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Hi, ok well there's this one girl. and all the guys like her. shes one of my best friends, but i wanna be more than friends. i wanan sk her out but i dont wanna get put down or let it ruin our friendship. (link)
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maybe talk to her and tell her how you feel, she could feel the same way, but if your really afraid of ruining your friendship then look for any signs that she might like you and tell her if you think she might like you too. Even if you tell her you can still be friends or even if you go out. good luck
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ok, so there's this guy that i REALLY like!!!
we went out last year and he has gone out with like 2 different girls since me and he goes out with them for like a couple months, dumps them because they do something wrong and then gets back with them, but he broke up with me and never even tried to get back with me. I don't know if he even really likes these girls and he is just trying to make me jealous or what. How do you REALLY get over someone and is it even POSSIBLE???
PLEASE HELP!!
I rate high for GOOD ADVICE!!
~fellow advicenator (link)
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If this guys dumpin these girls and gettin back w/ them then he cant like them too much so dont worry about that. and about gettin over him it might seem impossible but you really can. jus keep tellin yourself that u want to move on, hang out w/ your friends and jus keep your mind off of him, youll start thinkin of him less and less and then when ull meet another guy u like and forget all about this one. Its wat ive done to get over guys and its worked for me good luck hun i hope this helps you
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Well how can I put this..
First of all I'm 14/F. I've never had a boyfriend. Maybe you could tell me if this is why..
Well I've like MANY guys. And some have seemed like they've like me too. For example, there's this kid that I "like" (you'll understand the quotes in a minute), and it kind of seems like he likes me too now. But now that he is kind of flirting with me, I'm starting to not like him now. What is this?!? It REALLY confuses me. I don't know why I am like this, can anyone explain?? Before the guy started flirting a little bit with me, I definately wanted him to like me, no doubt about that. Of course I did, cause I liked him. But now that it seems he likes me..I'm kind of avoiding him. Am I afraid of a relationship? I feel as if I will never have a boyfriend because of this reason, and it makes me sad & confused. Please help? (link)
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im 14/f too and i am tha same way w/ guys. I will like them soo much but then when they talk to me and flirt w/ me i dont like them anymore and they seem almost annoying. Its normal and its probably bcuz you want what you can't have thats why i feel that way anyway so maybe its the same reason for u. jus dont worry youll find a guy someday that youll feel differently about and youlll like him even when he IS payin attention to u. good luck hun
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Ok well I'm 15/F and really shy. I mean when people hear me speak they're like, "ohmygawd I've never heard her speak before" and I've been at this school for like, a year and a half.
I've never had a boyfriend or anything and I can honestly say that more than half of my year at school are in a relationship and it makes me sad 'cos I'm not one of them. Not that I want a boyfriend just 'cos everyone else has one or anything. :|
I'm ugly but I know not all guys go for looks.. but I'm so shy that even boys who go for personality aren't gonna go for me 'cos I don't talk.. I CAN'T. I must have something wrong with me 'cos when people I don't know very well speak to me I feel physically sick and my mind goes blank and stuff, it's scary :S
Anyway, how can I kindof be more confident and stuff? 'Cos I'm probably gonna be single for like, ever, if I keep being all shy and stupid.
thanks (link)
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oo all u really need is confidence. So stop calling yourself ugly and stupid!! Think of good things about yourself. and about being shy, if you work on it you dont have to be shy anymore. I was use tp be shy then one day i just couldnt take it anymore. I am so not shy anymore and I feel like people know me so much better then before. Just remember that confidence is the most important thing to not being shy. Just say whats on your mind, your opinion is just as important as anyone elses!! And once you show everyone who you really are you will attract tons of people and especially guys. goodluck hun!!
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I met this guy alex a couple days ago. He flirted with me almost the whole night then 3 days ago i went to a party and we made out. He said he would call em afterwards but he never did. I dont know his number or sn . I dont know how to get him to liek me becasue im pretty interested. DO u think he just wanted ass? (link)
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its hard to say what he couldve wanted, becuz sometimes guys dont call right away just to see how youll react. so if he doesnt call you after a while then dont waste your time its possible he couldve jus wanted ass guys are like that, but dont assume that right away he could call but if he doesnt dont even worry about him.
good luck!!
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i dont no wut my problem is but i fall in love with bad boy type boys who turn out to b assholes . now i got with a nice boy nd its annoying i wunt to break up with him . i thnk mayb its bcuz i meet this badboy type boy . im i weird ? lol . shuld i try to stick it out with him or wut shuld i do ? (link)
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omg that reminds me soo much of my friend. badboys are really exciting but yah they're a lot to worry about most of the time. If you like the nice guy though you shouldn't break up with him because you could regret it, and it wouldn't be fair to him. But if you're not happy w/ him then its not fair to you. So if you really do like him give him a chance. good luck!!
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Ok, I know this sounds lame, but I think boys don't like me. I haven't had a boyfriend for a bit longer than a year. I even tried asking some guys out and they said no. It just makes me feel like they don't like me. I'm nice, athletic, funny, cool, and all that stuff. I tried being patient, but it's not working. Even the guys I like treat me just like one of their friends. What am I supposed to do? I'll rate HIGH!!!!!!!!! (link)
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It might seem like guys don't like you but im sure they really do, sometimes its just really hard to tell. I think everyone feels that way sometimes but just dont worry about it cuz you know that you've got a lot to offer so you'll find lots of guys who will appreciate that.
muchh
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Ok what do you when you like the same guy that your total BFF loves. She is absolutly in love with him. He knows, that I like him and that she likes him. But he does not like her. Actually, he hates her. But she doesn't know that I like him. PLease please help!!!!!
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the same thing just happened w/ me and my really good friend. You can't help who you like so if you can just explain that to her maybe she will understand. It's better that you tell her sooner rather than later. Just remember though that a friendship isn't worth ruining over a guy.
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what does it mean WHEN A GIRL SMILES AT ME? when we're walking past each other, and we make eye contact, and she gives me that little smile, you all know the one. does it mean:
1. she thinks i'm cute
2. she thinks i'm hott
3. she wants to talk to me
4. she wants to kiss me
5. she wants to do dirty things to me
6. other
come on ladies, i need to know what you're thinking. i have a pic on my profile, if it helps. (i think it will). (link)
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it most likely means that she likes u, so talk to her and find out if she does!!-Rachel-
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i reallllly like my best guy friend and he knows i used to like him and i know that he used to like me. but recently hes moved reallly far away and i jus found out that he liked me again last year too...soo i still like him and he doesnt know....and whenever im talkin with him on aim he always talks about all the girls that like him, and the ones he likes the best, it reallly makes me sad what should i do take a risk and tell him or try and move on(aka impossible)help plz quickly!!!! (link)
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If he moved far away you shouldnt waste your time bein sad about him, tha same kind of thing happened to me before and its jus not worth worrying about. There are a ton of guys out there!! I know now it doesnt seem possible but you CAN move on. you SERIOUSLY CAN. you deserve someone who will make u happy when you talk to him. not sad.good luck hun!!
-Rachel-
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Does anyone know how i can ask the following q's to a girl in away that wont make girls wonder why im asking it.Can you give me a sneakier way of asking the following q's
What do you like to find in a friend?
what kind of guy do you like?
Who are your friends?
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How can you find out stuff on a girl? Not like gossip but more like her fave movies and bands, ect.
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if you want to find out what she likes you can ask her if she's seen a movie that you like or if she likes a certain band. you can tell who shes friends w/ by who shes talkin to or who shes with a lot. If you want to find out what kind of guy she likes tell her something that you like in a girl.
hope i helped!! -Rachel-
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Hey there. Uhh...there's this guy at school who I think looks really hot. He's a grade above me and I am friends with a lot of people he knows. Some people say he's conceited, but he doesn't really seem like it. I really wanna talk to him and get to know him, but I dunno what to say at all. I dunno if he even knows I exist or whatever. I just don't wanna look like an idiot in front of him. I'm not that good at starting conversations. What can I do to get his attention so he'll start talking to me? (link)
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you can definately find ways to talk to him. It might seem weird to say hi to him if you've never talked to him before so just pay attention to what's going on around you when you're near him, like about other people that are around or something like that. you could ask him if hes friends w/ the people you know hes friends w/. Jus find sumthin to say to him then ask him what his name is and tell him yours. The next time you see him after that say hi and wats up
Good luck!! -Rachel
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Ok so like..Im really shy around guys. I have no clue why. I mean if Im with them for mor than like 30 minutes then Im KIND Of fine. It depends, Some days im not, some days I'am. Anyways, well there's this boy in my Algebra class (I DONT AND NEVER WILL..keep that in mind, k.) && well I barely know the dude and so therefore I'am shy. And the first day I was in his group, soo shy, and he said I was a bitch. BECAUSE, I was being shy && didnt know the RIGHT thing to say back to him...But im really not a bitch..Im soo freggin nice =( lol..So what can I do to not be shy?! ANYTHING..please..please...
I'll rate HIGH =) promise
**ANSWER ASAP!!!** (link)
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hey hun, i used to be shy around guys too and i still am sometimes, but if u jus be yourself and say whats on your mind it will be the right thing to say. you dont need to be all talkative all of a sudden but talk a little more each day. Once that guy gets to know u more he wont think your a bitch cos your not.
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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much (link)
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yahh guys are really weird about stuff like that. I'm not xactly sure why he seems like hes ignoring u but tha best thing to do is jus give him his space until he comes crawlin back to u. Dont worry about it and make him think that u dont even notice that hes actin like that. Sometimes guys do that to see what you'll do, so tha best thing is dont do anything. Thats wat will keep his interest in u. So dont worry and if he keeps actin this way than hes not worth you're time, theres soo many other guys out there. good luck!!
muchh love
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I like this guy. wwe are friends and stuff, and we used to like eachother but everything changed. but of course im not over him.i jsut miss the way things used to be, i miss the way we would hangout and tal to eachother. but he ist alking to a million girls now. i feel like i am not good enough for him, and my mom is like in love with him and she thinks that we are boyfriend and girlfriend, even thoguh i tell her we are not. we dont hangout anymore nd i miss him. but i think getting over him wil be the best thing. but there are noooo guys ive known them all throughout middle schooland highschool, thre is no one new. i just dont want to be this lonely. how do i meet someone/ get over this kid! (link)
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omg that reminds me soo much of the guy that i used to like! We were like inseperable and evrything and evrythin changed all at once and i was so depressed. get over him as soon as u can it's not worth living in your past move on and talk to other guys. Even if theyre not new maybe you can see them in a different way once youre over this other guy. you so can get over him, i got over the guy i thought i was in love w/ and i wish i had some1 tellin me to get over him sooner. it is possible and once youre over him you wont care who hes talkin to. GOOD LUCK!!
-Rachel-
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I have this friend,lets just call her Sally.Well she likes this guy and we saw him at the cinema with his mates 2 weeks ago and we all started hangin around together.we asked the guy that she liked (lets call him john) to meet (french kiss) her but he said no coz he doesn't want to ruin their friendship and I thought what a load of bull ****.So the next day in school we kept hangin round together and john kept comin on to sally and we asked him to meet her agin and he said no.I didn't particularly like this guy in the 1st pace but now he's ok but when we 1st start hangin around with eachother again he started pretending he forgot my name and pronouncing it wrong but he must have been faking coz all he could say to me last year was"I know your name" So the last 5 nights he's been in my dreams as a friend but last night he was heaviy flirting and the nekt day when I went into school he was flirting with me for real!!! I don't want to be mean to Sally but she doesn't know that I like him but she says she loves it when her friends like the same people as her.Last year Sally had a crush on this other guy who liked our other friend Lisa.Lisa got asked to meet this guy but she didn't in the end but when she was going to Sally didn't even care .Another thing is the guy I like is about 6ft and I'm only 5ft2
What should I do
Please help....... (link)
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i dont know about you but whenever i have dreams about a guy it almost always makes me like him, maybe u should make sure you really like him if you do tell sally. It's not your fault if you feel that way about him, but it will be if you go behind her back.
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i like this girl at school but i dont know if she likes me should i use the direct approach and aske her out or tell sum1 else 2 do it for me (link)
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omigosh dont have someone eles do it for you, it will make it seem to her like you didn't care enough to tell her yourself. I hate it when guys ask me out that way and there's probably a less chance that i'd go out w/ them than if he asked me himself thats jus me but its jus soo much cuter to ask her yourself.
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There are a lot of really ugly girls at my school (( not to be mean to them becasue I think I'm ugly too )) that get really hott boyfriends, and some of them are juniors and seniors. I'm a freshman and I really want someone but I cant get anyone... ever... Can anyone help me? My friend Says I need to be more confident... HELP! (link)
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ok first off ive seen tha same thing and its all because of the way someone acts and it won't matter what they look like at all. You really do need confidence so stop saying that you're ugly if you see yourself in a better way other people will too and you'll have a hot boyfriend before u know it.
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