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My name is Monique. Feel Free to call me Momo. I am 14, female, I go to OCMS. I like hanging out w/ friends, shopping, giving makeovers, partying, and listening to music. I am a Vegetarian, and I strongly support Gays, Bi's, Lesibians, and Humane Rights. My favorite TV show of all time is The L Word. Sorry, I'm really trying to get a picture of me up here, but I cant get one less than 15 K's. But I'm trying.

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Oh Jesus. The other night I did some stuff that was kind of close to cheating on my boyfriend at a concert. He found out and got really mad. At first he was mad because I was denying it. Finally I couldn't help it and told him what I did. And he cried and took it real bad. Now he doesn't trust me and thinks I'll cheat on him. How do I get his trust back?

Hey,
First, let him know that what you did was Stupid, Wrong, and appologize alot. It's gonna take a while to get his trust back. But really what are you expecting? What if HE did that to you? This is a really iffy situtation. I say, talk to him about why you did w/e you did. Maybe he's not fulfilling some desire that you need. Or Maybe, your curious for something new. If it is that case, then I think you 2 should take a breather from each other. Not a break up, just some time to realize how much you love each other. Hope I helped :)
♥Momo

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okay theres this kid that i really like ..
we went out before but i didnt really like him
awhole lot when we were going out which was in the summer.
so like last week we started liking eachother and stuff again.
then he went out with this girl named Taylor.
i still liked him a lot tho.
then they broke up and my best friend started to like him.
well he likes her now and not me but i still really like him.
i think she likes him and someone else too.
but i dont know what to say to him or what to do.
please help.

Hey,
Well your case is pretty "original". If this gy really liked you, then he'd let you know, instead of flirting/ dating every other girl he meets. Sorry, to tell you, but it sounds like this guy has moved on, and you should too. Guys hate it when a girl lingers onto the past after it's over, it's just over. :( When us girls are still trying to chase this guy were so madly in love w/ even though the guy obviously could care less, it makes us look pathetic. I say, find someone else who is into you. You don't need that one guy to "complete" you. Hope I helped :)
♥Momo

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ok...so me and this guy lets call him "bob" were going out, and i broke it off..but i stil liked him.. so anyway we started talking and we immediatley started flirting, and welll i just didnt want a boyfriend. so we would just sit there and talk about stuff, and then one day, me and my friend lets call her "sally".me and my friend sally want to play a prank on him. so we do, and he gets mad at sally..but doesnt get mad at me.. (hes dated sally before) and then the next day, me and bob talk it out and he asks why i dont want a boyfriend and i tel him cause im scared someone will hurt me...but i mean i really love bob.so i decided ok i'll go out with him.. he said he loved me and i believed him and i loved him...so he asked me out and i said yes,,and then everythign was going really great, but we didnt see each other that often cuz we went to different schools..and then he sent me an email saying that he just wanted to be friends,..and i was bummed out..like literally cause he promised he wouldnt hurt me..and then not even a week later hes going out with sally...and i love bob, i really do, but he doesnt know it...so how can i make him see that sally will never love him as much as i will, and that i will do anything for him..and that i want him back


by the way im 13/f... and ill rate huge. plz help.

Hey,
You know what, your 13, you really shouldn't be looking or falling in love. Your supposed to have fun! Being free, not being tied down. If "Bob" really loved you, like you love him, Then he would come to you. Chasing a guy should just be beneath you. Besides you did say you didn't want anyone to hurt you, but your letting yourself be hurt by being so upset about "Bob". And as for Miss "Sally" she's obviously no friend, or a good one anyway. If she knew you had these feelings for "Bob" then she shouldn't have dated him. Friends don't do that to each other. I say, get a new love interest. Forget "Bob", you really don't need him. Hope I helped :)
♥Momo

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I am 21 yrs old and have been dating this guy for 3&1/2 yrs now (started my senior year of highschool) and I love him very much, but for the last year or so Ive gotten to the point where I just don't know if I can see us together forever anymore (like all girls dream) and am wondering if I should stay or go. We have been getting into alot more fights, way more easily than before and most of them are due to the fact that he is obsessed with video games and puts them ahead of hanging out with me all the time. Lately, hes gotten into this new game that has quests with alot of people on certain days of the weeks; scheduled quests. And he decides to not hang out with me and play instead even though its a friday night which is one of my nights off (no college the next day or work). We rarely see each other the way it is this semester due to classes and work and homework that this is ruining my time with him and it bugs me how he doesn't care. Even when we do hang out, when I come over to his house I have to get him off his game and its hard work. I just don't feel like a priority anymore, and because of this I get angry easier and then make him mad and we get into fights. He thinks I nag on him too much and I think he doesn't prioritize me enough. I love him sooo much, hes very honest and true to me, but I'm to the point where I'm jealous of a game?! This just doesn't feel right. The only other thing (other than his good points) stopping me from breaking it off with him is the fact that we have a class together and i don't want to have this stuff affect my grades and I am very 'addicted' to him (i love him soo much and dont know how to live without him anymore). Should i stay With him? Should i break it off? If so, when? Thanks for any advice you can give me.

Hey,
I think that you two have been together for so long, that you 2 need a break from each other. Not Breaking up, just chill out from each other for a while. People always forget how great something is, until they've lost it. So if you two take a little break then he'll realize what a jerk-off he has been and he'll want you back! If you love him, then this is a great solution. If your questioning if you reall love him, then maybe its time for a split-up. Until one of you realizes how much you love and need each other, your good as done. Hope I helped :)
♥Momo

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Bckgrd Info: 16/f

Well theres this guy at my school, named Matt. He's the SWEETEST guy ever!... online. We talk online, and he flirts with me alot, and tells me I'm so hott and stuff. But when we are at school he completely ignores me! I'll say hi to him and he walks away. But online he says he didnt see me. Should I ignore him, or keep talking to him?

~Cheyanne

Hey,
I think that if Matt is soooo great to you online, why is he rude to you face-to-face? Thats not a good friend whatsoever. This guy, Matt, sorry to tell you, but He sounds like a real jerk. You don't need him. To answer your question, I say you delete him from your buddy list and ignore him, like he does you. hope i helped :)
♥Momo

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i am 15, a girl, and i am bi. however, i never know if a girl is a lesbian or not, or bisexual. especially the truley feminin ones. how do i tell with out embaressing my self and having to ask them if they are interested in girls or not. is there any underage gay bars i can go to in la?

Hey,
Well I can't help you with the gay bars part. But i can tell you, try going to some parties and flirt.(don't be too forward, u dont wanna scare them off) Just little things like, "U look hot today", or "Wanna hangout later?" The great thing about being a girl, is that we can call each other whores, sexy beasts, sit on each others laps, hug, and still be COMPLETELY STRAIGHT. Just be yourself, and try not too push yourself on them. Maybe hint around, if they're gay or not. The best advice i've ever when I asked a friend of mine a question like this is, Invite a crush over for a sleepover, and just kinda play around and be like, "have you ever kissed a girl" don't be too serious b/c then the mood might not be as fun. Hope I helped :)
♥Momo

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Lord help me.

I am a 13 year old girl, and for a while, I considered myself "straight." Now, I'm really freaked out. I have a big crush on my lesbian English teacher (FYI, she's made it public that she's a lebian---I'm not just assuming). I'm so scared. Having a crush on a teacher is bad enough, and on a female teacher is awful. Mind you, I don't have a discrimination against homosexuals, but I don't like to think of myself liking someone of the same sex. I feel like such a creep. Does this make me a lesbian as well? I mean, I've liked only guys of my own age (but those were huge, long-term crushes), but still...I am so scared.

If anyone at school finds out about this, my life is over.

~Stella Luna~

Hey,
Omg, I am going through the same thing as you are. I keep questioning myself if I am gay. To answer your question though, liking a lesbian, doesn't quite make you gay. Your a fresh teen, and your still trying to find yourself. You may have a small crush on your teacher, but that could just be a phase. I used to think that if I thought a girl was cute, I was a lesbian. But it's not true. If you DON'T want to become a lesbian, then you should find other things to keep you busy. This isn't anything to be afraid of, just remember that w/e your prefrence is people shouldn't judge you. And most iportantly don't judge yourself. Liking girls is not a bad thing. All I can say is, Chill Out. Focus on your english-not your teacher. And if you still have these feelings for girls, then you might just be curious. I say, fulfill your curiosity. If you don't wanna do that, try some online quizzes that test your gay-osity lol. Hope I helped. :)
♥Momo

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14/f

Ok, my boyfriend and I are 14 and we're in love. Like seriously in love. We're been dating for over a year now and we've had our times but we always work it out. Last night though, I was on the phone with him and he said some stuff that I don't know, hurt alot and I cried for a little while (I was still on the phone with him). He apologized for it and all and I think he made up for it with all the things he said but then he just started acting like nothing ever even happened. I don't get why he does this, can someone tell me why? He does this everytime we fight but we've never had a fight as bad as this one.

Hey,
I'm so sorry that he hurt you so bad you cried. I've done that with a guy once, and it does not feel good at all. I personally think, that 1, your both 14, boys are often weird like that. They make a huge dramatic scene, and the next day their just fine, while you still feel like crap. I say you sit him down, just the two of you and just get everything out. Ask him what he meant, why he would say things so hurtful, and let him know that if he ever makes you cry like that again you could find better. (you could just bluff that, so he won't ever do it again. Also so he'll realize that he doesn't want to lose you.) Just talk about everything, keep calm, and at the end hug or kiss, show affection to ensure that you both still love each other deeply. Hope I helped :)

♥Momo

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Im friends with this guy, Tim. We have been pretty good friends for awhile. We are always really flirty around each other, like any time we see each other, he hugs me, and its always a lingering hug, or he puts his arm around me or somehow touches me. Well everyone always says how much we should go out, but he had a girlfriend for awhile. A lot of people said it was a cover, because he really likes me. Well, for valentines day he gave me a little teddy bear, and he asked my friend if I like him, But it never goes farther, and theres always the fact that he went out with a girl for awhile, even after we were flirting around. Does he like me? or does he just consider me a really good friend? I mean, I myself am confused about him, but I know I could grow to really like him. What do you think about his behavior? Does he really like me?

Hey,
First thing first. Tim is.. a guy. And guys are totally confusing. One day they think your the hottest girl on the planet, the next day they've moved on to the hott foreign exchange student from Brazil! lol. All I can really say is, keep hanging around him, and maybe one day ask him to go to the movies, or the mall, or somewhere where you two can talk one-on-one and just sorta kinda ask him if he likes you.(Make sure he's single at the time.)But if he turns you down, just remember, there are plenty of other guys out there. And Tim will feel pretty dumb for losing out on a great girl. Besides, if Tim was flirting with you while he was currently dating someone else, just think what he'll do when your not there. But like I said, Talk to him just you two so he's not shy or something.

♥Momo

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