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"People seem to enjoy asking if the glass is half empty of half full. They stop smiling when I tell them it'll be all empty when I dump it all over their heads."--Jimmy Fallon.
I guess I'm kinda the cynical optimist. People take this world entirely too seriously sometimes, and I really just like helping people when they need me.
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i like a boy whose a senior and im a freshman.. ha if my mom knew we ever did anything shed kill me.. what do i do?.. continue to do what ive done the past 2 weeks behind her back.. or drop him?
Alright, I had a friend in a very similar situation. Let your parents get to know this guy, and make sure they trust you. If they believe you're responsible and they like this guy, you won't have any problems. It'll make the relationship a lot more fun. You won't have to be constantly worrying about being caught. Then, if you do get caught, no horrible consequences. It is doable, no matter how frigid you think your mother would be about the situation. Well, good luck!
i have this one friend that i have know since 2nd grade i i really like him but the problem is i dont see him anymore beacuse he moved schools. All my friends make fun of me becasue i still like him and that he is kinda weird i still like him and really want to talk to him but even if i did i wouldnt know what to say thank you if you help me and thanks for just looking
Alright, so we've decided that you should talk to this boy, right? Now the age old question, what do I say to him? Start simple, a little small talk. Ask him what his new school's like, is he making a lot of friends, what are the teachers like. It's something you can relate to your life and some great conversations could stem from those questions. Eventually, you can tell him you like him still and why you're stilling talking to him, but start small at first, let it get to that point. As for your friends, they'll get over it. People are just goofy sometimes, but maybe you should make it clear to them that you don't like them making fun of you for liking this kid. Well, good luck!
okay its always like i have to call my boyfriend or else we dont talk till like night time...he calls to say goodnight...but to make plans...it seems like i ALWAYS have to call him...and today im doing nothing till the nighttime and i want to call him because waiting for him to call me is just a waste of time...but then again i dont think i should call him...i called him yesterday to make plans and the day before...and we love hangin out we have so much fun...but its me who always has to call first...should i call him?
You should tell him how you feel. Maybe he doesn't understand that you don't like being the person doing all the communication. He could very well think you like doing this so he's backing off to make you happy. He might be shy about making the plans as well. Maybe he doesn't know where to go or what to do. It could be easier for him to leave that to you. I think there's nothing wrong with calling your boyfriend. You're going out because you like him and because he likes you so talking to each other isn't outrageous or anything. Well, good luck!
ok i have this ex who is always trying to get back with me but is also always hitting me and leaving marks. I know it makes me sound stupid but i still keep coming back to him, i cant help it i still like him. Is there any advice someone can give me out there and by the way this is monkeygirls friend not her!!
Sweetie, you need to distance yourself from him. It's not going to be easy because you like him and because he might not take well to you leaving him. You can do better, and you need to not see him for your own safety. A guy like that will mess with your mind. He can make you feel worthless, and he can ruin your life. It may sound like I'm over-exxagerating, but sticking with a guy who beats you could lead to this. You can do so, so much better; You really can. You should go out and meet new guys, hang out with your friends. Make yourself busy so you don't have the time to miss him and think about him. Eventually you'll get over him. Good luck!
My friend told my other friends that this kid likes me, but i don't like him. I like someone else. I don't want to hurt his feelings because i know how it feels. What should i do?
Alright, I can tell you where your problems is right off the bat. "My friend told my other friends" Why didn't she just tell you straight up? I'm not trying to incinuate you have a bad friend. However, I am incinuating that this may be meaningless gossip. If this kid's crush is serious, he will tell you straight up. Until he does that, there is no need to make the situation anymore confusing or possibly break someone's heart. The whole thing will blow over, and hopefully, it'll happen without anyone being embarassed or hurt. Good luck!
the guy i have a crush on is really shy around grls and isnt into grls alot or my friends told my and i dont want to sound obsessed with him so how do i get the nerve to go up and talk to him without sounding like a freak?
Okay, this is going to be very repitious, but here I go: just talk to him. Seriously my dear, if he's shy around girls, he'd probably appreciate you taking the initiative. Don't give him a reason to be uncomfortable or shy, and mostly, just be yourself! Good luck :-)
okay im 14/f...and ive been best friends with this guy for 3 years and hes been in love with me for 3 years, we've never done anything sexually er w/e..but hes been wait'n on me fer 3 years and ive had like 5 er 6 boyfriends in the last 3 years but he still stuck with me...soo i went out with this one guy over the summer and at the beggining of the school year for 3 months and i broke up with him and my best friend was rly sad b/c i went out with him..and it never rly bothered him before but then when me and this guy broke up my best friend caught us in the hallway makin out and that lead him to cutting...witch i got him to stop that now but i felt rly bad...but now i dont like my ex-boyfriend and ive ALWAYS had feelings for my best friend but i never realized how strong they were this past like month....and i mean hes always loved me and hes always been there for me so i dont know if i should go out with him or just be friends...b/c i mean we do everything together and wherever you find him youll find me and wherever you find me youll find him...so i rly dont know what to do b/c my ex-boyfriend is still in love with me and i dont know b/c i dont wanna hurt him by goin out with my best friend er w/e so what do you think i should do? should i hook up with my best friend?
Alrighty, lets see here...
Communication is the absolute key to a relationship, any relationship--friendship, courting, marriage, siblings, parents. It all needs communication. He needs to know how you feel, exactly how you feel. If you can't give him everything up front, it wouldn't have worked anyway. Him seeing you making out with a guy led him to cutting? It takes previous mental instability to do something like that. Don't even begin to blame that on yourself. Don't make a decision to appease someone else. Do it because it makes you happy. Going out with someone because they like you while you're liking someone else is going to lead to much more heartbreak than necessary. You just have to be true to yourself. Well, good luck with everything :-)