My boyfriend got a phone number from a chick. I found the number and confronted him. He says they only talked on the phone and never spent any time with her. When I called her she stated the same. Was he cheating by getting her number and calling her?
Well, I would say that it\'s not cheating based on what you\'ve said BUT that is kind of disrespectful since he\'s already in a relationship. Just tell him how you feel and hopefully he doesn\'t do that anymore.
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Im 11 im dating a 14 year old am i old enough to have sex with him if so can i get pregnant cuz he says he wants to have a family with me rite now
Hello there.
First let me say you're 11 years old. You should focus on school, playing outside, and being with friends not sex and creating a family. The both of you are really young, way too young to have kids since y'all are just kids yourself. Please put the thought of children far out of your mind. You may think that it's sweet that he wants to be with you and become a family, but y'all can wait. If he loves you, he'll wait. Also, once that baby gets here it'll be here and there will be no turning back it won't be just about you and him anymore y'all will have a baby to raise. It's even stressful for adults I don't think y'all are ready for a baby. It's cute but it's real and it'll change your whole life. I hope this helps you
-A.B
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very much in love and committed to each other. We've discussed marriage openly and comfortably on several occasions. I can't tell you how happy I feel about becoming his wife and building a family with him someday!
We are both Freshman in college and we go to different schools now. Our relationship has been put to the test this semester because this is our first time not being together every day (like we were in high school!)
In high school, I would go through stages where I would develop a crush on someone other than him on more than one occasion. (Is that terrible?) I NEVER acted on my feelings and remained loyal to my boyfriend. Eventually the romantic feelings would go away. I would always bounce back temporarily too of course when I was hanging out with my boyfriend.
This time is different. Now, I think about my manager even while I'm with my boyfriend. We flirt at work and while we text. Once I got a hug and I thought my heart was going to leap right out of my throat! It's not my actions but my feelings that are making me feel guilty, like I'm cheating on my boyfriend! I will check the schedule to see if we are working together and if we are, I will spend more time on my hair or makeup than usual...
I think about him all day and before I go to sleep at night. I cannot tell you what it is about him. I find myself so attracted to him suddenly and we've been working together for awhile now.. He does not have the easiest life (crush). No car, house and no ambition really. I picked him up and brought him to church once hoping the Lord would speak to his heart and he would get help. Is this pity?
I want to be a friend to him, truly. I just think about kissing him too.
I am praying to God that these will go away - I don't want to do something stupid like act on them and hurt my boyfriend. I could never see myself in a long-term relationship with my manager anyway, so why am I entertaining the idea of being with him?
I'm telling myself that I just care a lot about him (which I do, genuinely) and that the romantic feelings will subside. Now I am tormenting myself with questions like, "Is this really what you want?" or "Do you want to be tied down?" This is scaring me! I've considered maybe I am falling out of love.
I want to stay good friends with my manager but I don't want to lead him on or feel guilty for liking him too much. Am I changing? Is what I want in life changing? I don't wanna fall out of love. I hope this is normal like everyone says.
First, let me say that this is normal. Very normal! You can be deeply in love with someone and be attracted to someone else. You can't help your feelings. I will say, be very careful that you do not take it overboard and act on your feelings one day! I would actually advise you to stop flirting with anyone other than your boyfriend period because flirting does indeed lead to other feelings, but that is not my place. Stay true to your boyfriend, remember how much you love him, and what has kept y'all together all this time. Do not sacrifice it for someone whom you cannot see yourself with in the future. It may be fun now but the consequences are severe. Now, don't feel bad because this happens to everyone. It's apart of your imagination which is why you entertain the idea, you may not mean any harm by it but you simply cannot help your thoughts. We're human! As for questioning things; doubt is also natural, especially for relationships, especially for girls. It's just something we do. However, catch yourself and remind yourself that there is nothing to worry about and that everything will work out fine. I don't think you are falling out of love but only you will know for sure. Like I said, not flirting with your manager will definitely help the situation. I hope this helps you :) best of luck to you and your boyfriend!
-A.B
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ok im 17/f
i like two guys but i need to narrow it down to one, cause i cant lead them both on. i have no idea so im looking for your opinions.
max: he is 19. At uni, works. Not the best of looking but really nice with a good sense of humor, really smart and is a challenge (which i like), he rides a motor bike which is a bonus but down side is he is VERY religious and we have very different views on the topic, generally leads to a massive debate or fight.
Mitch: 18, works. really good looking, very caring and he is a good listener, always telling me he misses me and always asking to see me again. down side we dont have alot in common, he doesnt get my sense of humor and sometimes i think its an act.
so im stuck, there both great guys! how do i know which one to choose? and how do i let the other one know i cant be more than friends?
Hi!
First let me say it's always tough picking and choosing between guys. So, I feel for you. I personally think the better choice seems to be Mitch, because he's caring and he LISTENS to you and he seems to want to spend time with you, guys have other things that they can do with their time so if he's willing to spend time with you out of plenty of other things then he probably does like you. Not to mention he's good looking which is a plus! You say you think it's an act sometimes, doubt is natural especially for girls, and we need to be told things for confirmation so ask him how he feels about you. He doesn't get your sense of humor..maybe the more time he spends around you he'll get used to it and the not much in common.. well they say opposites attract but I don't really know if that's true. Sorry! The other guy, Max, the religious differences can be tolerated. You can both respect each other's views and not boost about your own religion. At least, he is religious though. Sad to say, I cannot choose for you. You've still got to make this hard decision on your own just take in consideration the pros and cons of both. A LIST WOULD ACTUALLY HELP!! And if they come out even, which should be unlikely, well you can either choose neither or you can pick whomever you have the most chemistry with.
The other hard part! How to let the other one down gently. Hmm.. You can use the famous line "it's not you, it's me" whatever that means. Or you can take a better approach and meet with the other guy face-to-face and tell him that you just don't think he's right for you but that you would really like for him to continue to be your friend; or put that in your own words. Hope this helps you out :)
-A.B
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If my boyfriend asked me out I say yes but then 3 days later it is like I don't even exist He aint talking to me any more and he is chatting with the boys what should I do ?
Communication is one of the most essential skills to have in a relationship or trust me, it will not last. If you want to continue being his girlfriend you need to have a talk with him. Tell him that you feel ignored and try to work on it. I hope this helps.
-A.B
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19/F/Bi
I moved into my flat at university a week ago, and it didn't take long for awkward feelings to arise. I really fancy one of my male flatmates, let's call him H. When we first met we instantly clicked and got on really well, but for some reason that went away quickly and now we're not very comfortable around each other. I think it's possible this has something to do with the fact that he's very extroverted whilst I'm very introverted.
To make matters worse, I'm also somewhat attracted to one of my female flatmates, N. And N and H have gotten very close and appear more than just friendly to me. They act like they're just friends - and H is actually interested in another girl on campus - but then they'll do things like hold hands in the back of taxis and tell each other they love each other. It seems like it's only a matter of time before something happens between them. I'm just finding it really difficult to watch and to be around them all the time, and yet I want to have some kind of friendship with them.
I think my feelings for H wouldn't be such a big deal were he simply a friend I saw every now and then, but because I live with him, they're intensifying and seem to get stronger each day. I feel like we'd get on very well if given the chance, but as it is, he seems pretty much indifferent to me, and I'm terribly awkward around him.
It seems crazy that all this has happened in the space of a week, but I guess things develop quickly in this kind of environment. I just don't know what to do. Part of me wants to try and pursue H, but a) I don't want to fuck things up with someone I'm going to be living with for a year, and b) I don't even know how I'd go about it. I've been coming to terms with my sexuality for a couple of years, and for a long time I thought I was gay so I started giving off an 'I'm-not-interested' vibe to guys, and I can't stop doing it - so now on the odd occasion that I am interested in a guy, I'm probably still giving that vibe off.
I just really, really like him, and it means I spend a whole lot of time feeling jealous and awkward and upset. And it's starting to get in the way of my being friends with him because I don't know how to act around him.
How would you suggest I deal with this?
Hello.
Well, first off I'm sorry that this has happened to you. It's really awful to have mixed emotions about someone. In response to your question, I think you should try to get over your flatmate. For 1) Like you said, you guys will be living together for a year and it'll be more than awkward if you guys date and then it doesn't work out so well. For 2) He sounds like he might be a "player/a flirt" and I'm not saying that he is, but that's what it sounds like to me. He is holding hands with 'N' in the backseat of a taxi and telling her he loves her, yet in the beginning the two of you had hit it off, and then you say he's ALSO interested in somebody else on campus. It seems like he can't make up his mind! You might feel jealous and upset now because you have feelings for him and you want to be with him but that would probably not be best for you anyway. I think you should get over him and try to find someone that you can click with instead of making things more increasingly awkward for you and your flatmate. However, overtime the 3 of you; 'N', 'H', and yourself can probably all become good friends.
Hope this helps!
-A.B
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So me and this guy were friends for 3 years. And I never like liked him. Until lats friday. I rally like him. So he asked me out* he gave me hugs like 10 times a day. I just want to know if I should like kiss him on the cheek or something??* thX!!! 14/F
You said you really like him and he asked you out meaning he likes you too. You should definitely give him a kiss on the cheek, and as time progresses maybe even on the lips. :)
I hope your relationship works out
-A.B
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I've known this boy since we where little but when we grew up we lost touch. And last year I had a friend tell him that I like him and since then he has been staring at me. I wonder if he likes me or not. Im a girl and I,m 13.
Usually younger guys tend to stare or become "starstruck" by something fascinating. I am saying that you fascinate him meaning that yes, he probably does like you.
Hope this helps you :)
-A.B
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I'm 16 and female. The guy I like is 17 and my brother's friend and he's always staring at me and sometime's I hear him tell my brother that I'm 'really hot' or something like that. He also talks to me a lot when he's over and we flirt occasionally. The only reason I think he might not like me is because a few days ago was our homecoming and he went with someone else. He did come up to me during the dance though while his date was in the bathroom and we hugged :). Does it seem like he likes me? And if it does, should I make a move?
I definitely think he's interested in you. He may have chosen to go to homecoming with someone else because he didn't think you'd go with him or maybe she asked him first but he did come over and hug you. That means he acknowledged you, he's not a jerk and just shrugged you off which is great! Maybe you should just give him a little time to open up to you more, drop subtle hints that you're interested in him too. If things start to look better, make a move... Or wait for him to make one first. However, I think he likes you:)
Hope this helps you out!
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