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Alright so I've been talking to this guy on and off for years. I want to see him but I also want to lose my weight before seeing him. My question is do you think he likes me? We talk off and on and he's called me a tease, asked me if I wanted his number. He mentioned we've talked for years, it;s nice but its a tease. He has also asked me what my type was and teased and asked if I liked girls. He said he's shy and shy around girls. He doesn't talk much, but he does respond to me. But I am not sure if he's interested or not.He has invited over to his place before and I had to turn him down because of it being late. He respected that and didn't push me. He has been ballsy at times but not all the time and he hasn't been ballsy in quite some time. He occasionally messages me before I do. Should I give up on this guy? I've been told by other people saying he likes me, but I am very unsure. Any advice? I want my weight off to feel confident around him. Sorry if there is grammar and mistakes on here.

In your question it does not state if you guys have already seen each other. I will assume you have not. Well, we can't guess what he is feeling as we can only go by his actions and words. If he has contacted you and has taken the initiative that means he does have some type of feelings towards you. Ask yourself the following question, do I want to meet him? If so, then give yourself the chance to meet him and see how well you two get along. I understand you feel like you need to loose weight to feel confident. We, as I am a woman myself, feel like we need to fix something with ourselves to feel more prettier or to grab the guy's attention. We will always have these thoughts regardless if we loose weight because something else is going to come up. I suggest you see him, soon. Don't stay with the what if's and instead see how things work out. If this is your first time meeting, plan something in public. See how he behaves and how things go. Remember to tell yourself while looking in the mirror how amazing you are and how any man would love to have you in his life. You are your worst critic if you pump yourself up you will show him that confidence and those extra pounds you think you carry won't matter. Best of luck!

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josh decided he would choose between me and kelsey but he would need a couple days because he liked us both. i finally talked to him and he said he was sticking with kelsey...so once again he led me on and broke my heart! its so hard to find the right boy, should i just give up on him?

First of all if you have to put yourself in a position where a boy needs to choose between you or another girl, you are wrong...

A boy that cares about you, won't have to choose between you or another girl. A boy that truly cares about you will chase you not the other way around. You shouldn't put yourself in a position where you are waiting to be chosen by a boy, how dare he.

Please don't bother with him. He had the option of using you and if he didn't then his loss. You need a boy that is going to chase you, that is going to ask you to be his girlfriend not the other way around.

Your young you will meet a great guy, just be patient. If Josh decided on Kelsey then let them be happy, but PLEASE don't ask him about you two dating nor be with him if he and Kelsey have problems..........Act like you don't care a bit and move on, you'll see he will regret it "BIG TIME" :)

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i have been with this boy for two years now. and when we first got together everything was perfect, never argued, had fun, and enjoyed are time together. but now two years down the line we; bicker, sit around, && our fun is watching movies.

its hard to explain but its getting kinda old doing nothing. even the sex isnt like it used to be. i still love him with everything i have and its hard to just throw 2 years of your life away. but am i getting bored of being with him? is this normal? is there anything i can do to prevent leaving him?

thanks,
18-female

When you are with someone for a very long time (years) the spark in the relationship does fade a bit. The butterflies you feel when you first meet someone and start dating is very nice BUT once you two get to know eachother the sparks loose their touch.

I would suggest you plan something different to do then watch movies. Say go out dancing (if you like to dance) or go out for dinner & a walk at the beach. If he isn't taking the initiative of doing something different then you should. If you still love him and don't want this relationship to end then you need to help him lift the sparks...........

Try something out of the ordinary and suprise him. Being at a different place and unknown is very exciting and makes you re-live the love you have and the butterflies you two felt when you met...

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I have been having dreams about my exboyfriend a lot recently, and I really do miss him.


We dated last may until november, and it may not seem that long, but we were with each other day and night. We did everything together. I loved him with all of my heart and I know he did love me also. His exgirlfriends broke us up, they were insane about breaking us up.

After our relationship failed in November he started dating a new girl, and she they have been together since then. i haven't tried breaking them up because all I want for him is to be happy. I wish he knew this. He doesn't want anything to do with me at all, he won't even add me on myspace. I miss him so much and words can't explain how much I want him back now. I don't know what I can do. It seems like all I can do is wait for them to break up and STILL I'd have to wish that he would ever come back to me.

I love him, and I lost him, what do I do

I am a bit confused with your question.......

First of all why did you guys break up?? I know you say that is has to do with his exgirlfriends but what is the main reason you two broke up?? What did they actually do??

I wish I could help you more but I am not quite sure why you two broke up and why he ran to her. Did you do something wrong or did he???

All I am going to advice you is to try your hardest to let it go. I know you love him and it is hard to let someone you love go BUT at times we have to and more in cases where they are already seeing someone new. You said you have tried contacting him and he doesn't want to hear from you then forget him.

Letting go of someone you truly love is hard. It is going to take tons of time and patience for your heart to heal. Just think that if you both were meant to be then nothing would have broken you two.

I know you must want him to know your true feelings, but why is he closing the door on you?? If you did something bad that hurt him then it is going to be hard for you to have a word with him. But if he is taken then your better off being without him and trying to forget him.

Love isn't easy but only with time youll understand this was the best for you. You are a very young girl and will eventually meet a great guy that isn't going to let NOBODY break the love he has for you..........

~Be strong & I"m here if you need more advice~

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so this guy asked me out like 2 months ago but i kindly said no because i didnt know him.i mean it was the first time i really talked to him ya know?
then i didnt seem him till about 2 weeks ago.he was flirting with me and stuff.well then when i walked by him he was like so whats up?and then when i replied he asked if i like him and i said well i dont know you really.so then he was like what you dont know me now?and i was like i never really got to know you but he didnt seem upset about it because he still flirted.well then i saw him last night and he was with some girl i believe was his girlfriend.and it kinda made me jealous i guess.it kinda made me think what if i really missed out ya know?now i dont know what i should do.i felt like i liked him last night when before i didnt feel it but between 2 weeks ago and last night i was thinkin like next time i see him if he asks me out again i was gonna say yes well know i feel im too late.am i just feeling this because he does have a girl now or what?i mean the only reason i turned him down was because i didnt know him all the well,he wasnt what i would date(appearence wise) and my friends opinion but when i thought about it he is a really great guy besides i never really see him but i was thinknin that would change if we dated ya knw?well i wanna thank you all before hand

Saying "NO" to him don't feel bad about that. If you don't know a guy it's hard to just trust him and accept his offer, just like that.

Second of all, if he has a girlfriend now that has nothing to do with you. I mean you didn't know him back then and that's why you didn't take him on his offer.

Why is he such a great guy??

Sometimes we tend to like someone when that person isn't reachable. That's why I feel that maybey you aren't really atracted to him you just like the attention you get from him, we all like attention. We love to be chased and admired and when we loose this affection we feel bad. So you might not even like him, it might be only the attention you get that you like.

Think about this question and see what answers you come up with. I'm here to help you out some more if you like............

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i recently became reacquainted with someone that i had a crush on when i was young. but basically i had a crush on her from 6th grade until i graduated high school. we were friends but not like super close. since then we have actually become somewhat better friends and all. now this crush is ancient history in a lot of ways. i mean, today she is married and has kids and it's not that i want to be with her. i really don't. but at the same time, i had realy strong feelings way back when and i never said anything. i feel like it would do me alot of good to finally say some day what i had thought and felt about her so long ago. i don't think she would be upset or anything. we get along great. but i dont know if i should jsut keep that to myself or actually let the cat out of the bag. in a way, i feel i deserve to get to say it plus i feel like she deserves to know she has a special place in my heart. i don't think she'd believe i'm trying to win her over or anything. so would it do any real harm to say anything? also, if i were to say something, any clue how to go about it? i'd want to keep it somewhat lighthearted.

WOW!! Isn't it hard being around someone you care knowing that, that person is taken and attached to this particular person?? It would be hard for me to be around someone I cared for a lot. But the question isn't if I should keep in contact but letting out your true emotions for this person..........My answer is "YES"........

I think that you do deserve to let it out. I don't think it would matter her knowing since she is already with someone else and has children with him BUT you owed it to yourself to let her know. I would suggest you tell her over coffee or when you both talk. I can't really say where exactly since I don't know what kind of relationship you both have, but you need to let it out.........

Please let me know if you need more advice, I'm here to help :)

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this is kinda long, i suppose =P
okay, well last may i met this boy..he was like everything i could ever ask for. in june we got serious.. i really did love him. it was like a perfect relationship. at the end of july we broke up because his mom was kind of a lunatic and like tried to put him on house arrest. then middle of august we got back together and that was pretty good. then we broke up because it was the school year and we go to different schools and it was hard. then in february he got a girlfriend. they were completely in love. they lasted for like 7-8 months and then he broke up with her because she was a control freak. now, he is trying to get me back. and i mean i did love him and part of me still does.. but he did things before that made me not trust him. like he would always "talk" to other girls and it bugged me. i dont care if he is friends with girls, but he would tell them he likes them and siht. it buggged me. well now he wants me and he like poured his heart out to me. told me he was thinking about what we had and he knows he messed up but really wants to try it again, im thinking about it. and then i didnt know if i could deal with it again. then i decided to message him ex girlfriend and piss her off.. HAHA but she used to message me and like tell me all this stuff aboout their relationship and it bugged me, ha. but i go are you two together she goes no y i go because his friends told me he liked me and stuff, i lied to her by saying his friends bc i didnt knnow if they were talking or whatever..she goes yeah were talking i go like talking talking she goes yes so i texted him and flipped out and he otld me that they arent together and are only friends but she has the impression there like together basiscally. then today he said im the only person he wants to be with, he told her that there is no chance between them. and i dont know what to do. it seems like he really does care for me, but im confused because im afraid of getting hurt again. any advice? (:

Trying to work issues with someone who you have been with on & off is supper hard........

not only are trust issues going to be hard to deal with BUT also are you willing on settling with someone that doesn't respect you......

Take this advice from someone who went through a very hard relationship and as hard as it was getting out I'm glad I did.........

When you date someone and they date others its hard to go back without doubts in your head, but it's all up to what you are willing on working with.............

Good Luck

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When you love a guy, and you just start losing trust does that mean that we don't need to be together. He is losing trust in me, and i'm losing it in him. I dont know why were losing so much trust. I'd give the world for him to trust me, and I no he'll do the same. I'm also thinking that maybe it has something to do with other people telling him I was cheating on him, but I dont know. I'm really scared to loose him. He is the best person (guy wise) that i've ever met. He makes his whole day revolve around me, even when we are at school. I try my best to give him everything he wants, I talk to him more than I talk to my friends and half my family, I tell him everything, I've even stoped talking to my guy friends that I play football, and basketball with for fun, just so he can trust me, I know that he did trust me, until one day he went to school (we go to diffrent schools) alot of people went up to him telling him I was cheating on him, they knew we was going out becuase I was his wallpaper on his phone and it said I Love My Baby Elizabeth!! They told him I was dating this other dude (and i wasnt) and I guess he believed it but i dont know. I can't lose his trust. I Love Him To Death && He Means The World To Me!!

First of all why are others spreading rumors about you........Are you giving them any reasons to think bad of you???

I suggest you confront all of them infront of your dude and make it clear that you are with him because you love him and that no other guy is your interest............

Trust is hard to keep and maintain BUT if you guys love eachother that should be your main priority :)

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fall in love with you or have some kind of feeling from beening hate you???
this guy use to like me a lot but i turn him down now he starts to hate me sooo much, but how do i make him like me again?

U know what then try to talk to him and see if their is a way you can win him back.........Please don't take NO for an answer, when it is true love their is always a way......

As for your other friend, don't let this get you down. @ times friends do very bad things behind your back , so my advice to you is to always be very careful who you give your friendship to cause you never know who really has your back. I recently went through two really bad friendship breakups and learned A LOT from them.

So I say keep it up and don't frown because when you do they'll know they won!!

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