instead of being able to be with who ever walks by.. it kinda sucks. So therefore just date her, flirt with her, treat her special and maaaaaybe she'll fall for you. who knows? you can be the smartest man in the world but you will never understand women.

Q: i really like this guy and he looks at me everyday in social studies and makes a face only once but hes always staring at me and he knows i like him so what does it mean and how do i get him to ask me out?

ah well i'd need more info then that. Do yall talk? friends or aquantencies? if not then you dont "like" him, you just think hes cute. Therefore in that care just bump into him after class and try to start a converstaion about something that happened in that class, make fun of the teacher or something. And if you can tell hes liking the conversation then keep walking with him and talkin with him, eventually this will escalade up to flirting, then at twords the end of the week ask him if he wants to go to a movie with you and some friends. In the movie dont be like all over him with over people there, but like hold his hand, lean into him, let him know you like him holding you, guys love that. And if its ment to happen he will realize he likes spending time with you and ask you out. Good luck!

Q: okk my friend likes this guy. `nd i know for a fact he doesnt like her. me `nd him hung out the other night `nd she called me. `nd shes like oh hes wit u let me talk to him .. so she was talkin `nd stuff .. `nd he got off `nd he was all like "why did u make me talk to her shes so fuckin annoying", then he was goin on about that for a while.
`nd i kinda like him too .. but my friend would get mad at me but he doenst like her .. `nd shes like the kinda girl who juss gets over guys really quick .. but i dont know what to do .. b/c he doesnt like her .. `nd theres chance he might like me .. i juss dont know

hm. you could maybe get him to talk to her? or find her another guy possibly? or just dont tell her about you too. :-D

Q: Hi..I am the typical girl ( age 23) confused by a guy:S There was this guy I was seeing for about a month. We hung out a few times as friends (met through a friend) and then we went out one night to a club and ended up together the whole night..dancing and then he kissed me and was holding my hand. So anyways we left the club and went back to his house to eat takeout. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I tried not to and he stopped a couple times because he said it was up to me but I couldn't resist the urge sp I told him to keep going. I don't usually do that type of thing but I hadn't had sex for 4 months and couldn't help myself:S Anyways I figured okay this is it. I just ruined the friend thing..even though we only knew eachother about a month. But after he wanted me to cuddle up with him the whole night and we fell asleep like that. He set his alarm for me because I had to get up early and then I went home the next day. A couple days later he called me to hang out again. So we ended up going out for about a month, we never had sex every time we hung out but when we did have sex we'd have it at least 2 times that night. Finally after a week of me calling and him not having time to hang out or whatever I gave up..Then a couple weeks later my friend met him in a club and he asked her why I stopped calling him..He said he thought we had a good thing going. :SShe asked why he had stopped calling me. He said he lost my number because he used to just use the caller ID and call me back when I had called. So anyways I ended up running into him again later that week and we chatted and he asked me to call so after a couple days I figured why not. So that night we went out and hung out with his friends, then got fast food and ate it at his house. Then he wanted me to stay because it was late and I told him I wasn't having sex with him that night. So he said that was ok..we'd just cuddle and go to sleep. So that's what we did. We cuddled up together and talked until I fell asleep..

I am soo confused because he never used to call me much ..I used to have to call him.Now he wants to go out again and I don't know what to do. Does he just want to have sex with me?? Because we both admitted that it was great when we did.

I just need to know what your opinion on how he might be feeling is?

Thanks I would really appreciate it

Confused..

Believe it or not i read that whole thing. I dont know why he stopped calling you or anything like that... hes in his 20's... very busy time in a persons life. Maybe he just needed some space for alittle bit. No big deal. And if you want to find out if he just wants to have sex with you... first off if thats all he was using you for... he would of never stopped calling you lol. But he also wouldnt say he is fine with "cuddling and falling to sleep." Maybe he would go along with it the first time... but if he was looking for sex and you kept not giving it to him.. and he still stuck around then theres your answer. But dont deprive him... i mean sex might not be all he is looking for... but everyone has their needs.

Q: ok so ive had a crush on this guy since my freshmen year (Kyle). And then i find out from a friend (Jason) that Kyle's intrested in me too, and he thinks i am cute, has a good personality.. blah blah blah. But as i'm asking Jason about all this he says Kyle is confused and he doesn't know if he wants a relationship! what am i suppose to do? This guy doesn't really know how crazy i am about him. But i mean, how do i get him to think of me as more then a friend? PLEASE SEND WHATEVER ADVICE U GOT! haha thanks!

Ah case of a simple mind game us guys play. Well hes just having to pick between a relationship with one girl, or a fling with what ever girl walks by. What you have to do to win him over is show him that you are better then all of the "flings." Spend some time with him. Basically make him want you. Flirt with him, Kiss him, Tease him... what ever you have to do to make him come back for more. If a guy has a crush on you, and you two just have a date like to a movie or walking around at 11 pm in the park looking at stars, i dont care but i promise if you play your cards right he will want to spend time with you alot more often. Lemme know how it goes...
-CrW-

Q: this is the saddest ? ever nd please dont tell me "only u can decide" cause wuts the point of even answering my ?. w/e. back to my ?. my bf has been my best friend for like 2 yrs but has been my bf for like a month. he is in love w/ me nd he tells me, all my friends tell me and all his friends tell me! i dont like him the same way ne more. im like in love w/ this other guy! can u tell me how to brake up w/ my bf? hes already suspicous of the other guy that i like. . .

Holy shit... im in the EXACT same situation. Except you switch the genders completely. wow that is so weird. Exact same story cept the genders are changed. Well if you get an answer hit me back lol

Q: Okay, I asked a question a while ago saying that I went to the movies with my guy friend & that there were hints that he liked me. Well, I got alot of great answers so thanks to everyone.

I've decided I want to tell him that I have feelings for him. If I don't, I know it will be on my mind ALL summer. Anyone have an idea on how I could go about doing that?

Hey there friend, im pretty sure that i answered that question saying he definately liked you. Well i say keep flirting. Every chance you get, if you want to, spend time with him. Keep flirting more and more each time you get around him. Gotta kiss him first... most guys wont go out with a girl until they know if she can kiss or not. It's a fact lol. Then after you kiss him, just let him hold you in his arms. We love it when we can just hold a girl that we car about. If yall get close you wont have to say anything, he will know that you like him, then hopefully he will open up and tell you he likes you, and go along with it... tell him how you feel... then before ya know it your married. Lol jk but good luck babe. if ya need help AIM me: FadedBlade666

Q: Alright! I really like this boy and he thought we broke up because i didn't reallt talk to him because when i sit near my friends and with him, i am more tempted to talk to my friends. well, he broke up with me and asked this other girl out who he said was annoying. My brother was talking to him and he told him that he broke up with me because he thought that if he went out with me for a long time, i would talk to him more but i didn't realize it. He said he doesn't hate me but he wants to be my friend. How do I get him to like me agtain????
I rate high!!!!!

Depending upon the age. But lets see if your anywhere from 14-17 im guessing just one day ask him to go see a movie with you. I doubt he will decline. But go see a movie with him and just have a good time. Flirt a little, ya know kinda get close to him. Then if it comes down to it.. even though your the girl and hes the guy, but if it comes down to it, try to kiss him. I dont think he will turn it down, since you to have gone out before and because hes only been with this other girl a few days. lemme know how it goes.

Q: Last night I went to the movies with my guy friend & my friend (who he used to like). I have a crush on him but I don't know if he feels the same way. Some stuff happened last night that made me want to believe he might like me too.

-For example, my friend sat down, I sat down on one side of her & he decided to sit on the other side of me.
-We flirted the whole movie, throwing popcorn at eachother.
-We shared the armrest & I had my head rested on our arms.
-He kept talking to me during the movie.
-He let me take sips of his drink.
-When I said I was cold, he said if he had a jacket on him, I could have worn it.

I'm not sure if it sounds like we're just "pals" or could possibly be more? I really can't tell so I was wondering if someone who was more experienced in relationships could help me out. Thanks! Sorry it was so long!

JaMiE x3

Can almost guarentee he likes ya. That sounds like a fun time at the movies. You might not be ready to be a couple yet but i promise ya hes crushin on ya ;-) good luck lemme know how it turns out

Q: I am so worried, I ruined the relationship with the woman of my dreams over 3 years ago. We haven't spoken a word to each other since then. Last week I called her parents house and left a brief message and , suprisingly, she called and left me a message telling me that she will be at home for fathers day weekend. How do I stop myself from telling her that I still think about her everyday and that she is still the center of my dreams, or do I just tell her and risk the chance of her telling me to buzz off? I need to tell her but I don't want to risk gaining back the friendship that we once had, even if thats all it will be. Someone help me please!

Well make sure that you two are still good friends and everything before you mention it. Then do something completely spontanieous. Take her for a walk in the late evening and have a picnic set up somewhere and yall sit there and have a late late lunch or dinner and watch the sun set. Then lay down with her and look at the stars. Then just start talking, ask her what her life has been like lately. Then hopefully when she gets done, she will ask you the same question. Thats when you basically say, "You've been in my head every minute of every day for the past 3 years. I miss you..." Good chance that will work cuz i know seeing old X's and shit like that works some times. And if she says no... say you were just kidding hahaha.

Q: okay well im 15/f, and i recently found out im pregnate. Before i found out my boyfriend broke up with me, we don't talk anymore, he ignores my calls and he won't read anything i send him...so is it useless to tell him??he's 15 to, and lives about 45 min. away. I think I'm gonna keep the baby too, I haven't told my parents yet. I'm a "goodygood" so noone would expect it...and i don't kno what to do...i tried to tell my best friend...but she didn't believe me...what do i do? how do i tell my ex. and get him to listen to me?

well dont tell them until u are like 100% sure. Dont rely on just one test... take a few. but in the end if you are... you have to tell him. It's his damn his and his responsibility to take care of it. Just send him a message, i promise you just because he doesnt reply doesnt mean he doesnt read them. And if that doesnt work get one of his friends to tell him. Cuz i promise you when you tell your parents they are going to want to talk to him anyways.
Have fun mommy :-)

Q: i flirt with this girl and she flirts back i lay on the grass with her and hold her hand people think we should go out , i ask her she said duno what do i do 4 her to go out with me

dont rush into things man. your position is very commen. believe me ive been there.. kinda there presently. First off make sures shes single.. thats a whole other story haha. Well yeah just spend more time with her maybe try to kiss her.. that will normally make a girl say yes. And if that doesnt work. Then just keep being nice and romantic ya know lay somewhere and look at the stars with her. if ya need more in depth ideas gemme a shout at AIM: FadedBlade666

Q: Is it right for a girl to ask a guy out? please answer..i rate!!

commin from a guy i think it is... well its not the RIGHT thing that happens but yeah a guy wouldnt mind. unless he thinks your a freak then i'd stay away from the idea. But if u think he likes u then yeah of course go for it. i know if i liked a girl and i was afraid to ask her i would love it if she asked me