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mk. well there's this guy i guess you can say who's kinda shy. I went out with him [if you want to call it that] in 5th grade. Then again in 6th. But 7th i never talked to him and here we are 8th grade he's asked me out twice. I went out with him once. Then! he asked me out again. And i just said i'd like to be friends for a little longer. Well he's real sweet and stuff but i'm just afraid he's not gonna talk to me...and you don't always see him as the "boyfriend" type like hugging, kissing , holding hands n stuff. Formal's coming up and his friends keep telling me that he's gonna ask me and he's sweet but i really just wanna go with my best friend. lol BUT over this past weekend we talked like ALL night and i think i started to like him...and i really don't know what to do anymore...anyone have any ideas where i can figure out if i really like him or if it's just cause i don't wanna hurt him?
please and thank youu! (link)
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LMFAO! My boyfriend was the same exact way. He still is shy. But i took my chances and our relationship keeps getting better. We're goiing to the 8th grade graduation together...i think? HEE HEE. Thats the fun in it thouggh. How will you ever find out how it'll work out for you and him if you never give it a chance? Ive learned over this relationship that taking the chance is one of the best decions i coulda done. SURE, dont hug...kiss...hold hands...ect. But im happy, cuz in a way im the same way. Im absouluty sure one day we will do all those things. Take a chance. If it dont work out...e-mail me on less painfull ways to break up. Although i dont think that will be nesccery!Hee Hee. GOOD LUCK!!
-MaRii
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15/f
I kinda like this one dude (from a far away thing) I didn't really know him untill today when we were together. He kept messing with me and my other frined he would pretend to hit hit us and osmetimes really hit us. But him and and this other person got something going on like a passing note thing and She has a boyfriend so i know they don't have anything like that going on. But after I got to know him he's really fun In last preiod he would smile and make me feel better( Cause I didn't feel good.. at all -.-) But he's not the cutest thing in the world but he's really sweet and If we do end up some how dating my friends would pressure me.. "Ew he's ugly Why would you date him. Girl your weird" Until we would eventually break up. Gr.. (link)
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Im gonna keep this a simple and short. Hope it helps.
This guy seems like a Flirty type. What you can do is keep the flirting...keep the thing going.
If you do eventually date him and your friends say that...you have to stand up for urself and say " So! to me hes not ugly. I think hes cute and VERY sweet. That matters to ME, and i dont care what YOU or ANYBODY else thinks! Im the one dating him not you. So dont worry about it. I know what im doing. He's really sweet, and i grew to like him. " Somethingg like that...If you like him nothing else matters. Trust me. Some of the MOST popular girls in my school dated the nerdiest ugliest weirdos ever. But you know what...they didnt care. Thats what made them so popular. I hope you find out what you truly need to do.
SoRRY iTS SO DAMN LONGG!!
-MaRii
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17/F
ok, so i just recently broke it off with my boyfriend of a year and a half and it ended well until he said some s**t that really got to me and i was tired of nein hurrt so i want nothing to do with him.. i think. my thing is, once you hurt me my guard is up and itll take a lot for it to go back down.. then my best friend(a guy) and i have not hung out in a while so were catchin up on old times but a couple nights i had a dream that my best friend and i "did some things" that i never EVER had a thought about doin with him.. i know im starting to get feeling for him n the dream didnt help at all n i kno hes crushed on me before but i dont know what to do. i dont want a relationship right now AND him and my ex are pretty good friends now... what do i do?! please tell me something, sorry its so long (link)
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Of coarse you dont want a relationship right now...i totally understand that. Your were hurt and youu dont want to make another mistake. Also, scince your ex and your best friend are kinda friends that'll make it all the more harder. But...wut you could do is, get a "moment" alone with your best friend. Weather its at your locker while no one is watching, or afterschool helping out in the hallway. wutever. You should let him now you've devoloped feeling for him. Something like "You've been really on my mind lately...and I sort of have feelings for you...but its totally cool if you dont" you know...
But you absolutlly MUST include that you cant start a relationship right away. That you would like it if you took it slow. And that you care for him.
If any more questions just msg me. Hope it helped!!!!!
-MaRii
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13/f
ok ive been going out with my boyfriend for about a month and i want to tell him i love him, but my best friend says i should wait longer or wait for him to say it first... is she right??
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I would probally wait till He tells you. What is that YOU want? would you feel akward telling him now? I agree with your best friend. Guys can be confusing sometimes...if you tell him you love him now...he might not be sure about that. Give it time... dont wrry about it. If you feel its time to let him noe...trust urself and do it.
(watch out becuase some guys want space..BUT not too much. Like dont call him ALLL day just to see wut he's doingg . This might lead him to second thoughts. But dont let him TOO free either.)
hope advice helped
-MaRii
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when girls wear a perfume?
and what perfume is the best to turn a guy on? (link)
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When girls wear perfume? Well, i wear perfume right before big major event. Make sure you put some on, but not too much. You could try putting some on slightly under your ear. This is good because whenever you greet someone with a hug or a cheek kiss...they'll be sure to smell it!!
If you want to go for stong perfumes that wil be noticed no matter what, and last longg... i would go with Curve (chill) thats the one i wear all the time. Its white...with pinkish letters.
But if you waant somethingg thats not TOO stong, but wont let you down ...(i use this FOR SPECIAL occasions..) I would advize...the Jennifer Lopez ( LIVE) Its pink with green letters. Now i got these on sale for christmas at Marshalls i think? They may not be the cheapest. But theyre defenatly worth buying.
Hope advice helped...
-MaRii
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is kissing ur bf like kissing ur dad? (link)
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um? NO! would you kiss ur dad on the lips...and feel passion through it? I think not. Kissing your boyfrined from my perspective is like something that cant be judged. It should be LOVE. Kissing your dad should be the other kind of LOVE. The love you feel because he's FAMILY. Not because you feel that undeniable passion from him.Every person is diffrent. So think about it.
hope my advice helped,
-MaRii
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13/F
O.K. so I really like this one guy. Hes really sweet & cute. The only thing is he is like so quiet! I mean, he will talk to people and all, but hes not the type to talk out in class or anything, && I am. Im really loud & outgoing & stuff. I mean, he will talk to other kids if they talk to him first, and he will always talk to me and he flirts with me, but I cant tell if he likes me.
Well the real question is do quiet guys make good boyfriends? I mean he has never had a gf before (or atleast this year) and I dont know if he would know how to treat one. Like if he would hold my hand or anything. (link)
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Actually they do. My best-friend went out with one. It turns out the guy was real deep. Theyve been going out for a while now and are STILL together. Based on what my best friend told me...he really opens up to her on the phone. Talk to this guy. (on tha phone) Flirt. Talk. OPEN UP!!
then once you have under your spell...and you like feel comfortable with him. Tell him how he would feel holdingg hands and all. He should be honest about it. And talk to you about it.!!
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so basically me and my ex broke up about 4 weeks ago i think ha. Well i have not spoken with him in about 2weeks. We had a fight and i told him i was over him and he said he just wanted to get in my pants. We havent talked since because being friends with him was always a competition. He still is calling my friend for i duno what reason it is getting really old. Now he called me the other night on a withheld number, normally i do not pick up but i forgot about him. He started pressing a bunch of buttons and what have you, then i hang up and he calls back and makes up some stupid prank phone call line. I told him to grow up. Then he didnt call. This is an 18 year old here. I am trying to get over him i even found a new love interest, but it is so hard, he was my first love and i had sex with him. Now it makes it even harder that he keeps calling me and being extremely immature. As of now ive been ignoring it, Should i confront him about his actions? But, im afraid if i do that he will think i want him again. Should i just keep ignoring it? Why do you think he is acting like this? I mean he is back with the girl he dated before me. HELP. (link)
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He's obviouslly actingg like this because he wants a booty call. I mean by reading what you wrote. You got ina fight because he wanted to get in you pants? Thats retarded! Hes back with this other girl and WHO KNOWS wut he does with her. Your right! He is actingg immature...I wouldnt ignore it ....because it'll only make it harder to face it?! Change your number or something. Make sure he gets the messege that you are worth more than just a bootycall. I say you move on. There a tons of HOTT, SWEET , HONEST, and MATURE guys out there. You make sure you say that to your ex!!!
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16/f
ok i like this boy in my class. weve known each other since like.. 7th gradE? and we were just friends then but now we hang out more and flirt and stuff and im scared to tell him i like himmm.. i mean how do i do it! thanks (link)
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wELL. In my opinion...dont anounce LOVE...unless ur like 50% sure he likes you...i mean you dont want to scare the man off do ya? Well....invite hime somewhere. Ice skating? Movies? Just give him the messege you wanna hang out and TALK.
Afterwards... take it slow. Start out by flirting. Tell him old stories from the 7th gade??
Then say "Ive known you for a while...and i really like you.." then say somethingg like "ill totally understand if you dont see me that way.." Just so he knows that your still his friend no matter what.
Dont know wut else to say but GOOD LUCK! also...i hope that helped!!
always here for you MaRii
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Ok this guy was new in school and we clicked from the start. he liked me. i liked him. so we flirted. i lead him on. but the second time we spoke i make it clear i dont date. after that we continued flirting talkin getin to know each other. towards recent we were both like OMG she knows me to well and i was like wow he responds to me like no other. On 14th feb he gave me a gift. and i returned it back to him. i felt like i had to stop leading him on cause i dont date *if i dont have a future with him why should i? and i know i dont. this wont last. he is a suni muslim and i a shia. so whats the point? i wont marry him so why should i date* so i returned the gift and now he is really upset and mad at me. i can udnerstand but i dont want to lose him. I still really like him. and i wish he owuld give me a chnace to explain. he isnt. and in front of ppl he acts like we are ok behind we arent. and i dont know what to do. i really like him but whats the point? im so confused. please help!
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I have no idea what suni muslim or shia is...but im sure it means you cant be together. I say screw the rules. If you love the guy and really dont wanna loose him...you'll be together no matter what anyone says. That is love. Afterall....'love is the closest thing we got to magic." So if anyone...says its wrong to be with him (example: parents, friends..ex.) Tell them to not WORRY ABOUT IT!! Because if you are ment to be together. Its obvious!! You two "click!" so tell him you love him. Invite him somewhere. Somewhere where you to can be alone. Tell him the problems. Explain to him that love is somethingg that cant be avoided. Make it WORK!! Use your brain!!
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hey. i'm wondering about specific things boys do when they like a girl, more than as a friend. it's so hard to distinguish between a guy who talks to you for the sake of being nice, because he's bored, because he talks to everyone, or who talks to you because he really is genuinely interested in you.
so here's info about my situation. there's a boy. i'm in physics with him. first day of school i told him and his friend a funny story about me. second day of school, boy says "hey", i say "hey" back. 3rd day, he mentions the story i told him and teases me about it and tells all the guys around him what i did. from that point on, every single day he mentions my story and teases me. he writes dumb stuff on my papers before passing them down to me. he tries to get my attention a lot to tell me really stupid stuff. like, "hey. hey. hey. can you wiggle your fingers?" and most of the time i try to ignore him and watch the teacher. so then to the guy next to me he says,"hey. get her attention." and he does the whole act-like-i'm-handing-you-you're-paper-then-pull-it-away-so-you-reach-for-it thing. he was doing that last week and the teacher was like, "Michael, stop flirting with the pretty girl and get your work done." then he gave me goofy, smiley looks.
BUT here's the thing. he has a girlfriend. they've been together about a month. and he talks to me all the time in class, but never just alone. i was so excited because we both had to stay after school to finish a test, and the teacher left the room, so it was just me and him by ourselves. but he didn't say anything to me then. so i'm seriously confused. advice please?
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Theres certain things guys do to give the messege they like you. I belive that if a guy is constanly tryna get your attention. He wants you to notice him. Flirt with him. During class next time. Look at him. Does he look you in that special way? Does he look at you at all? Trust me...you'll when he looks at you in that special way...try to check if he looks at you. If he does that may mean he likes you...but cant do anythingg because hes already a realationship. Try checking if he 'loves' his girlfriend. If you notice...that he really into her. Just stay away. because youll only get dragged down into a situaton...that wont happen. Find another cute boy...that single..and is flirting worthy. After that if this boy shows 'jeolosy simptoms' He'll do somethingg to be with you. HINT HINT : break up with his girlfriend.
Overall my advice is to stay close but not close...flirt. Because its obvious he wants ur attention. But dont get to INTO it ...cuz he has a girlfrined.
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