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Q: okay. i like this guy alot! And my friend asked him if he likes me. He he said "no.....just as a friend". but she says he said it funny (like he was lieing)
And, i dunno 2 move on. or keep flirting. *because when he flirts-i flirt/when i flirt-he flirts.
Do i give up or what?

if he flirts with you, then he probably does like you regardless of what he told your friend. maybe he just isn't sure that you like him, so if he told your friend that he does in fact like you as more than a friend, he probably knows that she would tell you. but if you flirt a little more then he might ask your friend if you like him and if she tells him that uyou do like him he will probably ask you out!! if you have any other questions regarding this or anything else feel free to ask me!

Q: well my email address is glitr1170@yahoo.com and heres the question again...just dont send me any spamm plzz!
i have a really complicated sitch but here it goes: ive been with guy A for a bit over a month and since hes really shy, he wont talk to me or make time to be with me.he doesnt like talkin on the phone, in person and he never checks his email. i was the one that asked him out for this reason. he said he liked me and everything but he never shows it and im guessing its cuz hes a bit immature.
anyway, guy B has been my friend for a lil while and i got him together with one of my girlfriends (cuz he liked her) then she broke up with him for no reason...hes a sweetie and did everything to make her happy (he was goth and he kinda changed for her) its been 5 weeks since they broke up and i was talking to him about guy A and how i wasnt sure about him. he told me that bad side about him and how i should wait or just be paitient. then when he was helping me (after talking for 5 hours online) he admitted he liked me. im so confused... i like them both and well im on the verge (dumping guy A) and guy B is on the rebound so i dont know if its "real". please give me your honest view and help. ill rate you for answering honestly...not just go with the first thing that goes through your mind.

k i sent u an email so u should be getting it soon..tell me how it goes and i hope i helped!

Q: i have a really complicated sitch but here it goes: ive been with guy A for a bit over a month and since hes really shy, he wont talk to me or make time to be with me.he doesnt like talkin on the phone, in person and he never checks his email. i was the one that asked him out for this reason. he said he liked me and everything but he never shows it and im guessing its cuz hes a bit immature.
anyway, guy B has been my friend for a lil while and i got him together with one of my girlfriends (cuz he liked her) then she broke up with him for no reason...hes a sweetie and did everything to make her happy (he was goth and he kinda changed for her) its been 5 weeks since they broke up and i was talking to him about guy A and how i wasnt sure about him. he told me that bad side about him and how i should wait or just be paitient. then when he was helping me (after talking for 5 hours online) he admitted he liked me. im so confused... i like them both and well im on the verge (dumping guy A) and guy B is on the rebound so i dont know if its "real". please give me your honest view and help. ill rate you for answering honestly...not just go with the first thing that goes through your mind.

hey, it will not let me send it through advicenators, so if you can give me your email address then i will send it to you there. please don't rate me until you get the email! thank you so much for your effort!

i will send u the best advice ever (i swear to god it is so long!) but this wont let me type me answer here so just send the question directly to RaZzLeDaZzLe2011 and i will answer really soon.

Q: what do guys look for in a girl?

it depends on the guy. some guys like really athletic girls, some guys like really smart girls, but almost every guy i have ever met likes funny girls.
i hope i helped if u have any other questions feel free to ask

Q: ok well theres this guy i have been liking for a while, lets call him b*. well he started talking to me like 3 weeks ago and we've been cool ever since. he's been giving me hugs, saying hi to me around school n stuff. he's always asking me for gum lol cause im the "gum lady." he seems to be a real sweetheart. well this last week, we were partners in class and he was like touching all up on me and he told me he likes me n stuff. he was asking me all these questions and just being very "friendly." he asked me if i like him and i said yes, and he seemed very happy about that. he gave me his number and told me to call him, so i did and it didn't seem like he wanted to talk to me. and now around school he doesn't give me hugs anymore.. when i talk to him it seems like he doesn't care or whatever. i went to the homecoming football game and i talked to him and he just like didn't listen to anything i said and he was a real jerk to the guy friend that i brought. do you think he still likes me, and why might he be acting all weird?

thanks
xoxo

he could be going through hormones or maybe something is going on at home. i think that you should talk to him about it and find out what is wrong. i think that he was a jerk to your guy friend because maybe he thinks that you like ur guy friend as more than a friend and he got jealous...? if he says nothing is wrong, and that he'll change then give him a week or so and if he is still jerky then maybe you should talk to him again about it and A)give him another chance or two or B)break up with him. consider your options and let me know how it goes! hope i helped!
~Jen

Q: 13/f Sorry if this is a little confusing!

My friend goes to a differnt school than me. She introduced this kid to me (hes 12) and now I'm beginning to liek him. I know he likes me too, because my friend asked him and he said yes, and he also told me. Like, it would work out great with us, except for one thing, my friend. She used to go out with him and he dumped her a little while ago. But she still likes him..a LOT. He knows that she likes him, but he doesnt like her. The girl that introduced us (that I have been talkign about the whole time, that likes him also) is mad at him for liking me, and mad at me for liking him. She really doesn't want me to like him, but it's hard NOT to..you know what I mean?? Well it's really confusing and I don't know what to do. What if he asks me out? I like him a lot too, but I don't want to lose my friend. Please help me?

the same thing happened to me except me and my friend go to the same school and we liked a guy at our school. she can't be mad at you for liking him. tell her that you are sorry that you both like the same guy but its not fair of her to be mad at u because u like him! if she gets mad at you then she might not be worthy of your friendship. if you really don't want to get in a fight with her then maybe you should just kind of try not to flirt with him or talk to him that much (i know thats really sad :-( ) and try to talk to other guys at your school. if i were you i would just go for it. but it is totally up to u. consider the consequences of what you are going to do, and i hope i helped! let me know what happens, my email address is razzledazzle8272@yahoo.com

~Jen

Q: ok i like this guy... ALOT! but there seems to be this little rat face bitch always in my way. and she keeps flirting with him. and i know she is doing it to piss me off. but i dont know what i should do?

if shes just doing it to piss u off then jut start flirting with another guy until 'she' starts flirting with him, then start flirting with your original guy again and if she goes back to flirting with him again he will get the message...guys aren't THAT dumb lol. let me know what happens and i hope i helped!

Q: Theres this girl. We were dating for a year( i know thats preety sad) Now i want to break up with her. How do i brake up with someone without hurting their feelings?

what i do is i say 'i had a really good time going out with you but i feel like we have more of a friend-type relationship.' except i am a gurl and i dump guys that way...but its ok with most gurls too i think.
hope i helped and let me know how it goes.
~Jen

Q: Hey I am a 14 year old girl and I really like this guy at school and he knows I like him. He used to like me but I'm not sure he does anymore. Any advice on how to be more flirty or drop a hint that I like him. And how do I figure out if he likes me? Thanks alot!! Ill rate!!

hey!
the same thing is happening to me except for me, the guy that i like is moving to Hong Kong in January! he used to like me but i am trying to figure out if he still does..its hard

what u should try to do it get an excuse to sit by him in class or something, like if there is a spot between him and some1 that you know just sit there and and talk to him a lot. if you have an old inside joke with him bring it up and/or talk about something that has happened b4 with you too. you can also ask him questions like 'do u know what the homework is in math?' and stuff like that.

Q: Well there is this guy i liked since i met him ( kind of like love @ first sight ) he likes me too he tells me he loves me all the tiem but we dont go out . Well i liked this other guy ( Dakota ) since last year and when i asked him out he said he had a girlfriend well today he broke up with her and he stares at me at lunch now and there is this other guy ( Brian ) and he has always been there for me since the get go i love them all IM NOT A HOE but which one should i choose ?!?!

does Brian like you?
first you have to decide which one is better. and it would probably be better if you decided to only like one of them. think about which one has always been nicer, more caring, easier to talk to. would it be akward if you were going out with one of them? take everything into acount, and if you still can't decide, then flirt a lot with both of them and see who responds better. its totally up to you and both of them sound really nice so i don't think that you can go wrong! I hope i helped and let me know how it goes!
~Jen

Q: For anyone who actually reads this, thanks.Well, I had a boyfriend, we'll call him "Tod". We went out for about 3 months. Well, all these people were coming up to me and saying, "OMG!Are you going to be okay?!" Honestly, I had no idea what on earth they were talking about. So, I asked "Tod" and he told me that he kissed another girl on the lips! Me? Upset? Yeah, but I could deal with it.I told I didn't care. He told me that he couldn't stand to hurt me again, so he said it was over.Well, about 2 months later, he asked me out again, and I said yes. And just recently, we broke up. Everyone was telling me that he told them it was "another girl". This time, I had it with him. I was through with getting hurt because of his freakin mistakes when I didn't do anything to hurt him! So, I'm never going out with him again. But..I think that there might be "another guy" for me. We'll call him "Justin".He's one of my friends ex-boyfriends.They have been going out on and off like me and "Tod".And my other friends are telling me to not go out with him because she might get pissed at me.Well, first of all, I know she will, but I think I really like "Justin" and just the other day, I told him that I really like him. He told me that he really likes me too. But we're not going out. Yesterday, he was talking to my sister, and she asked him if he and I were going out. He said "yeah" and my sister said "since when?!?!". Then he said "since now". But I asked him if we were really going out, and he said he doesn't know! What's that supposed to mean?!Sorry it's soooo long! -Alex

some guys just think that going out and liking some1 is the same thing. that could be the case for this but who knows? and as for your friend there are petty much 2 choices of what you can do . You can either A)Tell her that you really like him and that you are sorry but since he isn't still going out with her you hope that is doesn't matter, or B)find out what he meant by "i dont know" and/or secretly go out while trying to hide it from her. think about both options, the choice is totally up to you! let me know what happens and I hope I helped!

Q: Sorry it's long, but I need some help

Okay, no offense to this kid, or anybody out there, I'm just describing him.

There's this one realy geeky, kind of overweight kid (I'm a few pounds overweight too, so nothing against him) Well he likes me, and he does whatever he can to talk to me. I know he's trying to be nice, and his best friend said he liked me, but I have a boyfriend, and he doesn't seem to understand that. Today, we were waiting in the commentary during school, and he came up to me and started to act like a real loser (he's a loner with only a few friends) but he made all my friends leave, and when I tried to walk away, he'd get in front of me. I'm stuck sitting next to him in 1st period, I have tried talking to the teacher, and I told her I felt like I was being sexually harassed, because he has tried touching me, but she wouldn't really liste, because she knows hit too well, and he just wouldn't do that type of thing, so I can't move seats, I've tried talking to an administrator, and everything, the only thing I haven't done was talk to him. I'm not sure if he's mentally challenged, and I don't know how to say anything without being mean, He never said he liked me, but you can just tell, and his friends have asked me if I'd go out with him

How do I get it in his brain, I have a boyfriend, and I DON'T LIKE YOU!! I don't want to be friends, I just want him to leave me alone!!

that is really nice that you don't want to be mean to him and i think that i know what you can do. Find one of his friends and tell them to tell him that you really like him AS A FRIEND but you have a boyfriend and u really really like your boyfriend as a crush. If it doesn't stop then you might have to talk to him about it. Just tell him that you want to be friends but you really like your boyfriend. if he keeps hitting on you then get someone else involved. He has no right to do that to you. I hope i helped! Let me know what happens!
~Jen

Q: Is it wrong to like a guy, and love another? Does that make me a hoe?...lol I give advice, but every1 calls me a hoe b-c of that!! But after u r done reading this then check out my site...sExY_LiL_BoO_BeCkY

-*Thanks a bunch!*-

-bEcKy-

becky,
its perfectly ok! are you going out with the guy that you love? cause if you are, then i think that maybe you should try to steer clear of liking that other guy. not that it is a big deal if you do like someone else, but for my class and maybe yours, its' really dramatic so if anyone found out about it they would make a huge deal about it. I personally wouuldn't worry about it...hope i helped!
~Jen

Q: so he cheated but im giving him another chance but heres the thing i cheated first. i really didnt do anything all i did was kiss another guy. thats all. but he (who shall remain nameless)slept with my friend while i was away. and made out with another see the making out part didnt bother me but the sex part did and still kinda does. but i love him and i wanna be with him. i mean come on i was engaged for 3 or 4 months. so im giving him another chance and all but then all of a sudden the girl he slept with i hear is bragging right well heres what i did about that i punched her in the face hehe it made me feel so much better and i dont regret it one bit. but then all of a sudden this other girl whom i did nothing to is all freaking out and saying shes gonna sue me for mental anguish hah my ass she will. but yeh shes telling my boyfriend i had sex with sum guy in front of her i no i like kinky but im not that kinky. but yeh so now all this shit is happening and i really dont no how to handel it anymore its all really messing me up and i dont no what to do somebody help me please im gonna loose me mind. oh yeah im 17 and a chik

Thanks

that is really sad!
it is really wrong of him to have slept with another girl and if my boyfriend did that to me i wouldn't give him another chance. i think that if you want to, you can stay with him. But since you are only 17 i think that this is a perfect time to explore and meet new guys, that way, if your boyfriend is better than any guy that you met, then you will see how good he really is and spend the rest of your life with him!I hope i helped...let me know what happens!
~Jen

Q: OK here's the deelio. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for like 4 months. It started out with me really liking him and making his friend tell me who the guy I liked likes. Anyway during the summer I have kind of started to like my x. And I don't really like my Boyfriend that much anymore. All of my friends say that I should wait until I see him in school again, but it just seems weird to go out with my boyfriend for another month or so and not even like him! What should I do?

This is tough to answer. A thing happened to me once that was very simaler to that. What I think you should do is this: If you are VERY sure that this guy is DEFINATELY OVER then I think you should break up with him. As for your ex, I think that you should try to remember why you guys broke up in the past. Yes, he could have changed, but that kind of depends on how long ago you guys broke up. If you guys broke up more than a year-and-a-half ago, I think that if you REALLY like him you should go for it. If it has been less than a year-and-a-half, you should try to explore new guys. Who knows? You could meet a really cool guy...