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ok so i went out with this girl (we'll call her jane) ok so me and jane started goin out last year march 20th 2003 and we were good for the first 3 months talkin and hangin out like we were meant for each other and really havin a good time then she broke up with me but i kept goin at it and we started goin back out keepin our original date so bout 9 months into the relationship shyt started gettin bad and we hardley ever talked, hung out or nethin but we still loved each other and shyt but when we talked we constantly fought.. so when march 20th came up this year it would have been a year and i thought that was pretty special idk maybe that sounds gay cuz imma guy but i really thought it was special and i wanted to spend time with her and everythin.. but we didnt talk or see each other at all and she didnt even call me so i got mad like ne other person would.. so we talk the next day and shes actin like nothins wrong so i get tired of it and i ask her if she still loves me and all that and shes like i love u but i dont have the same feelings for u nemore so i was like iight well then i dont wann go out with u nemore..... so its been over 3 months since we broke up but im in love with her and i dont wann let her outta my life ya kno so i keep goin at it but she stays at sayin that shes not ready for a relationship and so my question is....should i keep goin at it with her or just move on?
thanx
-Anonymous (link)
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It may not be what you want to hear, but I think you should move on. Don't stop talking to her entirely by any means. Let her know that when she's ready for a relationship with you that she can come to you. You shouldn't waste your time (for lack of better words) dwelling on something that may never happen.
Hope things work out.
-Maisie
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once a cheater, always a cheater?? TRUE OR FALSE? (link)
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My answers to questions like this are all the same:
All people are different. Somebody said this can be both true and false and I agree with them. I know people that cheat all the time and see no problem with it. I, however, cheated once before in my life and immediately knew that what I was doing was wrong and have never done it since. (I'm assuming this question is in regards to relationships, rather than just cheating in general)
If you know somebody who has cheated once before, there's a good chance they won't do it again. Sometimes when I'm getting into a relationship with somebody I'll let them know that I've cheated before but that I haven't since. It's a whole trust factor. If they trust me, they trust me. If they don't, they don't. If you're going to be in a relationship with somebody who has cheated, let him/her know that you're aware they cheated and tell him/her what you feel about it and let them know what will happen if they cheat on you (what happens is up to you).
I lost where I was going with that. I'm starting to develop a really bad habit of rambling and going off topic. In any case, I hope this has helped.
-Maisie
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when ur making out with a guy do you stick ur toung in his mouth or shuold he do it to you first? (link)
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I'm going to agree with Natalie.
If you really don't know who should or even will do it first, you might as well take it upon yourself to initiate it. Personally, I don't think it really matters who goes first, as long as both parties are willing to participate.
-Maisie
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Okay.. well Ive been with my boyfriend for 16 months (on wednesday) Anyways.. he got drunk last night and cheated on me with his ex.. and he said that he didnt even mean to, he was just drunk.. and that he loved me he just wanted to take a break.. and he came back online, and we were talking.. and it was like.. we were still together.. i mean he still called me "babygirl" and said I love you when he had to leave.. what should i do? :/ Thanks!~ (link)
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It was his decision to get drunk, therefore regardless of how you look at it, he cheated on you.
People should not be given second chances in these situations. "I was drunk" is no excuse for anything. If it is, then all he has to do when he wants to get away with something is drink first. Ditch him.
-Maisie
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Ok so theres a guy I met like last year and I was actually 14 then. I met him when he was down on vacaion. We tried to make it work but it didn't because he never moved down because his dad found a job up there. I still know his AIM/Email. Should I try to contact him? What should I say? This sounds crazy but I think about him all the time and love him sooo much. I'm sure the love is strong enough the distance now wouldn't be a issue. What should I do?
Signed,
Sad and confused!
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First off, in response to anybody that said long-distance relationships don't work: wrong. My freshman year in college, I ended up getting together with a friend of mine who lived halfway across the state. We go to two very different colleges on opposite sides of the state now, but we're still together and very much in love.
Now to "Sad and confused:"
Contact him, certainly. Tell him you've been thinking about him and that you'd like to know what he's been up to. If you're able to, try and orchestrate some way for the two of you to see each other. If it's at all possible and you are able to meet up with him somehow, that's when you should discuss having a long-distance relationship. Unfortunately, if the two of you have no way of seeing each other I would not suggest getting into a relationship because in that case, it will very likely not work out. Call me superficial, but I think a good relationship includes the couple seeing each other, even if only occasionally.
I hope this helped =)
-Maisie
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Ok i'm going to be 18 on July 10th and there is this dude named Jason who I like and he likes me too...he says that I have all the qualities he wants and in a girl and he just makes me feel real good...but there's a huge problem...He is 27!!!! ahhh I don't know wut to do!! I think when ur 18 ur legal, but still is it bad gettin involved w/him? I'm real confused! (link)
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Yes. At 18, everything (practically) is legal. However, chances are this guy just wants to legally be able to get into your pants. Let him go. Guys are all typical, especially older guys going for younger (much younger) girls. Don't let people tell you the age difference doesn't matter and that it's just a number. When the difference is this much, there's only one thing on this guy's mind and if you have any intentions on being a respectable girl at all, you'd turn him down.
-Maisie
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Does anyone know any good poems or quotes to write in a note/letter to a boyfriend cause i need some ideas (link)
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My best suggestion and your best shot would be to include original poetry, which means to write it on your own. If you can't seem to do that, I suggest you use Google.com to help you find a good website for what you're looking for.
-Maisie
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can guys be bisexual (link)
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Of course guys can be bisexual. I know many guys who are.
Bisexuality simply means to like both sexes. Anybody has every right to like whomever they want; males and females alike.
-Maisie
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Ok, here's my situation, I really care for this guy who is turning 18 in July and im 15. Me and him both really care So0o much for each other and know this only my parents don't liek the fact that hes turning 18 soon and that hes black...we don't want to stop doing what we're doing with the worry of my parents putting a Restaining order on him or have him sent to jail. What do I do? Is it legall to date him with out parental consultance at 16? (link)
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Dating is legal, period. As long as he doesn't hurt you or show any threat of hurting you, your parents should not be able to get away with filing a restraining order. HOWEVER, laws state that pretty much any physical contact between the two of you is illegal until you are of an age of consent. I don't know what the two of you do, but if it's anything physical, you should definitely keep it to yourselves. Keep in mind, though, that it is not illegal for your parents to make you have a physical, which may reveal to them more than you would want them to know.
-Maisie
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this guy wanted me to break up with someone for him.. so i did because i really liked him but when i did he starts pretty much ingoring me.. and doesnt talk about liking me and is in love with this other gurl.. I cant move on that easily because i had been with that guy for 5 months!.. so does anybody have idea on how to move on? thanks so much! (link)
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It's the hardest thing in the world to do, but talk to him. Ask him why he pretty much ditched you after you did this for him. Let him know how you feel (regarding him and regarding the situation entirely) and ask him if he still wants to be with you. If his answer is yes, then go for it. If no, then you'll have to think about moving on.
As far as 'moving on' goes, it's hard, I know. I've been there. The best way, I've found, is to go out and meet people. If you feel you must be with somebody, then find somebody else you like and try to get close to them (but don't get too close, it may frighten them a bit). If you just want a friendly relationship, that's easy. Go out more often, hang out with your friends and have them invite more people, go to parties, etc.
I hope this helps.
-Maisie
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