Hey I'm Jessica! I may be young but I can give some awesome advice! I love helping people and i'm online a lot (just call me a computer geek)! I'll do my best to answer any of your questions :)
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Ohhkay. Where to start. I'm confused. It really would be great to get some older opinions on this question. My topic is: teenage love. What does everyone think of it? Because all my friends, or a fair few, will have a boyfriend who they keep for a week or a month or two and they'll be from day one, "head over heels in love". Now, I for one think that's ridiculous! They're 15/16 year olds and, in particular examples, they'll have a week or two, maybe a month of I love You after they met about 2 days previously - or online or something, and then it stops. I for one think that love can't be anything more than infatuation, but I think this has become the image of teenage love. Now I started going out with my boyfriend 11 months ago and I knew I didn't love him at the start. It was like a 15 year old crush on both parts. I didn't admit to myself I loved him until about 5 months had passed. And even then I didn't say it verbally. Now, at 11 months I feel like I can talk about it freely with him and we've never been closer; I really can't see the end right now, even though everything inevitably ends. But my parents seem to think that it won't last and I'm being ridiculous, wanting to see him so much. They say it won't last, although compared to my friends, me and my boyfriend are practically an old aged married couple - they say its ridiculous that tennagers can possibly even contemplate the meaning of the word 'love'. They also say that what I have is hardly a commitment or any kind of dedication even though I feel completely commited , which I will admit came with time (about a month or two, even more so now). I just want to know - is this true? Have any of you ever experienced or seen 'teen love' do anything but crash and burn compared to the relationships people have when slightly older? Do you think that for some people, like me, it could last? Or is it, in your opinion also, likely to end and be forgotten about? Do you think there is more of a sense of commitment when you're more mature or an equal amount?
Thankyou! Your feedback is
VERY MUCH appreciated
Faye. (link)
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Well, I know I'm younger than what you wanted, but I can answer most of it :]. I thnk you can love someone without BEING in love with them. I love my boyfriend but I know I am not in love with him. I agree, kids these days use the word to much. I think teens that are like "oh I love you so and so" Mean they love the feeling of not being alone. The idea that they always have someone (for the time being). Then again, there are those that find love very young. I know a happily married couple that started dating in 8th grade! I'm kindof in your position, and I think your parents might be worried. You know, they don't want a) your heart broken. They don't want you to get your hopes up so they're warning you early. And b), they don't want you to think that you're ready for marriage or anything. I don't know any parents that exactly ENCOURAGE their children to get married at 15-16 (assuming that's your age). You know how parents are, always worried ha ha ;] anyway, I hope you find your answer somewhere in this big mass of...ramble. ha ha hope I helped!
-Jessica- :]
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15/f/freshman
kay so i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for about 3 months. it's not that long i know but is it bad that like i don't tell him everything and i know things about him but like not everyyything? it seems like everytime i see someone being a couple they know everrything about eachother and tell them everyyyything. i'm kinda shy and new to the whole actual dating and going places with a boyfriend so i get kinda nervous around him but it's gotten way better. also we started "dating" like a few days after we met so i think we're still developing in our relationship a lot. thats not bad right? and i love him but i'm not "in love" with him you know like it's a friend love but a little more then that.
another question, like i said i get nervous and like can't think of what to talk about around him because i'm so afraid that i'm going to sound dumb. i'm really insecure. how do should i attempt to break that shell?
i don't know, i think it might be better now that i have lunch with him next semester, so anyone who helps, thanks a ton, i mean it =] (link)
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Congrats on the new Bf ;] anyway, no, it's completly normal to not know to much about your bf. I know I don't know everything about mine. It's ok to be shy and I have the exact same problem with shyness. Don't worry about being yourself in front of him. If he likes you for you, then he won't care one bit. I mean, I had a bf that was nervous around me, so he never did anything. We didn't talk practically at all. Just be yourself around him, it'll be fine :]
Hope I helped
-Jessica- :)
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Okay, I'm not confident hahahahaha. I've decided tomorrow to try and raise my confidence I'll do a tiny bit of flirting around the opposite sex.
I'm going into the city.
However we're just going to walk around we're not going to a specific place. What sort of guys should I approach and how should I start a conversation? Then how do I move on to flirt? and when would the right time be? I've seriously never done it in my life...except once accidentally hahahaha, that didn't go down too well. (link)
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lol just make sure he's not with another girl ;] Ok, this is what I would do, if I were lucky enough to go into the city ha ha:
Casually, walk up to the guy of your choice and ask him something friendly, like "Hey, i'm lost could you show me where this place is?" Or something. When he is kind enough to show you the city, offer to buy him coffee or something as thanks. Drinking coffee, just talk with him, have fun, and be yourself. I hope you have a great time!
Hope I helped!
-Jessica- :)
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16/f. I hate this.
soo...a couple of years back, i got myself a boyfriend online..(VERY stupid idea) got REALLY attatched to him..and started crying over him and stuff (things you shouldn't do with people online) and I didnt realize it was bad..I was in "love" o.O..so, as you can imagine, when he broke up with me..i was in tears. he was 18 after all. so cool. oh yes, older guys. okay now..when i was 15, i met another guy. through connections with my 'ex' ...mutual friends. and he fell in 'love' with me. by that time, i was more aware of the dangers of the internet and didnt bother to tell him that i even liked him. because i didnt. i dont even know what the guy looks like..i dont wanna look at his pictures. lmao. but anyway, his burning love for me grew. and he's 18 as well. Then, his 22 year old girl-friend from the internet.. (pathetic, i know) who is at home all day playing video games and chatting with people..started talking bad about me...when she doesnt even know me. she claims that the 18 year old guy REALLY LIKED her...and that I'm taking him away from her. during this time, the guy insisted that he likes me so much more. and he kept on being mean to that 22 year old. so I'm like wtf? I don't know WHAT to do. cause I sure as hell don't want to stick around in this retarded love fest. I understand she may not have any friends..but falling for an 18 year old she's never met and then being all jealous about it...because he likes me? ..that's messed up. i'm so lost and confused. I would like to get out of this situation.I don't know how though. I'm sick of it. Sick of it all..
i really appreciate if you read this. any point of views would be appreciated. =)
the internet love triangle. haha (link)
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The internet is a place where predators prey, people make themselves seem better then they really are, and people feel more important. Ok, i'm sorry to say this, but for all you know, these could be 2 thirty year old guys playing a mean trick on you. On the internet, almost nothing is ever what it seems. It's just reality. I suggest you tell this dude if you don't like him. Why be stuck inside the triangle when you could be on the outside, being happier and less confused? If you don't like him, tell him.
Hope I helped,
-Jessica- :)
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Okay.. I'm going to break up with my boyfriend of 1 year. He is probably going to cry etc. but i want to make at as painless as possible and just get it done and over with. How can i make it easy on the both of us? (link)
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well, for one, DON'T do it over the phone, computer, text etc. Ok, ask him to meet you a certain day so you can "talk". that will kindof give him the idea that it's serious so he can have a day or so to think about it and be prepared. when you meet up, just say "hey this is really hard for me but this isn't working out." then tell him why. hope i helped!
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months and the other day on the phone, randomly he goes, i wish i could see you, and hug you every second of the day.
is that sweet or just plain weird?
THANKSOMUCH! (link)
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I think it's sweet. That's just me though. That just mean that he still loves you as much as he did in the beginning.
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ill make its simple
i started talking to my old campfriend and his friends. he likes me A LOT but i dont like him. i rejected him a couple times, and he keeps asking me for more chances. i dont know what to tell him, but im pretty sure like one of his friends.
what can i say to him to make him get over me?
i would feel horrible if i did anything with his friend, but he shouldnt "own me"
help is appreciated (link)
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well try hooking your friend up with another girl that you think he would be good with. Don't just pick someone off the streets but find someone that he'll actually enjoy spending time with. Hope this helps!
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Ohkay, so theres this guy that I really started liking. We met once on his best friends drive way and but we really didn't talk much and I almost doubt he remembers me, thank god though because I looked disgusting that night. Now I have a huge crush on him and hes single. Were going to the movies this friday, but theres going to be alot of other people there from his school. I dont go to his school though but I have alot of girlfriends and stuff there. Obviously he doesnt like them because hes had only one girlfriend the whole year. I was wondering what I could do that would really impress him at the movies? What are some things I should do to get attention. Ways to talk & flirt.
Things im already doing.
Curling my Hair
Wearing Foundation =)
Wearing a somewhat belly shirt (not slutty) its long sleves and last time I wore it, a guy told me I lookd hot =)
Wearing soffees and possibly a thong.
13/F
help. what else like things I can do at the movies (link)
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-Sit by him(of course)
-lean over to him and make a funny remark about the movie (don't do this too much or he won't even get to see the movie)
-make sure you walk out of the theater with him (just in case ;)!)
-smile a lot and be yourself. If you have to lie about who you are to get him to like you, then he's not for you.
I hope you have fun and I hope this helps!
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im in seventh grade and a girl. well theres this boy i like a lot and ive liked him almost the whole school year. we used to talk and laugh all the time in the beginning of the year when we sat across from eachother in science but since then we barely talk. im still in lovve with him tho. its the end of the school year and im woondering if i should tell him how i feel? im afraid that if he doesnt like me back, things will be awkward then. should i tell him? (link)
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Ok, it's the end of the school year. Take a chance. C'mon, if he used to talk and laugh with you that means he liked you. He probably still does, just the nervous type of love. And if it turns out differently than you'd expected, than he just doesnt see the real, awesome you. Besides it's the end of the school year. you and him will probably forget anyway. The summer is meant for having fun and a totally awesome bf adds 10x more fun! I hope I helped!
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I am going over this guys house that I like. We are going to watch movies and stuff like that. What do I do. Should i kiss him? What do I wear how do i do my hair and make up. I want to catch his eye.
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Just wear what you would normally wear. You want it to be comfortable(it IS a movie night). Chances are he isn't going to answer the door in a suit and tie. As for the kiss, don't force it. Kisses are 10x better when they happen naturally.
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I am a 24 year old student finishing my masters. I have been dating this guy for a year now, who is almost the perfect guy except he doesn't pay for anything, I mean nothing. I pay for $700.00 rent, power, cable, lots of dinners. Furthermore, he is an engineer and making o.k money; I feel that he is the perfect guy I just want to know why he wont help out. I dont want to lose him though. How can I make him see, that he is using me? (link)
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Talk to him. Tell him how you feel and ask him why he won't pay for anything. Maybe he's saving his moey up for something special. Just make sure that when you talk to him, You both have plenty of time to work things out. Also, make sure he knows how you feel about this. Don't try to insult him. Remember, this is not supposed to be a fight. Just stay cool and don't yell.
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