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Well....I have a little problem. Ok I really like this boy, and we're good friends, but I want to be more. I'm shy beyond belief. I don't know what to do. I want to tell him how I feel but I don't know how. I can't come out and say it, thats not my style. I really belief that he may like me too, but im not 100% sure. I don't know how I can make myself sure enough to ask him. And The closest step I've taken is asking him to hang out. My friends think they uderstand what is going on, but it...it just isn't as easy as they make it seem. To my friemds feelings are somthing they can shout out and not care who hears, including the one it involves. But for me, its diffrent, i've always hidden whats inside, so what do I do? and dontsay take a dive and tell him. That wont help.
- 14, F

well my advice is if you think he likes you and your to shy to tel him you can either wait for him to ask you out or flirt with him subtle flirting like looking at him across the room look him in hte eye when hes talking, laugh when hes around, smile when hes around...he figure it out.

Or while you guys are "hanging out" play like truth or dare tell one of your friends to ask him if he likes you or not when he picks truth..or tell them to ask you if you like him of if your too shy dont lie and say your dont like anyone cause then he will bacck off ....you can be like i like someone in this room then look at him and smile..


Well i hope i helped and good luck with the fellas !

LisaLeilani

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15.f-
ive never made out or kissed a guy or anything. im not prude, ive just never really been in that situation. people tell me all the time that im pretty, i was a model, i am not a bitch, and i dont understand why guys dont like me or anything. it just seems like everytime i meet a guy i dont have a chance to do anything. i met a guy on vacation that i really liked and he liked me, but i met him on the last night i was there. stuff like that always happens and guys at my school dont ask girls out because theyre all idiots. i go to a private school and theres like 100 people in my grade. 300 people in the high school. i dont really hang out with my school friends over the summer. how can i meet guys??? this is seriously pathetic and dont tell me that i just have to wait for the "right" guy. im sick of waiting and i dont want to be a sophomore in highschool without ever even kissing a guy...helpp

hey i have the problem... im 16 and never made out i mean its fine...I mean i dont care that other people know and im not a prude.. your school seems small but try finding a guy in s school where theres 20 people in your grade and 80 in the whole school. lol
wel anyways....


all i can tell you is its eaiser for guys to like you if you open up alittle bit more... be their little sister before gushing out your feelings and stuff....by the sounds of it most guys think your hot they are probally to scared to ask you out to like hte movies or something... which leaves it up to you if you like a guy then go for it !! that way the guy who ever it is can know that you like him and he wont be scared if he gets rjected !
hope i helped

LisaLeilani

Ps. You can meet guys by getting a job ( you have to get a work permit first) maybe joinig like the ymca for summer... Taking inclas drivers ed since your around that age...get on some sport teams ect ....

LisaLeilani

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I'm 13 yrs. old....I've never made out with any one.....Well lets cut to the chase I've never had a boyfriend at all....I've had alot of crushes but never an actual boyfriend....is that good or bad?

no its perfectly normal !

i mean your only 13 !

btw when you think of it...it seems stupid to have a boyfriend that young anyway i mean if you want to go somewhere your or his parents would have to drive you whcih is hecka lame and pick you up or you would have to walk....iwould say the onkly way to go when dating is wait till you can drive or find a bf over 16 !!
srry it if sounds harsh lol

hope i helped !

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lisaLeilani

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ummmm i not here for stupid chain letter im here to help people

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My girlfriend has lied to me several times... nothing EXTREMELEY serious, but about a lot of little things. I have threatened her with a break up, and she gets very emotional when i mention a break up. Recently she has lied to me again and i broke up with her... She is begging to get back with me and i want to be with her..... what should i do?

i say dont get back with her !!!

it she keeps lying to you then you know that she is goung to do it agian i can honestly say that you deserve someone much better !!!!!
I know you might think that you want to be with her even though she keeps lying to you maybe you just want to be with someone....

well hope i helped
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lisaleilani

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How do I let a guy know I want to kiss him? What kind of signs should I give him? And how do I approach this whole thing? Please give me any other advice or suggestions because im going for my first kiss soon!

well its like when he takes you home or where ever you are and you guys are close just look him in the eyes he should get that you want him to kiss you by just doing that ...lean in an viola ! you just kissed him lol

and if hes really slow or stupid you could just play spin the bottle or just be like I like you and want to kiss you really bad then viola !lol

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lisaleilani

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im about to break up with my boyfriend. he gave me this braclet, it costs probably 5 bucks. but i dont no. should i give it back? or keep it?
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i would keep it if you like it !!

heck whats he gunna do with it lol
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Lisaleilani

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im soo confused.. this one guy says he likes me alot, and told my best friend that he loves me. He told me he had feelings for me he cant explain. but every once in awhile he'll stop talking to me, and like wont say a single word to me.. hes out of town so we can only talk over the internet, and he wont talk to me when i IM him.. whats wrong with him?

i think he might be scared or shy or nervous.

like i had a crush on this guy david and i would talk to him but i wouldnt know what to say so i was afraid to talk to im... maybe its the same thing

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LisaLeilani

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I am a 11 year old female and my boyfriend is a 15 year old male. I want to have sex. Should I?

no yuou shouldnt your 11 hes 15 not to sound mean but you will probally break up afterwards any way and your 11 !! you have your whole life toworry about sex and btw later on if you were to tell a guy you had sex when you were 12 he eill think you are a slut. No offence

Hope i helped you with your question.
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ok i liked this guy for the longest time i have 3 more days of school left after that i have no way of seeing him over the summer i dont want to directly ask him out or have a friend to i want him to come to me cause i dont want to get crushed if i do. we have one class together and our lockers are by eachother. we talk to eachother like once a month but on friday i gave him a sucker so those are the things that give us a little conection. how do i get him to like me?

you could just slip a note into his locker. Or just hint to him that you like him and be like i like you.. you know that and not its in your hands.... So if he likes you he will ask you out and if he doesnt then nothing will happen
hope i helped

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im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.

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and if you ansewer you should go to prom with him well how how do i ask him really with out asking him flattly cuz im kinda scared just to come out and say it.

Do what your heart tells you. if you think he is cheating then ask him if he says no and your heart tlls you no then ask him to prom

to ask him umm... be like " well since you arent going to the prom with that other girl why dont you come with me ?"
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LisaLeilani

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im a fourteen year old gurl. i have alot of freinds but ive never had a boyfreind and i think its becuase of my weight i dont understand why guys dont like me just becuase of that one thing im a good person and really does hurt. what should i do to help me?

ok so what your alittle over weight...big deal all of my friends that have had alot of boyfriends wish they were fatter because then you will really know if a guy likes you or not. Because he will not judge you by your looks but by your personality.
Just wait a guy will come along and like you for who you are so wait it out and good luck !
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LisaLeilani

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Does anyone think that sex makes a relationship, or that it makes a relationship better? Why or why not?

sex will make a relationship better if you are mature enough to handle it. Usually sex screws up a relationship cause people dont realized the affect it will have
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My Boyfriend told me yesterday that if he doesnt have a girlfriend who loves him when he turns 16 he is inlisting into the army and i dont want that to happen. I dont want anything to tear us apart but if he does go i will miss him how do i talk him out of it!

Im 14 and He Is Almost 15!

i dont think you can sign up for the amry until you are out of school which would be 18 i might not be right, but anywho he will probally be a player and have a girlfriend by then. Maybe he just wants attention from you thats why he is saying that

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13/f

okay i really like this guy i've liked him for such a long time gosh like 3 years almost i'd say and his birthday is coming up in 20 days i want to buy him something cuz he's my best guy friend.. but i dont know what to buy i dont wanna buy him somethin that also gives clues of me liking him or anything because i dont want him to no .. i told him the 1st time i liked him which made 1 year of our friendship like hell n its our 2nd year of our friendship and i rather be friends w. him than nuttin at all but yet i rather be his gf than his friend but anyways wut can i buy him??
oo btw he's turning 14

tnxss

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depends on who much you want to spend on him
you could get him 2 tickets to his fav sports team.
if you guys have a inside joke about something then you can get him something that would remind him of the joke (like if i ad an inside joke about a time when you guys went to go see a movie with some friends and you guys played a joke on your friends and got them all with silly string you could get him 1 can of silly string) get it? i hope so ...
hope i was of help

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