Q: Hi my name is Chrissy and i'm 17,

Last month I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. It was my choice and I know he's upset about it. I now havwe a new oyfriends of a hew weeks and all of a sudden my ex sent me a message on myspace saying "we need to talk...please". I'm not sure exactly what it meant, but I know that I dont want to go back out with him or talk to him now. I don't want to deal with his bull-crap anymore. But I'm not sure if I should say something or not.... what should I do?

Q: 18/female. senior in high school. this may be long but i'll return the favor to anyone who helps!!:)

i've liked this guy joe for a while now .. i use to give him all the attention and do whatever he wanted me to (not sexually) but everything else because i was basically so in love with him but he never knew. i've probably liked him for 4 years now but couldn't do anything about it because he had a girlfriend of 3 years. Now there broken up. Anyways, i just cant tell if he likes me or not. We're actually really good friends, i'm comfortable around him. now, i dont give him all the attention, i try to not show much interest and look like an annoying attached girl. well tonight me and my friend hung out with like 7 of the hockey guys, including joe. we were all hanging out at this kids house and i was wearing a sweatshirt and tshirt but still looked really cute:) i had my hair curled and everything .. i didnt even know i was going to be seeing joe! but one of the guys like slapped me with his belt and it hurt really bad and then joe came with his friend and i was like JOE!! i need you to protect me. okay that might sound like im giving him attention haha but i hadnt seen him for like a month. so he came and sat by me and then i asked his friend if i could talk to him in private because my friend liked joes friend and i wanted to see what he thought about her. well so then me and joes friend went into a different room and all the dumb guys (but not joe) were like use protection bla bla. so i was talking to him for like 5 min and then joe comes walking in. i have a feeling he may have been jealous that i was alone with his friend .. i dont know why he would have walked in??? And then joe was like behind me like humping me haha and i was like joe stop (even though i liked it;) haha!! and then he was trying to pull down my pants. i had my period so i deff was not going to let him lol and then we all went back out and i ended up playing fooseball with 3 of the guys and i was cheering and being goofy and joe kept looking over, i could see in the corner of my eye. well then joe had to go, and he was saying bye to people but he never said anything to me :( i was playing fooseball so i dont know if thats why or what?? and i havent talked to him since, i was hoping maybe he would text me or something but nope!! just some signs makes me feel like he likes me, but i cant ask because if he doesnt then that would make our friendship awkward. i wish he would just make a move if he did. i hope i'm not giving off the wrong signals either, like saying stop when hes flirting with me, but i dont want to just sit there and be obvious that i like it? what do you guys think??

Q: okay well im in tenth grade right now. and i dated a boy in sixth grade well call him C. we went out for the whole year but we were just young kids so it wasnt anything big. i broke up with him but in eighth grade he was in my class and we flirted a little but nothing to make us go out again. iv never really lost an interest in him but i just left it alone. in ninth grade i texted him once saying that i heard our song on the radio and we flirted a bit so i was getting more feelings for him. after a while i strait out and told him i really liked him, he said he was talking to a girl and there about to go out. then a few months after we were flirting again but just stopped when i found out he was talking to another girl. now i got a facebook and he added me. i commented a picture of him with his abs showing and we both used alot of winky faces in our conversation. i doubt anything will happen but hes just so PERFECT in my eyes. abs. virgin. doesnt smoke or drink. just the kind of guy i like. i dont want to give up on him cuz i know our relationship would be amazing. any suggestions on how to make him like me? please dont tell me to just give up cuz iv tried that and i cant.

Q: there is this guy that I know likes me he texts me after school and talks to me. So for the past month I haven't had my phone and I know he was starting to doubt if I had really had my phone taken away which I did by the way. He told me to text him when I got my phone back but I forgot to text him yesterday when I got my phone back yesterday. So this morning he tested me say happy thanksgiving and I replied to him he then didn't text back. So like 2 hours later I texted him and he hasn't replied. I don't know I he is man at me or something. I think he thought I wasn't going to text back because I told him I didn't have my phone so he now probably thinks I am a liar. That is not true though I dealt don't want him to me mad at me. What can I do? Is he mad?

Q: my boyfriend used to smoke alot of weed his freshman and sophomore year (hes a senior now) he hasn't done it since but today he told me he did. when i told him that i didn't like it and he knows that he told me not to worry and that he won't become a pothead. but idk...like i don't want to be the pushy gf that yells at him for doing it...then he's gonna feel like he has to hide it from me...but idk i just don't want my boyfriend to do that then me having to kiss him...what should i do?

Q: I honestly need help with girls, like i dont know what is wrong with me.

I am 16 years old/ Male.
junior in high school

for some odd reason, i havent had my way with girls in a LONG time. like i cant even remember the last time i had a girlfriend, or even just a fling with a girl. I have no idea what is wrong with me. I am NOT fat or ugly or anything. I would say i am just average. I'm 5'7, medium build, no acne, asian. I'm not hideous or anything, and i'm NOT creepy or anything either. i have friends and all, i live pretty chill life, but girls is my main weakness. They always act like i have something wrong about me. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? EVERY time i try to even take a next step, they get scared and run away.

So i try to go slower, than they say i go too slow and run away. GAHHH what do i do? help me please.

Q: i've been head over heels in love with the same guy for about a year and a half. we've broken up a few times, but got back together usually within a few weeks or a month. well this go round, we're trying not to get too serious. like, we don't even call eachother "boyfriend/girlfriend" and because we don't do that, we're not fighting as much because there's no pressure tag hanging over our heads.

a few times a while back, we'd talk about the future; kids, marriage, moving in together, etc. and i thought he and i were on the same page about all that. well, now we're together but not as serious? and i asked him the other day if he ever plans to get married, but not to me, just anybody. and he said he didnt know. that actually semi-shocked me. so now i'm thinking we're no longer on the same page about our futures. like i knew we wouldnt be agreeing on every little thing, for instance, i wanna stay put, he wants to travel. he wants to go to college, and i wanna be done with school after 12th grade. i want kids early in life, he wants time to party and THEN have kids.

my plan is the stereotypical family plan, i wanna get married and have no more than two kids. and i want my boyfriend to be my husband and the father of my kids. but from what he's been implying, i dont think thats gonna happen. i want to talk to him about it in depth, but i don't want to make him feel cornered. and i know this is kind of a stupid topic to bring up to him, but i hate feeling like i'm working so hard for something just to find out that my time has been so terribly wasted. so i want to find out about this from him NOW, not later in the future. because if he doesnt want what i want, then i want to end this relationship before i get too badly attached, (i did get very attached to him at one point and became very depressed when he dumped me, obviously, don't want that to happen again,)

anyone with any sort of advice, please let me know. by the way, i wouldn't care if it was what i wanna hear, or if you wanna tell me that i'm an obsessive compulsive bitch, go right ahead. i just need advice. thanks, and sorry this is so long.

Q: 13 almost 14f
i get REALLY turned on when i smell dudes clone. is this normal or strange?

thanks(:

Q: so im 16/ f. theres a guy i've liked on and off for the past year. this time tho, i really like him more.

hes the same age. actually 20 days younger than me. but anyways, we flirt alot, and he also flirts with our freind. so he knows i like him, because apparently 7 other people told him. and so i messaged him saying that i never told them to tell him, because i didnt want to ruin our friendship, but i'd totally understand if he only likes me as a friend.

so after that, nothing really changed. it seems like he's flirting a bit more, but i dont know. because he flirts with our friend too!

so anyways, im thinking i should maybe get over him, if nothings gunna happen, but my friend told me that i shouldnt give up, and there is hope. especially because it took him so long to ask out his last girlfriend. ( i think she was his first. they dated about 6 months, but i dont think it was very serious)

so i dont know what to do? wait for him, give up on him? ask him out, hit that i like him,
what?!?

please help me, and thank you so much!

Q: He asked my out and we went out for about a week and then he broke up with me saying that he still liked me and everything but that he was gonna be moving at the end of the school year and he thought it would be better if we didn't get to close. So i was like ok and we still hung out as friends and stuff. Then about 3 weeks later he asked me out again saying he wasn't moving till the end of senior year. That was on October 19 2009 and we would hang out everyday and he would say he loved me and would always kiss me and he was the first guy i have ever made out with. He got a bit handsy as in he would grab my boobs and try to get his hands down my pants but i wouldn't let him. so whatever and everything was going great im in love and so was he. Then yesterday November 24 he calls and i cant answer cuz im busy so about 20 min later i try calling him back and he doesn't answer so i try calling twice more and he still doesn't answer. And then today he breaks up with me after saying things like he would die if i left him or i will never hurt you etc. He messages me on myspace and says he needed to tell me some thing so i was like what and he said "I am sorry to say that it is now over between us. I understand if you do not want to talk to me ever again or if you might want to remain friends. That is fine with me. I am sorry for this. But ithink we would be better just as friends." so i asked why and he said "Because i just dont see anything within us anymore. I am sorry. Plus another reason but i really dont want to say" i told him to tell me and he said it was because this other girl told him that she had liked him since they first meet. So now i don't know what to do i'm still in love with him. BTW im 16 yrs old and female.

Q: 13 almost 14f

wow i have too many guys on my mind!! i still like my 2nd most recent ex, im in love with another ex, i REALLY REALLY like my boyfriend, and i have feelings for this other dude at my school!!! ughh i just don't know what i can do to get them off my mind. it seems like more guys just keep getting added to my confusion... any ideas??

thanks,

utterly confused chick

Q: I'm in the typical high school drama situation and to be honest, I completely asked for it. It was my mistake. Now, I need help getting out of it.

17F

Long story short, my "best friend" (I use quotes because I hate saying those words) went out with this guy for 1yr+ and he recently dumped her.

She started going out with a new guy but she still has feelings for her first boyfriend. She wanted to preserve her friendship with her ex, but she felt like he didn't want to be her friend anymore.

Unfortunately, I have a crush on her ex (BUT NOBODY on planet Earth knows) and so I thought I would try to help the situation by calling him and talking to him about it. He said nothing new except that he's annoyed with her (she's genuinely concerned about their friendship) and that he can't trust anyone because rumors will start.

I really, really want to get him to realize that he can trust me while still maintaining my friendship with my "best friend." I think that is an impossibility but now I think for whatever reason I've gotten him to dislike me or trust me less because he's afraid I will leak information to her.

I just don't know what to do. My mind is telling me to immediately get out of this situation and let them handle it, and that's exactly what I told him. I, like he, cannot trust anyone, which is why I'm asking on this site. At the same time, I really want him to like me more than her. I asked him and he said he has ABSOLUTELY no feelings for her at all as a girlfriend.

I think she needs to move on from him and realize she has a new boyfriend and she should stop worrying about her friendship with him because he never said he didn't want to be friends with her. He said he would call her, but I know at this point I cannot butt in.

What should I do? I do not ever plan on telling him I like him because I cannot date him. My feelings for him should have no influence on any of my decisions. I'm just confused and afraid that he dislikes me because I transmit information to her like a good "best friend."

I feel like he wants to trust me but he can't because he knows she'll get all the info he tells me, and I don't want him to feel that way and I told him that but he's just forcing himself not to trust anyone because he's afraid. Should I try to hang out with him alone so he can open up? Would that be weird? We're good friends but I don't want him to think that the only reason why I want to hang out is to talk about his ex... I'm just so confused and this whole situation has escalated so much.

Q: okay so i was at my friend's house and her boyfriend was over and his friend was over too. we were watching a movie and his friend (we'll call him mitch) came and sat by me. halfway thru the movie his put his arm around me and like..rubbed his foot on mine. after the movie he said he had to go to sleep cuz he had to work in the morning. he left and then 5 min. later he came back and asked if i wanted to go lay down with him..and...well the bad thing is i did but nothing happened..we just cuddled. i dont even kno his last name. :/ missa 15/f

Q: my boyfriend of almost two years cheats on me daily with my "best friend" and they both have the fucking nerve to deny it. which i just found out today. i love him for some strange reason, hes helped me threw so much he was there for me through my cancer and mental schizo rehab and many deaths and has always ben by my side i dont wana let him go but i dont think i can cry anymore, i want to stay with him but i dont? i dont know how to live without him.. what do i do, with explanation or try and convince me or something please :( iv had an extremely hard life im bad at letting go of ppl i love, were both almost 16

Q: So here's the story...I really just don't know what to think of it all...we are both sophmores in college fyi.
After i broke up with my boyfriend of 6months..because it was a long distance relationship that really wasnt working out anymore...I started hanging out with this new guy. we were hanging out at least 4 nights a week plus seeing eachother & hanging out at parties on the weekend. when we hung out it was just watching movies sitting around..nothing fancy. every once in a while we messed around alittle bit..but not very much. most of the time it was just talking and cuddling..once in awhile we'd spend the night together. after about a month of this he took me to dinner on a friday night. we went to a school basketball game after dinner..saturday I went to his football game & we went out with a bunch of freinds that night. we spent the night together after that & went to lunch the next day. I was really busy on that monday so I didnt get a chance to talk to him..but then when i talked to him on tuesday he had a girlfriend....ummm? what happened? all of his freinds said that they hadnt even been talking and they were all really confused. they have been dating for about 2 weeks now and he continues to call me and text me saying how much he likes me and how much he misses me and how much of a mistake he made....i just dont know what to do now? i was really starting to fall for him and i really wish we could have kept hanging out..he keeps saying hes going to break up with his gf...that hes just waiting for her to give him a reason..idk help?

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